PUA Field Guide

359 Pages·2009·4.78 MB·English

The Pick-Up Artist's
Field Guide
Mastering the Art of Pick-Up and Seduction
THIS EDITION May 2009
Written and Compiled by Decibel
PUAFieldGuide.com
Preface
As an aspiring pick-up artist (PUA), I have searched for a definitive guide to
pick-up. I came across the Venusian Arts based on the Mystery Method,
neurolinguistic programming (NLP) and Ross Jeffries, RSD, David De
Angelo and cocky/funny among many other techniques scattered on the
internet and in bookstores. Though everything we needed to learn was
dispersed among countless DVDs, books and ebooks, what we wanted
was one source that we could turn to in the field as a comprehensive guide.
This book is intended to be a reference. You should read it through and
then come back later as needed. As the pickup arts and sciences evolve, I
intend for this book to keep pace.
In your travels, you may try on various methods and philosophies of pick-
up, including M3, RSD, Mehow or just simple direct. Take everything you
learn with a grain of salt, even concepts considered by the community to be
dogma. Field test it all, until you figure out what works best for you as an
artist. My test of a great PUA is not how much tail he can get, but how far
he has evolved as a person and how willingly he adapts to what the field
teaches him.
For those aspiring to become PUAs, I hope this ebook will help you reach
down inside the AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) and find him. For those
who consider themselves already competent in the seduction arts, I hope
this book will be a good manual for you to employ while teaching others.
But wherever you find yourself in the Game, I hope you'll remember the
first rule: Leave her better off than when you found her.
Now plow on!!
dB
P.S. I'm here to help. Go to my website and contact me:
PUAFieldGuide.com. Check back for updated versions of the Guide, since
it will be constantly evolving and improving. Because this community has
helped me out so much, I'm always looking for ways to give back. Also
download my 3-hour seminar. My other ebook, Introductory Pick-Up, can
be downloaded here.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Semantics and Practical Points
Chapter 2 Communication and Subcommunication
Chapter 3 Body Language
Chapter 4 The Mystery Method (M3 Model)
Chapter 5 Direct Approach
Chapter 6 Identity, State and Frame
Chapter 7 Prizability
Chapter 8 Openers, Routines, Gambits and BOBs
Chapter 9 Chick Crack
Chapter 10 Kino
Chapter 11 Sex and the Female Orgasm
Chapter 12 Props
Chapter 13 AMOGs, Mixed Sets and Boyfriends
Chapter 14 Phone and Text Game
Chapter 15 Internet Game
Chapter 16 Day 2
Chapter 17 Beyond Day 2: The mLTR/FB
Chapter 18 Same Night Lays
Chapter 19 Inner Game
Chapter 20 Attire
Chapter 21 Bibliography and Suggested Readings
Appendix 1 A Crash Course to Learning Pick Up
Appendix 2 Helping Women Get Out of Their Own Way
Appendix 3 On Being Funny
Appendix 4 Decibel's Day 1 Model
Appendix 5 The dB Archives
Appendix 6 BangBang's Guide to Being a Better Lover
Appendix 7 The Blueprint, by RSD
- DISCLAIMER -
Pick-up is Like the Stock Market
This is a life-long investment. You can't get too discouraged by individual
sets or flakes. Look at your overall improvement over months and years,
and make corrections where needed. Are you a better person, man and
seducer compared to a year ago? It becomes easy to get bummed out
when a good set mysteriously flakes. Or to think you're a master PUA
because you sleep with 3 girls in a week.
None of that matters.
What matters is the overall progress you make (or don't make). The stock
market has its ups and downs, but you make small adjustments and ride it
out. You don't pull all your money out because the market has a bad
day...though sometimes the temptation exists.
Always focus on the process, not the outcome. Never prove...always
improve. The road to mastery will be largely a bunch of plateaus, but that is
where much of your progress will occur. Have blind faith that the process
will work, but realize too that it never ends. As Sinn says, 'There is no finish
line.'
Note: Sections written in this color represent new additions from the last
version of the guide.
Chapter One
Semantics and Practical Points
The field of pick-up is full of terminology with which you will need to
familiarize yourself. Rather than create a new glossary, consult The Game
by Neil Strauss, and here.
The HB Rating System
The term HB has been used to stand for Hot Babe or Honey Bunny.
Women are rated according to appearance from 1-10, where HB’s can be
6 or higher, and 1-5 are considered ugs (for ugly). A subset would be the
fugly, who is a so woman so undesirable, she's fucking ugly. The opposite
extreme is the SHB, or Super Hot Babe, who is off the charts magnificent.
There is legitimacy to the ug-10 scale. A 10 has a more profound
psychological impact on a man than an ug; her beauty intimidates and
inhibits him from approaching. This is an undeniable reaction which the
PUA must try even harder to overcome as he rids himself of approach
anxiety (AA). Why is this? Because a 10 has extremely high replicative
value. She has all the primitive traits of high value for the man...facial
symmetry, large breasts, desirable hip-to-waist ratio. Therefore, being of
very high value, she is the best candidate for reproduction, and the most
likely to activate his AA. The PUA should not feel shallow that he selects a
woman of great beauty as his target; it is natural since she has great value
on a very primitive value, much like a man demonstrating alpha
characteristics is highly attractive to a woman.
Some have argued that this number system is not an accurate or fair
approach to rating women. The reason for its use is that in the field all a
PUA has to go on when targeting a woman is her appearance. The
assumption is made that the more physically attractive a woman is, the
more she has been approached by men, and thus the more jaded she will
be. Hence, picking up a 10 may for example require more negs than
picking up a 7.
It should be noted however that not all 10s see themselves as 10s, and not
all 6s see themselves as 6s. Many beautiful women have issues of self-
esteem, and many less attractive women consider themselves far more
attractive than we would assume. Therefore once a PUA has opened an
HB, he must get a sense of her self-worth and calibrate his approach
accordingly. You may open a 10 with a neg, only to find she has low self-
esteem, at which point you may decide to reduce or eliminate the use of
negs from your pick-up so that her ego isn’t further crushed.
The 1-10 scale does not take into consideration other aspects of a woman
such as personality, humor, kindness or intelligence. Its purpose therefore
is merely in summarizing a woman’s appearance on first approach, and
may have little impact on your ultimate attraction to her.
Mystery has described a stoplight system: red for men and women you
don’t consider attractive, yellow for attractive but not hot girls, and green for
9.5-10 girls.
Sometimes you may hear a PUA refer to an HB as ‘HB KatieHolmes’, ‘HB
Bubblebutt’ or ‘HB White-sweater’ which are ways of using some physical
or other characteristic instead of a rating, that is more descriptive of what
the target looks like or reminds you where they met ('HB Lighthouse').
Likewise when you enter a venue, you may use clock positions, as in ‘HB
at your 9 o’clock’ to indicate to your wing whom you wish to sarge. This
tends to be a better way of communicating than yelling ‘Check out the chick
with the big jugs to your right!’
A cougar refers to an older woman (generally 40’s and above), out looking
for a younger man.
An HG is a Hired Gun, as in 'that HG8 who works at Hooters.' Girls who are
under age are referred to as JB, or JailBait. Stay away from them.
Women
The following is a list of roles women can serve in the PUA's game plan. As
the PUA meets and games women, he may place a woman in a particular
category, though it is possible for a woman to change position:
1. Sexual partner. This may take many forms from long term relationship
(LTR) to one night stand (ONS).
2. Friend/pivot. Some women are taken, not interested in dating, or are not
your type on a romantic or physical level. Many of these women would be
great friends, who may connect you with other women, and potential pivots
in field.
3. Pawns. At times, a PUA will befriend a woman, game her a bit, and then
pawn her into a new set for a more desirable woman.
4. Obstacle. Sometimes a woman is only in the way of gaining access to a
more desirable woman in the set. The PUA first befriends her, but only with
the intention of gaming her friend.
As you get better at gaming, you will meet more and more women, each of
whom has their own set of values and interests. It is advisable to keep a
journal of when and where you met each girl, and all the information you
learned about her on day 1 and day 2. This will permit you to study up
before each date, without confusing the various women you may be
seeing.
Financial Investment in the Game
Running game should generally not be an expensive pastime. You can
minimize your overhead by doing the following:
1. Peacock with inexpensive but attention-grabbing items. You can get a lot
of mileage with some cheap finds, as opposed to trying to get blinged out
with gold chains and wrist watches.
2. Don’t buy her drinks and if you go on a ‘date’ make it something that is
cheap or free. Girls respect men who consider themselves the prize, and
step all over guys who squander their hard-earned money in the hopes of
'gettin some.'
3. Don’t buy yourself drinks. Drink nothing, or else club soda or soda at the
bar.
4. Go to clubs and bars that don’t charge covers, or keep it to under $10.
5. Sarge venues that aren’t too far a drive. You’ll use less gas.
6. Don’t buy expensive gifts. Women like knowing you were thinking about
them, so an inexpensive gift can carry just as much or more meaning as a
high-priced item.
On Gaming Drunk Girls
When girls go out to a bar, pub or club they often drink, and many times
get drunk. If you want to run game on drunk girls, you must take these
factors into consideration:
1. Drunk girls may ping kino and IOIs but often they are insincere or
fleeting. That is, at some point their rational mind might kick in and you’ll
sense an abrupt IOD or kino withdrawal. It’s not that they become
disinterested in you, it’s that the alcohol made them artificially interested to
begin with.
2. You may think you’re running tight game on a drunk girl, but don’t be
surprised if an hour later she doesn’t know who you are, or if a few minutes
later she’s gotten just as cuddly with another AMOG in the bar when you
stepped away.
3. Flake rate will probably be higher.
4. Drunk girls throw up, making F-closing awkward or less likely.
5. Drunk girls are typically easy to open. Stupid openers work fine, and kino
escalates rapidly in the first minute.
6. Trying to have sex with a drunk girl for the first time can be maddening.
You will nearly enter, then get LMR, then freeze her out, then start over.
Because she's drunk, this cycle can continue endlessly, and she won't be
able to know what she wants or how to articulate it.
The Close and the 'Date'
The point of opening a set, building mutual attraction and finding rapport is
to ‘close’ the target. This might come in the form of a number, an email, a
kiss or a fuck (known as #, @, K and F closing, respectively). Your goal for
learning the seduction arts may be to screw a lot of women, to create a
social circle, or to get married. There's not a right or wrong choice; it's your
preference, so don't feel like your game is off just because you don't find
yourself sleeping with tons of women. Maybe you're highly selective, and
that's just fine. Every man's journey will be different. Don't allow others to
dictate your goals.
Though it is tempting as you start to apply your new skills to collect as
many numbers as you can, it is advised that you only ask for a girl’s
number if you are truly interested in following up with her.
Kiss closing has not been exactly defined (can run the gamut from a quick
peck to a full make-out), but is any form of mouth-mouth contact that
implies something beyond just friendship. By comparison if you kiss her
cheek, there is not necessarily romance or sexuality implied (as her
grandmother probably kisses her the same way). Hugging is a perfectly
good way to close, as it implies intimacy and trust without being creepy
(unless you make it creepy).
Going for a kiss-close can be an art unto itself, and more information is
provided in the kino chapter. PUAs have noted that many girls will make
out with many guys on a given night and think nothing of it, but chances of
a date (called Day 2 by PUAs) become unlikely because the girl then
assumes you're just trying to get into her pants. Therefore, if you want a
date with a girl, you may want to avoid making out. This however is only
one perspective, and you may find it isn't yours.
As for 'dating,' PUAs avoid the term because going on dates falls within a
female agenda/frame of having a man jump through hoops and pay for
things with the expectation of rewarding him with sex. This sort of frame
control is what AFCs gladly submit to, and PUAs overcome in order to
control the frame. By making the girl the sought-after prize, the man's value
drops relative to hers, and if sex happens often it is because she is now
indebted to him for all the things he's bought her. Women use sex as a
bargaining chip against men in relationships; having sex with her will
lessen her power over you.
When she does come over for Day 2, you may want to invite her into your
home/apartment briefly, to desensitize her for when you bring her back
later. You can give her a quick tour of the home, very matter-of-factly with
nothing that implies sex or romance (lights on, no candles or music). See
The Judge's chapter on Day 2 for more advice.
Eventually, you may decide to enter into a long term relationship (LTR) or
short term relationship (STR) with a girl. While monogamy works for some,
keep in mind that as you stop gaming, your skills will probably get rusty and
your approach anxiety may creep back. It may therefore be worthwhile to
continue gaming, though not fully closing.
There is a distinction between a same-night lay (SNL) and a one-night
stand (ONS). A ONS implies you want to have sex for one night, then move
on and break contact sexually. This happens when you don't timebridge or
create sufficient comfort. By comparison, a SNL means you 'pull' a girl from
a venue and have sex with her that night, but have done the work needed
to see her again for a longer term sexual relationship. Your logistical issues
need to be resolved in advance to pull SNLs/ONSs; that is you or her
should have an S location close to the venue or be able to get there with
relative ease. If not, going for a day 2 may be your only option. Extraction is