If Men Have All the Power How Come Women Make the Rules

224 Pages·2002·0.93 MB·English

from The author of
Good Will Toward Men
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“While there’s much truth at the heart
of this, I didn’t particularly like the
one-liner approach, and the contempt
this book would inspire among the
women in house would be immense.
I’ll let one of my male competitors be
the one who gets pummeled.”
—Rick Horgan, VP & Executive Editor
of Warner Books, Inc.
in a letter to the author’s agent
concerning the first edition of this book,
for which we never could find a publisher
March 19, 1998
Also by Jack Kammer
Good Will Toward Men, St. Martin’s Press 1994
IF MEN HAVE ALL THE POWER
HOW COME WOMEN MAKE THE RULES
*and other radical thoughts for men who want more fairness from women
BY JACK KAMMER
published by
Jack Kammer
PO Box 18236
Halethorpe MD 21227
[email protected]
www.RulyMob.com
© 2002 Jack Kammer
some images © 2002 arttoday.com
cover design by Lou Peddicord
Thanks to many progressive men and women around the world.
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C
ONTENTS
The cover is numbered as page 1 to match the page numbers shown by the software in the ebook version.
The Rules.........................................................................................................................................................10
The Rulers........................................................................................................................................................13
Foreword Not Written by Dave Barry.......................................................................................................14
Introduction....................................................................................................................................................15
Opening Thoughts.........................................................................................................................................17
Debunking the Idea That Men Have All the Power...............................................................................19
Identifying and Describing Female Power................................................................................................28
The Foundation of Female Power: Women’s Superiority Complex....................................30
Adjusting Our Eyes to See Female Power.................................................................................39
The Power of Emotions................................................................................................................46
The Power of Shame......................................................................................................................48
The Power of Sex............................................................................................................................60
Women’s “High-Volume Sexual Harassment”.........................................................................68
The Power of Defining the Terms..............................................................................................74
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Spin Control, Controlling the Agenda.......................................................................................77
Feminacentrism...............................................................................................................................83
Double Standards...........................................................................................................................90
Debunking the Notion of Female Superiority.......................................................................100
Asserting Our Own Agenda on Our Own Terms.................................................................................115
Taking Equal Control of Dating..............................................................................................115
A Hard Man is Good to Find...................................................................................................123
Equal Options for Men in Jobs and Money..........................................................................125
Equal Options for Men in Marriage and Parenting.............................................................143
Treatment of Fathers in Divorce..............................................................................................160
Domestic Violence Bigotry: The Maternalist Backlash.......................................................168
“Herjury”: False Allegations of Sexual Misconduct..............................................................172
Abuse Abuse: “That devil made me do it.”............................................................................179
Choice for Men............................................................................................................................181
Suicide............................................................................................................................................184
Saying What We Want to Say When and How We Want to Say It................................188
The “Sensitive” Man...................................................................................................................193
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The Straightforward Man..........................................................................................................195
Twenty-one Points for Women Who Want Their Men to “Open Up”..........................201
Ending Our Collusion in Women’s Unfairness.....................................................................................205
Statistics, “Studies,” “Reports” and Other Smokescreens.....................................................................212
Lexicon...........................................................................................................................................................220
Conclusion.....................................................................................................................................................222
About the Author.........................................................................................................................................224
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The Rules
a fax dated April 14, 1997 and posted on a woman’s office wall in Washington DC
• The female always makes The Rules.
• The Rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.
• No male can possibly know all The Rules.
• If the female suspects the male knows all The Rules, she must immediately change some or
all of The Rules.
• The female is NEVER wrong.
• If the female is wrong, it is due to a misunderstanding which was a direct result of
something the male did or said wrong.
• The male must apologize immediately for causing said misunderstanding.
• The female may change her mind at any time.
• The male must never change his mind without the express written consent of the female.
• The female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.
• The male must remain calm at all times unless the female wants him to be angry and/or
upset.
• The female must under no circumstances let the male know whether or not she wants him
to be angry and/or upset.