Mental Toughness: Build a Successful Mindset, Self Discipline, Resilience and Willpower To Achieve Long Lasting Goals

97 Pages·2020·0.727 MB·English

by  Bob Covey

MENTAL TOUGHNESS
Build A Successful Mindset,
Self-Discipline, Resilience and Willpower To
Achieve
Long Lasting Goals
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction
Mental Toughness & Resilience
Understanding Fear And Conquering Fear
When Worry Becomes Anxiety
Generalized Anxiety Disorder
The Mythology of Stress and Anxiety
Stress Myths
Myths About Anxiety
Setting Goals
The Right Goals
How to Set Clear Goals that You Actually Achieve
Daily Habits That Can Keep You Focused And Disciplined And Increase
Resilience
Dumping bad habits
Starting good habits
Determining the most beneficial habits
Focus on Learning Instead of Past Failure
Zero Criticism or Complaining
Appear to Be in Control at All Times, in All Situations
Feel Happiness When Others Succeed
Shove less Important Situations to the Side
Look at Each Day as a Gift and Opportunity
Bring Your Best to the Table and Others Will Follow
Why Develop Mental Strength?
To establish a winner’s mind:
Mental toughness allows you to be able to prioritize.
Mental toughness teaches you patience
Mental toughness gives you greater life satisfaction:
The Power of Resilience and Discipline
What Is Discipline?
What Do They Have to Do With Mental Toughness?
How to Be More Resilient
Know Your Why
See Change as Positive Instead of Negative
Look for the Good in Every Situation
Have Confidence in Yourself and Your Abilities
Treat Problems Like Puzzles
Get Ahead of Problems When You Can
Never Ever Give Up
How to Be More Disciplined
Take Care of Your Basic Needs
Building Mental Toughness
Mental toughness is required for managing emotions.
Mental toughness is required for controlling and handling your thoughts.
Essential Traits of the Mentally Tough
Self-Confidence
Emotional Intelligence
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
The Ability to Listen to Your Emotions
Why Do You Need Emotional Intelligence?
When Do You Need Emotional Intelligence?
In Relationships
At Work
Emotional Intelligence versus Intellectual Intelligence
How to Gain Emotional Intelligence
Solicit the opinions of others.
Applying Mental Toughness in Different Fields
Applying Mental Toughness in Sports
Applying Mental Toughness in the Workplace
Applying Mental Toughness in Entrepreneurship
Applying Mental Toughness in Education
Applying Mental Toughness in the Military and Navy SEALs Mental
Toughness
Applying Mental Toughness in Personal Matters
Gaining Full Control
1: Understand what thoughts actually are
2: Organize your thoughts
3: Turn negative thoughts around
4: Separate yourself from your thoughts
5: Choose acting over thinking
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
One of the biggest reasons we live a disconnected life is because we carry
around a lot of emotional and spiritual pain. We may or may not have a
reason why we do this but, believe me, many of us are in some kind of pain.
Sometimes our hearts are weak and our spirits are broken, but, still, we get up
and go about the day and push down the pain. Maybe we were born with
spiritual pain or we have unresolved emotional issues that we haven’t let go
of and we hold them inside not knowing how to let them go.
Some believe in past lives and that we are born with pain and this pain is
punishment from a past life. For those who are Christian, they believe that we
can remove the pain by giving it to God. Pass it to something or someone and
let it go if you have it.
It’s not worth holding on to. Without being mindful, we hold on to pain so
tight that it leaves us exhausted, spiritually, physically and emotionally.
Most of the pain is only in our minds and it is a dialogue we have with
ourselves (the so called “negative self talk”). I am not saying things didn’t
happen to you in your past. Maybe you can’t even remember or pin point
anything. I couldn’t imagine some of the circumstances people have gone
through and are still able to live each day. I have had hardships, but I am
blessed that my pain is not as deep as other’s pain. All pain needs to be
identified and let go of, though. The point here is to give yourself the gift of
seeking out help to rid yourself if you are in pain.
Start fresh again, even if for only once in your life.
Make the choice to be free.
If you are in pain, the only way out of the darkness is to release it and let it go
through you and then let it go. We must stop burdening ourselves and others
with our pain. No more stories to tell others about why we are in pain. We
protect ourselves from feeling the pain and we carry the baggage. We don’t
understand how much we suffer and, conversely, we don’t know what it is
like not to suffer. We expose ourselves to our pain by virtue of being in pain
in the first place. We are constantly thinking about the pain of the past, the
present and the pain we will endure in the future. We don’t know we are in
pain most of the time; however, we feel it but don’t recognize it until we have
a problem and it affects our behavior.
Mental toughness is essential because it compensates for the lack of skill,
natural ability, and strength. You have often heard it said that the people at
the top, in any field whatsoever, are not the most talented; they are those who
stayed and kept at it despite the challenges they faced.
Mental toughness is essential to prevent you from becoming a quitter.
MENTAL TOUGHNESS & RESILIENCE
Mental toughness may mean something different to you than it means to
someone else. Oftentimes, people think about surmounting hurdles and
challenges that present themselves in order to keep pushing forward toward a
goal. But what allows a person to form the drive and motivation to desire and
believe that he can achieve that goal, and then to formulate a plan to achieve
that goal? What gets the person to stop procrastinating and take steps toward
achieving that goal? And what allows the person to stay focused, not get
frustrated, not give up and follow through on trying to achieve that goal until
he actually achieves it? Mental toughness is what it takes to channel your
motivation, determination, and desire to achieve the objective you’ve set.
It takes mental toughness to be on your way to achieving your
goals and to take all of the steps that are listed above without
getting sidetracked by distractions, emotions, thoughts, and other
things that can take you off of your path.
In fact, everything that a person wants to achieve in life takes
some degree of mental toughness. How much mental toughness
it takes is based on the difficulty of the goal. This is especially
true because things may not always be easy for you to do and
your goals may not be easy to accomplish. Learning how to
develop your mental toughness can help you tremendously when
setting out to achieve your goal. In fact, it is so important that
you have a significant degree of mental toughness when trying to
achieve the goals that you have in life. Education, money, and
connection may all come in second, third, and fourth to having
the mental toughness and fortitude to establish your goal, stick to
it, and believe that you can achieve it.
Mental toughness is often thought of as resilience - the ability to withstand
what life throws at you and to keep going. One example of this comes into
play when discussing mental toughness and professional athletics. If a major
league baseball pitcher walks three batters in a row, he still must have the
resilience to stand on the mound and pitch to the next batter even though the
crowd might be booing, the backup pitcher may be warming up, the coach
may be yelling at him, and his teammates are disappointed.
Why Do You Need Mental Toughness?
Your mental state is just as important, if not more important, than the amount
of knowledge, skill or money you have when you are trying to achieve a goal.
There are a lot of people out there with the knowledge and education that
they need to accomplish big dreams, but they do not have the proper mental
state to do so. They may state moving along the way toward a goal and then
back down for fear that they may fail, it will take too long, be too difficult, or
somehow has otherwise become impossible.
In fact, many people fail to state on their way toward achieving big goals at
all because either they do not believe that it can be done, or they do not have
the strength of mind to think that they can do it.
Mental toughness can provide you the inner strength that you need to be on
your way to achieving your goals. Much of a person’s inner strength to
persevere and achieve is derived from his or her mental state. Thus, it is
important for you to have a strong, stable mental state in which you can think
clearly and, understand your emotions and desires, and take active steps
toward achieving your goals.
Mental toughness is required to manage emotions.
It is unavoidable that people will experience emotions. Emotions are a
naturally occurring state of mind that is the result of a person’s surrounds,
mood, and relationships and interactions with other people. Because emotions
are naturally occurring, they may actually overtake a person’s thoughts and
become their main focus if a person lets them do so.
This is where mental toughness comes in.
Mental toughness gives a person the ability to control, to some extent, his or
her emotions, as well as the way in which he or she reacts to them and how
much these emotions take over the person’s mind.
For instance, you may have had a fight with your spouse or significant other