Islam: Questions And Answers - Character and Morals

361 Pages·2003·2.64 MB·English

by  Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman

ISLAM: QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
Character and
Morals
Volume 13 of a Series of Islamic Books
by
Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman
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Islam: Questions And Answers
Volume 13
Character and Morals
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Islam: Questions And Answers
Volume 13
Character and Morals
Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman
B.Sc., DipHE
MSA
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© Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman, 2003
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Contents
Introduction ..............................................................................1
Chapter 1...................................................................................3
General.................................................................................3
30861: What are the situations in which a
promise may be broken? .................................................3
14212: Beware of rumours at times of crisis ..................6
12806: Ruling on the view that we should seek
to acquire the characteristics of Allaah .........................12
22878: Our attitude towards rumours and news
on the Internet................................................................14
21836: Spreading people’s personal messages
and conversations..........................................................19
Chapter 2.................................................................................21
Bad Behaviour ...................................................................21
49024: He wants to look at women in the street
with the intention of proposing marriage......................21
49670: A husband who claims to be
religiously-committed but he is addicted to
permissive channels ......................................................23
49943: He masturbated a great deal during
Ramadaan – what should he do?...................................27
40664: Practising the secret habit (masturbation)
in Ramadaan without ejaculating..................................29
40589: Practising the secret habit (masturbation)
in Ramadaan..................................................................31
45883: He is studying in a mixed university;
how should he deal with female teachers and
students?........................................................................32
42165: How can I advise someone who is
addicted to pornography?..............................................36
45647: How can one avoid getting angry
quickly?.........................................................................38
43012: Allaah is Severe in punishment.........................43
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45001: Every time he improves in worship,
he goes back to sin ........................................................48
12301: It is not permissible to watch pornography
at all, not even with one’s wife......................................53
34638: Being careless with the aim of dying
in the land of the Two Holy Sanctuaries
(al-Haramayn) ...............................................................54
45433: It is haraam for students to cheat in tests ..........55
40040: Her husband is threatening to divorce
her if she does not watch pornographic movies
with him ........................................................................56
40163Title: Her son practices the secret habit
every day. What should she do?....................................58
40233: Her friend keeps company with men
and commits sins, and she refuses to accept
advice. What is to be done?...........................................61
27190: What is the ruling on one who discloses
secrets?..........................................................................63
6418: He falsified information on his
university certificate and got hired on the
basis of that certificate ..................................................68
32671: Internet cafes are a hotbed of evil .....................70
34222: She complained about her friend and
her brother has forsaken her..........................................71
20744: Should she refuse marriage to someone
who has a bad past?.......................................................72
37666: Attributes of the one who gains the
reward for giving iftaar to one who is fasting...............75
20642: Does committing a sin openly put a
person beyond the pale of Islam?..................................77
26819: This action is reprehensible...............................80
9229: Ridding oneself of arrogance ..............................81
14367: Is it permissible to steal from the
kuffaar? .........................................................................87
20068: He is homosexual and wants a remedy .............90
7545: He has repented from stealing from the
kuffaar ...........................................................................97
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8529: What is the ruling on one person saying
to another “Eat air (i.e., shut up)” as a put-down?........99
26964: Prohibition against spying on others...............101
26197: Misfortune of a wife whose husband is
committing sodomy.....................................................107
13217: A woman who is extremely shy is sitting
in a place where people are backbiting – is there
any sin on her? ............................................................110
22845: The phenomenon of cheating..........................112
14587: Masturbating without using the hands............123
20012: Cheating in school work .................................124
22340: Offensive and impermissible jokes.................125
20047: Ruling on clapping..........................................126
22307: He pretends to be a girl so that he can
get the names of bad websites and get them
closed down.................................................................128
13809: A man jokes with his mahrams in an
obscene fashion...........................................................129
13993: Do colour and beauty carry any weight
as a measure of virtue in Islam?..................................131
13811: What the teacher did is haraam .......................134
13493: It is essential to punish cell phone
owners who send dirty messages ................................135
22050: Looking at pictures of women led him
to commit the “secret vice”.........................................136
13611: Ruling on backbiting about non-Muslims.......137
12205: How can he rid himself of jealousy
towards his brothers? ..................................................139
12277: Is masturbation permissible if a person
knows that he would not be able to give a wife
her rights?....................................................................144
10445: Using a machine that leads to orgasm.............146
12387: The danger of hypocrisy..................................147
11726: Is it counted as committing sin openly
if a person commits sin in front of his children?.........152
9562: Warning to the one who shows off and
boasts about his sin .....................................................153
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9345: Deceiving and lying are not permitted
in dealings with others ................................................158
7491: Thinking about immoral actions .......................159
11125: Telling lies in order to get a visa to
enter the US.................................................................160
3365: Ruling on the one who sins openly
and tells his friends about it ........................................161
6044: Reading and writing fantasy stories..................166
6261: Ruling on being alone with a homosexual........167
6376: He wants to commit suicide because
they rejected his marriage proposal.............................168
4505: Writing fiction stories........................................170
4329: Accusing a Muslim of drinking wine................171
3108: Writing down the name of a person who
is absent from work as if he is present........................173
762: Ruling on wearing one’s clothes below
one’s ankles.................................................................174
110: Ruling on smoking..............................................178
329: Ruling on masturbation and how to cure
the problem..................................................................181
Chapter 3...............................................................................186
Love and the steps that
lead to immoral actions....................................................186
49687: He fell into the trap of visiting chat
sites and talking to girls, but has now repented ..........186
44819: He had a relationship with a girl for
two years, can he propose marriage to her? ................187
40618: Can she uncover her face in front of
her sister’s husband? ...................................................189
41693: She has committed haraam actions
with her fiancé.............................................................191
27329: She has repented from an illicit
relationship but she wants to contact him in
order to get married to him..........................................196
39931: He has repented from a relationship
with a non-mahram woman but he still loves
her and feels attached to her........................................198
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20949: Friendship and love between a man
and a woman ...............................................................201
39770: Ruling on being intimate with a
non-mahram woman without intercourse....................204
27259: Ruling on the things that lead to zina
– kissing, touching and being alone together..............209
34841: Men and women talking in chat rooms...........213
33702: He fell in love with a girl then he
repented. Can he be friends with her?.........................216
7650: She did something haraam with her
husband’s brother ........................................................219
10374: Bus driver being alone with a woman.............222
22917: He is addicted to pornographic pictures..........226
26258: Woman riding with a non-mahram man..........231
12879: Ruling on a man hugging a woman.................232
21784: The difference between erotic dreams
and looking at women.................................................235
20229: Means of helping oneself to lower
one’s gaze....................................................................239
23349: Prohibition on either spouse forming
a relationship with someone else just for fun..............247
10532: He is worried and distressed as a result
of a haraam relationship..............................................250
9465: Why is it forbidden for a man and a woman
who are not mahrams to have a relationship?.............253
1578: If the child of zinaa is present, will
he be a chaperone for the two who committed
zinaa? ..........................................................................255
7492: She wants to go out with her fiance
to make sure about him so that there will not
be a disaster.................................................................256
1200: Evidence Prohibiting of Mixing of
Men and Women .........................................................258
5583: What is the ruling on having thoughts
of intercourse even before marriage............................272
6102: Should she cut off her ties with her adopted
brother who has left Islam (is an apostate)?................273
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