Inside Lives Psychoanalysis and the Growth of the Personality

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INSIDE LIVES
Tavistock Clinic Series
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INSIDE LIVES
PSYCHOANALYSIS AND THE
GROWTH OF THE PERSONALITY
Margot Waddell
KARNAC
LONDON NEW YORK
First published in 1998 by Gerald Duckworth & Co Ltd
Revised edition published in 2002 by
H. Karnac (Books) Ltd.
1 18 Finchley Road, London NW3 5HT
Reprinted 2003, 2005
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgements ix
Series editors' preface xi
Foreword to the second edition xiii
Author's note xv
A historical note xvii
Introduction 1
CHAPTER ONE
States of mind
CHAPTER TWO
Beginnings
CHAPTER THREE
Infancy: containment and reverie
CHAPTER FOUR
Infancy: defences against pain
v i CONTENTS
CHAPTER FIVE
Early childhood: weaning and separation
CHAPTER SIX
Latency
CHAPTER SEVEN
Models of learning
Ct-IAPTER EIGfVI
The family
CHAPTER NINE
Puberty and early adolescence
CHAPTER TEN
Mid-adolescence: a clinical example
CHAPTEK ELEVEN
Late adolescence: fictional lives
CHAPTER TWELVE
The adult world
CHAPTER THIRTEEN
"The later years"
CHAPTER FOURTEEN
The last years
Appendix
Select bibliography
For
My parents, Jurnes and Dorothy
and my children, Niclzolas and Anna

Acknowledgements
This being the kind of book that it is, it seems appropriate to
reverse the customary order of acknowledgements and thanks. My
first and deepest debt of gratitude is thus to my parents and to my
children and step-children, for being their wise, forbearing,
encouraging and challenging selves: to James and Dorothy, to
Nicholas and Anna, and to David, Sarah and Emma. Next my
thanks are to my intellectual mentors and my analytic teachers,
from all of whom I have learned so much: initially to the memory
of Martha Harris, from whom, on arrival at the Tavistock, I first
heard about something called "personality development"; and to
Donald Meltzer who enabled me to think about it; more recently, to
Michael Feldman, Hama Segal and Leslie Sohn. I am particularly
grateful to the many students, colleagues and patients who, over
the years, and often unbeknownst to themselves, have contributed
so richly to the thinking that has gone into this book. A work such
as this draws on the thought and experience of a great number of
people. It is hard to say a sufficient "thank you" to friends and
colleagues who, at different stages of the "development" of the
manuscript, have been so untiringly helpful and enthusiastic. Some
have read parts of the text, others, with quite extraordinary