Master Your Mind, Design Your Destiny

364 Pages·2006·15.53 MB·English

MASTER YOUR Proven Strategies
that Empower You
M i N D
to Achieve Anything
You Want in Life
DESIGN YOUR Adam
DESTINY Khoo
with Stuart Tan

WARNING:
Reading this book and participating fully in all the
activities could positively change your life forever
Published by Adam Khoo Learning
Technologies Group Pte Ltd
10 Hoe Chiang Road
#01-01 Keppel Towers
Singapore 089315
Copyright © 2004 by Adam Khoo & Stuart Tan
All rights reserved. No part of this publication
may be reproduced or distributed in any form or
by any means, or stored in a database
or retrieval system, without the prior written
permission of the publisher.
First published 2004
Reprinted 2004, 2005
Cover, Design & Layout: Tan Mui Siang
Illustrations: Robin Tan
Copy Editor: Betty Khoo Kingsley
ISBN 981-05-0856-5
Printed in Singapore
Printed on total chlorine free,
environmentally friendly paper
CONTENTS
Acknowledgements vi
Introduction x
About the Authors xiii
Chapter
1 The Patterns of Excellence 1
2 The Ultimate Success Formula 21
3 How to Achieve Anything You Want 41
4 The Key to Absolute Power 65
5 The Incredible Power of Beliefs 85
6 The Secret of Peak Performance 123
7 Directing Your Brain for Optimum Results 159
8 Anchoring: the Keyboard to Your Emotions 207
9 The Transformation of Meaning 229
10 Values: Your Driving Force 253
11 Design Your Destiny 279
12 How to Replicate Someone’s Success Blueprint 325
Bibliography 348
vi
Dedication from the Author Adam Khoo
Dedicated to my parents, my wonderful wife Sally & my
precious daughter, Kelly.
Acknowledgements
I truly wouldn’t be where I am today if not for the thousands of people
who have been there to love, guide, teach, support, motivate and inspire
me during this incredible journey I have been on.
To my parents Vince, Betty & Joanne who have given me unconditional
love and support throughout the years. To my wife Sally who has been my
pillar of inspiration and strength. To my partner, Patrick Cheo, who has
been sharing my vision and continually pushing me to the next level. To
my partner Stuart Tan for being the ultimate tag team partner and for
joining me on this amazing mission of empowering lives. To my fellow
trainers Gary Lee, Ramesh Muthusamy, Candice Koh and Carol Tham
who keep bringing our programs to a higher level through their passion
and dedication.
To the entire staff of Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group who have
tirelessly spend all their weekends and late nights working to build the
company at an incredible rate. Especially to Sant & Olivia Qiu, Max
Tung, Cindy Lim, Jamie Liu, Serene Wan, CK Chan, Natalie Lim & Carol
Lim. To Tan Mui Siang & Robin Tan for your passion & dedication in
making this book look Great. To Pauline Chua for your invaluable
marketing advice.
This book is also dedicated to the hundreds of coaches & Whoosh
members who have volunteered their time to continuously come back and
staff of the ‘Superkids™’, ‘I Am Gifted So Are You!™’ and ‘Patterns of
Excellence™’ programs. Special thanks to committee members & senior
coaches Andrew Wee, Mok Tuck Sung, AP Lim, Tiffany Page, Jeannie
Lim, Shane Kwek, Mardiana, Shiau Huey, Pete Tan, Cecilia Chow, Adam
Wong, Bernard Koh, Christine Kerk, Daniel Goh, Nance Peters, Rachel
Ong, Yi Chen, Keng Loy, Kelvin Ho, Darren Toh, Chiong Kong, Yew
Siang, Stella, Adwin, Charles Tng, Brenda Tung, Sherwin Tng, John Tan,
Christine Tan, Petrina Wang, Tee Huat, Don Yap, Shi Ming, Terence Lou,
Toh Yew Soon, Lim Xiang, Xiu Li, Joseph Sim, Peter Khoo, Shukor, Felix
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Lim, James Leong CF, Alva, Tiong Boon, Shane Kwek, Alvin Wang,
Stacey Thoi, Choon Fah, Shannaz, Chih Chien, Gerald Lee, Theeban,
Patrick Goh, Jeff Tan, Rossana Chen, Alex Ang, Alex Chua, Lee Kin
Mun, Chee Hoe, Shamsudin, Kalai, Irene Low, Wilson Foo, Andrew
Chan, Charles Yuen, Ying Yan, Wai Keong… Couldn’t have done it
without you guys!
To all my principals, teachers & lecturers from Ping Yi secondary school,
Victoria Junior College and The National University of Singapore who
have played a tremendous part in shaping the person I am today, especially
to Prof. Wee Chow Hou, Mrs. Lee Phui Mun, Mrs. Ng Gek Tiang,
Dr. Kulwant Singh & Dr. May Lwin. To my mentors and trainers who
have helped me discover the true power within myself. To my first mentor,
Ernest Wong who taught me who I am. To Dr. Tad James, Dr. Richard
Bandler, John LaValle, Tony Buzan, Brad Sugars and Anthony Robbins
who helped me master NLP & the science of accelerated personal change.
To all the members of the Young Entrepreneurs Organization (Singapore
Chapter) for tremendous fellowship and support. Especially to Elim Chew,
Ricky Chew, Ong Tze Boon, Jeff Goh, Parvindar Singh, Jocelyn Chng,
Goh Bock Seng, Douglas Foo, Michael Moey, Sam Chia, Seah LC,
William Wong and Roger Khoo. To my old friends, Dr. Dennis Wee,
Tommie Goh, Gay Chee Cheong, Dr. Tony Tan & Mrs. Mary Tan, Steve
Boyley, Melvyn Koh, Dave Rogers, David Ong, Manoj Sharma, Morris
Allen, Jim Atchinson, Kenneth Lyen, Gary Tan, Kenneth Wong, Aaron
Ang & Clemen Chiang.
To the management and staff of AIA, John Hancock, Prudential, Great
Eastern Life, Lux Asia, Ngee Ann Polytechnic, NUS, NTU, Youth
Challenge, Marshall Cavendish, Pearsons & Dennis Wee Realty for your
invaluable support. Specially to Goh Nai Kiat & David Lim for all your
support & belief in the ‘Patterns of Excellence™’ program. Thanks to the
staff of Event Gurus especially my partner Zachary Low, colleagues Philip
Lim, Kevin Lim, Grace Neo & Veronica Tan for pulling off the greatest
events, especially ‘Empower Your Life, Design Your Destiny 2003’. And to
the staff of Adcom. Special thanks to Serene Quek, Cedric De Souza,
Dolly Lee, Ivy Lim, Ivy Ang, Conor O’ Sullivan & Afdoli Rahmat.
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Thanks From the Co-Author Stuart Tan
I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be a bestselling author. Very
often, I think it’s no big deal. But in many cases, I feel that being a
bestselling author is a tribute to the people who have contributed to my
life, and is a testimony to their dedication and faith in me and my abilities.
In no particular order of merit, I’d like to acknowledge the following
people who have contributed deeply to my life.
To those I have forgotten to mention, you are somewhere in my
unconscious mind, not forgotten from my heart.
To my parents, who were the ones who continued to support my
initiatives, no matter how maverick they appeared to be, and for your
fantastic teaching and love, often at your expense, and for continuing to
share your knowledge and experience with my course participants. To my
brother, I wouldn’t have gotten this far without you either. I love you all.
To Adam, the person whom I have known the better half of my life, for
having the inspiration to start this whole thing. We earned our success!
To Patrick, whom I’ll always remember digging trenches with during
Exercise Spade. Believe it or not, you make me feel less tired. We need to
clone you for the next generation of AKLTG staff.
To Candice and Carol, thank you for growing and learning. Your journey
doesn’t stop here! To Gary, for your innovation and dedication. To
Ramesh, for your unending quest for learning and experimentation. You
truly embody the Patterns of Excellence!
To the staff of AKLTG, thanks for your dedication and the long hours. I
love the work we do together, and you have as much respect from me as
I have for Patrick.
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To my close friends, thanks for sharing the special connection, you are all
fantastic: Melvyn Koh, Manoj Sharma, Dr. Beh Chee Yang, James Leong
Chan Foo, Apelles Poh, Ian Poh, Yiow Chye Leong, Lillian Lim, Chris Ng
Wai Chung, Luke Diep, Ronald Tan and Randy Tan, Jerry Low, Sng Yih
and Lorraine Sim, Dr. Edgar Tham, Kae Fong, Willie Lian, Dr. Joel Lee,
Julia Lim, Lydia Low, Rajesh Pillai, Adrian Sim, Samie Tan, Tracy Ong
and Lynn Tan.
To the many Toastmasters who have contributed to my success in more
ways than one. You’ve been there to banter with me and provide me with
opportunities and insights to succeed in public speaking. Special thanks to
Clifford and Frances Ess, Jovin Hurry, Jeremy Eng, Ng Seng Chuan, Dayal
Khemlani, Michael Rodrigues, Dave Rogers, John Sih, Ler Wee Meng,
Richard Sng, Irene Wong, Lillian Lau, Gea Ban Peng, Ng Kwan Kiat,
members of the Brilliant Advanced Toastmasters Club, SRC Toastmasters
Club, Queenstown Toastmasters Club, Tanglin Community Toastmasters
Club, Fort Canning Toastmasters Club, NUS, NTU and NUS Alumni
Toastmasters Clubs, Skymedia Toastmasters Club, SIA Toastmasters Club,
and all those whom I have had the good fortune to compete against in
speech competitions.
Finally, to those who started it all. My gratitude goes out to Dr. Richard
Bandler, my teacher and a real kick-ass presenter. I promise I will be more
competent! Also, John and Kathleen LaValle, for your dynamism and care
for us during our training. To John Grinder and Robert Dilts for having
the courage and capacity to start NLP with Richard.
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Introduction
It is Imperative We Master Our Minds so We Can Design
Our Destiny in these Turbulent and Evolutionary Times
There was once a professor who wanted to go down a river, so he
approached a local boatman who agreed to row him downstream for a
small sum of money.
As they wound their way down the river, the professor decides to show
off his intelligence and high education so he started to test the simple
boatman.
Taking up a stone he had picked up from the riverbank, the professor
arrogantly asks the boatman, ‘Have you ever studied Geology?’ The
boatman looks at him blankly and replies, ‘Eh..., no.’, hardly even
understanding what the word meant.
‘Then, I am afraid 25 percent of your life is gone!’ the professor loftily says.
The boatman feels really bad about his ignorance but continues to row on.
As they move further downstream, the river currents begin to get
stronger and stronger. The professor picks up a leaf floating on the river
and asks condescendingly, ‘Boatman, have you ever studied Botany?’
Confused the poor boatman again says, ‘No.’
The professor shakes his head and says, ‘Tsk tsk, then 50 percent of
your life is gone.’ He then signals him to carry on rowing. As they move
further downstream, the currents get even stronger, the water is moving
faster and the boat begins to sway violently.
Suddenly the professor sees a mountain range, points to it and asks,
‘Do you know anything about Geography?’ Feeling very inferior and
humiliated, the boatman again says ‘No.’
The professor snaps back. ‘I thought so. Then 75 percent of your life is
gone!’
At this point, the river has become a raging torrent. The water is
moving so swiftly that the boatman loses control of the small boat.
Suddenly, the fragile craft smashes against a huge boulder, springs a leak
and begins to sink.
This time the boatman turns to the professor and asks, ‘Professor! Do
you know how to swim?’ The professor fearfully replies, ‘No!’
‘Then, I am afraid 100 percent of your life is gone!’ says the boatman
as he leaps off the boat and powers his way to safety on the shore.
Just like the river, we are living in times of rapid and evolutionary
changes. Is the river of life going to get faster and more unpredictable? You
bet! This is only just the beginning.