Lifestorming: Creating Meaning and Achievement in Your Career and Life

210 Pages·2017·2.59 MB·English

by  Alan Weiss

ISBN 978-1-119-36612-6
[ CONTINUED FROM FRONT FLAP ] Revamp your life to grow, evolve,
Lifestorming
is your
We often don’t realize how much of our natural and become who you want to be
practical handbook for becoming the person you
default is established by others. Whose goals are
want to be! Within these pages you will discover
you working toward? Are you measuring your
“In our culture, we are bombarded by messages that essentially say, what it takes to redesign your life, friends,
progress with the correct yardstick? Lifestorming
‘Change! Improve! Get better!’ . . . . Given how overwhelming these messages behaviors, and beliefs in order to move closer
helps keep your power in your own hands by
to your goals . . . every single day. This book
are, it’s tempting to simply shut them out. Who can possibly follow all
taking a step back and comparing your life today
offers no quick-fix answer to a profound personal
with the future you want. This essential guide that advice? But we still give it half an ear because we know, deep down,
transformation, but change will happen once you
shows you how to build a plan for changing track that we could change for the better, if only we knew how.”
become willing to be guided by expert insight
toward constant evolution and growth. FROM THE INTRODUCTION
—
and deep introspection. While change is not easy,
Lifestorming combines the efforts of two it is possible, and that’s what Lifestorming offers.
outstanding coaches who draw on their extensive Lifestorming is the product of veteran authors and
Lifestorming is your life-changing handbook for transforming your life
knowledge in a way that can help almost anyone acclaimed executive coaches, Marshall Goldsmith
and becoming the person you want to be! Written by two acclaimed
who has a sincere desire to achieve lasting, positive and Alan Weiss, who together have a combined
authors and noted executive coaches, this book draws on the lifetime
change in behavior. output of nearly 100 books on human behavior.
experience and insight of Marshall Goldsmith and Alan Weiss.
This down-to-earth guide will help you learn not
They show you how to reorder your life and take a giant leap toward
only why you do things the way you do them,
Alan Weiss is an acclaimed achieving your most cherished goals. Admittedly, change is not easy but also how to do them better. You will discover
consultant, speaker, and author. but with Lifestorming in hand you will discover the tools needed to shed a new way to think about your goals – why you
His consulting firm, Summit your old baggage and get rid of stagnating behaviors to allow yourself chose them, how you can achieve them, and
Consulting Group, Inc., has (critically) how they can evolve over time to reflect
to grow in ways you never thought possible.
attracted clients that include your changing priorities.
more than 500 leading
Lifestorming helps you to get going today on a path that will build
Once you take The Lifestorming Test, you will
organizations. He has published more than 500
your lasting legacy. Get on board and discover the continuing series of assess your current state in concrete terms, and
articles and 60 books, including the bestselling
positive actions that will not only help you, but also provide a lasting determine your ability to change and adapt.
Million Dollar Consulting.
Then you can purposefully identify the people,
guide for people to use along their own journeys. Lifestorming is
actions, habits, and beliefs that either support your
Marshall Goldsmith about taking on life and enjoying it immensely by contributing to
personal and professional growth or hold you back
it enormously.
ma is an executive coach and from reaching your goals. Goldsmith and Weiss
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You There, and Mojo, among others.
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Lifestorming
C R E A T I N G M E A N I N G
A N D A C H I E V E M E N T
I N Y O U R C A R E E R A N D L I F E
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Contents
Introduction ix
Chapter1 SettingOurOwnAspirations 1
How We Can Become Programmed 1
An Evolutionary Journey 4
Applying the Right Criteria 8
The Impossible Dream 10
Life’s Detours 13
Chapter2 TheImportanceofNewFriends 17
Why Old Friends and Old Habits Tend to Stick
Together 17
Breaking Out of the “Good Enough”Trap 19
The Best Relationships Grow with Us 20
Watertight Doors 22
Letting Go to Reach Out 25
Why We Halt the Journey 28
Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons 32
Chapter3 BehavioralMetamorphosis 35
Making Deliberate Change 35
Ugly Caterpillars and Uglier Butterflies 40
Metabehavior 43
Aspiration-Appropriate Behavior 48
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Chapter4 BelieveItorNot 55
Breaking into the Belief Vault 55
Challenging and Evaluating Your Belief System 60
The Creation of Attitudes for Growth 65
Beliefs Manifest in Behavior 68
Chapter5 TheImportanceandEvolutionofCharacter 73
Character’s Composition 73
Character Test 77
Ethical and Moral Behavior 80
A Slow,Steady March 82
The Meaning of Presence 86
Consistency in Turbulent Times 90
Assuming Formal and Informal Leadership 93
Self-Assessment 98
Chapter6 CriticalAbandonment(KnowingWhentoHoldand
WhentoFold) 103
The Dynamics of Keeping and of Changing 103
Adjustments and Accommodations 111
GPS and Roadside Assistance 115
Staying the Course 118
Chapter7 TheNewYou 123
Overcoming Fear 124
Banishing Guilt 128
Ending Shame 131
Maintaining High Self-Worth 133
Gaining and Sustaining Leverage 134
Chapter8 SustainingtheJourney 141
Growth through Generosity 141
Evolution through Exploration 146
New Dimensions of Relationships 151
Legacy 155
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Chapter9 Self-Mastery:TheLifestormingFieldGuidetoYour
SuccessfulJourney 161
Testing Yourself 163
Index 185
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