How to Talk Dirty (sex)

79 Pages·0.702 MB·English

by  Evelyn Jaymes

How to Talk Dirty:
The Complete Sex Book Guide,
Examples to Improve Your Sex Life
with New Sexual Energy. Drive Your
Partner Absolutely Wild, Become His
Sexual Obsession and Have the Mind-
Blowing Sex
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: A Brief History of Dirty Talk and Why It’s Taboo
Well, What Is Dirty Talk Exactly?
A Brief History of Dirty Talk
What People Think About Dirty Talk
Surrendering to Your Intimacy
Dirty Talk Is Going to Change Your Sex Life
Chapter 2: How Dirty Talk Will Free Your Inhibitions
The Different Types of Dirty Talk
Types of Dirty Talk
Getting Over the Awkward Hump
How to Introduce Your Partner to Dirty Talk
Does Erotic Questioning Help?
Examples for the Beginner In You
Chapter 3: Overcoming Shyness to Keep the Dirty Talk Going
Overcoming Shyness Step 1 - Practicing on Yourself
Overcoming Shyness Step 2 - Imagination
Overcoming Shyness Step 3- Honesty
Overcoming Shyness Step 4- Think Positive
Overcoming Shyness Step 5- No Judgment Zone
Overcoming Shyness Step 6- Build Your Vocabulary
Overcoming Shyness Step 7- Laying Down the Ground Rules
Overcoming Shyness Step 8- Experiment with Voices
Dirty Talk for Shy People - The Best Time to Do It
Other Tactics to Help You Shed Your Fears
Tactic 1 - Naughty Text Messages
Tactic 2 - Reading Erotica Together
Chapter 4: Understanding What Your Partner Likes and Doesn’t Like
It Doesn’t Always Have to Be “Dirty”
What a Man Wants
What A Woman Wants
How to Put Emotion into What You Say
Chapter 5: Dirty Talk When Sex Isn’t Great
Seeking Dirty Talk Inspiration
Dirty Talk for Better Sex
How to Dirty Talk to Her
How to Dirty Talk to Him
Satisfying Your Sexual Fantasies
Orgasmic Dirty Talk
Chapter 6: What to Say Before, During and After an Orgasm
Building Your Partner’s Confidence. It Matters.
The Dirty Talk Framework
Talking Dirty Before Sex
Talking After the Sex Is Done
Common Mistakes to Avoid During Dirty Talk
Chapter 7: Erotic Exercises
During Foreplay
For the Beginner
For the Intermediate
For the Advanced
Dirty, Steamy, Sexting
Last Few Pieces of Advice
Description
Conclusion
Introduction

The language of lust. It can drive even the tamest lover mad with raw,
passionate, carnal desire for you. So much of the sexual talk out there
focuses on techniques, positions, and how to stimulate the erogenous zones
in the body for the maximum amount of pleasure. Yet, there’s one aspect
that remains neglected. An aspect that could turn out to be the key to
unleashing to renewing your sex life with unbridled passion and energy. An
aspect that has the power to drive your partner absolutely wild with desire
and opens the door for mind-blowing sex every time you’re in bed together.
That aspect is the brain, our biggest yet most neglected organ when it
comes to sexual stimulation.

The mind is a beautiful thing and as it turns out, an untapped reserve packed
with sensual stimuli waiting to be awakened. One right word is all it takes
to heighten your lover’s arousal. One right word uttered at the right time
can increase the intensity of the orgasms you have. But mention the words
“dirty talk” and many couples immediately put their guard up and back
away from the subject, treating it as something shameful that should not be
discussed. Why? Why continue to suppress that primal side of our nature
when it could lead to the source of our greatest physical pleasure? Why do
we continue to ignore the power that these words have to help us become
the wild lovers we secretly long to be? Those answers are going to be
explored within the next few chapters.

For too long, dirty talk has been treated as something shameful that many
couples are reluctant to talk about. For some reason, dirty talk has got a bad
rep for itself over the years as “cheap” talk that only prostitutes and porn
stars would resort to. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you’ve
tried everything to get closer to your partner’s raw emotions and increase
the intimacy between the sheets but always seem to fall short, that’s because
you haven’t tried dirty talk. Once you get over the fear of being rejected or
judged for your less than honorable fantasies, you will see how beneficial
this talk can be for your sex life.
The truth is, dirty talk can skyrocket your sex life in a way nothing else can.
Not even the kinkiest toys or the nastiest moves can provide the same
experience you get when you learn to verbalize the naughty thoughts and
desires you’ve kept buried in your mind for so long. It certainly looks like
you’re ready to take your relationship to new heights since you’re here now
with a copy of this book.

By the time you reach the final chapter, you’ll have the confidence you
need to go forth and dirty talk without feeling silly or foolish. Once you
know the rules of this titillating love talk, your sex life is never going to be
the same. This isn’t a book on phrases and words to get your partner horny
enough to jump in the sack with you. It’s a book that is going to be your
guide on how to put the fun back in sex. We’ll talk about the dos and don’ts
and explore examples of phrases you can begin using in your routine as you
f**k partners the way you never have before. In short, this is going to be
your guide to how eloquent the erotic language of love can be.

There are plenty of books on this subject on the market, thanks again for
choosing this one! Every effort was made to ensure it is full of as much
useful information as possible, please enjoy!
Chapter 1: A Brief History of Dirty Talk and Why
It’s Taboo

Ever tried dirty talking with your partner in the bedroom (or out of it)? How
did that feel like? Exciting? Thrilling? Awkward or embarrassing perhaps?
Or maybe you’re not quite sure that dirty talk involves, other than the
examples that you have to go with from porn movies or poorly-directed
adult films. Well, that’s why you’re here reading this book right now. So
you can understand why dirty talk - if it is not already part of your sexual
dynamic - should be used to turn up the heat both outside and inside the
bedroom.

Well, What Is Dirty Talk Exactly?
In the simplest sense, dirty talking is a form of sexual play. Except instead
of using your bodies to seduce your partner this time and try to get them in
the mood, you’re going to be using your words. To be more specific, you’re
going to be phrasing certain words with one purpose in mind. To ignite
your partner’s desire and get them so riled up that they can’t wait to rip
your clothes off. Why does dirty talk work? Because it triggers the
imagination from a different angle. You’re not relying on visuals so much
this time. Instead, you’re going to be using your words to create visuals in
your partner’s mind of what you would like to do to them. Or what you
would like them to do to you.

Dirty talk is meant to be used as an arousal building tool leading up to
intercourse. Instead of going at it right away, you’re going to add some fun
by teasing your partner and toying with their imagination, stimulating their
sexual senses by triggering their imagination to induce the desired response.
Dirty talk is a way of expressing what you need or want from your partner,
and it is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. You’re only human and
you have needs that must be fulfilled. Including sexual needs. When you’re
caught up in the heat of passion as your lovemaking grows increasingly
more vigorous, using dirty talk is only going to increase your desire for
each other. The right phrases can fuel your partner’s already raging
hormones, intensifying their lovemaking that ends in an orgasmic
experience for both of you.

A Brief History of Dirty Talk
Cock. Pussy. Fuck. The genital and sexual connotations are not words
you’re going to hear someone say out loud very often in a sexual reference.
The last is often used as a curse word more so than in dirty talk. In several
languages, the equivalent of these terms used to describe either intercourse
or refer to any part of your genitals is not considered as vulgar as we might
have assumed. So why then, do these words seem to be so tainted in the
English language? Most people would cringe at the very idea of saying
these words out loud to their partner in and outside the bedroom. How did it
come to that? Well, believe it or not, it isn’t sexual related at all.
Surprisingly enough, the reason why these words are so tainted today dates
back to the political conquests that happened almost a thousand years ago.

The story of these so-called “dirty words” begins with the Saxons and the
Angles, and later expanded to include the Scandinavian and Germanic
tribes and the Vikings that were part of the British Isles invasion from A.D.
450 to 1050. During the successive invasion, the indigenous Celts were
driven west towards Ireland and Wales. Great Britain eventually became the
Angle-land before it would eventually go on to be called England. The
Saxons and the Angles at that time spoke the Old German language, which
is a precursor to today’s modern German language. The forerunners of the
“dirty words” we know were used matter-of-factly back then, and per
surviving records, it turns out they were used in daily speech, which would
clearly indicate that these words were not considered vulgar at all back
then.

However, things changed in 1066 when Anglo-Saxon England was
conquered by the Norman French. After what can only be described as a
bloodbath, the Normans finally won and established themselves as the new
nobility of the land. Under the Norman rule, the Old French language was
made the language spoken in the royal cult and only among the cultured
elite. History states that the Normal loved their language and everything
about it from the sing-song cadence to the vowel-laced vocabulary. To the
French, though, the guttural version of proto-English sounded vulgar and
harsh.

For the next 300 years, the Normans would go on to scorn the Germanic
version of proto-English. Kings who were of Norman descent did not speak
any English until about the 14th century. The Normans also tried their hand
at imposing French on the peasants of the new land. A few of the Anglo-
Saxons picked it up but continued speaking in proto-English using difficult,
short, consonant-filled words. These included the words that we view today
as vulgar. This was the preface of guttural speech and the Norman elite
were appalled by it. They completely despised these “dirty” peasants and
the “dirty” words that they used. Eventually, the French would end up
losing the war. The outcome is that a lot of the English words we use today,
despite being more of a Germanic language than anything else, is derived
from French. However, even though the French were on their way to being
defeated even in the linguistical department, they were still successful in
their attempts to drive the Anglo-Saxonism underground. They went on to
banish these from everyday speech until sometime during the mid-20th
century.

The truth is, there is nothing about the Anglo-Saxon sexual words that are
unsavory. They simply got the short end of the stick where vocabulary was
concerned since they were conquered. They may have lost the war, but the
genital and sexual terms continued to live on and still do today. The word
“pussy” for example is a common “dirty” word that is used a lot these days
to refer to that area between a woman’s legs. The interesting history behind
the word begins with this Anglo-Saxon term that was derived from two
languages, Old Norse, and Old German. “Puss” meant cat (naturally) while
“Pusa” meant pouch. Etymologists trace “puss” as far back to mean cats
and women at that time were poetically associated with them. Until today,
the terms “Kitty” and “Kat” (common nicknames associated with the name
Katharine) are used to describe women who make “catty” or malicious
comments. It’s not hard to see how “puss” slowly evolved from a
description of our soft, furry pets to the soft, “furry” spot between a
woman’s legs.

What People Think About Dirty Talk
Most of the time when we hesitate to do something, it’s because we’re too
caught up in our heads. Overthinking leads to inaction, and that philosophy
is no different when it comes to dirty talking. If you think about it, dirty talk
when done correctly, makes you tingle in the right places and sends a shiver
up your spine. So, why all this tiptoeing and awkwardness when anyone
mentions dirty talk? The answer is taboo. Ever since we were little kids, we
were taught not to say dirty words because they were bad. It was not what
good girls or boys were supposed to do and that is a belief we have carried
with us into adulthood.

Which explains why dirty talk has the potential to rev up your sex life in
ways you didn’t imagine. Going against the rules makes it feel adventurous,
and once the bedroom door closes and it’s you and your partner alone,
societal conventions go out the window. For as long as we can remember
we have been pre-programmed to believe that sex is not something you
openly talk about and it is a subject best left behind closed doors between
two people. Despite the easy access to more sexual content these days,
talking or reading about sex is enough to make us blush at the thought of
what would happen if someone found out we were doing this. As much as
we would like to believe we’re “free”, our minds are still bound by the old
rules, and therefore we strive to be good boys and girls in the bedroom. Yet,
all this stigma around dirty talk is precisely what makes it so exciting!

In some ways, being able to say out loud all the dirty little thoughts you’ve
had about your partner in your mind is liberating. You find them attractive,
why not let them know how much they turn you on? Revealing your
innermost kinky thoughts is even more intimate than taking all your clothes
off because you’re baring your soul to the person you care about or love.
The right amount of dirty words used might be just what you need to send
your partner over the edge with an orgasm that is going to leave them
smiling for hours even after it’s over. Yes, you read that correctly. There is a