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Online Matchmaking Edited by Monica T. Whitty, Andrea J. Baker and James A. Inman Online Matchmaking Alsobytheeditors MonicaT.Whitty CYBERSPACEROMANCE:ThePsychologyofOnlineRelationships (withA.N.Carr) AndreaJ.Baker DOUBLECLICK:RomanceandCommitmentamongOnlineCouples JamesA.Inman COMPUTERSANDWRITING:theCyborgEra TECHNOLOGYANDENGLISHSTUDIES:InnovativeProfessionalPaths (co-editor) ELECTRONIC COLLABORATION IN THE HUMANITIES: Issues and Options(co-editor) TAKING FLIGHT WITH OWLS: Examining Electronic Writing Center Work(co-editor) Online Matchmaking Editedby Monica T. Whitty Queen’sUniversityBelfast,NorthernIreland,UK Andrea J. Baker OhioUniversity,USA and James A. Inman UniversityofTennessee,USA Editorialmatterandselection©MonicaT.Whitty, AndreaJ.BakerandJamesA.Inman2007 Chapters©theirauthors2007 Softcover reprint of the hardcover 1st edition 2007 978-1-4039-9849-1 Allrightsreserved.Noreproduction,copyortransmissionofthis publicationmaybemadewithoutwrittenpermission. Noparagraphofthispublicationmaybereproduced,copiedortransmitted savewithwrittenpermissionorinaccordancewiththeprovisionsofthe Copyright,DesignsandPatentsAct1988,orunderthetermsofanylicence permittinglimitedcopyingissuedbytheCopyrightLicensingAgency, 90TottenhamCourtRoad,LondonW1T4LP. Anypersonwhodoesanyunauthorisedactinrelationtothispublication maybeliabletocriminalprosecutionandcivilclaimsfordamages. Theauthorshaveassertedtheirrightstobeidentified astheauthorsofthisworkinaccordancewiththeCopyright, DesignsandPatentsAct1988. Firstpublished2007by PALGRAVEMACMILLAN Houndmills,Basingstoke,HampshireRG216XSand 175FifthAvenue,NewYork,N.Y.10010 Companiesandrepresentativesthroughouttheworld PALGRAVEMACMILLANistheglobalacademicimprintofthePalgrave MacmillandivisionofSt.Martin’sPress,LLCandofPalgraveMacmillanLtd. Macmillan(cid:2)isaregisteredtrademarkintheUnitedStates,UnitedKingdom andothercountries.PalgraveisaregisteredtrademarkintheEuropean Unionandothercountries. ISBN 978-1-349-54697-8 ISBN 978-0-230-20618-2 (eBook) DOI 10.1057/9780230206182 Thisbookisprintedonpapersuitableforrecyclingandmadefromfully managedandsustainedforestsources. AcataloguerecordforthisbookisavailablefromtheBritishLibrary. LibraryofCongressCataloging-in-PublicationData Onlinematchmaking/editedbyMonicaT.Whitty,AndreaJ.Baker,and JamesA.Inman. p. cm. Includesbibliographicalreferencesandindex. 1. Onlinedating. I. Whitty,MonicaT.,1969(cid:3) II. Baker,AndreaJ. III. Inman,JamesA. HQ801.82.O552007 306.730285(cid:2)4678“dc22 2006050193 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 09 08 07 Contents ListofTables vii Preface viii Acknowledgements x NotesontheContributors xi 1 Introduction 1 Monica T. Whitty Part 1 Defining Online Matchmaking 2 FromtheBBStotheWeb:TracingtheSpacesofOnline Romance 17 Dànielle Nicole DeVoss 3 Cyborgasms:TenYearsOnandNotEnoughLearned 31 Robin Hamman 4 ScriptingtheRulesforMarsandVenus:AdviceLiterature andOnlineDating 40 Susanna Paasonen Part 2 Presentation of Self to Attract Lovers 5 TheArtofSellingOne’s‘Self’onanOnlineDatingSite:The BARApproach 57 Monica T. Whitty 6 ExaminingPersonalAdsandJobAds 70 Alice Horning 7 HowdoILoveTheeandTheeandThee:Self-presentation, Deception,andMultipleRelationshipsOnline 81 Julie M. Albright v vi Contents Part 3 Online Dating Progression to Face-to-face: Success or Failure? 8 ExpressingEmotioninText: EmailCommunicationof OnlineCouples 97 Andrea J. Baker 9 AProgressiveAffair:OnlineDatingtoRealWorldMating 112 Katelyn Y. A. McKenna Part 4 Darker Sides of Online Dating 10 Cyberstalkingas(Mis)matchmaking 127 Brian H. Spitzberg and William R. Cupach 11 Cyber-VictimisationandOnlineDating 147 Robert A. Jerin and Beverly Dolinsky Part 5 Online Dating Sub-groups 12 SexualOrientationModeratesOnlineSexualActivities 159 Robin M. Mathy 13 WhipsandChains?FactorFiction?ContentAnalysisof SadomasochisminInternetPersonalAdvertisements 178 Diane Kholos Wysocki and Jennifer Thalken 14 Conclusion 197 Monica T. Whitty AuthorIndex 202 SubjectIndex 206 List of Tables 10.1 Estimatesofcyberstalkingtactics 139 12.1 Reasons for engaging in online sexual activities (percentofparticipantswhoendorseditem)bygender andsexualorientation 169 12.2 Frequency of engaging in sexual activities prior to Internetusage,bygenderandsexualorientation 170 13.1 Demographicdescriptionofrespondents 185 13.2 Percentagesofsexualbehavioursoftherespondents 187 13.3 Percentageofsadomasochisticbehavioursandrole-plays 188 vii Preface Try to imagine a world without the Internet. Not so easy to do despite the relative newness of the technology. So many of us use email in our everyday working and personal lives. We surf the net for pleasure and for work. We often choose to send a text rather than phone a friend.Weseekoutromanticandsexualrelationshipsonline.Insucha relatively short time in history the way we communicate, initiate, and formrelationshipshasdramaticallychanged.Yettherearefewacademic booksavailablethatexamineonlinerelating. Online Matchmaking began as a research project at the University of South Florida, where James Inman and several graduate students were researchingonlineidentities,especiallythewaythatindividualschoose to represent themselves. In this research, it quickly became clear that online personals offered one of the most compelling and intriguing examples. At that time, however, while useful research had been done acrossthedisciplines,therewasnosimplewayofpullingtogetherthose strands. Thus James and his colleagues decided to turn their efforts to assembling a collection that would make a positive difference for everyone interested in online matchmaking, and the book project was created. Approximately a year and a half later, Monica Whitty and Andrea Baker became co-editors. The project was reconceptualised and a contract was secured with Palgrave Macmillan. Reviewing new contri- butions along with the writings of authors involved from the start of the project, the editors developed the framework that provided a good fit for the book. The first chapters define online matchmaking and highlight some of the questions researchers need to consider in this field.Thechaptersmoveforwardtoexaminehowonlinedaterspresent themselvestopotentialpartners.Thebookthenturnstoconsiderhow relationshipsprogressincyberspaceandhowtheyoftenprogresstoface- to-face settings. Final sections cover the darker sides of online dating andsubgroupsofspecialpopulationsofpeoplemeetingincyberspace. This book includes scholars from across the globe. The editors also liveindifferentlocations(MonicaanAussielivinginNorthernIreland, andAndreaandJamesAmericansresidingintheMidwestandSoutheast intheUSA)andmostoftheconstructionandeditingofthebooktook placeincyberspace.Somethingwetookforgranted. viii Preface ix Each contributor or set of co-authors wrote an original chapter espe- ciallyforthiscollectionofreadings,basedupontheirownresearch.As theauthorsinthisbookdemonstrate,thetopicofonlinerelatingcanbe approached from a number of different disciplines. It is our hope that thiswillencouragefurthercross-disciplinaryworkinthisfield. Working with these authors has been an interesting and rewarding experience.Aseditorswewouldliketothankthemfortheirincredibly hard work and their willingness to be involved in what we believe is an important project. Personally it has enriched our own work and we hopethatitwilldothesameforthosewhoreadthisvolume. MonicaT.Whitty AndreaJ.Baker JamesA.Inman
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