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Table of Contents Title Page Copyright Page Dedication Acknowledgements Chapter 1 - INTRODUCTION: THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT SEX Chapter 2 - USING THIS BOOK Section One - BASICS Chapter 3 - MASTURBATION: FUN FOR ONE OR MORE Chapter 4 - THE GLORY OF O Chapter 5 - FOREPLAY: TURNING UP THE HEAT Chapter 6 - CUNNILINGUS: WORKING UNDER THE HOOD Chapter 7 - FELLATIO: MAKING HIS KNOB THROB Chapter 8 - MAKING LOVE TO WOMEN: PUSHING HER BUTTONS Chapter 9 - MAKING LOVE TO MEN: INSERTING TAB A IN SLOT B Chapter 10 - ANAL SEX: NO PAIN, ALL GAIN Section Two - EXTRAS Chapter 11 - TOYS: PUTTING TECHNOLOGY TO WORK Chapter 12 - SWINGING: STRANGERS AT THE PARTY Chapter 13 - THREE-WAY SEX: TWO GIRLS AND A GUY—MORE FUN THAN IT SOUNDS Chapter 14 - THREE-WAY SEX: TWO GUYS AND A GIRL—AS MUCH FUN AS IT SOUNDS Section Three - OPTIONS Chapter 15 - SENSUAL DOMINATION: TAKING CONTROL Chapter 16 - SENSUAL SUBMISSION: GIVING IT UP FOR LOVE Chapter 17 - EROTIC SPANKING: NAUGHTY, NAUGHTY, AND OH SO NICE Chapter 18 - EROTIC BONDAGE: WHEN TIMES CALL FOR A LITTLE RESTRAINT AFTERWORD BIBLIOGRAPHY INDEX Published by the Penguin Group Penguin Group (USA) Inc., 375 Hudson Street, New York, New York 10014, USA Penguin Group (Canada), 90 Eglinton Avenue East, Suite 700, Toronto, Ontario M4P 2Y3, Canada (a division of Pearson Penguin Canada Inc.) • Penguin Books Ltd, 80 Strand, London WC2R 0RL, England Penguin Ireland, 25 St Stephen’s Green, Dublin 2, Ireland (a division of Penguin Books Ltd) Penguin Group (Australia), 250 Camberwell Road, Camberwell, Victoria 3124, Australia (a division of Pearson Australia Group Pty Ltd) Penguin Books India Pvt Ltd, 11 Community Centre, Panchsheel Park, New Delhi-110 017, India Penguin Group (NZ), Cnr Airborne and Rosedale Roads, Albany, Auckland 1310, New Zealand (a division of Pearson New Zealand Ltd) Penguin Books (South Africa) (Pty) Ltd, 24 Sturdee Avenue, Rosebank, Johannesburg 2196, South Africa Penguin Books Ltd, Registered Offices: 80 Strand, London WC2R 0RL, England Copyright © 2006 by Nina Hartley® All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, scanned, or distributed in any printed or electronic form without permission. Please do not participate in or encourage piracy of copyrighted materials in violation of the authors’ rights. Purchase only authorized editions. Published simultaneously in Canada Photos courtesy Adam&Eve, taken by Vic Alpine Most Avery books are available at special quantity discounts for bulk purchase for sales promotions, premiums, fund-raising, and educational needs. Special books or book excerpts also can be created to fit specific needs. For details, write Penguin Group (USA) Inc. Special Markets, 375 Hudson Street, New York, NY 10014. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Hartley, Nina. [Guide to total sex] Nina Hartley‘s guide to total sex/by Nina Hartley with I. S. Levine. p. cm. eISBN : 978-1-101-11828-3 1. Sex instruction. 2. Sex. 3. Sexual excitement. I. Levine, I. S. (Ira S.), 1952- II. Title. III. Title: Guide to total sex. HQ31.H 619’6—dc22 This book is printed on acid-free paper. While the authors have made every effort to provide accurate telephone numbers and Internet addresses at the time of publication, neither the publisher nor the authors assume any responsibility for errors, or for changes that occur after publication. Further, the publisher does not have any control over and does not assume any responsibility for author or third-party websites or their content. Neither the publisher nor the authors are engaged in rendering professional advice or services to the individual reader. The ideas, procedures, and suggestions contained in this book are not intended as a substitute for consulting with your physician. All matters regarding your health require medical supervision. Neither the authors nor the publisher shall be liable or responsible for any loss or damage allegedly arising from any information or suggestion in this book. Accordingly nothing in this book is intended as an express or implied warranty of the suitability or fitness of any product, service, or design. The reader wishing to use a product, service, or design discussed in this book should first consult a specialist or professional to ensure suitability and fitness for the reader’s particular lifestyle and environmental needs. http://us.penguingroup.com For Dr. Betty A. Dodson, who set it all in motion ACKNOWLEDGMENTS I would like to give thanks to the many people who helped me so much in the making of this book: Dr. Carol Queen; Dr. Robert Lawrence; Dr. Annie Sprinkle; Patrick Califia, MFCC; Timothy Greenfield-Sanders; Scott Waxman; Farley Chase; Phil Harvey; Bernard Oakley; Bob Christian; Zoe Diamassis; Frank Gavin; Nadine Strossen; Professor Linda Williams; Lou and Blanche Hartman; Joseph Levine; Matthew Brand; Benjamin Hoffman; Jennifer Ramsey; Michelle Beacham; Joel Berens; Olivia De Berardinis; and Veronica Rush. Many thanks to Adam&Eve for the use of their photographs and to the performers whose likenesses illuminate these pages: Shayla Laveaux; Carmen Luvana; Violet Blue; T. J. Hart; Nicole Sheriden; Randy Spears; Christian; Chris Cannon; Voodoo, Trent Tesaro, and Julian. Chapter 1 INTRODUCTION: THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT SEX You’re holding in your hands the book I wish I had owned when I turned eighteen. I needed this book desperately, and believe me, things were much less complicated back then. I enjoyed the particular good fortunes of a unique place and time. Because I was brought up in an unconventional group-living situation by Buddhist parents in the Bay Area, my natural sexuality may not have gotten much direct encouragement at home, but my search for an authentic identity did. That, after all, was what had led my parents to Zen in the first place. Graduating from Berkeley High School in 1977, I came of age during the last decade when sexuality was widely considered a positive, healing, beautiful thing. The exposure I had to new ways of thinking about sex, “happiness,” gender relations, culture, women’s liberation, living arrangements, and personal responsibility supported my developing ideas about sex, men, women, and intimacy. By the time I got naked with another for the first time, at the age of eighteen, I had read a good deal of the new thinking about social rules. Though from the beginning I was cautious and sensible in the way that parents would generally like their kids to be, my outlook on sex was broadly positive. I believed, and still believe, that my body is my friend and doesn’t lie, that I must learn all I can about my physical self and take responsibility for my sexual satisfaction. When the time came, I felt safe to let my pleasure be my teacher. Looking at the issues confronting young people today, I count myself blessed. They grew up with HIV-AIDS, abstinence-only “sex education,” the bitter divisions of gender politics, and a social culture that sells them commodified sex in all forms while telling them not to engage in it. The heartfelt, confident, reassuring messages about sex that were common to my generation go all but unheard in theirs. For twenty years, the news about sex has all been bad. But the good news, then and now, is that the truth about sex has never changed. Many, many people have managed to discover that truth, even in an era that hasn’t made the search easy. That truth is there for you, and my message is that you are entitled to it. You are entitled to know your sexual self, express your sexual self, and satisfy your sexual self. You are also entitled to explore that self on your own or in the company of others. You are entitled not only to sex but also to thrilling, liberating, mind-blowing, soul-filling, intimacy-building total sex. You need never settle for less, and you shouldn’t. The truth about sex is that it is yours by right. It is possible to become sexually sane, even in a culture torn with sexual insecurities. If I