Law of Attraction Habits: 5 Habits That Super Charge Your Manifesting Skills

42 Pages·2015·0.5 MB·English

by  Chris Tomasso

Contents
Title Page
Is This Book for You?
Habit 1: Emotional Awareness
Habit 2: Meditation
Habit 3: Ease
Habit 4: Appreciation
Habit 5: Letting Go
Putting it All Together
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LAW OF ATTRACTION HABITS: 5 HABITS THAT SUPERCHARGE
YOUR MANIFESTING SKILLS

Chris Tomasso
Is This Book for You?

You’ve probably been exposed to the law of attraction from, “The Secret” or
the work of Abraham-Hicks. But, “The Secret” is inapplicable without building
some habits first. It’s also a gross oversimplification of the wrong lessons of the
law of attraction. Abraham-Hicks, on the other hand, has a fantastic
understanding of how to use the law of attraction, but their approach can seem a
little woo-woo for some.

You don’t have to have a basic understanding of the law of attraction to get
something out of this book. If you don’t know what it is at all, you might be
confused by some of the terms. Yet, my approach is weaved into something
more core to human experience than a current fad. So, you will gain value
whether or not you try to manifest things.

Finally, this is for those with an open mind. You do have to be willing to do a
little bit of inner work. The habits in this book are simple, repeatable, and subtly
powerful. There’s nothing showy or impressive about them on the outside, but
they can unlock your potential unlike any other self-help technique or life hack
you’ve encountered.

What is My Approach to the Law of Attraction?

First and foremost, my approach to using the law of attraction is based on
simplicity and functionality. These are universal laws, so it’s my intent to do
justice to them by making them easy to understand and use.

Habits are of great interest to many people because of how powerful they
grow over time. That’s because habits are the ultimate passive form of self-
improvement. Sure you have to exert a little effort to get them started, but once
you do, you don’t really have to worry about consciously choosing to do them
over and over again. This is already great, but when you add specific habits that
improve your quality of life, the effect of habits starts compounding.

One of my main focuses in life is to approach everything with as much ease
as possible. It’s like the idea of working smart (not hard) multiplied. Some
people call this laziness, but I just know that there’s a better way. Take it from
me, it’s a lot easier to move towards the things you want in your life habitually
than it is to do it through willpower. More than that, when you try to force your
way to things, you actually cause the universe to work against you. You’ll find
out how to turn this around in Habit #3: Ease.

That’s why, instead of vision boards and mantras, the habits in this book
focus on fine-tuning your own emotional processes. I start small and build
outward. In making these habits part of your life, you will feel subtle changes in
how you experience and understand emotion at first and open yourself up to be
able to have peak emotional experiences more often. What you really want is to
learn how to feel amazing more of the time. This book will give you the tools to
do just that.

Please read this book in order. It’s not incredibly long, and the habits are set
up in a logical sequence. With that disclaimer out of the way, let’s move into the
first habit.
Habit 1: Emotional Awareness

Emotional awareness is the skill of knowing how you’re feeling. I know this
sounds like an obvious thing, but in reality, most people aren’t consciously
aware of how they feel at a given point in time. This is because you tend to only
know how you’re feeling when you’re really feeling it. You can probably
remember the last time you were really mad, sad, or feeling ecstatic.

People who experience these peak states are often called emotional. The
implies that people who do the opposite aren’t emotional. This is a bit of
misnomer, because we’re all emotional beings. More than that, the term,
“emotional” implies that the person isn’t in control of their emotions, which
further implies that showing too much emotion is a bad thing. This can lead you
to want to ignore or bury your emotions. This is the wrong path.

Instead, you can make peace with the emotions you feel. You can learn to
recognize them without letting them control you. But, you have to acknowledge
them first.

This skill will teach you how to recognize the subtler emotions you feel. You
want to recognize them, because you ultimately want to be able to influence the
flow of your emotions. Why?
If you wait until you really know you’re feeling angry, sad, irritated,
frustrated, or overwhelmed, it’s far too late to do anything about it in that
moment.

Really.

Which is why emotional awareness is such an important skill to have. With
emotional awareness, you’ll make every other habit in this book far easier to
accomplish. There’s a reason why Abraham-Hicks always says to, “focus on the
feeling.”
Why Does Emotional Awareness Matter?

The law of attraction responds to your vibration. Your vibration, for the sake
of simplicity, is dictated by your emotion. You already know that your emotion
can only be influenced sometimes. In one moment it can be like pushing against
an angry river flowing the opposite direction. In others, it can be like coasting
down a stream that turns into a cascade of joy.

People who misunderstand how to apply the law of attraction simply say,
“Think positive!” That’s like saying, “Just make more money!” in response to
impending bankruptcy. While it’s technically accurate, it’s not functionally
accurate. It’s not a useful thing to hear at the time. Honestly, do me a favor and
don’t listen to people who give advice like that.

Because your emotions flow in different habitual ways, you have an ocean of
differing vibrations in your life. These differing vibrations cause waves in your
reality. Influencing how you feel is a lot more like sailing than it is turning on a
light switch. You don’t choose to feel better and it’s done. You can get where
you want to go, but it’s hardly a straight line. If it were, you wouldn’t be reading
this book.

Your tool to navigate all this is your current point of focus. Your current point
of focus is based on what you are thinking right now, which you can alter and
change. But, your point of focus is like a sailboat, not a teleporter. Getting where
you want to go emotionally seems simple on paper, but the law of attraction is
constantly responding to your vibrations. Most people aren’t deliberate with how
they feel, so they tend to respond to whatever is happening around them. This is
like trying to sail without controlling your boat whatsoever, hoping for the
chaotic sea of vibrations to take you where you want to go.

So, when good things happen, they feel good. When bad things happen, they
feel bad. People who haven’t practiced vibrational sensitivity are only
conditionally happy. This means they can only feel in response to external
conditions.

While your emotions influence what manifests in your life, the emotion you
feel in a certain moment is actually an indicator of the vibration that you’re
currently practicing. This is a slightly more complex way of understanding your
emotions’ relationship to your vibrations, but when you think of your emotion as
an indicator, you’ll start to detect vibrations that you already practice by default.

So, to get where you want to go emotionally, you have to learn how to
navigate the current vibrational patterns of your life. In sailing, you have to be
able to read the wind and the waves while using your current focus to keep
yourself moving in the right direction towards your destination. To do this with
your emotions, it requires vibrational sensitivity.

Why You Have to Learn Vibrational Sensitivity Before Anything Else

Vibrational sensitivity, just like learning how to drink wine, is about detecting
subtle things that are going on. In this case, you want to detect your subtle
emotional states.

The following habits in this book are about deliberately practicing an
emotional state that leads to a desired vibration. How will you know if you’ve
succeeded in practicing those feeling states without knowing how you feel right
now? How will you know if you’ve shifted how you feel if you don’t know
where you started?

It’s like throwing a dart at a dartboard with a blindfold on after being spun
around 6 times. You can’t actually hit the target deliberately if you don’t see it
and don’t know where you started. You also can’t feel something deliberately if
you aren’t aware of how it feels to do so.

Once you understand how to do this, you won’t just be better at the other
habits, you’ll be able to reduce your own stress level, give other people clear
boundaries for your emotions, and just generally be more emotionally healthy.

Why Emotional Health is So Important

Being emotionally healthy doesn’t seem as sexy as having a Porsche or being
a celebrity, but actually it’s one of the most crucial parts of a happy life.

If you’re emotionally healthy, you’ll be able to handle manifesting bigger
things, because you’ll have the tools with which to handle bigger shifts in your
life. In fact, one of the reasons you haven’t manifested huge things yet is that
you’re not emotionally ready for them. This is not to say that you’re not mature.
It’s simply that you don’t know how to deliberately practice the vibration of
what you want consistently enough to have it come into your reality.

What if you only make $20,000 a year but keep getting into debt? Do you
think you would automatically be able to handle an extra $100,000 a year
without a different mindset or different tools? People who win the lottery end up
having the same level of pre-lottery-winning income a few years later.
Ironically, your debts would just keep getting bigger even though you had more
resources.

So, the key is learning how to experience more of the emotions you want in
your life now, regardless of circumstances. This starts with knowing what you’re
already feeling. Emotional awareness and healthiness is actually the backbone of
how you will manifest more things into your life.

How to Detect Your Own Subtle Feelings

This book is about habits, so it’s about practical advice you can do today.
Having said that, emotional awareness is something that becomes more effective
the more you practice it. After all, how often do you experience emotions? How
many emotions do you experience in a day? Most likely, a lot. But don’t worry
about recognizing every emotion you feel every moment.

The reason this is a practice is because it’s a specific time where you choose
to be more aware of your emotions than usual. Then, you can let yourself off the
hook for the rest of the day. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself trying too hard too
often at first.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about incremental baby steps. Just 10%
more emotional awareness in your life is going to have profound implications on
the rest of your life. On top of that, there’s no finish line for this skill. There will
always be room for improvement. As Abraham-Hicks says, “You can’t get it
wrong and you’ll never get it done.” Believe it or not, this quote is something
that is supposed to make you feel relief. If you still want to get an A at
manifesting, know that by practicing all these habits, you’ll learn to take the
pressure off yourself.

Here is how to do it once per day. Feel free to expand this practice to more of
your day as it feels good to you.

Identify a habit that you do every day that involves writing. Do you
write to-do lists? Do you check your calendar? Do you write emails in the
morning? Anything that involves writing is good.
Put a note in that space that is unmistakable. On the note write, “How
are you feeling?” Make sure to have an easy way to record your thoughts.
This can be a file on your desktop, a notebook next to your bed, or a notes
section on your calendar.
Write how you are feeling. Make sure to write a few sentences. This
isn’t a status update where you use a one word label, like “Happy,” or,
“Tired.” Here’s an example:
“I’m feeling good. I’m feeling energized and in the flow. I’m feeling like I’ve
got a little bit of nervous energy. I’m feeling kind of anxious like I want to go
outside. I’m feeling pretty good, but not terribly relaxed. Maybe antsy is the
word.”

Instead of describing an exact emotion, you want to describe the change from
one emotion to another. Emotions are fluid and they change. Notice that I said I
was, “In the flow”, and also, “Antsy.” I’m not contradicting myself, because as I
wrote my emotions shifted. A few things may happen when you start to do this:
You won’t feel like writing. Especially if you’re not in habit of writing, it
may be hard to sit down to write. How to get in the habit of writing is beyond the
scope of this book, but to offer a few pointers: Don’t worry about writing well
and don’t edit yourself. If you’re just getting started with a daily writing habit,
recognize that it’s hard at first and gets easier over time. If writing is really the
thing that feels weird, then perhaps just speaking this exercise will do. If you
speak your emotional flow, then make sure to spend the equivalent amount of
time that it would take to write two to three sentences.
But let’s be real. Two to three sentences? Do you text, write emails, or write
status updates? This habit is not even that much work. So if you find yourself
having trouble with this, then the real culprit is probably:

You have a hard time getting in touch with your feelings. That’s totally
fine and it’s the reason we’re doing this in the first place. In general, our society
does not place value on people being in touch with their feelings. The concept of
being, “Touchy-feely” is kind of looked-down upon as a weak quality in people.
You may have some weird beliefs around that. If so, just give this habit a try.
You don’t have to tell anyone about this. It can be just between you and me.