Learning How to Trust Again!

208 Pages·2007·1.24 MB·English

by  Ed Delph

L H
EARNING OW TO
T …
RUST
Again

L H
EARNING OW TO
T …
RUST
Again
Ed Delph,Alan Heller,
and Pauly Heller
© Copyright 2007 – Ed Delph,Alan Heller,and Pauly Heller
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to the amazingly diverse country of South
Africa,a country learning how to trust all over again.

Acknowledgements
From Ed Delph
First of all,I would like to thank Jerome Dean Mahaffey,Ph.D.,as-
sistant professor of mass communication at Indiana University East.
Without his and his wife Lainey’s commitment to provide illustrations
and writing expertise,this book would not be what it is today.Their
silent,behind-the-scenes help—without which this book would have
remained in the idea stage—has been invaluable.Their desire to help
hurting people was my inspiration in co-writing this book.
Second, I would like to thank my wife, Becky, another silent
partner who has come with me on the journey of a pastor,author,
professor, and businessman. I may be the “flame thrower,”but
Becky is the “fuel.”
Third,I would like to thank the co-authors of this book,Alan and
Pauly Heller.Their experience as Christian counselors and marriage
ministry experts has been invaluable in the writing of this book.
This book’s readers are getting the very best in Alan and Pauly.
Special thanks also to Don Milam, vice president of Destiny
Image Publishers,who trusted in the leading of the Holy Spirit in
publishing this book.Also,none of this would have happened with-
out Joel Nori.Well done,Joel!
Last,but not least,I want to thank Carline Frost for her work in
the editing of this book in its early stages.Carline is one of those
people who makes things happen with excellence and integrity.
From Pauly Heller
My husband and I are grateful to Ed Delph for trusting us to be
involved with him in this project.He is a dynamo and a visionary
who never seems to run out of either words or ideas to further God’s
Kingdom.Ed’s motivation to work on this book sent me diving into
the Word and has greatly enriched my life.
I’d like to thank (along with my encourager and stabilizer,Alan)
Elizabeth and Robert Benham,who allowed us to “camp out”at
their vacation home,where we accomplished a substantial chunk of
writing.I’d also like to thank the women in Elizabeth’s Thursday
morning Bible study,who have faithfully brought Alan and me be-
fore God’s throne of grace,thereby giving us fortitude to stay the
course and finish the book.And special thanks to Sandra Tarlen for
granting us permission to publish her inspiring story.
From Alan Heller
I owe a debt of gratitude to the people who formed the founda-
tion of my faith and trust in God:Mike Casey,Joe Webb,Rev.Paul
Neal,Pastor Daryl Larson,Dr.Chris Lyon,Dr.Howard Hendricks,
and the late Dr.Bill Bright.Thanks also to Stan Runnels,without
whose faith and expertise we would not have trusted God to birth to
the ministry of Walk & Talk.
To my wife, companion, lover, friend, and co-author, Pauly—
thank you for undertaking this project with me.
I’m eternally grateful to God for giving us His Word,upon which
I’ve stood steadfast for 36 years.
Endorsements
Without security (trust),relationships won’t happen.For over
40 years I have been writing and counseling people on how to trust
and make their relationships secure;because,with security (trust),
intimacy naturally happens.Here is a book that shows you the way
to regain trust and see life work.Alan,Pauly,and Ed speak from
years of experience and will make a difference in your life and
those you love.
Dr.Gary Smalley
Speaker,author of I Promise
Smalley Relationship Center
www.dnaofrelationships.com
For countless people,the idea of trust is a mirage.They’ve had a
parent who abused them,a spouse who walked out on them,a busi-
ness partner who ruined them,or a politician or pastor who betrayed
their trust.Yet in order for any healthy personal or spiritual relation-
ship to form,trust is essential,not optional.
So how can you learn to trust again? May I recommend this out-
standing book as a wonderful tool for learning to trust again.You’ll
soon realize why trust is essential,and that there really are people
and a God worth trusting.This book,and the biblical reality it in-
fuses in the word trust,can transform your life.
John Trent,Ph.D.
Author,The Blessingand The 2 Degree Difference
President,The Center for Strong Families
Scottsdale,Arizona
Ed Delph has spent his life as a spiritual change agent and an en-
courager of the Believers. His worldwide influence as a preacher,
prophet,and teacher is significant.In his latest book,Learning How to
Trust…Again,he has shared deep spiritual insights and wisdom from
God.I strongly endorse this book and encourage Christian servant
leaders to read it.
Bishop George D.McKinney,Ph.D.,D.D.
General Board Member,C.O.G.I.C.
I couldn’t agree more that a lack of trust is the number one
problem for many people,and maybe,especially Christians.The
number two problem for those people is that they don’t know how
to venture out again into that dreaded arena of vulnerability and
try,try again.The emotional scars that many wear are reminders of
the incredible pain of betrayal in one form or another that cause
withdrawal from all the basics of Christianity that Jesus taught:fel-
lowship,love,care,gentleness,and kindness to all.This book does
not merely describe persons who fail to trust,but actually shows
them how to begin again,by recognizing symptoms in the “self”
that point to unhealed areas and then showing them the way out.
In days gone by I spent time in the cave of self-protection and I
know it’s marked by loneliness and lack of fulfillment. Someone
loved me enough to show me the way out and that’s why I am so glad