Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough

294 Pages·2021·1.38 MB·english

by  Lori Gottlieb

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Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Epigraph
Prologue

PART ONE - How Did We Get Here?
Chapter 1 - The Dating Trenches
Chapter 2 - The Romantic Comedy That Predicted My Future
Chapter 3 - How Feminism Fucked Up My Love Life
Chapter 4 - Speed Dating Disaster

PART TWO - From Fantasy to Reality
Chapter 5 - Older, and Wanting to Be Wiser
Chapter 6 - $3,500 for Love
Chapter 7 - The What Versus the Why
Chapter 8 - Mondays with Evan
Chapter 9 - It’s Not Him, It’s You

PART THREE - Making Smarter Choices
Chapter 10 - Don’t Be Picky, Be Happy
Chapter 11 - Mondays with Evan
Chapter 12 - The Men Who Got Away
Chapter 13 - Pulling Another Sheldon
Chapter 14 - Mondays with Evan
Chapter 15 - What First Dates Really Tell Us
Chapter 16 - Are Women Pickier Than Men?

PART FOUR - What Really Matters
Chapter 17 - Mondays with Evan
Chapter 18 - The Business of Love
Chapter 19 - Love at Twenty-seventh Sight
Chapter 20 - Mondays with Evan
Chapter 21 - Dump the List, Not the Guy

PART FIVE - Putting It All Together
Chapter 22 - The Good Enough Marriage
Chapter 23 - A Visit with the Rabbi
Chapter 24 - Claire’s Story—Getting Over Myself
Chapter 25 - Alexandra’s Story—Mr. Right in Front of Me
Chapter 26 - Hilary’s Story—Finding What I Needed
Chapter 27 - My Story—A Dating Public Service Announcement

Epilogue
Acknowledgements