Princess Diana

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Idealist Healer
The Compassionate
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Investing in
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Loving
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Are you an empath?
Princess Diana
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Dear Friend,
I am very pleased to present you the May issue of the Keirsey Magazine! This
month, we are featuring Diana Princess of Wales, she was born Diana Frances
Spencer, and became adored as, “The People’s Princess.” To most of the world,
she was known as, “the fairy tale princess,” or as “the most photographed
woman of her generation.” Surprisingly, what many do not realize is that
she was one of the most compassionate people to grace the planet. Her
temperament was that of an Idealist Healer (INFP), who spent much of her time
in hospitals, orphanages, and centers for the diseased, disabled, and dying. In
one year, she carried out 397 official engagements to such places to visit with
people who were desperately in need. She displayed extraordinary courage by
touching people who were terminally ill. We hope that you too will be moved to
action by the model of her compassionate life.

In this issue you will also learn about the kinds of investments you can make in
people, and the impact it makes when you consider their temperaments. We
also explore the subject of love and empathy, and engage in a discussion on
how to love unconditionally. We are asking that you open up your hearts, and
go deep with your soul. We hope that you will catch a glimpse of the power
of compassion, and think about how you can make a unique difference in
someone’s life. We would love to engage in this discussion together with you.
We invite you to send us your thoughts to [email protected]. We hope
you are touched as you experience this month’s issue of the Keirsey Magazine!
All the Best,
Lisa J. Choi
Creative Director
The Keirsey Group
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Table of
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Loving Unconditionally
Portrait of a Leader: Princess Diana
The Compassionate Leader
Idealist Healer INFP
1 7
Leadership Lessons
2 3
Life Journey of Princess Diana
Do You Have Empathy?
2 9
The Anatomy of an Empath
3 9
Investing in People
Q&A: How Does Politics Play a
4 9
Role in Temperament?
“I don’t go by the rule book.
I lead from the heart, 5 3
What is Temperament?
not the head.”
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Credits
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Dating & Romance
“In Keirsey’s point of view, we believe that a person’s
strengths and weaknesses are configured together
Loving Unconditionally
as a part of the same system. That is, strengths and
weaknesses are a part of the same tree. They are
branches that stem from the same trunk, which
Loving unconditionally is about total mandated. However, our research reveals
share the same roots. “
acceptance of the other. It means that an individual is configured in such a
accepting the good, the bad, the lovely, way where asking them to change their
and the ugly. And let’s face it, that’s weaknesses can be like putting poison
hard to do! Whether it’s a significant on the weak branch or cutting off those
other, a parent, child, friend, colleague, branches, and nurturing and preserving
or client, loving (or even liking) another only the strong branches.
human being can be a challenge after
the initial honeymoon phase where We would argue that this approach could
everything feels amazing. We would say actually be detrimental to the whole tree.
that loving another entails a close look We would say that if you want to help a
at the person for who they are. It means person be all that they can be, that you
“celebrating” and “tolerating” the other. have to embrace the whole tree, and that
We would say that we are taught to helping them grow into the full tree that
celebrate the awesome aspects about an they are meant to be entails that you
individual (usually called their strengths), celebrate strengths and tolerate their
and for those things which are seen weaknesses.
as weaknesses, we often punish, try to
change, or reject. We celebrate their And in doing so, you may find that those
strengths, and we ask them to change weaknesses become endearing because
their weaknesses. you understand that those weaknesses
are tied to the same roots, which make
In Keirsey’s point of view, we believe that that person awesome. In this article, we
a person’s strengths and weaknesses unpack what it is like to “love” people of
are configured together as a part of different temperaments. Specifically, we
the same system. That is, strengths look at what you need to celebrate and
and weaknesses are a part of the same what you need to tolerate if the whole
tree. They are branches that stem from tree (the relationship) is going to thrive.
the same trunk, which share the same
roots. Becoming irritated with a person’s
weaknesses, and asking a person to get
rid of their weaknesses is what is often
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At their roots, Artisans seek to be audacious, adaptable, and display artistic ble o s te n t
action. This means that they are daring, make adjustments on the fly, and carry
things off with style. This leads to strengths that generally make Artisans courageous,
flexible, and charismatic. These same roots can also lead to weaknesses which
can make them overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious.
They are celebrated for being courageous, flexible, and charismatic, but they are
viewed negatively for being overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious. And we
might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we
could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on
them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their
weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—
(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole
tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their
strengths, giving momentum to their lives.
We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them
for being courageous, flexible, and charismatic and you may have to tolerate the
times when they are overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious because it’s all
part of the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely
parts.
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Dating & Romance
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At their roots, Guardians seek to be reliable, of service, and respectable. This
means that they are highly dependable, carry their fair share, and do what is
honorable. This leads to strengths that generally make Guardians responsible,
accountable, and dutiful. These same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which
can make them critical, judgmental, and strict.
They are celebrated for being responsible, accountable, and dutiful, but they are
viewed negatively for being critical, judgmental, and strict. And we might think that
if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate
them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we
are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses,
which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the
branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer);
what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths,
giving momentum to their lives.
We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them
for being responsible, accountable, and dutiful and you may have to tolerate the
times when they are critical, judgmental, and strict because it’s all part of the same
tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.

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At their roots, Idealists seek to be authentic, benevolent, and empathetic. This
means that they are genuine, kind, and understanding. This leads to strengths
that generally make Idealists lovable, warm, and compassionate. Now these
same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which can make them overly sensitive,
clingy, and highly emotional.
They are celebrated for being lovable, warm, and compassionate, but they are
viewed negatively for being overly sensitive, clingy, and highly emotional. And we
might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we
could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on
them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their
weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—
(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole
tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their
strengths, giving momentum to their lives.
We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for
being lovable, warm, and compassionate and you may have to tolerate the times
when they are overly sensitive, clingy, and highly emotional because it’s all part of
the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.
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At their roots, Rationals seek to be ingenious, autonomous, and display
willpower. This means that they are intellectual, self-defined, and resilient. This
leads to strengths that generally make Rationals very intelligent, capable, and
persistent. Now these same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which can make
them arrogant, aloof, and driving.
They are celebrated for being intelligent, capable, and persistent, but they are
viewed negatively for being arrogant, aloof, and driving. And we might think that
if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate
them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we
are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses,
which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the
branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer);
what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths,
giving momentum to their lives.
We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for
being intelligent, capable, and persistent and you may have to tolerate the times
when they are arrogant, aloof, and driving because it’s all part of the same tree.
You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.
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Perhaps we’re too embarrassed to change or too frightened
of the consequences of showing that we actually care.
But why not risk it anyway?
Begin Today.
Carry out a random act of seemingly senseless kindness,
with no expectation or reward or punishment.
Safe in the knowledge that one day,
someone somewhere might do the same for you.
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Portrait of a Leader
Portrait of a Leader
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Princess Diana Compassionate Leaders
seek to understand the real
By Edward Kim and David Keirsey needs of the disenfranchised.

“This is me, this is me!” exclaimed She had the title, “Princess of Wales”
Princess Diana when she read Dr. but she did not consider her status
Keirsey’s portrait of the Idealist Healer as something to hold onto, but rather,
“This is me, this is me!” exclaimed Princess Diana when she was read Dr. Keirsey’s por-
(INFP). In 1991, her masseur, Stephen she became a servant to humanity.
trait of the Idealist-Healer (INFP). In 1991, her masseur, Stephen Twigg, had given her
Twigga ,c ohpay dof , gPilveaesne U hnederr sata ncdo Mpey t oo hfe, lpP hleera usned erstaSnhde th ew spairsit ubal ejosutronwey eshde wwasi th extravagant
Undeunrsdetratnakdin gM. Dei,a naan wdas tshaied tPo rhianvec beesesn awstaonsi shedg ainftds a, maaznedd byw tahes p osretreaint’s abccyu -the world as
racy. Taking the Keirsey Temperament Sorter it confirmed what Diana had known by her
said to have been astonished and living the fairy tale life. Yet, in all that
intuition, that her gift was that of a Healer. Diana, and other Idealist-Healers are what we
amazed by the portrait’s accuracy. she had, she found far more fulfillment
call the Compassionate Leader. Diana’s compassion fueled her to regularly visit with those
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it condifisarbmlede, dd ywinhg, ahtu rDtiniag,n foar ghoattden ,k lonsot, wabnus bedy, and tnhegele ccteedn. tTheriss i so wfh edries heear sheea rat nd disabilities,
resided. In speaking about her visits, she once said, “I make the trips at least three times a
her intuition, that her gift was that of a where the disenfranchised had been
week, and spend up to four hours at a time with patients holding their hands and talking
Healer. Diana, and other Idealist Healers abandoned. In commenting about her
to them. Some of them will “This is me, this is me!” exclaimed Princess Diana when
are wshhe waats rweaed Dcra. Kll eitrhseey’ s Cpoortmraipt oafs tshieo Idneaaltiest -Heavleisr i(tIsN FtPo) . hIno 1s9p91i,t ahelsr ,m sashseeu rs, aid, “I want to
LeadSeterp.h Hene Trw cigog,m hapda gsivseino hne rf au ceolpeyd o f,h Pelera steo U ndewrstaanlkd iMnet oto ah erlop ohemr u, nbdeer sitta and h ospital for the
the spiritual journey she was undertaking. Diana was said to have been astonished and
regularly visit with those who were in dying or a hospital for the sick children,
amazed by the portrait’s accuracy. Taking the Keirsey Temperament Sorter it confirmed
greatest need—the disenfranchised, and feel that I am needed. I want to
what Diana had known by her intuition, that her gift was that of a Healer. Diana, and
sick, otlhoenr Iedleya,l isdt-Hiseaablerles adre, wdhyati nwge ,c alhl tuhre tCinomg,p assiodnoat, en Loeatd ejur. sDti atnoa’ sb coem.”p Sashsieon b elieved that it
abusfeuedle, da hnerd to nreegugllaerlcyt veisdit. wTithh itsh oisse wwhho ewreree in gwreaatess th neeerd —cathllein dgis einnfr alinfceh,i ssetda, ting, “Nothing
her heart resided. In speaking about brings me more happiness than trying
her visits, she once said, “I make the to help the most vulnerable people in
trips at least three times a week, and society. It is a goal and an essential part
spend up to four hours at a time of my life—a kind of destiny. Whoever
with patients holding their hands and is in distress can call on me. I will come
talking to them. Some of them will live running wherever they are.” She knew
and some will die, but they all need to her path. She said, “I knew what my
be loved while they are here. I try to be job was: it was to go out and meet the
there for them.” She is a fine example people and love them.”
of a Compassionate Leader, and there
is a lot we can learn from her.
The Compassionate Leader
Idealist Healer INFP
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