Making Habits, Breaking Habits Making Habits, Breaking Habits Why We Do Things, Why We Don’t, and How to Make Any Change Stick JEREMY DEAN A Member of the Perseus Books Group Copyright © 2013 by Jeremy Dean All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. For information, address Da Capo Press, 44 Farnsworth Street, 3rd Floor, Boston, MA 02210. Cataloging-in-Publication data for this book is available from the Library of Congress. ISBN 978-0-7382-1608-9 (e-book) Published by Da Capo Press A Member of the Perseus Books Group www.dacapopress.com Da Capo Press books are available at special discounts for bulk purchases in the U.S. by corporations, institutions, and other organizations. For more information, please contact the Special Markets Department at the Perseus Books Group, 2300 Chestnut Street, Suite 200, Philadelphia, PA 19103, or call (800) 810- 4145, ext. 5000, or e-mail [email protected]. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 To Howard and Patricia “For in truth habit is a violent and treacherous schoolmistress. She establishes in us, little by little, stealthily, the foothold of her authority; but having by this mild and humble beginning settled and planted it with the help of time, she soon uncovers to us a furious and tyrannical face against which we no longer have the liberty of even raising our eyes.” —MONTAIGNE CONTENTS PART ONE ANATOMY OF A HABIT 1 Birth of a Habit 2 Habit Versus Intention: An Unfair Fight 3 Your Secret Autopilot 4 Don’t Think, Just Do It! PART TWO EVERYDAY HABITS 5 The Daily Grind 6 Stuck in a Depressing Loop 7 When Bad Habits Kill 8 Online All the Time PART THREE HABIT CHANGE 9 Making Habits 10 Breaking Habits 11 Healthy Habits 12 Creative Habits 13 Happy Habits Acknowledgments Notes Index PART 1 ANATOMY OF A HABIT