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CONTENTS Acknowledgments vii INTRODUCTION Why Are Interviews So Scary? 1 Christine’s Story 3 My Story 6 CHAPTER ONE An Assault against Anxiety 9 The Most Common Interview Fears 11 Strategy versus Memorization 13 Interviewing Can Be Fun! 14 CHAPTER TWO Building Your Skills Arsenal 15 Assessing Your Skills 19 General Skills 20 Job-Specific Skills 27 Personal Traits 30 Competencies 33 Your Gift 35 Skills Summary Page 36 CHAPTER THREE Q Statements: Your Secret Weapon 39 What Is a Q Statement? 41 Quality or Quantity? 44 Let’s Get Specific 45 CHAPTER FOUR Research: What Separates the Hired from the Not Hired 57 An Interview Is Like a First Date 59 Why Research a Company? 59 iii Copyright 2003 by Marky Stein. Click Here for Terms of Use. Contents All the Information Is Right at Your Fingertips 60 How to Get Your Hands on a Computer 60 Company Web Sites 62 Company Mission Statements 62 Company Culture 63 Targeting Your Skills to the Company’s Needs 65 Use Your Library Card as a Job Search Tool 67 CHAPTER FIVE Winding Up Your Strategy 69 Recommendations 71 References 74 The Presentation Packet 77 Punctuality 77 The Preinterview Checklist 78 CHAPTER SIX Managing the First Twenty Seconds of the Interview 79 First Impressions 81 Facial Expression 83 What to Wear 83 Your Handshake 88 Your Greeting 88 Your Attitude 89 You Passed the Test! 90 CHAPTER SEVEN Answering Interview Questions 91 Straightforward Questions 93 Questions behind Questions 99 Stress Questions 108 Illegal Questions 114 Questions to Ask the Employer 115 Stalling and Accessing 116 Handling Questions in Nontraditional Interviews 117 Group Interviews 119 Body Language 120 iv Contents CHAPTER EIGHT Negotiating Your Salary 123 The Negotiating Challenge 125 Common Fears about Negotiating 126 One Job, Two Different Salaries 128 The Four Bargaining Factors 129 Open-Door Negotiating 133 The Salary Discussion 135 Benefits and Your Total Compensation Package 139 Creative Negotiations 140 CHAPTER NINE Following Up: Juggling Multiple Offers 141 Focus Letters 143 Follow-Up Calls 146 Multiple Offers 146 CHAPTER TEN Sample Interviews 151 Jerry Aronson, Marketing Manager 153 Sarah Auschansky, Information Technology Engineer 156 Kei Soto, Director of Launch Operations 158 CHAPTER ELEVEN Practice Questions 165 CONCLUSION Confidence 173 Index 177 v This page intentionally left blank. ACKNOWLEDGMENTS To my first career counselor, Astrid Berg, who told me, “If it’s in your heart, do it.” To Jack Stein, Rusty Stein, Jill Stein, Melissa Greer, Krishna Roman, and Saundra Ridel, whose love and gentle guidance have shown me that for every challenge, there is a spiritual solution. Special thanks to Wilma Marcus, Steven Beasley, Kate Smith, Maggie Smith, Michael Mersman, Jack Chapman, Debbie Featherston, Carolyn Clark, Bill Shipley, and Mark Guterman for helping me discover a great well of ideas, courage, and creativity, and, most of all, the resolve to express them. Finally, my deepest gratitude to my editor, Michelle Howry, for her unwavering faith in me and my work. Thank you. Marky Stein vii Copyright 2003 by Marky Stein. Click Here for Terms of Use. This page intentionally left blank. One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. —Helen Keller