Let Love In: Open Your Heart and Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner

287 Pages·2010·1.55 MB·English

by  Debra Berndt

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Let Love In
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Let Love In
Open Your Heart and Mind to
Attract Your Ideal Partner
Debra A. Berndt, CHt
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Copyright © 2010 by Debra Berndt. All rights reserved
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Berndt, Debra A.
Let love in : open your heart and mind to attract your ideal partner /
Debra A. Berndt.
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN 978-0-470-49749-4 (pbk.)
1. Dating (Social customs) 2. Love. 3. Man-woman relationships. 4. Single
women—Psychology. I. Title.
HQ801.B4776 2010
646.7’7—dc22
2009020803
Printed in the United States of America
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Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
1 Relationship Assessment 7
PART ONE
Unpack Your Baggage and Get Ready for Love! 13
2 Your Dating Destiny: It’s All in Your Mind! 15
3 Releasing the Beliefs That Keep You Single 59
4 Forgiveness: Leaving the Past in the Past 79
5 Get How Great You Are! 93
6 Being Clear on Why You Want Love 107
7 A Clear Definition of Love 123
PART TWO
Taking Action: Roadblocks on Love’s Highway 139
8 Don’t Give Your Feelings the Cold Shoulder 141
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9 Seduction, Substitutions, and Settling 159
10 Just Do It: The Nonaction Trap 177
PART THREE
Staying in Your Lane of Love: Keeping the Faith 201
11 Dancing with the Green-Eyed Monster 203
12 Feeling Desperate When Dateless 213
13 Letting Down Your Guard and Opening Your Heart 221
14 Gaining Access to Your Spiritual Resources 237
15 Pulling It All Together 247
Conclusion: You Are Already Perfect 267
Index 269
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