Reinventing Yourself: How To Become The Person You've Always Wanted To Be

201 Pages·2005·1.7 MB·English

by  Steve Chandler

Reinventing
Yourself
Revised Edition
How to Become the
Person You've Always
Wanted to Be
NY
Steve Chandler
or Kate
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Acknowledgments
Kathryn Eimers for the consulting and humor Steve Hardison for the deep water
Fred Knipe for the creative ideas Jessica, Stephanie, Margery, and Bobby for the
gifts Jeanne and Ed Eimers for the blue car Devers Branden for the counsel Ron
Fry for the publishing Maurice Bassett for the resources Colin Wilson for the
philosophy Ken Wilber for making everyone right Nathaniel Branden for the
psychology Terry Hill for the letters from Barcelona Stacey Farkas for the
editing Lindsay Brady for the perception Dr. M.F. Ludiker for advice from hell
And to the memory of Barry Briggs, writer, teacher, friend

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Contents
Preface: A Cocoon Will Not Fly 13
Introduction: Are You an Owner or a Victim? 17
Part One: Owners of the Spirit 23
Chapter 1: Remove Your Ball and Chain 27
Chapter 2: Life Is a Bitch and Then You Die? 32
Chapter 3: Astonishing Human Creations 34
Chapter 4: Set Yourself Free From "I Gotta Be Me" 39
Chapter 5: We Make Ourselves Miserable or Strong 43
Chapter 6: The Ultimate Mass Seduction 46
Chapter 7: It's Not About Your Flesh and Blood 51
Chapter 8: Dying Inside Your Comfort Zone 58
Chapter 9: A Deadly Bait and Switch Game 61
Chapter 10: Walk That Road From Fear to Action 65
Chapter 11: The Rapid Beauty of Enthusiasm 70
Chapter 12: 1 Decided to Stop Being Weak 75

Part Two: Owning Relationships 79
Chapter 13: To Love Is to Play the Numbers 83
Chapter 14: We Are Climbing Up the Ladder 87
Chapter 15: The Ladder Lives Inside You 91
Chapter 16: You Can Climb a Stairway to Heaven 95
Chapter 17: No Need to Be Queen for a Day 100
Chapter 18: Yes Lives in the Land of No 104
Chapter 19: Love Doesn't Come From the Heart 107
Chapter 20: Please Be More Than You Feel 110
Chapter 21: We Are Either Givers or Takers 113
Chapter 22: How Do You Change a Victim? 116
Chapter 23: Forgiveness Is a Mother 120
Part Three: Life and Death Sentences 125
Chapter 24: Words Can Be Stronger Than Drugs 129
Chapter 25: How We Sentence Ourselves 134
Chapter 26: Get Through It or Get From It 137
Chapter 27: Cure Your Intention Deficit Disorder 141
Chapter 28: Honey, We Shrunk Our Daughter 147
Chapter 29: I'm Sorry, but I Was Swamped 151
Chapter 30: The Saddest Story Ever Told 155
Chapter 31: Why Don't You Feel Offended? 157
Chapter 32: Saying No to the Boys on the Side 160
Chapter 33: A Kite Rises Against the Wind 163

Part Four: Setting Your "Self" on Fire 167
Chapter 34: Now You Can Ride With No Hands 171