I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

250 Pages·2010·1.12 MB·English

by  Jerold J. Kreisman

Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Acknowledgements
PREFACE

Chapter One - The World of the Borderline
Chapter Two - Chaos and Emptiness
Chapter Three - Roots of the Borderline Syndrome
Chapter Four - The Borderline Society
Chapter Five - Communicating with the Borderline
Chapter Six - Coping with the Borderline
Chapter Seven - Seeking Therapy
Chapter Eight - Specific Psychotherapeutic Approaches
Chapter Nine - Medications: The Science and the Promise
Chapter Ten - Understanding and Healing

Appendix A - DSM-IV-TR Classifications
Appendix B - Evolution of the Borderline Syndrome
RESOURCES
NOTES
INDEX
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
“I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me was the first book to introduce BPD to the public.
We are all indebted to Dr. Kreisman for his pioneering efforts to raise awareness
of this painful mental disorder. As research and treatment have advanced so
much since then, we welcome this needed update to what is now a classic text.”
—Valerie Porr, MA, president and founder of Treatment and Research
Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder, and
author of Overcoming BPD

“Dr. Kreisman and Hal Straus have thoroughly revised their twenty-year classic
to include the latest advances in therapies and medications while retaining the
rich, easy-to-read style of the first edition. Real-life case studies and the
extensive list of references illuminate our understanding of borderline
personality not only for the general public but for professionals as well. This
book belongs on the bookshelf of patients, their friends and family, and for all
those who help in their healing.”
—Randi Kreger, author of Stop Walking on Eggshells and
The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Kreisman, Jerold J. (Jerold Jay)
I hate you—don’t leave me : understanding the borderline personality / Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus.
—Rev. and updated. p. cm.
“A Perigee book.”
Includes bibliographical references and index.
eISBN : 978-1-10144568-6
1. Borderline personality disorder. I. Straus, Hal. II. Title. RC569.5.B67K74 2010
616.85’852—dc22
2010029714
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