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by  Kevin Mack

Welcome to the
How to Lay Girls Guide
By Ross Jeffries et al.
This is an original version that ran until July 10, 2000.
Table of Contents

Introduction - forget money, forget fame, just cut to the chase and get the girls:).

Reference:
Common abbreviations and acronyms - all acronyms used in the guide explained.
Links and prominent personalities on the net / ASF - the people who have contributed the most to this
guide.
Estonian translations - if you want to seduce some Estonian girls:)

General rules:
The 3 seconds rule - the most important rule you'll ever learn, say bye-bye to hesitation.
Look and feel your best - all the time!
Be the Alpha/Dominant male - be in charge of your surroundings. Including the girls:)
Do my looks matter? - yes they do, but not nearly as much as you think.
Nice guys vs jerks - the key difference between the two explained.
Good traits to have - or develop, to be a successful player.
It all comes down to satisfaction - read why you actually have the upper hand with the most beautiful of
women.
Women want good sex - so make sure you do her right:)
Should you express or contain your sexual desires? - a moot point, read why.
Wanna play the dating game? - ... um... let's see now...
The rules with your wingman - if you approach girls together with a friend / wingman, make sure you agree
on the rules.

Getting started:
On confidence - and getting started with approaching girls.
Experiment! - don't think twice, don't look back, just have fun!.
Casual meetings vs pick-ups - the pros and cons.
At a party - a mild alternative to the 3s rule.
Just say "Hi" - then continue with one of the two tactics described in the article.
Talk to girls - everywhere!
How to initiate a conversation - here's your back-up, in case your primary parashoot doesn't open.
Talking to her = echoing her - a stripped down version of Trance words and Eliciting values.
Fluff talk - the essential skill of talking about nothing, and how to evolve from that.
The "don't"s of fluff talk - what to avoid.
Reading body language - its like reading people's thoughts, it'll blow you away:)
Mirroring - the Jedi mind tricks of body-language explained.
Kinaesthetics - make touching the girls your second nature, even (and especially!:) if you just met them,
they'll love it:)

Approaching and making them interested:
Where to meet girls - the most popular places for a pick-up.
If she seems unapproachable - then maybe everyone thinks so... and she's all alone.
General guidelines on approaching - a few pointers and examples to get you started.
Demonstrate value and personality - the basic premise of seduction.
The importance of a first impression - or relative unimportance, depending on whether you're an AFC or a
PUA:)
Pace and lead - and demonstrate understanding to increase rapport.

Approaches
• Simple approaches - examples of various conversational approaches.
• The cold approach - not a good approach, unless you combine this with the GM style.
• The collision approach - either let her walk by... or "bump" into her:)
• The available chair approach - that emp ty chair next to a HB looks inviting...:)
• The crappy sketch-artist approach - because women like artists right?:)
• The dramatic approach - catch everyone's attention... including her's:)
• The cellular approach - to choose any topic of discussion.
• The familiar approach - act like you already know her, or fool her into thinking she knows you:)
• Pez opener - a really "sweet" opener by Mystery:)
• You look stunning approach - Ross Jeffries' classic, careful though, not intended for use with the
9s and 10s:)
• Pacing the ongoing reality - a simple way to get instant rapport.
• Should I buy her a drink? - read why you'd better avoid it.
• Should I ask for her name? - so that you'd know what name to yell when you're sleeping with your
hand?:)
• Leech off someone else's crash and burn - anything is fair in love and war:)
• If she is working - a waitress, a nurse, a girl at the cashier - this one is universal.
• If you just have to use a pick-up line - they suck, unless you show you know they suck.
• "I like..." game as an opener - you can use this one anywhere.
• Mr Smooth technique - the game-show host style technique of a Japanese PUA explained step by
step.
• The questions game - a shortcut to sex-talk and kissing.

Gimmicks - palm-reading
• Use a gimmick to get going - handwriting analysis, tarot cards, palmistry - "crap" you say?:)
• Palm-reading - why should you use it? -
• Reading the lines in general - a do-it-yourself guide to becoming a gypsy:)
• Reading the line of Fate - yes please:)
• Reading her love-life - uuuhh... sounds interesting:)
• Reading the line of Heart - good, good:)
• Reading the mount of Venus - oh no... where is that?!:)
• A sample reading routine - a few examples to give you the general idea.

Night-clubs and dancing
• Night-clubs vs other places to meet girls - a few words of warning.
• How to switch to the right mindset - set yourself apart from "death row".
• Asking for a dance - just honour the traditions. If you want to get nowhere:).
• About dancing - unless you have the skills of a back-up dancer, don't waste your energy.
• Slow dancing - an exception to the "don't waste your energy rule" above:)
• Fast dance to slow dance - a superiour technique of transitioning to a slow-dance no matter the
music:)
• After the dance - now that you've got her, don't let her slip away.

Group tactics
• If she is with a friend - or even worse, a group of friends? How do you approach?
• Approaching a group of many girls - a simpler strategy for approaching groups.
• How to have her leave the group - a passive strategy... but still pretty good:)
Neghits
• Neghits explained - Mystery shows you what gets you the attention of the most beautiful girls.
• Neghits expansion pack - some additional advice on using neghits and a few examples.

Eliciting values
• Eliciting values explained - become the man of her dreams, just by talking to her:)
• Trance words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Patterning).
• Calibrate the girl - and you can read her like an open book.
• Eliciting values - introducing the questions - how to ask the questions without sounding obtrusive.
• Eliciting values - the questions - so what questions should you ask?
• Eliciting values - the answers - now that you know her values, it is time to talk about "yourself":)
• The perfect relationship - a simple value-eliciting scheme.

GM style
• GM style explained - I bet you won't believe that this actually works:) Well, it does:)
• GM style lines - completely outrageous!:)
• GM style expansion pack - a continuation of the GM style, links to appropriate articles.

Sexual talk
• Talking about sex - a few words of warning.
• Use sexual stories to get her horny - can you get away with it? Or, can she get away... without a
wet spot in her pants:)
• The Ideal Guy routine - no matter her interest for you, use this to get her horny (and be around
when that happens:).

Patterning
• Patterning explained - the essence of Ross Jeffries' Speed Seduction.
• Delivering patterns - general rules - the most important aspects.
• Delivering patterns - tonality - the right way to do it.

Additional patterning skills
• Trance words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Eliciting values).
• Anchoring explained - the Pavlov's reflex of seduction:)
• Quoting and stacking realities - you can get away with anything using this (also relates to "Sexual
talk":)
• Time distortion - how to make a girl you just met feel like you've been friends forever:)
• Bullshit fantasies - a powerful application of time distortion (relates to Time distortion).
• Thought binding - an excellent article by Ross Jeffries.
• Submodalities - an explanation plus an excercise in removing hesitation.
• Read romance novels to enrich your patterning language - the cause justifies the means:)
• Common misconceptions and problems with patterning - and how to overcome them.

The patterns
• Introducing patterns into a discussion - without sounding unnatural. Also how to approach.
• Discovery Channel pattern - "the ride goes up and down and once you get off, you want to come
again and again":)
• Stone Necklace pattern - tell her a breathless/speechless-making story:)
• The Trust pattern - alleviate her most common fears.
• The Rose patterns - and she'll be obsessed with you:) 3 patterns.
• Believing the Supernatural patterns - "destinies", "higher beings", "chi energies"; feed her with her
favourite food:)
• Passion to Passion pattern - shift her passion from "something" to "someone".
• Mental Screen pattern - "close eyes, imagine great feelings, open eyes, see... me?:)"
• Peak Experience pattern - exchange peak experiences with her.
• Natural Woman pattern - show her you know the secret and natural side of her.
• Meeting the Perfect Man pattern - and she'll feel what its like... in your presence:)
• Feeling Drawn patterns - descriptions of initial attraction plus examples of using vague language.
4 patterns.
• Incredible Connection patterns - the classic and its various derivatives. 12 patterns.
• Falling in Love patterns - make her feel the feeling of falling in love:) 7 patterns.
• The Dream pattern - help a girl have dreams about you.
• Being Similar pattern - and she'll feel what you feel (a growing boner?:).
• "Too bad we don't… but if we could…" pattern - you can describe almost any state you want to
her with this one:)
• Find Your Desire pattern - and turn good girls into "naughty":).
• Sex is Natural pattern - you're adults, you can talk intelligently about sex... right:)?
• "The more... the more.." pattern - a simple yet powerful application of thought binding.
• Reading the Poem pattern - transition from patterning to reciting poetry.
• The Eyes patterns - what better topic to talk about than her eyes. 2 patterns.
• I Want You pattern - transition from patterning to kissing:)
• At Least We Can Be Friends pattern - LJBF her into tearing your clothes off on the spot:)
• Indifference to Attraction patterns - convert her from friend to lover:) 3 patterns.
• Find That Girl pattern - reinstate her faith in men.
• Blow Job patterns - these are supposed to make her want to... well, you figure it out:) 2 patterns.
• Backdoor Pleasure patterns - the funniest patterns ever:) Read and you'll know why:) 3 patterns.
• The Void pattern - the contrast of feeling empty versus feeling happy and fulfilled..
• The Door pattern - a pattern so evil, that even Ross Jeffries has denounced this one.
• Presuppositions and other "mind-tricks" - don't leave her any choice:)

Long-distance seduction
• Become your own "friend" - to put in a good word with her:)
• Patterning over the phone - sounds lucrative... but is it worth it?
• Nick-name tease - isn't a woman's curiosity a wonderful thing:)?

Now that she's interested:
Common signs of interest - to know you're "in":)
Building a bridge AFC-style - if you can't do anything, do it at least the AFC way:)
If more than one girl is interested in you - don't choose, you might loose:)
Reading the signs of a "committed" woman - understand her seemingly contradictory signs, and the door
will be open:)
Capitalise - there's a girl that has started liking you quite on her own!? Now don't let that window close:)
Making a timely exit - instead on lingering on forever, leave her hungry for more.
Closing - how to get a girl to give you her number and a kiss:)
Asking for a... date? - now that you have her number... what next?
Proceeding instead of closing - for why would you want to "close" if things are going smooth?
Our World routine - constructing a world for her in which she will feel free to make love to you:)
Inviting the girl over to your place - to "check out a book or something...":)
If she has second-thoughts - she wants it but can't quite make up her mind, "help" her:)
My home is my love-nest - make sure you can be confident about the quality of your retreat.
Networking and pivots - if you're not quite interested anymore or she's not quite interested yet.

Handling the girls:
Be busy - attract girls by being "busy".
Suggest competition - keep her on her toes.
Put a price on yourself - the more you "cost", the more value she attributes to you.
Show a willingness to walk away - don't let her take you for granted.
Use her friends - by realising, that "friendship" also means "rivalry".
Judge her by her actions, not by her words - or rather, let her actions speak the words.
Have and reveal secrets - provide a constant thrill for the woman.
Use poetry - women are about feelings; poems are about feelings - and mixing the two gets you dynamite:)
12 poems.
If she compliments you - make her feel good for having done that:)
Act like its special - and what you have can not be found anywhere else.
Paying her a compliment - an AFC trap, unless you do it right.
Cook for her and "date" at home - the main dish will be less expensive and the "dessert" more convenient:)
When should you call a woman after having sex with her? - don't blow it, she'll be very sensitive and tender
about this one.
Romantic gifts and things to do - but use these to reward, not to bribe.
Managing many relationships at once - best policy is (tailored:) honesty.

Troubleshooting:
If she asks for YOUR number instead - don't fall for this (relates to Closing).
If she still refuses to give you her number - a strategy of covert persistence.
If she says "Why do you ask?" - read how to recover (relates to Patterning and Eliciting values).
If she asks "Are you trying to seduce me?" - this isn't trouble actually (she likes it:), but you still need to
know how to answer.
"Have you ever...?" gets busted - what do you do, if she says "No" in response (relates to Patterning).
Ejecting - you don't always have to close. Know when to cut your losses.
If she cancels a date - she screwed you (and not the way you hoped she would:). Now what?
If she doesn't return your phone-calls/e-mails - a zero-tolerance policy.
If she shows disrespect for you - you dump her, aka The Returning Fox Theory.
The age difference problem - you shouldn't anticipate it, but its good to be prepared.
Nothing works with the girl - and you tried all your techniques. But there's an ace up your sleeve:)
If she says "Let's just be friends" - looks like you're in trouble, read how to recover.
Dealing with rejection - why you should never get rejected and how to cope with it, if you do.
But I really want this girl! - read why this is such a self-defeating attitude.

The boyfriend problem
• If she says she has a boyfriend - never prompt for it, but if she says it anyway, don't just bail yet.
• Alienating the boyfriend in her mind - from "Sweep women off their feet". Sayanora borefriends!
• Boyfriend-smashing techniques - by NYC. Adios borefriends!
• Boyfriend destroyer patterns - Hasta la vista borefriends! 6 patterns.
Micellaneous:
Fun and games - you'll love these:) "The kissing bet", "Osama", "A-Hole + truth or dare".
Bad jokes - careful:) "Pants in the air", "Telepathic watch", "Spermogram", "Doctor's appointment",
"Voodoo dildo" etc.
A game of Crash and Burn - guess it depends on your definition of fun:) But a great experience (and
confidence?:) builder.
More things to do for fun - useless, but fun:)
Top colognes - for getting the girls, of course.
Miscellaneous suggestions and observations about seduction - a recap.

Articles:
The Iranian from hell - do your looks matter? Read this report by Maniac High and decide for yourself:)
Eye contact experiment - David Shade finds out, how girls react to eye-contact with a stranger.
The pivot theory - NYC explains the benefits of making girls your pivots.
Ross comments on www.introme.com - his one-page website / personals ad full of NLP and SS.
Falling in love vs being a player - in case you have any feelings of guilt.
A female seducer turning straight girls into bi and lesbian - if you're a girl reading "How to Lay Girls", this
one's for you:)
Article in Rolling Stone - a tour of modern seduction literature, NLP and Speed Seduction.
Article in Playboy - the Harvard-educated journalist experiences a paradigm shift .
Job Interview patterns - a different perspective on NLP and patterning. 2 patterns.

Field reports:
The rich and famous setup - but even more accurately the "tired of female attention" setup:)
The effectiveness of persistence with a smile - true seduction (choose and seduce:), not a numbers game or
easy girls.
Svengali's street pick-up - a classic street pick-up using humour, romance, sex-talk and kino with
confidence.
Svengali's friend's street pick-up - a "neg" of sorts gets the ball rolling:)
The original Mr Smooth posts - Maniac High describes the technique of a Japanese PUA.
NightShadow's IRC seduction - an example of an image to create good feelings.
David Shade's online seduction - this guy is really good:) A log of him and a married woman.
David Shade's real-life seduction - and he's not just a computer geek cowering behind his keyboard:) Read
and gasp:)
Maniac High's report, NYC's comments - important points being discussed.
The Orgasmotron - Alex Akselrod plants a post-hypnotic suggestion.
The 3 seconds rule

Even if you really cannot think of anything to initiate a conversation with a girl, whatever you do, don't
break the 3s rule! Act in 3 seconds nevertheless, even if you have no idea, how to continue. If you act in 3
seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just popped in from or where you popped in from or how
you happened to pass each other by in a given geographical location. She will see the spontaneity in your
approach and it will work in your favour. If however you wait and hesitate and then decide to approach,
you are in a decidedly weaker situation.

If you just arrived and accessed her in 3 seconds, she will know it was spontaneous because she noticed
you arrive whether she wanted to or not - you were a change in a static environment. Or if she just arrived
and you accessed her in 3 seconds, she will recognise the spontaneity of it again, because you couldn't have
accessed her before - she simply had not yet arrived. If however you just pop out of nowhere - she didn't
see you arrive neither did she just arrive and the only change in a static environment was you accessing her
- you just might set off her stalker alarm. Who knows, how long you've been following her or watching her
in secret or gobbling her up with your eyes. Spooky! Argh, get away you freak! So the only way to avoid a
situation like that is to use the 3s rule. Besides not setting off any alarms of her because of the obvious
spontaneity of your approach, you are also doing yourself a favour. In three seconds, you have no time to
become sweaty, trembling, stuttering - to acquire all the sure-fire signs of an AFC lacking any confidence,
substance or consequence, a failure with women and life in general, a complete repellent of beautiful girls.
So even if you start sweating, stuttering and trembling while talking to you, you weren't that way when you
initiated contact - you just didn't have the time for that. And it's the first impression that counts. And if that
first impression of you was that of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you were positive
from the star, which in turns greatly the diminishes the chances of you turning into a plateful of jelly while
having a conversation with her.

The 3 seconds rule of course is not an absolute - you may simply not have noticed her, while not
specifically being tied up with something that might have stopped you from approaching her, or while still
noticing her, you might have been busy with something (or somebody:). The three seconds start counting
from the moment you have spotted her AND are free to approach. But when these two conditions are met,
you really don't have the time to ponder, whether or not SHE noticed that you didn't approach her because
you were either too busy or simply oblivious - the clock is ticking, so move it!

ASF: "The worst part of not using the 3s rule is when the girl sees you hesitating."

ASF: "When approaching these chicks, I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (which I rely on heavily)
and tried to pick out something about them to comment on. It could be a book, something they are wearing,
questions about something that they MAY (not necessarily DO) have knowledge on, something we have in
common, whatever."
Judge her by her actions, not her words

It happens ever too often. You're with a girl and she SAYS she's gonna have to go home. Once you reach
her house, she doesn't seem to have the slightest of intention of leaving you. In silent agreement you move
on to "take a loot at" your house:) Or she SAYS she doesn't sleep with a guy on the first night, or she
SAYS it is too soon etc etc. Now these were all positive examples of what she SAYS is necessarily not
what she wants or eventually DOES:) But nothing to complain about, right?:)

Wrong. Because the opposite is quite common as well - although she promises this and that, makes
excuses, is sorry ("Oh, I'll call you", "Oh, I was soo busy, I just didn't have any time!", "I lost your number,
what was it?", "We'll do it next Tuesday, I promise!" etc) but NEVER delivers - which can leave an AFC
hanging on and hoping 'til retirement and then some.

In the words of Ross Jeffries: "WATCH WHAT YOUR PROSPECTS DO AND NOT WHAT THEY
SAY!! Especially with women who are excellent excuse makers and bamboozlers. The ONLY real key to a
prospect being qualified is THE ACTION SHE TAKES! ALWAYS LOOK FIRST AND FOREMOST AT
HOW A WOMAN IS TREATING YOU AND IF YOU ARE BEING TREATED WITH PRIORITY AND
RESPECT. ONLY THEN LOOK AT THE CHARACTERISTICS AND QUALITIES YOU LIKE IN
THAT WOMAN!

One of the primary differences between "jerks" and "nice guys" is what they focus on. The jerk is first and
foremost focused on how he is being treated and each move he makes is put through the test: "will this
increase or decrease the priority she gives me?". If the answer is decrease... THE JERK DOESN'T DO
IT!!! Nice guys (chronic masturbators) by way of contrast, focus on the characteristics they like in the girl.
They ignore or overlook rude behaviour from her. They act to show their appreciation and interest in her
rather than to get respect which is why, like Rodney Dangerfield... THEY DON'T GET ANY!!!"
Building a bridge AFC-style

ASF: "YOU are interested in her, SHE appears interested in you, what you need is a bridge to open
communications: such bridges are constructed from a readily available material known commonly as
bullshite. Think up some credible or not so credible story & get over there and knock on her door. You
could tell her you're thinking of buying a dog and ask here advice, you could say you've noticed she drinks
beer & you know of a good supplier, you could tell her you're doing a survey (you have a PC, so make
some convincing looking questionnaires), you could tell her you're selling insurance or anything. It doesn't
matter: you know its bullshit and she knows its bullshit. If she's receptive, as appears, it doesn't matter,
she'll play along - that's one of the reasons why god put bullshit on earth. If not, she'll tell you to fuck off:
so what?"

Update. The Spare Shoe technique. This is a variation of building an AFC-style bridge with a little less
AFC-ness and a little more PUA-ness. Don't be fooled however, the fact that the bridge is built out of BS
doesn't have to mean it won't hold, especially if she is laughing her way across the bridge:)

Benjamin Strackany, mindlist: "Go up there one evening and bring a shoe or shirt or something. Knock on
her door. When she answers, say, "Hey, you, I was just passing by and I noticed this shoe here. Is it yours?"
Well, of course she'll say no, and then you smile and reply, "Oh, hmm, well, I guess it must be mine then.
So what're you up to?" Then chat a little more and then run an SS pattern on her. Or chat a bit more and
then sit down in her doorway and continue talking as if everything is natural. She'll notice and laugh and
either invite you in or else ask what you're doing. You can then reply, "Oh, I was getting a little tired
standing up, but we're having such fun talking that I decided to rest a bit so I could put all my energy into
making you laugh." She'll smile and either sit down to continue talking or else invite you in.

Even if she's busy, the above should make a cute impression, and you can follow up with an SS pattern to
ask her out to coffee."