Morals and Manners in Islam: A Guide to Islamic Adab

202 Pages·1986·4.27 MB·English

by  Marwan Ibrahim Al-Kaysi

MORALS AND MANNERS IN ISLAM: A Guide to Islamic Adab is a compendium M Marwan Ibrahim Al-Kaysi
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of rules regulating Islamic conduct at the personal, familial, social and other levels.
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contents, derived mainly from the Qur’an and the Sunnah, the main sources of N
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DR. MARWAN IBRAHIM AL-KAYSI, born in 1950 at Irbid, Jordan, was educated
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at Sharia College in Amman, Al-Karawiyin University in Morocco and Manchester
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University in the UK. During 1978, he held the position of Director of Education I
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Realization of Tawhid. Abridgement of Sharh Al-[Aqida Tahawiya, Studies in the A
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MARWAN IBRAHIM AL-KAYSI
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British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data
Al-Kaysi, Marwan Ibrahim
Morals and manners in Islam: a guide to Islamic Adab.
Religious life (Islam)
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297’.44 BP188
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To
My unforgettable daughters
A’isha and ‘Ula
Whose love and affection have so influenced my life
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Contents
Preface 11
Chapter I: Introduction 13
Sources 13; Characteristics: Comprehensiveness and Morality
16; Goals 20; Kindness and Gentleness 23; Consideration
For Others 24; Role of adab al-Islam in Social Relationships
25; Religious Aspect of Adab al-Islam 28; Psychological Aspect
of Adab al-Islam 31; Medical and Hygienic Aspects of Adab
al-Islam 31; Contribution of Adab al-Islam to the National
Economy 35; Marriage, the Family and Adab al-Islam 36;
Norms of Sexual Behaviour in Islam 40; Adab al-Islam and
the Status of Women 42; Adab al-Islam and Discipline 44;
Concern About Human Safety 45; Adab al-Islam for the
Preservation of Unity and the Cultural Identity of Muslims
46; Islamic Attitude Toward Manners and Customs of Non-
Muslims 48; Overview of the Principal Rules of Islamic
Conduct 49
Chapter 2: Bodily Functions 55
Sneezing 55; Yawning 56; Going to Bed 57; Relieving
Oneself 60; Menstruation and Child-Bed 62; Man’s
Seminally Defiled State 63
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Chapter 3: Cleanliness and Purity 65
Impurities 65; Bathing 65; Cosmetics and Adornment for
Men 68; Women’s Make-Up and Adornment 70; General
Guidelines for Both Sexes 71
Chapter 4: Table Manners 73
The Meal 73; Sitting Down to Eat 74; Proper Table Manners
74; Drinking 77
Chapter 5: Dress 81
Common Principles 81; Men’s Dress 82; Women’s Dress 83;
Shoes 85
Chapter 6: Architecture and Furniture 87
The Muslim Dwelling 87; Precautionary Measures For Safety
at Home 89
Chapter 7: Conduct Within the Family 91
Husband-Wife Relationship 91; Correct Conduct of a
Muslim Wife 94; Parents’ Conduct Toward Their Children
96; Children’s Conduct Toward Their Parents 99
Chapter 8: Reading and Reciting the Qur’an 103
Chapter 9: The Mosque 107
Design 107; Cleanliness and Tidiness 108
Chapter 10: Behaviour on Fridays 109
Khutbah at Friday Prayer 111
Chapter II: Celebrating the Feasts 113
Observing the Feasts 113; Behaviour on ‘Id al-Adha 115;
Special Instructions for ‘Id al-Fitr 116
Chapter 12: Marriage 117
The Search For a Wife 117; The Woman’s Right and
Responsibility in Choosing a Husband 119; The Engagement
119; The Marriage Contract 120; The Wedding Party 121;
Conjugal Relations 121; Advice for Men 122; Advice for
Women 123; The Wedding Feast 123; Polygamy 124
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Chapter 13: Births 127
The Announcement 127; Congratulations and Visits 128;
Seventh-Day Celebration 128; Circumcision Ceremony 129
Chapter 14: Giving Names and Addressing Others 131
Giving Names 131; Addressing Others 132
Chapter 15: Social Life 135
Good Social Relations 135; Talking and Listening 141 ;
Language Preferred in Speech 142; Listening 145; Swearing
145; Nadhr 146; Laughter 147; Weeping 147; Jokes 148;
Behaviour When Meeting Others 148; Manners of Greeting
150; Asking Permission to Enter Another’s House 153; At a
Friend’s House 154; Receiving Guests 156; Inviting Others
to Dine 157; When Invited to a Meal 158; Visiting the Sick
159; Group Meetings 160; Forms of Sitting 163; Women’s
Conduct Outside the Home 163; Celebrations 164;
Behaviour Toward Relatives 165; Behaviour Toward
Neighbours 166; Gifts 167
Chapter 16: Behaviour in Various Situations 169
In the Mosque 169; At the Cemetery 171; On the Street 172
Chapter 17: Funerals 175
Things That Need to be Done When Someone Dies 175;
Escorting the Funeral 176; Burial 178; After the Burial 179;
Condolences 180; Mourning 181
Chapter 18: Cemetery Architecture 183
Location 183; Interior Grave Design 183; Exterior Grave
Design 184
Chapter 19: Travelling 185
Chapter 20: Sports 191
Chapter 21: Treatment of Animals 193
Bibliography 196
Index 197
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Transliteration Table
Consonants. Arabic
Initial: expressed medial and final
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b dh t l
t r z m
th z [ n
j s gh h
h sh f w
kh s q y
Urdu and Persian the same except the following:
p _d _z
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ch r_ g
Vowels, diphthongs, etc.
short: a i u
long: a u i iy
diphthongs: aw
ay
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[Al [Imran 3: 102]
[Al-Nisa’ 4: 1]
[Al-Ahzab 33: 70–71]
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