Pediatric Palliative Care Pediatric Palliative Care: A Model for Exemplary Practice lays out a road map for health-care providers interested in optimizing care for seriously ill children and their families. Grounded in clinical practice and the study of positive rather than problematic encounters between providers and parents, this book presents an evidence-based model of exemplary interaction. The chapters offer a clear understanding of the complex, holistic process of interaction between providers and parents, as well as the personal and professional knowledge and skills needed to interact in optimal ways. This is a one-of-a-kind guidebook for health-care providers interested in (re)discovering how to maximize positive outcomes for both families and providers. It is also a valuable source of inspiration for educators, supervisors, and hospital administrators who want to facilitate personal and professional development and create supportive environments for students, providers, seriously ill children, and their families. Betty Davies, MSN, PhD, is an adjunct professor in the School of Nursing, University of Victoria, British Columbia, Canada, and professor emerita in the Department of Family Health Care Nursing at the University of California, San Francisco, USA. Rose Steele, RN, PhD, is a full professor in the School of Nursing, Faculty of Health, York University, Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Jennifer Baird, RN, MPH, MSW, PhD, is the director of Clinical Services Education and Research at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, California, USA. The Series in Death, Dying, and Bereavement Series Editors: Robert A. Neimeyer, PhD, Portland Institute for Loss and Transition, Oregon, USA, and Darcy L. Harris, PhD, Western University Canada, Ontario, Canada Volumes published in the Series in Death, Dying, and Bereavement are representative of the multidisciplinary nature of the intersecting fields of death studies, suicidology, end-of-life care, and grief counseling. The series meets the needs of clinicians, researchers, paraprofessionals, pastoral counselors, and educators by providing cutting edge research, theory, and best practices on the most important topics in these fields—for today and for tomorrow. Prescriptive Memories in Grief and Loss The Art of Dreamscaping Edited by Nancy Gershman and Barbara E. Thompson Loss, Grief, and Attachment in Life Transitions A Clinician’s Guide to Secure Base Counseling Jakob van Wielink, Leo Wilhelm, and Denise van Geelen-Merks Non-Death Loss and Grief Context and Clinical Implications Edited by Darcy L. Harris Superhero Grief The Transformative Power of Loss Edited by Jill A. Harrington and Robert A. Neimeyer New Techniques of Grief Therapy Bereavement and Beyond Edited by Robert A. Neimeyer Pediatric Palliative Care A Model for Exemplary Practice Betty Davies, Rose Steele, and Jennifer Baird For more information about this series, please visit www.routledge.com/ Series-in-Death-Dying-and-Bereavement/book-series/SE0620. Pediatric Palliative Care A Model for Exemplary Practice Betty Davies, Rose Steele, and Jennifer Baird First published 2022 by Routledge 605 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10158 and by Routledge 2 Park Square, Milton Park, Abingdon, Oxon, OX14 4RN Routledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business © 2022 Betty Davies, Rose Steele, and Jennifer Baird The right of Betty Davies, Rose Steele, and Jennifer Baird to be identified as authors of this work has been asserted by them in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs, and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced or utilised in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publishers. Trademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Names: Davies, Betty, Ph. D. author. | Steele, Rose, author. | Baird, Jennifer (Nurse) author. Title: Pediatric palliative care : a model for exemplary practice / Betty Davies, Rose Steele, Jennifer Baird. Description: New York, NY : Routledge, 2021. | Series: Series in death, dying, and bereavement | Includes bibliographical references and index. Identifiers: LCCN 2021029590 (print) | LCCN 2021029591 (ebook) | ISBN 9780367365684 (paperback) | ISBN 9780367365691 (hardback) | ISBN 9780429352393 (ebook) Subjects: LCSH: Terminally ill children—Care. | Children—Hospice care. Classification: LCC RJ249 .D38 2021 (print) | LCC RJ249 (ebook) | DDC 618.92/0029—dc23 LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021029590 LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021029591 ISBN: 978-0-367-36569-1 (hbk) ISBN: 978-0-367-36568-4 (pbk) ISBN: 978-0-429-35239-3 (ebk) DOI: 10.4324/9780429352393 Typeset in Bembo by Apex CoVantage, LLC We dedicate this book to those health-care providers who consistently focus on what matters in the moment for children with life-threatening illness and their families. Contents Preface ix Series Editors’ Foreword xix Acknowledgments xxi About the Authors xxiv List of Boxes, Figures, and Tables xxvi List of Abbreviations xxviii 1 Introduction to interaction 1 2 Metaphor and Overview of Model of Exemplary Interaction 13 3 Worldview, Values, and Commitment to Authentic Engagement 26 4 Process of Attuning 46 5 Direct Care Activities 67 6 Connecting Behaviors 89 7 Personal Influencing Factors 108 8 Pediatric Health-Care Provider–Parent Relationship 130 9 Setting and Teamwork Contextual Factors 148 10 Institutional and Societal Contextual Factors 168 viii Contents 11 Output From Exemplary Interaction: A Milieu of Mattering 182 12 Implications of the Model of Exemplary Interaction 195 Index 211 Preface The Background When Betty’s friend from childhood, Arlene, was a young mother of two preschool boys, she was diagnosed with stage 3 lymphoma. Over several years, Arlene endured total body radiation three times and countless rounds of chemotherapy. She turned out to be one of medicine’s rare and celebrated miracles—she survived. Her experience with life-threatening illness taught Arlene that life is too short to not follow your dream. So she returned to school in midlife and became a much-acclaimed and award-winning artist. During the years of Arlene’s initial cancer experience, she often felt that the physicians related to her as just another source of data and many nurses treated her as just another patient on their day’s to-do list. Certainly, she also encountered some very kind, thoughtful, and competent health-care professionals (HCPs), but they were comparatively few in number. Fur- ther, the distressing impact of the negative encounters remained among her worst memories of being so ill. Nearly 40 years later, Arlene was diag- nosed in 2011 with pancreatic cancer. Despite her fears and trepidations, she chose to have chemotherapy once again, receiving treatment in the same hospital as before. But Arlene lamented that in the decades since she was last there, the treatments had become more complex, many tests were so much more complicated, and the equipment reminded her of a science fiction movie. Sadly, when it came to her as a person, nothing had changed for the better. She felt even more of an object in a much larger petri dish. All she wanted was for HCPs to remember that she was a human being inside the hospital gown. Arlene’s lament echoes in the comments we (the authors) continue to hear from many people about their contact with current health-care sys- tems. In multiple research studies about parents’ experiences in pediatric palliative care, whether or not directly asked about their encounters with pediatric health-care providers (PHCPs), parents inevitably talk about how important those exchanges are, particularly the negative ones that leave open wounds in their soul. One mother remained at the bedside of her child who had died about an hour before shift change. When making morning