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Her licence was suspended IMMIGRATION PHEALTH ALOUDERVOICE COUNCILLORS CALORIECOUNTS FORNEWCOMERS PLAYINGHOOKY ATRESTAURANTS fora Which politicianhadthe Why advocatessay they worstattendancein2016 aren't good for everyone DUIgDO UMA METRO 2 | Thursde POLICE CARS BARRIE'S BLACK-AND-WHITES COME OUTON TOP They might not be pricey convertibles tricked out with flashy rims, custom seats or sleek tal pipes, but Barrie's police cars are the most beautiful That's according to policing publication Blue Line Magazine, which honoured the Barrie Police with its, annual award for “the best dressed” cruiser in Canada. ‘We have residents pull up to us and say they like the look of the car,’ said police spokesperson Sarah Bamford, who said Barrie officers are thrilled by the news. “We have even received a lot of compliments from other services on it” ‘And what about Toronto's white Ford Crown Victorias and their controversial grey counterparts? The magazine confirmed the force had no chance; it didr’'t even enter the competition. raeanescaamesy Mammoliti, MIA councillor erry Han munity are protected,” Mam- Ward 7 rep molit (Ward 7 York West) wrote in an email. “Spending erty reduc The council- tion strategy %, lor’s phone bills, i neverending hours listening to able hous. with his office missed nearly yeni en eee ing. He did txpenses, show 40% of votes pushing a socialist downtown not respond | Ghyeouneil'saveragefor he was travel- pet project agenda on a dys- toaollowup missed votesin2077. ling internation. Coun, Ron Moeser and recent functional cotincil is indeed a question on ally during the thominMayorjohiTory’sside Herculean task” Whether he first meeting in Coun, Giorgio Mammolitiwere Apart from Moeser. who Considered those votes im- February the most absent from their was diagnosed with cancer in poctant Couincl members were asked council seats in 2016, March, Mammoliti was mis Mammoliti appears to have to push their red or green but Torstar News Service ana- sing in action more often than lyzed voting records for city _his colleagues — absent for been absent for the entire first, tons for recorded votes 1,118 athe two-day session of council in times in 2016, Those votes do not ‘The only other councillor to miss more votes than Giorgio February, missed a special n council — the one meeting 388 per ent ofthe votes. That © include quick votes tharare done Where all 45 members are re was alight improvement over Mammoliti, centre, was Coun. Ron Moeser, who was ing on contract negotiations moze informally using ashow of quired to attend — to deter- his 2015 attendance when he diagnosed with cancer in March, torsannews sevice nut with city workers later that hands, The council average for thine how often Tory and cour missed 40.8 per cent of the month, missed most ofa three- missed votes was 146 per cent Gillors were absent. votes and December, despite his re- of heart over the decision today meeting in March, most of and the median councillor 232d “Tam there for all the im- Mammoliti missed two im- cent voeal concems over the rebuild the easter section. a day in July, and other votes place) missed 132 per cent of portant votes and to make sure portant votes on the rehabilita- possibility of tolling the ex. Healso missed votes on the during nieetings he otherwise the votes, that the interests of my com- ion of the Gardiner in March pressway and stated change city’s transit network plan, pov- was present for TORSTAR NEWS em On Friday , ; 06 Jan, 2017 : s even at 09:00 am g ; - Ce ie mine 7 YES sa 416 792-5792 ki = Newcomers’ voices sought at city hall REPRESENTATION |. Spencer Destun, wife Holly and son Krystofer run the last surviving Grassroots - council of New a Canadians to wenrtace z speak on issues Give last Sam special Gilbert designation: Petition Tara the typical criteria. Newcomers in Toronto will Deschamps ““We started a petition to get city hall Members of the Local Im- migration Partnership are re cruiting civieminded immigrants from across the city to join the Toronto Newcomer Council — a grassroots plat is smart to make an exception It’s not unusual for shoppers at sometimes," said Destun, who Belleville's Quinte Mall to stop bought the franchise with his in their tracks when they spot _ wife and son in 1979, Spencer Destun's store. The store, he said, is an im- ‘After Sam the Record Man portant cultural institution be- shut the doors to its famed form that aims to give new- Yonge Street location years ago, comers better representation most people assumed the busi in Canada and his location is at decision-making levels. ness was dead, the one of the “What we've found is that but now a peti- last remnants it’s really important for the tion launched of a business newcomer communities to have by Destun is that aided the attempting Wearealwaysin Careers of hit to make sure a hurry to put the —makerslike The avoice in the planning of ser vices,” said Irmtraud Huttless, oject manager at Catholic eople know i Guess Who, Joni Erosscultural Services, a settle Feist sume Past behind us. Sitchelt and ment agency in Scarborough. ing location is Spencer Destun Gordon Light- “We want to see them in- still around, just foot volved in influencing programs A Syrian refugee family arrives at Pearson airport in December 2015. A new intiativein Torontois. | two hours east of Toronto, “We are always in a hurry that are designed to help other looking to create a newcomer council. onsraRNEwWS ERVCEFLE The petition, signed by hun- to put the past behind us and newcomers, because they dreds of people in store and when we get a chance to save understand the issues better A particular focus will be expected of them, before the say, ‘I don’t think | can tell | dozens online, asks forthestore something historical and en- than anyone else. paid to women, youth, the council tarts up this summer. the city how they should do | tobe given a touristattraction grained in our culture, we The council will be made elderly and other underserved _Hutfless said giving newcom- things.” she said. designation, with a province- should do everything in our up of approximately 40 people groups. ers.an exclusive platform will “But that’s exactly what the | issued sign along the highway. powerto support that,” he sad. from different backgrounds help Toronto better serve its city wants, and the council will | _An application Destun filed “People will app: and different communities of training on how the municipal growing immigrant population, be the perfect place for such | with the Ministry of Tourism, _ we leave behind for fat Toronto. government works and what's “We often hear immigrants opportunities. Culture and Sport was denied erations.” JANUARY 7 & 8 - METRO TORONTO CONVENTION CENTRE Canada’s Largest Business Ownership Event! Th e Meet all the hottest businesses Fra n ch i se looking for new owners, plus FREE seminars Expo Saturday & Sunday 11 2m-5 PM seen fly c $10 at the door - $8 online Premtdy Willan TorontoFranchiseExpo.com Toronto |[metreNEws | She’s walking the walk Calorie mandate upsets some diners 4 [tt ursday, apvocacy Pedestrian TQ Mey ice sed apertics to safety concern . nen repeal the act after hearing mB a Metro Toronto __ from concerned eating disor of condo VP der advocates. When Ryann Girard began to. More than 500 people have recover from the eating disor- signed the petition to date. der she'd lived with for 10 years. “Fora lot of people with eat she made a “conscious choice” ing disorders they might fixate not to look up the amount of ona number that they can't Cy Luke i = Simcoe Metro| Toronto Calories in het food exceed in a particular day.” Like her neighbours in Torom Butnow that choice willbe LaMarre told Metz to's bustling Entertainment harder to make: “Then they see that number District, Grace Ki likes to wal ‘A new Ontario law called associated with a cupeake and She just wishes she could the Healthy suddenly that do 30 safely. Menu Choices @ cupcake isn't “There's thousands of people Act came into just a cupcake using these streets every day.” the 26-year-old says. “You don't feel safe when cars are screech- ing toastop, or ifthey're not Grace Kiwants more pedestrian crosswalks in the Entertainment District. couanoo unaerko effect Jan: 1. J don'tthink that nymore” she taurants with the bodyisamath “Ys warre over 20 loca sald the eve respecting the crosswalks — or tions to post anion dence that cal- worse, when there's no cross- doesn't mean they're breaking coe.” she said. “But there's no pedestrianpriority corridors | calorie counts Ryan Gren orie counts on walk to respect. the law, it means the infra- zebra crossing, no crossover, under the new road safety plan. | on their menus. ‘menus lead to healthier dining As the vice-president ofher structure hasn't developed to nothing. The speeds have been lowered to | Advocates worry the change choices is “very, very weak.” condo board, Ki is working reflect usage,” she said Ki has recently recruited 40 kmjhon both streets; Cressy | will make life more difficult —_In an email to Metro, On- with the city to improve ped- _Ki believes the neighbour- Coun. Joe Cressy to the cause, said the cityis looking to “exped- | for those with eating disorders _tario Ministry of Health spokes- estrian safety in her neighbour hood needs more pedestrian ‘The Ward 20 councillor repre- ite” the installation of a traffic | such as bulimia and anorexia. man David Jensen said the hood. Thousands of residents crosswalks. In particular, she’s sents the Entertainment Dis- light at Richmond and Simcoe. | “I can definitely see how it mandatory calorie counts were have moved into the Entertain- pushing fora crossing to bein- trict and says the area needs _ “If streets are about mov- | would have a detrimental im- recommended by an expert ment District in recent years, stalled at Richmond and Sim- “streets designed for the people ing people and moving people | pact ifit's kind of in your face panel as part of a solution to and she thinks it's time for the coe streets. who live there, not just cars safely, you need to lookat them | all the time and there's no get- childhood obesity. Jensen said roads to catch up. ‘Even with the fully signal- flying through. as a grid,” Cressy said. “So, if | tingaway from it,” Girard said. scientific studies have shown ‘When people are crossing ized crossing at University, The city has identified Rich- there's fault inthe grid, you | Andrea LaMarre, a PhD menu labelling reduces the mid-block or jaywalking, it people are still crossing at Sim- mond and Adelaide streets as identify it and fix it, student at the University of calories people consume, WE NEED Are you a healthy, non-smoking, * Free of daily medications? If so, you may be eligible for our upcoming clinical research studies: duct weekdays as well as weekend studies. . on may range from $1,000 to $4,000 depending on the length of the study. CALL: 416-747-5246 Toll Free: 1-866-747-5246 Mon-Fri: 8a m-6pm, Sat-Sun: 10am-6pm 4000 Weston Road, Toronto | www.biopharmaservices.com SERVICES INC. Research. Results. Reliability, Istanbul on high alert as manhunt continues Police increased security around remained high Theystopped curs port city of Izmir, the staterun. Istanbul on Wednesday and de and taxis, with passengers and Anadolu agency said, tained some 20 people with sus- driversholding up theiridentif- ‘The suspects, fom the largely pected links to the deadly New cations while officers inspected Muslim Russian republic of Dag- ‘Year's Eve night chibattackasthe _ the vehicles. estan, as well as members of hunt forthe gunman stretched ‘The city has been on edge China's Muslim Uighur minority into a fourth day. since the attack on the upscale and from Syria, were believed to Turkish Foreign Minister club popular with local celebri- have lived with the gunman in Meviut Cavusogiu said the gun- ties, andon Wednesday residents an alleged Daesh cell house in man — who killed 39 people beat upa man said to resemble the central'Turkish city of Konya, during New Year's celebrationsat _ the wanted gunman before hand- the agency reported. theReina cubbefore reportedly inghimoverto police, the Dogan __Daesh has claimed responsibil escaping in a taxi — had been news agency reported. ity forthe attack saying it was in identified butdidnotname him. 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Pro-marijuana organization He says the giveaway is legal nse arta ne aay DCM} will begin distributing the _aslongasit's done on District of | jas is thy oy, ene Ctl en ana War pi se eho 4200 joints at 8am. on Jan. 20. Columbialand Those smokingon | tpl tesaal fon the west sideof Dupont Circle. federal land risk arrest. sn 8 ots, The participants will then walk nie ascocaTeprmess Ottawa is quietly working on a plan to use computers to assess immigration applications and make some of the decisions currently made by immigration officers, ‘Torstar News Service has learned. Since 2014, the Immigration Department has been developing what's known as a “predictive analytics” system, which would ‘evaluate applications ina way that's similar to the work performed by officials today. ‘The plan — part of the government's ‘modernization ofa system plagued by back- logs and delays — is to use the technology to identify the merits of an immigration application, spot potential red flags for ‘faud and weigh all these factors to rec- ommend whether an applicant should be accepted or refused. ‘At the moment, the focus of the project is on building processes that would dis- tinguish between high-risk and low-zisk applications, immigration officials said “Predictive analytics models are built by analyzing thousands of past applications ‘and their outcomes. This allows the com- puter to ‘lear’ by detecting patterns in the data, ina manner analogous to how officers Jearn through the experience of processing applications,” department spokeswoman Lindsay Wemp. “The goal is to improve client service and increase operational Canadian immigration applications could soon be assessed by computers efficiency by reducing processing times while strengthening program integrity ‘The project was approved by the former Conservative government cabinet in Feb- ruary 2013, Wemp said there is no firm timeline on when automated decisions might be a viable option. “The novelty of the technology and the importance of getting it right make it im- perative that we do not rush this project.” she explained. ‘With the proliferation of artificial intel ligence in people's daysto-day lives, from IBM's Watson (the supercomputer that defeated Jeoparty! champions) fo Google's selFdriving cars, immigration experts said they were not surprised by the move to- ‘ward automation. “This is the greatest change in immigration processing since the Internet. What requires weeks if not months to process ‘would only take days with the new system. ‘There are going to be cascades of savings in time and money,” said immigration Jawyerand policy analyst Richard Kurland. “Allot of countries have used predictive analytics as. tool but not for immigration, processing. Canada Revenue Agency also uses the techniques to identify red flags. Ituses artificial intelligence. Iti decision. making by machines, The dividends ofthis Canad: ners. Te Eats neta : errr f ee a a wancl vas wear ea eee manne See ee aise aucune eee eee ee hae & ES SF eral of the Immigrs Maiy ae ann sdpnee 22 ee se cau sc aaR? oe ie ets cm ee eee Seep rey ens Se ee tag a Bey a are Sete ane caren ee errs See eee oe oa aes a ee oe ee reese | ja | metrs NEWS CANADIAN KILLED ‘want him home’ ‘The family of a Canadian killed fighting for Kurdish forces in Syria has launched an online ‘campaign to bring his body home fora proper burial Nazzareno Tassone, 24, died Dec. 21 near Ragga, Syria, accor ing toa letter from the kurdish People’s Protection Unit (YPG), ‘which hailed him as a hero. “The respected Tassone family lost their beloved son, and we ‘The YPG lost our daring and courageous companion,” the letter to his family said. The letter said his body is still in the hands of Daesh. “I want him home because he's Canadian,” said his sister, Giustina Tassone, 21. “Even though he's dead, he deserves proper treatment.” ‘Tassone's family has launched. «a Facebook page called Bring Naz- zareno Tassone Home. 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The stones had been heated up ina fire and then used to boil ‘water in watertight baskets; ‘when they cracked, the Katz ie used the stones to line the watery wapato fields. At first, Miller and other community members didn't recognize the plant. But it turned out, it had been growing in plain sight. ‘After trial and error, they ‘were able to grow the wapato in enough quantity. [As for what the small wild potato tastes like? Some have described it as tasting a bit like asparagus or like the cob part of com. “It's not awful — but plain it's not very good,” Miller said. NovaScoTIA to turn in their uniforms — rec ommendations he made back Canada’s military watchdog urged the federal government Wednesday to do more for sol- in the fll diers forced out ofthe Canadian _ “There should be no member Forces for medical reasons after of the Canadian Armed Forces an Afghan war veteran and three released until all benefits and family members were found shot services arein place," Walboumne dead in Nova Scotia, said in an interview. Ombudsman Gary Walbourne “That means pension, back wants Ottawa toensure injured benefits, health care.” military personnel have all the Retired corporal Lionel Des- necessary benefits nd supports. mond, 33, was found dead in place before they are forced Tuesday in a home in Upper Shootings underscore need for better veterans’ services: Watchdog Big Tracadie, NS. from what ‘appeared to be a selfinflicted ‘gunshot wound, RCMP say. His, ‘wife Shanna Desmond, 31, their ‘Oyearold daughter Aaliyah and his mother Brenda Desmond, 52, also died of apparent gunshot wounds. RCMP would not confirm outright that the deaths were ‘amurdersuicide, saying the in- vestigation is ongoing. The news of New Year's Eve attack on Istanbul's Reina nightclub was sadly not unique in 2016. Similar attacks happen seemingly every week in some part of the world But Reina holds a personal significance fora number of Canadians and a growing network of young people across the globe. Reina was one of the Is- tanbul venues that hosted hundreds of young entre- preneurs from around the ‘world — including dozens of Canadians — during the 2015 G20 Young Entrepre- eurs’ Alliance Summit. The Alliance Secretariat is based in Toronto and traces its origins to the 2010 G20 summit in that city, Each year, the Alliance summit Brings together young entrepre- neurs to share ideas, build new relationships and talk about the world they want to create. During my last visit to Reina, | talked with young people from countries as diverse as the U.S., Poland, Australia, Italy, Japan and Brazil about their ideas. | met young Turkish women and men who were hungry to meet others from around the world. I heard from Mexicans who were fighting government corruption, from Indians who were seek: ing connections in Europe and North America, from Saudis who wanted to help their society evolve in a new Find new ways totalkwitheach other. Build bridges across cultures. Enjoy life and dream of abetter life for us and for others. Your essential daily news Istanbul's Reina nightclub was (and is) a symbol of a future that is directly opposed to the extremists’ divisive ideal of a polarized world. direction. With the broad span of the Bosporus bridge arching overhead in the night sk young people from incred- ibly different cultures and It would be too trite to say terrorists do this be- ‘cause “they hate our way of life.” The reality is a bit more nuanced, Extremists of all stripes want a polar- Vietims of the New Year's Eve attack on Istanbul’ Reina nightclub backgrounds met, danced and talked about their fu tures. It was a club full of optimism and music and dancing, fuelled by a belief that tomorrow would be better than today. ‘The contrast between that happy memory and the grainy footage of the gunman walking through those same rooms on New Year's Eve could not be more point- ed, Indiscriminately spray- ing bullets into the crowd. Returning to the fallen to shoot them again and again, Casually committing incredible violence against people ‘who merely wanted to cele- rate and enjoy life. ‘were merely out celebrating and enjoying life. arcerrymexces ized world where the divide is clear between “us” and “them.” The Reina that I and hundreds of others enjoyed represents a future that is directly opposed to that divisive ideal Our natural reaction in the face of such violence is to turn away from each other. To raise the level of ‘our thetoric. To introduce more barriers, more walls, more ways to isolate each. other. But if we truly want to honour the more than 100 people who were killed or injured in that attack, we should redouble our efforts to do exactly what I saw young people doing in Reina during the G20 Young Entre- preneurs’ Alliance Summit. Find new ways to talk with ‘each other. Build bridges across cultures. Enjoy life ‘and dream of a better life for us and for others. I was reminded of an in- cident in 2011, early in the history of our G20 group. Our French colleagues hosted a summit in Nice, bringing speakers such as Mohammed Yunus to chal lenge and inspire us at a time when Europe was be- ginning its fiscal crisis. One panel discussion featured French bankers, industrial- ists and others who were decidedly pessimistic about the future of Europe. Yet the young people in the audience had other ideas, They talked about their dreams for a growing and confident Europe, one that could encourage more young people to travel and start companies no one had yet thought of. With a mix. ‘ure of irritation and admir ation, one of the panellists responded by saying “Oh, you young people and your ‘enthusiasm!” ‘And that is the point. That is why we need a thousand Reinas across the world. ‘That is why we need to encourage the bonds between people and cultures that only freedom, true person: al and economic freedom, ‘can help create. Because it is those new bonds that ‘will show those who think problems are only solved through violence and walls that a better way is indeed possible. Alex Gills a Toronto-based social entrepreneur and activist who has moderated the G20 Young Entrepre: neurs’ Alliance since 2010. Thursday, January 5, 2017 MOCHAMA} Men are rebranding their activities — and women are helping In the fight for equality, we haven't yet levelled the play- ing field when it comes to being sick. Until now. When my body started heating up with a fever, I didn't realize | was making a feminist breakthrough. (mostly realized I didn’t have ‘any medicine in the house.) don't just have any regu- Jar flu. I Kave manélu, Manflu is when men are cold and have a lot of feelings about it, she says derisively. ‘Actually, it's a pejorative used to describe how men behave when facing a mild illness like the common cold. There's ‘an Intemet meme that shows a woman in the middle of giving birth juxtaposed next to a man in bed with a thermom- eter in his mouth. The caption reads, "During labour, the pain is so great that awoman can almost imagine what a man feels like when he has a fever.” Tknow I'm afflicted with ‘manflu because I have sent several allcaps texts to friends and family. At 1 a.m, in our family group chi Imay have sent a message about feeling like there are a thousand knives in my throat. Thave claimed such despond- ency that my mother deliv ered a week's worth of food to my house, lost my voice for two days and wrote, “I feel so powerless” on my bedroom mirror. No one of any gender haas ever had a case of the flu this bad. Because it’s 2017 (aka. the future) and Iam a feminist, I can get anything a man can get. Including the flu virus and the attendant dramaties about it, Feminism — if you squint hard at the fine print — says women can now do things that men have been doing for ‘ages. For example: wearing pants. We do that now. ‘We also still wear skirts but that is because modern skirts have pockets — another feminist breakthrough. But just as we're scaling the heights of gendered op- pression, men are rebranding their special activities, You've seen itll over the place. Take ‘a regular bar of soap and put it in a black box. Now its ‘guy soap’ That delicious light- with-hintsofpear blush wine? Stick a motorcycle on the label, dudes: we're drinking rosé, Being the wonderful crea tures we are, women are helping with this branding effort. When a man explains ‘woman's expertise back to her, we don’t call it patron- izing, condescending and wholly unnecessary. We call it mansplaining. There are more variations: manter rupting (when men interrupt), ‘manspreading (when men spread their legs), manboxing, (OK, I made this one up but it means when a man is a box) Naturally, the next step in the fight for equality will be ‘when women take over being systematically rude. ve done my part by con- tracting manflu. I did it for the cause, PHILOSOPHERCAT bby JasonLogan Ce ae WHEN YOU ARE 7 coING THROWGH § HEU, KEEP GOING. Your essential dailynews Calgary's Canada Boy Vinyl, one of SELF HELP Author says arguments can improve relationships Dealing with opposition, be it froma bossy co-worker, a messy roommate ora nagging partner, isamong the most stressprovole ing experiences in life. In his new book, Resolve: Negotiating Life's Conflicts with Greater Con- fidence, Hal Movius argues that ‘conflict actually produces bene ficial outcomes and makes our relationships better — but only ifit is dealt with wisely. Offering tips to identify and handle tough negotiating tactics, secrets to managing (and maintaining) poise when emo- tions flare and mastering the art of conflict, Movius spoke with ‘Torstar from Charlottesville, Va. One is that conflict is inevit- able, We seem to be entering atime globally where there's more conflict in public and political life but, even if that ‘weren't the case, to have relationships (and) to work effect- ively with others, we are going to encounter disagreements. Most of us improvise our way through it or avoid it. Think- ing like a negotiator and learn- ing key moves can help you to be more proactive and to nor- malize the idea that conflict is ‘an overlooked opportunity. Are there any pitfalls you see ‘when people engage with ‘conflict? What do you think ‘we should be trying this year? ‘What | tried to do in the book is look at how each of ‘us might fall prey to different pitfalls and how to use specific Conflict resolution tips if your plan for 2017 is to ‘stop being a pushover tactics to counter those but, if Thad to generalize, I would say that people don't see how a conflict can become a negotiation, Seeing conflict as a part ‘of leading a good life and an ‘occasion for better outcomes rather than a headache would be the thing I would wish for most people to do. That's also what the research tells us: You ‘can do conflict better but you have to treat it like other dif ficult tasks, or a practice that you develop over time. You don't just become a good ten- nis player or cook by having. the sudden urge to do it — it takes work. There are ways of practising negotiation that ‘makes you better. Earlyin the book, you write ‘that people don't see good negotiation modeled enough. ‘So what does good negotiation look like, say, ina personal relationship? Partners who have “good fights” tend to pick their mo- ‘ments, They don't push and say, “we need to talk about X right now” or start by in- sisting. The second thing is they start with a constructive frame and a specific complaint about a thing that happened ‘and not a criticism about the character of the other person. Don’t start an important cor versation after a busy day or a few beers. Another tip is that, if'you have to talk through something as a couple, it helps Ifyou take a walk together instead of sitting across the Kitchen table, What about in the workplace? Effective leaders, more than anything else, tend to imagine how the other side might see a situation and the issues. The big misconception in conifict is that you have to convince the other side that they have to care about the same things you do. What great negotiators do is ask ton of questions at the front end about what the other party really cares about. IE 1 can figure out what is most important to you and to me and notice those differences, I can craft a proposal that ex- ploits them without just com- promising. bond. Can you explain? So the frst thing is that if] am not afraid to enter into conflict and I have a repertoire of helpful moves to navigate it, 'm more likely to get more of the things that I want while preserving the relationship Thhave. The second thing is du Cultivating curiosity about yourself and the other personisa powerful move. Hal Movius, a psychologist ‘and negotiation expert that, if learn about some of the pitfalls or the behaviours that aren't helpful I can learn to recognize them. When couples recognize those pat- tems, they can also then ask “What can we do about it? ‘There are things we can do to contain conflict and steer the conversation ina direction that can take it away from the rocky places where we can do damage. Former Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe. conrmoureD JOHANNA SCHNELLER WHAT I'M WATCHING Networks chase their tail.. ‘THESHOW: Jimmy KimmelLivet, Jan. 2, 2017 (ABC) ‘THE MOMENT: The Ouroboros ‘The actor Joel McHale, who mocked TY professionally when he hosted The Soup, is Kimmel's first guest. Kimmel asks him to comment on The Bachelor, ‘which had its season premiere earlier that night (on ARC), with Bachelor Nick Viall. McHale is scathing. He calls the show “a parade of unstable sluts trying to get a date.” He says former Bachelor Jake Pav- cella “looked like he should have starred in American Psycho.” He demonstrates how both Jake and Nick talk while smiling. (It's ‘creepy and hilarious) Asked his favourite Bachelorette, he an- swers, “Kaitlyn, because there were like, five Kaitlyns.” "You mean the Kaitlyn [Bris- towe] who's here tonight?" Kim- mel asks. “Ldon't care,” McHale scoffs Kimmel's next guests are Bris- towe and Vial. She rejected him in a prior season, so everyone anticipates awkwardness. But Bristowe wants only to diss Mc- Hale, She calls him a dick. “Isaw ‘you backstage,” she says, “and ‘guess what, I don't ike you.” “Who knew when we invited you on,” Kimmel asks, chuck- ling, “that all your anger would be directed at Joel McHale?” Cable and streaming services are shredding network TV, and this is the networks’ solution: to double down on themselves. Onhis ARC show, Kimmel hosts ABC stars who talk about other ‘ABC shows; he'll also host the Oscars — on ABC. On Sunday then eat it night, NBC's Jimmy Fallon host ing the Golden Globes on NBC. “They're all busily pretending ‘TV is still a closed shop, and they still run it. They're the Ouroboros — the creature that cats its own tai Johanna Schneller is a media ‘connoisseur who zeroes in on pop-culture moments. She appears Monday through Thursday. ntertainment The books that you leave behind tell their own story Lelboaiead around and leave his favourite reads. Howanavid = §5yiaise. “" outers Sock reader lefta Ieisalofirto tha came tome at i A say that as along. atime when In life portrait time New York ed them and think onhis shelves bsg acc have something that tive, Schwalbe, who is speak: will move, delight, instruct others,” he ing at Toronto's says. “I hope at the Bluma Appel end of this, I will Salon on January hhave added to every- 10, has built his, one’s to-read pile, Will Schwalbe had an old friend, who like himself, was a voracious collector of books. amassing thousands of volumes. Around the age of 70, this friend made a decision to keep exactly 100 titles in his possession — if he bought a new book, he would sive away or donate another one off his shelves. When he died a decade later, he left a quirky collection, one that Schwalbe describes as are- markable portrait ofa man who enjoyed travel, photography and martini culture. “Love that idea that you can ‘compose your autobiography rot in words or sentences but in the books you chose to keep own life story with words on ages, ‘As his mother was going through chemotherapy ses- sions, the two avid readers ‘would share books to pass the time, Their discussions became the basis of his 2012 bestselling memoir The End of Your Life Book Club. ‘Schwalbe's new title, Books for Living, chronicles 26 titles ‘that havea personal meaning or connection to various times in his life. Written in an informally chatty style, Schwalbe didn't in- tend to produce a definite list of the greatest books ever published, or even a collection of but also to look dif. ferently at the ways that books have im- pacted their lives.” The list is as eclectic and unexpected as the stories behind them. Reading Homer's The Odyssey under the tutelage of a demanding classics teacher showed Schwalbe that sometimes being mediocre is okay, and should even be embraced. Stuart Little, E.B. White's beloved children's book about a nattily attired boy-mouse, is a reminder to be as cheerful ‘and optimistic as possible (and to “dress smartly") Even Paula Hawkins’ blockbuster thriller The Girl on the Train taught Thursd: Schwalbe lessons about trust “I think there are wonderful things tobe had from all sorts of different books,” he says. “Some of the greatest experiences I've had have been with what people refer to as genre books. Pieces of wisdom from Jack Reacher novels have bees as meaning- ful as gems I've found in the ‘world's great poetry.” Like The End of Your Life Book Club, Books for Living also serves as.a tribute to Schwalbe's loved ones, in particular his es say on Charles Dickens’ David Copperfield, which he trans- forms into an emotional tribute to an old friend who died suddenly. “One of the themes that | love grappling with and has ‘been very important to me is ‘what can we do for the dead.” Schwalbe says. ‘We can read for them, We can read books that they loved, and books we think they would have loved. That's really a way of keeping them present in our lives.” ‘THE KARDASHIAN KOMEBACK KIM RETURNS TO SOCIAL MEDIA Kim Kardashian has made her long-awaited return to social media, three months after going silent in the wake of being held up at a Paris hotel. Its another example of a celebrity shunning media interviews post-controversy, instead controlling their own image through personal social media accounts. Kardashian posted pictures of her family, a video of her domestic life on YouTube, and this photo with the caption, “my SON” MSIAGRAM/GKIMKAROASHIAN Sue Carter is the editor at Quill & Quire magazine, ‘AUTOBIOGRAPHY Memoirist’s heart soars in nature Kyo Maclear was at a low point — shaken by her father’s fal- tering health and feeling like she had a "broken part” — when she found uplift in an unlikely source: birds. Itwas 2013 and Maclear's dad, the journalist and documentary filmmaker Michael Maclear, had recently suffered two strokes. As the children’s author and novel {st helped tend to her father in drab hospitals and rehabilitation facilites, she struggled to write (it seemed an “overly compli- cated, dubious effort”), found her solitary time fragmented by caretaking duties as both daughter and mother, and failed to find enduring distraction in ‘at lessons or other outlets. ‘Then she watched Alan ‘2weig's documentary 15 Reasons to Live, which her composer husband was scoring, and found resonance in the story of Jack Breakfast, a Toronto musician who found unexpected peace photographing birds. Maclear ‘arranged to meet the musician. and soon a project took fight: she would shadow him on his birding sojourns for one year Kyo Maclear's memoir, Birds Art Life, is out now. 1oestaz ‘and seeing incredible things. “It just seemed amazing, magical and spacious, and | didn't feel my life was very spacious at the time. I felt very squeezed and grounded in my life. I felt maybe that I wanted something transcendent. Birds ‘gave me that.” The result of Maclear’s year is her new memoir Birds Art Life, an incandescent explora- tion of beauty. inspiration, art family and freedom that seems to leave no topic out of its bin- ocular scope. The book shares about binds before her yearlong aviary apprenticeship and she was perhaps an unlikely cand- date for the pastime. A lifelong city-dweller, Mac- lear was born in London and raised in Toronto. ‘When Maclear began her ad- ventures in birding, though, she discovered nourishment in nature. She began to notice the beauty ofthe birds, their joyful music and the helpful level of patience the practice demanded. ‘As she scrutinized birds for the first time, she also took joy and document what she found. obvious appeal to fans of Helen in their lack of “special regard, “Maybe in my fantasy Id like Macdonald's 2015 bestseller H_ for humans.” tobeagrand expeditionary wit- is for Hawk ‘The book's reach is expan- en” Maclear said one moming It’s worth pointing out that sive, spanning philosophy. art, recently from a booth in High preexisting bird knowledge is love and cities, specifically the Park's Grenadier Restaurant, “and this guy seemed to be doing grand expeditions in the city definitely not a prerequisite to reading Birds Art Life. Certainly, Maclear didn't know anything importance of finding beauty in drab urbanity. CONNECT WITH US AND YOU COULD WIN! Enter today for . fh WE ANE ALL CONNECTED something beautiful and unexpected: $1500 in pre-paid credit cards. Go to: (Qiondétlist.ca your chance to win COLLATERAL BEAUTY a can recast Sing ry por parson per day. Contos panto resort ot Orta, Sen Nova Seata. who have tained tho a98 of eigen (1) as of the ‘One (1) Grane Prze te bo won Serna nt Condtons Ah. The test Pero bogies at TPM ET According tohome improvement website Houzz, homerenovations account for 12 per cent of couples: ing divorcing. Matthew Chung and his wife Gloria Chung go over renovation plans. Updating a home can put strain on a relationship, but with the right attitude and strategies you can overcome this, writes Matthew Chung. axzow nanns/Tonstar mews SERVICE Don'tlet a reno demo your love Tips for keeping the peace with your partner Matthew Chung For Torstar News Service For the past 24 months I've been trying to impress my wife, one adequately done renovation project at a time. I'm married to a beautiful and talented woman who han- dles a power drill with conf dence and can paint a wall with precision — which ratcheted up the pressure on me to be as proficient at renovating. ‘So I took the lead on dovit yourself projects on our east- ‘end home, a challenge to myself to learn new skills and prove to her I could fulfil a vague concept of what it means to be a grown-up. | imagined rd get better with practice and hoped that my wife would view my mishit nails as a sort of love letter to her. But | soon realized that we would have to look at those “love letters" for a very long time, and eventually even 1 ‘would see them for the eye- sores they were. ‘And with some projects last- ing weeks, it would be naive to think I would tinker away by myself with the house in a constant state of construction, without needing the help of my wife, In reality I've depended on my wife's input, assistance To ensure resentment doesn’t build up, you'll want to match your partner’s work rate. ‘Matthew Chung and sometimes her labour to get throngh renos and, when she isn’t in the trenches with me, | look to her for reassur- ‘ance that I'm not completely missing the mark. ‘Apparently, renovating as a couple is not to be taken lightly — home renovations make 12 per cent of people consider divorce, according toa survey by home improvement website Houzz. While the foundation of our relationship remains strong, I think we've had to develop strategies to minimize disagreements. Here are three suggestions | have for staying on your partner's good side during a project: Give each other space ve found my wife and I work best together when we have responsibility for our own part of the project. For example, she measures and sketches out how to pos- ition the mouldings on the ceiling; I cut and nail them in place. Or luse the paint roller While she uses a brush to paint the trim (because the fine de- tail is not my strong suit) This saves us from tripping ‘over each other or debating the best way to do a task. Bet- ter yet, 'd suggest you try and convinceJbribe a friend to lend ahand. No guarantee you'll finish the job any faster or the result will be any better, but Ido ‘guarantee it'll put less strain on your relationship, Keep yourself busy To ensure resentment doesn't build up, you'll want to match your partner's work rate, even ifthe work you're doing isn't ‘advancing the renovation project. For instance, the Sunday afternoon my wife was figu- ing out the aforementioned ceiling mouldings, we agreed there wasn't much I could con- tribute. But rather than sit back and watch TV, I spent that afternoon doing our taxes, running loads of laundry and cooked us a meal so at least there'd be fewer tasks she might feel she had to pick up later. Keep laughing Renovating is hard and scary. ‘Trying to see the humour in discovering there's a giant hole where you'd expect to find drywall or that none of your walls are square will go some way to keeping your partner in a good mood and ensuring that when, at the end of the day you put the tools back in the shed, you don't have to stay out there for the rest of the night. ‘Matthew Chung, 33, (sa commun ‘cations manager attempting to renovate his first house. You can follow his progress on Instagram ‘@mjechung.