Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love & Desire

192 Pages·2014·1.06 MB·English

by  Karen Brody

OPEN HER
Activate 7 masculine Powers
toArouse Your Woman’s Love and Desire

Karen Brody

DreamStreamPress

San Francisco
Copyright © 2014 by Karen Brody

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or utilized, in any
form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, without prior permission in
writing from the publisher.

Published in 2014 by Dream Stream Press, San Francisco

ISBN-13: 978-0615972329
ISBN-10: 0615972322
Cover design by Vanessa No Heart
Book design by Tom Crockett

Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love and
Desire is not meant as a substitute for counseling. The author is not dispensing
medical or psychological advice. Whenever there is a concern about physical or
emotional illness, a qualified professional should be consulted. The author shall
have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to
any loss, damage, injury, or ailment caused or alleged to be caused directly or
indirectly by the information or lack of information in this book.
TABLE OF CONTENTS

Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter One: The Artist
Chapter Two: The Poet
Chapter Three: The Director
Chapter Four: The Warrior
Chapter Five: The Sage
Chapter Six: The Dark Knight
Chapter Seven: The Lover
Conclusion
About the Author
FOREWORD

Sexuality is a treasure trove, but it's also a minefield. It's the one life arena that's
fraught with both incredible primal energy, and also the possibility for endless
pain and shame. And that's just within an individual–once partners are involved
everything becomes even more heightened. To navigate this potent, tricky
terrain, we need impeccable guidance. That's why I was so excited when asked
to write the forward for Karen Brody's book. Karen and I met, and have found
great common ground as educators of sexual and emotional intimacy.
I trust Karen's approach to sexuality and relationships, and deeply respect
the message she has to share with men. When it comes to practical insights that
unleash the transformative potential of sexuality within intimate relationships,
this book is the gold standard.
What it's not: A way to get women into bed, or a way to get them to better
serve your desires. What it is: A guide for evoking ecstatic sexual union with
your partner.
Karen understands that such union is first and foremost about oneself, and
that when a man learns how to open to his own unfettered masculine energy,
only then is he capable of truly loving his partner, and of calling forth the same
true love from her.
Getting there, even to the point of knowing the value of such a path, is not
an easy road for most of us men. The rough combination of testosterone and
cultural conditioning finds us, when relating to women, in the mode of hot
pursuit. We want to conquer, possess, ‘get’ ours. All of which tends to shut most
women down rather than open them up.
To make matters worse, few of us have the combination of looks and
swagger necessary to pull off the kind of misguided seduction we crave. As a
result, we're either left empty-handed or unsatisfied with the women we ensnare.
I experienced all of this personally in my teens and twenties. From an early
age I felt both blessed and cursed by the amount of sexual energy that coursed
through me. I had a wild sex life, but all on my own. That's because the women I
wanted only wanted to be my best friend, and the women who wanted me I
didn't want at all.
The resulting isolation, and sexual frustration, created a dark storm at the
center of my existence. Luckily, I found my way to a great therapist. One day, I
was complaining to her about how women only wanted James Dean, and how I
could never be him.
My therapist asked me what qualities I attributed to James Dean. I told her
that Dean (or really the archetype he represented) exuded such raw sexual
energy that all he had to do was lean against a wall and women would throw
themselves at him. At this point my therapist caught me totally off-guard.
"Would you like to meet your own inner James Dean?" she asked. I felt
shocked, confused, challenged. What was she even talking about?
Using a practice called Voice Dialogue, my therapist had me move to
another seat and began talking to me as if I was actually James Dean. When I
joined in the dialogue, much to my surprise, I started to feel sexually confident. I
could tell that I was radiating sexual energy in a new way, one that wasn't so
bound up in fear and doubt.
Then came the kicker. My therapist went silent. She just looked at me. It
took me a few seconds to realize that she was allowing her own sexual energy to
enter the space between us in a palpable way. I felt wanted by her, as a man, as a
sexual man, while knowing full well this was also a completely safe experiment.
We stayed in this incredibly charged silent gaze for at least five minutes. I
can honestly say it changed my life.
But not in the way you might imagine.
I didn't go from feeling undesirable to supremely confident in my sexual
attractiveness. Instead, I knew that the channels for sexual energy in me had just
burst wide open. Before, my sexual energy was like a tsunami inside a garden
hose–insistent, overpowering, focused narrowly on escape and release.
Now, the generative power of sexuality spread to every part of me like the
waves of an infinite ocean. Its waves seemed made of light, illuminating every
aspect of my being ripe for discovery and fulfillment.
Through sexuality, you might say, I gave birth to a new self, one that
unleashed the man I'd always longed to be. This was also a man that women
wanted naturally–the right women–and a man who could meet them in erotic
connection without halting or hiding.
Which brings us back to this book. Besides being an exquisitely reliable
guide in the realm of satisfying sexual connection, Karen is also a writer of great
grace and insight. She shares from a fascinating feminine perspective all of those
things women long for and so seldom find in their men. She makes incredibly
complex themes come to life in a clear, accessible way.
Karen has developed a schema for opening yourself that cultivates what she
calls the “Seven Masculine Archetypes.” I didn't know it at the time, but in the
aftermath of what happened with my therapist, that's what I did. Only I stumbled
a lot in the process, and would have been enormously grateful to have this book
as a companion on the journey.
That's exactly what you have in your hands, a true companion on the
journey of awakening yourself, and also your love life. Either one would be
enough. Together, they're irresistible.

Raphael Cushnir
July, 2013,
Portland, Oregon
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I’d like to offer my deep, heartfelt appreciation to the following people, without
whom this book and teachings would not be possible.
First, thank you to my mother, Gail, who passed away just before this book
made it to publication. I wouldn’t have the strength to walk this path had it not
been for you and what I learned from you about men and love.
To my sister, Lisa, who ’s unending support and belief in me gives me a
place to call home in the world.
Thank you, my dear Jay. This book couldn’t have happened without you.
You saw me so clearly and gave me the courage to step into my life’s work. May
you rest in peace. To Stephen, thank you for the amazing adventure, the
heartbreak and the love. Fernando, your devotion, love and support helped bring
this book to life.
To Tom Crockett, my creative editor, thank you for your masculine
direction, your brilliant insights, and for providing the masculine practices that
accompany the opportunities in each chapter. They’re simply gold. Your belief
in this project, and your consistent encouragement and feedback, made it
possible for me overcome many hurdles and cross the finish line.
Thank you Raphael Cushnir for seeing the beauty in Open Her through your
heart, and for writing a forward that inspires the awakened, masculine potential
within every man.
Thank you, Betsy Blondin , for your excellent proofreading, and Vanessa
No Heart for your brilliant, stunning cover design.
And thank you to these special friends who contributed in a variety of key
ways to this book’s completion: Kimmy , Lisa M, Adva , Allen, Gerard, Aysha ,
Peter O, Manny, Pattie C, Steve T, and Michelle K.
And a special thanks to all the men who hurt me enough, through love, to
inspire this book and its wisdom.
INTRODUCTION
If you’re reading this book, you’re obviously not new to women. Because you’re
an intelligent, sensitive and caring man, you’ve probably had many women in
your life and some success at love.
Nonetheless, if there is anything that can bring you to your knees and
completely derail your forward motion, it’s being in love with a woman! When
she’s happy and radiant, it fuels everything you do. The inspiration of her joy
propels you forward and makes all your efforts worthwhile. On the other hand,
when she’s unhappy, disappointed, or not playing on your court, it can feel like
your energy is being sucked dry. You lose focus. You lose that winning edge.
And, at its worst, you lose your own sense of power and value, as if being with
her is a dark hole from which you cannot escape.
The best of intentions and being a “good man” don’t always have the effect
of making your woman happy; you know this well. And so you keep looking for
the magic bullet – the secret something that will land you in good stead, and
from where you can coast along for a long time. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work
this way with women. Women are creatures of the moment, so coasting is
virtually impossible. While it’s not your duty to make a woman happy and cater
to her every changing mood, understanding her at the deepest, most intimate
level is an opportunity you should not miss – if you want an open, playful, and
joyous woman in your life.
You need this book because this dance beckons you, and believe me, it’s not
intuitive at any stage of your life. In my coaching practice, I’ve known many
men to wait decades to access information that changed their relationship in a
day. So know that your choice to pick up and read this book is a really good one,
and I assure you it will help you to be both a better man and a better lover for
your woman.
Women clearly want different things in love than men. You’ve already
figured out that piece. The question is: To what extent do you understand the
intricacies of that difference? To what degree can you say you know your
woman’s heart, or the subtle nature of her desire? What is it that makes her crave
you in one moment and refuse you in another? What triggers her respect and
affection, and can you inspire that respect and affection now and in the future?
If you feel uncertain about the answers to these questions, take heart. Most
men are perplexed by how a woman loves and what fuels her desire. Your
masculine nature is to provide and protect, and that’s likely where a great deal of
your attention goes in relationship to a woman. Above all, you simply want your
woman to be happy. This is a beautiful and noble intention. However, if not
given in the right spirit, and from a place of power, it can backfire on your sense
of confidence and undermine your success at love.
A feminine heart is easiest to understand if you think of it like a garden.
Whether you garden or not, you know if you seed the earth properly and tend to
it with love and skill, it blooms into a thing of beauty and wonder. In many
ways, women are this way, too. Sure, you can just do a little watering now and
then or throw a little food at your romantic relationship, and it will stay alive.
But the relationship with a woman never thrives and blossoms until it’s given the
emotional and sexual nutrients and the care it really needs.
You didn’t get to this point in your life without experiencing the dark side
of a woman’s heart. It’s that moment when her smile has all but disappeared, her
joy is gone, and her sexual desire seemingly has dried up. This moment is every
man’s worst nightmare; perhaps it’s what compels you to read this book. And
yet, it’s exactly what happens when the feminine “garden” isn’t tended to with
loving attention (and I’m not talking about roses wrapped in plastic, or the
occasional red teddy). I’m talking about tending to love in a way that inspires a
woman’s deepest opening and a man’s greatest sense of himself and his power.

Who and What This Book Is For
This book is not a guide for how to pacify women or win their approval. You
will not learn how to become more docile, or how to masterfully conceal your
masculinity and your sexual desires. On the contrary, the scope of this journey is
far greater than your relationships with women. It’s an opportunity for you to
step up and be a better man in all the ways you want to be – and also to affect
your relationships with women in a positive and satisfying way.
At the start of my work as “The Love and Intimacy Coach for Men,” men
came to me urgently wanting answers to their problems with women. “What do I
have to say or do to get her to want me?” they’d ask, as if women were like
riddles they could solve. Initially, I readily threw the answers at them, wanting
them to succeed and believing they would. I thought surely the information
would change things. But I quickly learned that handing a man “the answers”
was akin to giving him a rifle without showing him first how to use it.
To succeed with women, a man needs to first come to know and understand
his own power and how to leverage that power in a loving way with women.
Few men have any idea of the kind of raw power they have. It’s like they have a
Ferrari in the garage, but they’ve driving a Volkswagen. So first, I want to show
you where your power lives (in case you overlooked it) and how to use that
power effectively in relation to women. If you’re not getting the attention,
affection, and sex you want, you can trust you’re not using your power well.