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“Almost overnight, above all with the publication of his classic and still indispensable Astrology, Karma & Transformation, Stephen Arroyo established a new sensibility in contemporary astrology. Arroyo had assimilated the intellectual and spiritual currents of a new era, making earlier astrological books seem as if they had been written by quaint Victorians.… Since that remarkable beginning, each new book has revealed Arroyo’s deep intuitive grasp of astrology’s fundamentals, grounded in years of counseling experience. What stands out most throughout his work, and what impels so many to embrace his views as their own, is that Arroyo sees astrology as a powerful instrument of transformation— psychological, spiritual, relational. Every new publication by Arroyo is a significant event for the field, and with Person-to-Person Astrology we receive the fruits of his past thirty years of observations on the astrology of human relations.” —Richard Tarnas, PhD, professor of philosophy and psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies and author of Cosmos and Psyche: Intimations of a New World View OTHER BOOKS BY STEPHEN ARROYO Exploring Jupiter Relationships & Life Cycles Astrology, Karma & Transformation Stephen Arroyo’s Chart Interpretation Handbook Astrology, Psychology & the Four Elements eISBN: 978-1-55643973-5 Copyright © 2007 by Stephen Arroyo. All rights reserved. No portion of this book, except for brief review, may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise—without written permission of the publisher. For information contact Frog Books c/o North Atlantic Books. Published by Frog Books Frog Books’ publications are distributed by North Atlantic Books P.O. Box 12327 Berkeley, California 94712 Cover art ©iStockphoto.com/cyro pintos Cover and book design by Jan Camp Person-to-Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility is sponsored by the Society for the Study of Native Arts and Sciences, a nonprofit educational corporation whose goals are to develop an educational and cross-cultural perspective linking various scientific, social, and artistic fields; to nurture a holistic view of arts, sciences, humanities, and healing; and to publish and distribute literature on the relationship of mind, body, and nature. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Arroyo, Stephen. Person-to-person astrology : energy factors in love, sex, and compatibility / Stephen Arroyo. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references. 1. Astrology. I. Title. BF1708.1.A785 2007 133.5’863067—dc22 2007021760 v3.1_r1 Dedication To all the hundreds of people who contributed to this two-decade project, through suggestions, letters, questionnaire responses, or trusting openness in consultations or interviews. And also to the future generations, including Isaac, Rose, Ginger, and Lucas, in the hope that they will look unflinchingly at what astrology can offer them to improve their understanding of themselves and others. Acknowledgments My greatest thanks go to Aina Kemanis, without whose encouragement, support, wide-ranging dialogues, research, editorial refinements, and an occasional gentle push, this book would never have been completed. Also many thanks to Barbara Boyd, who proved to be the perfect editor for a specialized author writing a book for a broader public. Her combination of acute perception, superb language skills, humor, and penetrating criticism combined with tact made hours of editing work more fun than tedious. And also much gratitude to many others for their encouragement and intellectual support, and to Kathy Mullins and Jim Feil for helping make lengthy focused writing times possible. Contents Cover Other Books by This Author Title Page Copyright Dedication Acknowledgments Preface Author’s Note: A Personal Invitation to the Reader Important Guidelines for Those New to Astrology Introduction Chapter 1: Compatibility and the Language of Relationships Chapter 2: Should I Really Take Astrology Seriously? Replies Throughout the Centuries What Do Emerson, Galileo, and da Vinci Have in Common? Chapter 3: Love, Sex, and Relationships: Throughout History and Today Historical and Cultural Background Social Trends, Standards, and Hypocrisy Social and Sexual Roles and Reality Men’s Little-Appreciated Need for Women Surveys and Silliness: How We Understand Sex, Love, and Relationships Today Chapter 4: Astrology in the Twenty-First Century: A New Viewpoint Chapter 5: How Astrology Amplifies Our Understanding of the Energy Interaction Between People Energy Interactions: An Experience, Not a Metaphor Visualizing the Elements and Their Interactions Facing the Facts and the Limits of Therapy What Is a Chart Comparison? Assessing Interpersonal Energy Dynamics Some Key Factors in Chart Comparison Chapter 6: The Four Elements, the Twelve Signs, and the Rising Sign The Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius The Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn The Air Signs: Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius The Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces The Ascendant, or Rising Sign The Fire Signs Rising (Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius) The Earth Signs Rising (Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn) The Air Signs Rising (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius) The Water Signs Rising (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) A Few Guidelines for Understanding the Ascendant Chapter 7: The Moon: The Moods We Can Live With The Moon, the Feminine, Passivity, and Dependency The Moon in the Fire Signs The Moon in the Earth Signs The Moon in the Air Signs The Moon in the Water Signs How the Moon’s Element Is Expressed: Results from a Discussion Group The Moon, Inner Security, and Self-Image Chapter 8: Mars and Venus: Not All Men Are from Mars and Not All Women Are from Venus Venus and Charm, Mars and Anger The Contrasts Between Men’s and Women’s Expression of Venus and Mars Venus and Mars in the Elements “Feelings” Contrasted with “Emotions” Venus and Mars in the Water Element (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) Venus and Mars in the Fire Element (Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius) Venus and Mars in the Earth Element (Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn) Venus and Mars in the Air Element (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius) Compatibility on the Elements’ Energy Level Venus, Mars, and the Sun’s Energy Chapter 9: Venus in the Fire Signs Venus in Aries Venus in Leo Venus in Sagittarius Chapter 10: Venus in the Earth Signs Venus in Taurus Venus in Virgo Venus in Capricorn Chapter 11: Venus in the Air Signs Venus in Gemini Venus in Libra Venus in Aquarius