Logan Alexander - Women - The Ownership Manual.

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by  Logan Alexander

Women
The Ownership Manual

Logan Alexander

American Taboo Press
Los Angeles

Second International Edition, September 2012
Copyright © 2012 by American Taboo Press
All rights reserved under International and Pan-American Copyright Conventions. Published in the
United States by American Taboo Press, Los Angeles.

Table of Contents

1
Introducing a Woman to Ownership

2
Self-Control

3
Mental Ownership

4
Daily Rituals

5
Breaking in a Woman
6
Discipline

7
Body Modification

8
Oral Training

9
Sexual Gratification Training

10
The Owned Woman Lifestyle

Author’s Note

The spirit of this manual is guided by the intense urge of a man to possess a woman in the deepest of
ways. For some individuals, a normal relationship devoid of the extreme polarities of emotional,
psychological and sexual experience that merge in dominance and submission play is akin to a death
sentence of mediocrity. He wants her and her body so fully that he wants to make her his actual physical
property. She wants to be craved and desired so badly that she wants to be made his real human
possession. In a post-feminist world, women chose to be owned and self-made men want to own their
women in fresh new ways. They reject traditional relationships and long for a kind of cosmic
completeness that transforms daily life into rituals of kinetic connection and deviant eroticism.
The manual is written primarily as a concise guide for men seeking to own a woman and women
seeking to be owned by a man within a certain creative space of the BDSM realm. It is not a general
relationship guide for every Dominant-submissive couple in the scene. It is inspired by the same
masculine creative energies that gave rise to such traditions as the Dionysian cult and ancient phallic
worship. It is but one subjective vision of living a life of creative control with a woman. It includes both
broad strokes and extremely particular ideas. Yet, it also serves as a source of inspiration for men and
women in any relationship as the desire to possess and be possessed is universal, even if it is only a small
force within the complex dynamics of a normal relationship. Regular people have always fed on the
excessive proclivities of those on the fringe of society and reality. The style of this work is formal for it is
meant as a thought-provoking source from which to draw ideas and inspire fresh deviance. It is not,
though, a how-to-guide on sophisticated rope tying techniques, ways of spanking, types of bondage or
other technical BDSM skills. Real world experiences are included from first-hand experiences and direct
conversations with men who own women and women who are owned by men. The practices are meant
as ideal extremes of ownership to be used as one desires in the dynamic reality of an individual
relationship.
Chapter 1: Introducing a Woman to Ownership

“I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen
more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience.”
―Charlotte Brontë

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a
man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the
command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a
woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of
doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.” ―Anais Nin

“Keep me rather in this cage, and feed me sparingly, if you dare. Anything that brings me closer to illness and the edge
of death makes me more faithful. It is only when you make me suffer that I feel safe and secure. You should never have
agreed to be a god for me if you were afraid to assume the duties of a god, and we know that they are not as tender as all
that. You have already seen me cry. Now you must learn to relish my tears.” ―Pauline Réage

The first consideration is determining the extent to which a woman wants to be owned. Men and
women are like animals roaming the prairie, honing their natural instincts to advance their own lot.
Every woman is born with the instinct to attract and the desire to be taken with some degree of
passionate force, whether she is an Upper East Side princess or a trailer park slut. Some women outright
seek to be owned as personal property and place their personal profiles on alternative or kink-oriented
websites. Some of these women have extensive experience in these types of relationships while others do
not have any at all. Other women wander out into the good night or stroll into Sunday church service
seeking companionship with an authoritarian flavor. It is important to determine if the women who
overtly seek to be owned are truly serious about what they want and are realistic in what such a life
entails. Being owned is wrapped up in a world of fetish and many women might simply be looking for a
certain sexual kink as part of a vanilla relationship. Other women seek out Dominant/submissive (D/s)
relationships because either they haven’t found what they are seeking in the vanilla world or are even on
the rebound from a bad relationship and believe D/s is the cure to their pain and loneliness.
In any case, every man and every woman seeks very different things. Open communication is vital.
Do not be eager to assume the world. Some women are very highly educated and desire to be owned in a
very sophisticated manner. Other women have simpler desires and idealize being kept at home in a cage
like a pet. Some women want both extremes. Some women crave to be aggressive leaders at work and
submissive sluts at home. Whether a man is browsing online profiles, on a first date or out randomly at
a bar and meets a woman who flirts like a submissive, he should thoroughly interrogate her to determine
if her desire to be owned is genuine and fits within the realm of his own desires. Rarely do relationships
work if both people aren’t of similar educational and socio-economic backgrounds. The exception to
this is if the man is seeking an inferior-type slave such as a poorly educated woman from a third-world
country. Anything is possible in love, but one should be grounded in reality.

Introductions and First Dates

If a man is looking to meet a woman online, it is important to cut through any deceptive ploys and
make sure the woman understands who he is in real life. Be original and sincere. Be direct without
getting annoyed by the limits of online interaction. Interrogate how a woman has described herself to
make sure she is not lying about her personal situation, her physical attributes and her desires. Demand
to know any general “issues” she has brought as emotional baggage into past relationships. In the online
world, it is always very difficult to get a true sense of someone’s personality. Don’t bother trying to
dominate a woman online. It comes off as weak and contrived. A man should be himself and let her
speak openly, but control the tempo and feeling of the conversation. A woman should get a subtle sense
of the nature of a man’s control.
If a man finds a woman he might be interested in, insist on talking on the phone or meeting in a
public place. Do not bother in long drawn-out conversations online. They are not only a waste of time
but people are very different in real life than in an online chat room. A man who understands how to
control things in general knows that he should be efficient even in personal relationships. He knows that
some things must be left to just happen but some other things need to be made to happen. It is also vital
that a man seek a real human connection with a woman and not simply try to match his kinky interests
with hers. Kink and D/s ownership is not a jig-saw puzzle that must be put together. It should rise
naturally from an organic human connection with the other person.
When meeting a woman for the first time, there are a wide variety of ways to set the tone and
circumstances of the date. A man can tell a woman what to wear or what not to wear. He can tell her to
meet him in an exact place and to make sure to be on time. There are limits to how much a man can
control a woman he has not yet met, but first impressions are important. It is also simply pleasurable to
venture into a world of controlled play with strangers. It is a ritualistic tit-a-tat to determine if the man’s
games of control are meant for the woman. A man and a woman might not hit it off, but a woman
should understand that he is there to begin to dictate the broad strokes of her life. A submissive woman
craves to be desired from the onset but wants to feel it is just for her. Some men like a women who are
immediately promiscuous while others prefer that women remain properly restrained until a deeper
personal connection is developed.
There are a number of kinky avenues to take in the spirit of making a good first impression. It
depends on the extent of rapport already developed and how aggressive and adventurous the man likes
to be. He can tell her what he likes to drink and that she is to have a drink ready for him upon arrival.
Make it extremely detailed to test her receptivity and intelligence (i.e. a very dry Martini made with a
particular brand of gin with two olives on the left side of the glass or a particular drink that she might
have to look up in a guide in order to tell the bartender).
A man can tell a woman to wear a very particular outfit that sounds like it would be sensually
appetizing. Make her get permission for every last detail including the color of a dress, the height of her
heels, the look of her panties, the type of bra, the color of her lip stick and so on. A man can get a feel
for her wardrobe to see if her style of fashion suits his desires. If a man has already conversed with her
long enough for her to trust basic orders, make her wear something kinkier such as a plunge dress or a
tight shirt without a bra. Tell her to wait in front of the meeting place with her arms casually held
behind her back. If a man wants to take it in an especially sexual direction, he can tell her not to wear
any panties underneath her skirt and instruct her to get her cunt hair trimmed in a particular manner.
He can also leave a pair of skimpy panties in a gift box with the hostess or bartender of the meeting
place. He can tell them to give the box to the woman upon her arrival or text her instructions to put
them on before he arrives. He can also instruct her to wear a corset, stockings and a garter belt. Insist
that the corset be worn tight. He can tell her that he wants to see her feel constrained while he talks to
her.
If she arrives late, he can make her write down on a piece of paper or a napkin that she will be
spanked for her tardy arrival when the time comes. Make sure she writes the exact day and time. Tell her
to keep the note in her purse until the date it will be rectified. If a man has already conversed deeply
with the woman and she has said something displeasing, arrive with a disciplinary element in hand, such
as a strap or ruler. Hand it to her and tell her to go wait outside the men’s restroom for her punishment.
Take her inside, make her bend over the sink and spank her.
A man can create any sort of specific first impression or simply arrive and be himself. A man who is
prepared to own a woman knows not only that time is precious but that even a one-time meeting should
be embraced with a creative love for spontaneously controlling the moment.
The possibilities are really endless, depending on what has already been discussed in conversation.
The entire dynamic should be a mixture of control and play. A woman should know that a man is in
charge from the very beginning but that he does not need to control. He creates the control through his
personality, his imagination and his physical demeanor, but he is at ease in his power. He decides on
where they sit, when they order and how the conversation moves without anything feeling forced. He
knows the art of control and makes sure she understands that. He lets her protest, act out and resist his
demands willingly. He basks in her feistiness and her urges to resist the will of a man she does not know.
He wants to see her feminine strengths. He wants to do know what she is made of so he can envision the
kind of submissive he will make.
If a man is simply out and about in the world at a bar, a restaurant, a party or anywhere else, finding
a woman to own becomes more complicated. More often than not, dominant men will meet women who
will need to be introduced to the idea of being owned. A man does not need to advertise on his chest
that he wants to own a woman. Certain women are naturally attracted to the men in a room who
command respect and make themselves felt as a dominating presence. A truly dominant man can simply
be himself and let his eyes do the work. He can survey a room full of people the way a military
commander surveys a potential battlefield. He can sense what women might be seeking what he is
seeking. Women who desire to be owned crave it intensely. They want to project the idea that they are
open to be taken by a strong man who takes what he wants. They are not offended when you tell them to
finish their drink before the one you are ordering them arrives. Their eyes reveal their longing to be
possessed in a more definitive way than your average woman. They look around a room trying to sense a
strong presence. When they make eye contact, the visual connection speaks volumes about their depths.
They might nervously take a drink, run their hand through their hair, fidget with their panties or try to
sense if he is one of them.
A man who is meant to own a woman approaches her simply, commands her presence and seduces
her at will. He lets her know he is going to have her without even saying it. His confidence is pure.
Without being overtly aggressive, he communicates that he is going to ravish her and she knows it. She
wants to see what he is made of and test his character. She wants to pretend to play the game so he will
make the rules. She wants to resist and struggle to see how badly he wants to subdue her.
Some women have submissive tendencies but have not been exposed to the full realm of BDSM
culture nor opened their own minds to consider such ideas and actions. A woman might need to be
guided through the stages of "self awareness", in which she realizes she has desires related to BDSM
scenarios and decides to be open to participating in them. Some authors call this an “internal coming-
out.” Most women realize early on in their adult life what they like but this is not universal. Two
separate surveys on this topic independently came to the conclusion that 58 percent and 67 percent of
the sample respectively, had realized their disposition before their 19th birthday.
It is vital for a man to let a woman know what he wants. If a man connects with a woman and he
senses she longs to submit in deeper ways, he should simply tell her how he envisions a relationship. He
should tell her that he wants to own a woman completely. A casually submissive woman will feign shock
but deep down, or at a later point in time, she will be intrigued by the idea of being a man’s property.
She will be enthralled to know what it really means to be owned by a man. A man can choose to tell her
everything under the sun or only the broad strokes. Some women are more receptive than others and a
man should speak accordingly.
In any situation, a man should let a woman know in subtle physical ways that he is going to begin to
control her. He should rest his hand on the small of her back as he speaks to her. Once she becomes
comfortable with him, he should move his hands anywhere he wants. Run a hand through her hair and
grasp it tightly so she feels it. He can casually run his fingers along the line of her panties and give them
a subtle tug. He can hold her by the back of her neck. If sitting down opposite each other, a man can let
a woman know that she is his by the relaxed firmness of his stare. A woman should feel a man’s pure
confidence in getting what he wants.
A dominant man always controls the conversation even if he lets a woman speak freely for hours on
end. She is made to understand that she is telling him things because he wants her to tell him. He can let
her speak openly the entire evening or a he can suddenly tell her not to speak unless she is spoken to.
The creative dynamic of control should be set by the man and the woman should thrive on the nature of
his verbal domination. When he speaks, she should feel a man’s intellectual caliber and the firmness of
his beliefs. A dominant man is always passionate about what he does and has a strong vision at the core
of his work. It should be made clear to a woman what her role is to be in both the relationship and in
her work situation. An owned woman can be anything from a slave kept at home in a servant role to an
ambitious leader at the head of her own company. A man should make clear what his own beliefs are
concerning work and family. An owned woman is meant to be owned by a man and not by a society’s
beliefs.
In getting to know a woman on the first date, or on the first few dates, the man should set the tone
for the sexual nature of the relationship. A man should not try to force his advances without having
built a basic level of trust and having communicated his sexual proclivities. That being said, a woman
who longs to be owned longs to be sexually taken by an assertive man. A woman should offer real and
sincere reasons if she refuses sexual entreaties at the onset of a relationship. If she does not, the man
should take what he wants. If he tells her to go the restroom in a restaurant and take off her underwear,
she should immediately go to the restroom and take off her underwear. If he tells her that he is going to
take her home at the end of the night and fuck her, she should understand that she will be getting fucked
that night. If they meet in private and he tells her to strip off her clothes to be examined, she should
strip off all her clothes. If they are in a bar and he whispers to her that he likes his cock sucked, she
should ask him how he likes it to be sucked.
The possibilities of early sexual play are endless but in any situation in which there is true potential
for a relationship, the man should thrive on getting what he wants and the woman should thrive on
giving it to him, even if she insists on making him fight for it. How this plays out will depend not only
on the raw attraction between a man and a woman, but also on the man’s sheer abilities to dominate and
on the woman’s urge to tease, resist and joust for respect. Some women love the fight and play of power
itself, but in the end, want to be subdued and controlled by a stronger force. Other women long to be
objectified and are excited by the thought of serving like some kind of naked animal.
A final key element in initial meetings and dates is the tone of discipline instilled in a couple’s
interaction. The rules of any relationship, D/s or otherwise, are generally set within the first two weeks
of being with someone. Owning a woman means molding her into your woman. The molding is a life-
time experience but it does not happen on its own. It often requires harsh discipline. Some women need
to be disciplined often while others embrace total submission. A man should discuss a woman’s
experiences with being disciplined. A man should make an immediate example of what she should
expect in the future as soon as the woman has earned it. This could mean a bare-handed spanking, a
formal paddling, verbal humiliation, a writing assignment or anything else that is meant as negative
reinforcement. A man does not have to reveal his full repertoire of disciplinary control with a woman he
has just met. He should simply set a precedent for a future life together.

The Psychology of Ownership

The psychology of owning a woman is layered with a thousand different conceptions and emotions.
To own a woman means to physically own her like personal property, yet it also means to own her
psychologically because she trusts him with her entire life. She craves to be owned in the simplest and in
the most perverse ways. She wants the hand guiding her by the neck, the hand that harshly slaps her
across her bare ass and the hand that holds her tenderly. She daydreams about having a man who
protects her as his own in all circumstances and at all times. At moments, she fantasizes about being
used and humiliated like a slut. She needs that completeness and she is ready to do anything for the right
man.
It is important for a man who seeks to own a woman, though, that ownership comes after there is a
deep connection. Any man can’t own any woman. He should understand that there must be the same
dynamic web of mutual attraction and desire that transcends the basic instinct to possess. The urge to
own a woman is a desire to control her but it cannot be based in egocentricity and megalomania. It
cannot be a negative instinct to use and abuse nor even a compulsion to feel that her feelings or
opinions do no matter. A man meant to own a woman has a strong self-awareness of his desires. He
wants to own a woman but he does not need it so badly that he loses his perspective or makes bad
judgments about a potential woman. He ascertains if a woman desires to be owned because she feels
unwanted or unloved, or if she wants to be owned because she craves the totality of emotion bound up
in such a relationship.
To own a woman is to unleash the full spectrum of masculine desire from the basest urges to the
loftiest aspirations. He knows at a very crude level that he is made with a cock in order to penetrate a
woman’s body. His physical and chemical make-up demands that he pursue a woman and subdue her.
He knows that his seduction of her is grounded in his raw will to dominate her and want her for his
own. A woman meant to be owned understands this in very deep ways. At a crude level, she wants her
cunt filled and overpowered with his force. She wants to be uniquely desired with pure masculine
energy. At a mental and emotional level, she wants to please him so ardently that no other woman could
ever replace her. He wants to make and create her and she wants to be made and created.

The Practicality of Ownership

The full and total ownership of a woman is far from being an easy or convenient process. All
relationships require “work” and a D/s connection involving total power exchange between the man
and the woman is certainly no exception. In a 2003 study of 24/7 BDSM relationships, the author Bert
Cutler found that the "perfect match" where both in the relationship shared the same tastes and desires
was rare, and most relationships required both partners to take up or put away some of their desires.
The most reported issue amongst respondents was not finding enough time to be in role with most
adopting a 24/7 lifestyle wherein both partners maintain their dominant or submissive role throughout
the day. Such a study reiterates the importance of the man to prepare himself mentally, physically and
financially to give him the freedom to own the woman in the way he would like. Furthermore, a man
with a well-trained mind understands that there is no perfect match and his desires naturally adapt to
realistic ends.

Case Study 1.1 – Jacob and Brianna

Jacob: Brianna was in her late twenties and was incredibly ambitious. She was not only sharp
and aggressive, but she looked more like a dominatrix the way she dressed in her tall heels and her
tight skirts. I met her while we were both attending a high profile business conference in Aspen.
She worked for a prestigious financial firm in Manhattan and was at the event solely to land new
clients. We technically met at a hotel bar at the end of the third day of the conference but we had
noticed each other on the first day. She was responding to questions after she had given a
passionate pitch about her company's services and our eyes just happened to connect. It was a very
subtle vibe but I could just tell the way she hesitated for a moment when she looked at me that
there was more to her than met the eye.
After our third drink at the bar, she began to overtly flirt with me but she was getting slightly
emotional about it. She confessed that it had been a long day and that she was a bit tired from
putting on a show. There was something so sexy about how smart and vulnerable she was in the
same moment. There was a lull in the conversation and we both took a sip of our drinks. I could
tell she didn't want to talk anymore but she turned to me and asked me a question about business.
I looked at her for a moment and decided to just make a move. I slipped my hand into my
jacket and took out the key card for my hotel room. She watched me as I reached around her and
slid it underneath the waistband of her skirt. I even glided the tips of my fingers down the top of
her skirt so I could make sure that it was lodged beneath her panties. I leaned over to her and told
her to shut her mouth, go up to my room and wait for me on her hands and knees on the bed. She
laughed drunkenly, ran her fingers through her hair and then looked back at me to see if I was
joking. We were standing at the end of the bar so there was no one behind me. I drew myself closer
to her so my body shielded anyone else from seeing what I was doing. I held her with one hand
around the small of her back and slid the other hand up the front of her skirt. Her eyes immediately
darted around to see if anyone was watching. I wrapped my hand around her cunt and held her
firmly. I stared straight into her eyes and just waited. She realized it was only a matter of time
before someone noticed but I held her so tightly that she couldn't wiggle away from my grip.
I told her that she was done working for the day and now she needed to do what she was told. I
asked her if she heard what I said and she simply gave me a slow nod. She took the final swig of her
drink as I pulled my hand from beneath her skirt. She turned from the bar and hastily strutted
away.
When I got up to my room, the door was left slightly ajar. I opened it and immediately saw her
figure on the bed. She was not precisely on her hands and knees, though. She was on her knees with
her hands held behind her back and her face turned sideways on the bed. Her skirt was pulled up to
her waist and her panties were pulled down to her thighs. Then I noticed that on top of her bare
ass was a condom package and that it had been torn open to make it easier for me to just take it
right out. It was such an amazing sight and so fucking erotic. She knew how to strike a pose to
please me.
I walked around the far end of the bed just to get a good look at her from head to toe. She
turned her head toward the other side so she could follow me. I told her that I had asked her to get
on her hands and knees. She gave me a sly smile and lifted herself to her hands as she arched her
back. She told me that she didn’t want to give me the wrong idea about the kind of woman she was.
I responded by telling her that I knew exactly the kind of woman she was. She glanced up at me
with a puzzled look on her face. I told her that she is the kind of who controls the boardroom but
is enslaved in the bedroom. She quietly laughed at my statement but she knew what I meant.
I continued to pace back and forth around the bed as she patiently waited in her kinky position.
Finally, I kneeled behind her and slid my fingers between her legs. She was already extremely wet.
When I fondled her clit, she started to moan. She was very vocal. As I rubbed her cunt in every
direction, I could feel her body tense up in pleasure. When I slid a pair of fingers deep inside of
her, she began to moan even louder. I quickly began to enjoy how much noise she made and told
her to do it even louder.
When I began to really thrust my fingers in and out of her, the sounds filled the entire room.
I’m sure that the hotel guests on all sides of us could hear. I kept telling her, though, that I wanted
to hear her get finger-fucked and she would moan even louder. I started to forcefully slam my
fingers in and out of her while I fondled her clit with my other hand. Her legs started to shake as
she neared an orgasm. The whole time I was just kneeling over her while I ogled her erotic figure
perched on the bed. She was still dressed except for her black panties that were pulled down and
stretched across the width of her thighs. Just as she was about to climax, I suddenly pulled my
fingers out of her. Her legs stopped shaking and she looked back at me. She begged me not to stop.
I reached over her back, grabbed her by the hair and pulled her around toward me. I told her to
take her hands and grasp the heels of her shoes. She didn't even hesitate when I gave her the
directions. She obediently twisted her arms around and took hold of her heels. Her body was
contorted like a bound animal and she struggled to lift her head to look at me. I calmly unzipped
my dress pants and took out my cock. I told her to open her mouth and she opened it. I told her
wider and she opened it wider. I held my erect cock straight out and slid it deep into her mouth
until I heard her gag. I pulled it back out and then did it again. I continued to push it in and out of