Raising Children: The Primary Years: Everything parents need to know - from homework and horrid habits to screen time and sleepovers

241 Pages·5.051 MB·English

by  Liat Joshi

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The Primary Years
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Raising Children
The Primary Years
Prentice Hall LIFE
Everything parents need to know –
If life is what you make it, then making it better starts here.
from homework and horrid habits
What we learn today can change our lives tomorrow. It can to screen time and sleepovers
change our goals or change our minds; open up new
opportunities or simply inspire us to make a difference.
That's why we have created a new breed of books that do
more to help you make more of your life.
Whether you want more confidence or less stress, a new skill
or a different perspective, we've designed Prentice Hall Life
books to help you to make a change for the better. Liat Hughes Joshi
Together with our authors we share a commitment to bring
you the brightest ideas and best ways to manage your life, with Dr Jemma Rosen-Webb
work and wealth.
and Dr Harriet Tenenbaum
In these pages we hope you’ll find the ideas you need for the
life you want. Go on, help yourself.
It’s what you make it
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First published in Great Britain in 2011
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Joshi, Liat Hughes.
Raising children, the primary years : everything parents need to know--from
homework and horrid habits to screen time and sleepovers / Liat Hughes Joshi,
with Jemma Rosen-Webb and Harriet Tenenbaum.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-0-273-73051-4 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Child rearing. 2. Parenting.
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Contents
About the author vii
Acknowledgements ix
Introduction xi
 1 General behaviour management for primary
schoolers 1
 2 Friends and foes 13
Friendship problems, sleepovers, bullying and
playdates
 3 School and after school 37
Homework hassles, school issues and after-school
activities
 4 Food, glorious food 63
There’s nothing quite like it . . . for creating a
mealtime argument
 5 Sleep 93
Bedtime battles and morning mania
 6 Growing up fast 113
From them venturing out alone to bl**dy swearing
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7 Gadgets and games 139
Screen time, mobile phones and internet safety
 8 Tricky questions 157
Sex and drugs (not rock and roll)
 9 Financial matters 173
The price of being a parent: pocket money, presents
and parties
10 Difficult times 189
Parenting through bereavement and divorce
11 Other little challenges 207
Lies, damned lies, bad habits and fears
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About the author
Liat Hughes Joshi is a parenting journalist who contributes
to national newspapers and magazines. Prior to her second
career as a writer, Liat spent 9 long, exhausting years as a
management consultant in the City (during which time she
actually did about 15 years’ worth of work). She is also
the author of What to Buy for Your Baby and lives in north
London with her husband and son.
About the child psychologists
Our two main child psychologists have contributed to
various chapters, depending on their research interests and
experience.
Dr Jemma Rosen-Webb trained as a clinical psychologist at
the University of East London. She worked in the NHS for
nine years before moving to the USA, where she currently
lives and works.
She specialises in helping children and families, ranging
from one-off consultations on everyday issues, to regular
meetings over a longer period, where there are more
significant concerns. The issues discussed in this book often
come up with the families she assists with.
Dr Harriet Tenenbaum received a PhD in child devel-
opmental psychology from the University of California,
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Santa Cruz and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the
Harvard Graduate School of Education. She is a reader
at Kingston University where she teaches and conducts
research on aspects of child psychology. Harriet is a
mother of one and lives in southwest London.
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Acknowledgements
Special thanks to super psychologists Jemma and Harriet,
and publishers Elie and Rachael.
Thanks too to my long-suffering husband for enduring
my rantings and being a fantastic unpaid editor. To Roni
Jay, Niyati Keni, Lillian Wilkinson, Sarah Wild and Julia
Nicholson for your ideas and input through the two years
I worked on this book.
To my own lovely primary schooler, Luca, for inadvert-
ently being my inspiration.
And finally, to my grandmother for her unconditional
support since the days when it was me going to primary
school, and before.
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