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Page TableofContents Page TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction 1) What Is Your Purpose? 2) Positive Emotions = Positive Relationships 3) Bringing Her Into Your World 4) The Social Self – Presenting yourself With Power 5) Communicating With Women 6) A Look With Style 7) Living With Passion Conclusion Introduction Page Introduction Page “Well, I have finally done it”, I thought. “I have just bought a book that is going to help me with women – how pathetic. I am such a worthless specimen of man that I now need guidance just to get a date? Geez!” A few years ago, I admitted to myself that I wanted help with women. So much so that I threw down some money for a book similar to this one. I was coming off of a devastating break-up. It was one of those relationships where I was considering mar- rying the girl. She had met my family, and they loved her. I had met her family, and they loved me. Hell, I had even passed through the icy stare of her father to the point of us heading out to walk the dogs on occasion. I was “in”, wasn’t I? Nope. Not even close. I had made some critical errors when relating with women that ALWAYS reverse at- traction, leaving me alone, once again. So, I made it my mission to get this area “handled” ASAP. When I took the great leap into the immense amount of information about meeting women, dating and seduction, I discovered A LOT of confusion, mixed messages and very complex theories. To say I was fascinated would be an understatement. Within a year, I emerged as one of the best at meeting and dating women in the world. That is, until “the chase” became unsatisfying and unfulfilling. In the end, I was living in a sweet pad in the Hollywood Hills, taking guys out to the clubs on a nightly basis, demonstrating before their very eyes the exact methods I used so that they could do it themselves. Was it effective at getting me laid? You bet. Was it fulfilling my wish for a relationship? Nope. Not even close. Introduction Page You see, I had become a “player” whose sole mission was to conquer women into bed, rather than relate to them as equals. What I learned was that you can’t be a pretender and have meaningful and rich relationships with others. Players attract players. More often than not, the women I met were just like me – interested in games, followed by a little rumble in the hay. Girlfriend material? Not even close! Who you are is what you attract in the opposite sex. What you give to the world is what you get in return. Quality women would look at me and instinctively know I was a short-term guy, only looking for one thing. They knew I couldn’t be trusted. You know what? They made the right decision. I had to take a long, hard, look at myself. Why was this happening? I had “mastered” these skills for attracting women, so why was I still so unhappy? You see, I got sidetracked. When I started to learn methods for being successful with women, I got seduced into “the chase”. I had forgotten that what I truly wanted was companionship, intimacy and love. I had taken the easier road. “Picking-up” was easy, relating to women without games was much harder, and forded me to grow up. I can see now, in retrospect, why I would gravitate towards the carrot of instant grati- fication. It’s EASIER. But I now know that it is not the way to satisfaction and happiness. I had to change. As with everything in life, the problem was with me and not with the world. I knew that there were social skills helpful in attracting women. In fact, we are going to cover those in Chapter V of this book. What I didn’t realize though was that there were some necessary life skills that I was missing. Based on my research and work around the world, MOST guys are missing these skills. And the big surprise? MOST of these skills have nothing to do with women. And ALL of them are necessary if you want to truly master your social life and meet the right women for you. They are about YOU. If you are able to embrace and incorporate these skills you will NEVER experience dis- satisfaction with women again. Why? Because you will be an attractive man, magne- tizing women into your world. You will attract them rather than chase them. Introduction Page The aim of this book is to help you understand what it means to be an attractive man, and to teach you how to swiftly incorporate those skills into your life. Honestly, this is THE book I needed when I entered the dating community. How do most guys meet women? Through their social circle, right? You are at a party thrown by a friend of yours, and there are lots of people there, including this cute girl who is a friend of a friend. Next thing you know, you are talking with her, you are into her and she is into you. You have her phone number, you give her a call, you go out on a date…this scenario happens DAILY. I would even say it happens HOURLY guys! I help you master this topic in great detail in Chapter IV. Ever want to be the coolest guy in your social circle? Well, you’re about to be. Also, I will even give you the simple, easy skills you need to meet women anytime and anywhere. With this ebook, you will learn those TOO. I understand how it is, you are out with friends, and there “she” is. You want to meet her, and you want a simple plan of action to follow. I will give you that too. It is easy, and highly effective. Meet- ing women is NOT rocket science guys. I have learned every trick in the book, and saved only the ones that WORK. Become an attractive man by understanding the concepts I am about to outline in this book, and watch your success with women skyrocket. If I could use one word to describe the essence of these skills, it would be “autonomy”. An autonomous man is one who is self-governing and independent. He appreciates and enjoys others, and he is truly LIVING his own life. He selects who he spends time with socially, and he is pursuing his career with passion and determination. He sees challenges rather than problems. He is not immune to failure or pain, but he is willing to face these things and take responsibility for where he has gone wrong. Everything in life is seen as a positive experience. He is a source of positive emotions around his friends and loved-ones. He gives and receives love freely, and is willing to be vulnera- ble even if it means getting hurt. He understands how to communicate with people in such a way that is inviting and positive. He is willing to risk, and willing to risk being honest when it counts the most. He lives in his own reality, and is the sovereign over Introduction Page all of his decisions. In short, he is the kind of guy that women hope to meet their entire lives…he is a man, in the truest sense. These are the skills that this book describes, and that you can learn by applying the principles I discuss in each chapter. Wouldn’t you enjoy walking through life feeling the benefits of true autonomy, relying on nothing outside of yourself to bring you happiness? Imagine being the guy with his life in order, who has a vital social circle, a focused career path, a financial future, a stylish look, fully autonomous and happy who ALSO knows how to meet women comfortably through his social circle and with a smooth approach? This is the maximum edge in dating and relationships. You are about to be introduced to the seven skills necessary to attain this. So, I encourage you to read closely, and take on the challenge of internalizing these skills. You won’t be disap- pointed. As you read, I encourage you to really question yourself. “Does this describe me?” “Can I help myself in this area?” “Am I really meeting my goals?” “Am I satisfied in my relationships with women? With everyone?” “Am I truly happy?” The first two skills I cover focus on the internal aspects that lead to meaningful and lasting relationships. These two skills are challenging to cultivate, and take a little time to fully understand. I place them first because they are the most important. No one lives perfectly by these. I encourage you to make allowances for your own humanity, and relax into a process of learning. Having the expectation that I will “arrive” some- day perfectly living by these skills is a certain way to sabotage the inevitable growth process. For this reason, I have suggested a number exercises at the end of each chapter to help cement the principles discussed. I suggest a journal for your responses to these exercises, and any additional notes or ideas that cross your mind. The final five chapters provide more tactical advice. However, elements from all chapters can be incorporated into your life TODAY. By trimming the fat, and only including what is VERIFIED to work, I have streamlined the process so that it is simple and swift for you. Like I said, this is THE book I wish that I had when I began this journey. A guide to both understanding the internal components to healthy relationships, and expert “how Introduction Page to” advice to meeting and dating beautiful women on MY terms – no more will you need to rely on luck and chance. This book is about empowering you with true choice. The first skill is in understanding the power of discovering your true purpose. Your purpose serves to direct and aim your life in a way that provides you with reliable and consistent power. It also helps to synthesize all of the elements we will discuss in chapters 2-. Mostly though, a man on a mission is extremely attractive to women. It becomes the truest gauge for her to know if you are a man of integrity or a child of empty promises. Let’s get started.. WhatIsYourPurpose? Page WhatIsYourPurpose? Page The first part of this book discusses the necessary components of a confident, secure, attractive inner life. Women are very sensitive to the energy or “vibe” that a man has. Without a solid and centered inner life, a man projects insecurity and fear to the world. Women can intuit this, and will screen him out of her romantic options. The second part of this book covers the external areas you need to get handled: engaging women in conversation; owning a stylish, attractive look; mastering flirting, teasing and story- telling; complimenting women; and living an attractive lifestyle. Let’s get started now with the first, and most critical idea you must grasp – what is your purpose? * * * * * * * * * * Every man must have a purpose, what is yours? What is the one goal or aim which is currently focusing your energy in a specific direction? Perhaps it is financial freedom, or vitalizing your social life. Whatever it is, you need to identify it, focus on it, and devote your life to it. To be attractive to women, you need to know what your purpose is and move passionately toward its fulfillment. Aimless, uninspired men are less attractive and tend to be unhappy and single. In short, to have a purpose is to be secure. Let me explain… The ability to focus on a purpose is a fundamental, innate aspect of masculinity. Throughout history, men have taken on the roles of being Kings, Presidents, “bread- winners”, warriors, and spiritual leaders. While it is true that women seek out these roles, particularly in contemporary society, these are traditionally male positions. Be- ing devoted to a purpose, focused on a goal, harmonizes a man’s energy, and therefore his actions, his lifestyle. This focus is the necessary taproot from which the remaining skills in this book will flow. The modern age is synonymous with chaotic activity and constant stimulation. Being surrounded by television, radio, internet, traffic, buildings, signs, noise etc. continually draws attention and focus away from your center, away from yourself. In the midst of this constant bombardment, it is easy and common to lose sight of the meaning and purpose of ones life. Without a specific focus and identified purpose, a man’s activities become decentralized and chaotic, resembling his environment. The male contribution to a relationship and family is one of support and security. The primary element that WhatIsYourPurpose? Page 0 women unconsciously seek in men is their ability to provide security (to be discussed later). In order to fully provide this, a man MUST realize his purpose and work towards it with passion. This is the foundation of his security with himself. He must be centered in himself before he can supply this to a relationship. In Chinese medicinal philosophy, yang energy is male energy. The yang energy is one of concentration, focus and support. If we take the simple analogy of a plant, the root structure is the yang energy while the flowering, visible plant would be the yin. Be- ing steady, supportive and nourishing are pure masculine traits. Having the habit of being devoted to ones purpose allows women to relax and be supported by men. This support allows the feminine to flower and flourish, realizing its own innate purpose. Women sense a man’s obedience to his aim, and can therefore trust him. For if a man cannot honor and attend to his deepest purpose, how can he honor and attend to her, or anything else? This trait is fundamental to harnessing a mature masculinity, and to being attractive. Women can intuitively sense this about the men in their lives. Having a magnetic, centered, focused purpose is critical to healthy relationships for men. This focus releases a depth of passionate energy as your life activities reorganize themselves around your purpose. You will find yourself less susceptible to time-wasting activities. This is a TREMENDOUS by-product to harnessing your life around an aim. Having acknowledged your life’s purpose, it will be easier to prioritize your activities. Also, the intelligence of your intuition will be audible, bringing you satisfaction when obey your instincts, and pain when you do not. You will grow to love the feeling of meaning and purpose, and when that feeling shifts off center, you will notice. A man’s instinct is like a finely tuned instrument, and when he lives devoted to a purpose, his music is poetic. When he drifts off course, his life lacks the harmony and power he needs. It is important in these moments to be aware of what you are doing, cease the activity, and move towards actions that can bring you closer to your purpose. Think of some of the most successful men in the world. Donald Trump is a great example. Can you imagine him spending his entire Sunday watching NFL football? Can WhatIsYourPurpose? Page you see him killing time surfing the web? Of course not! He is devoted to his purpose, and focused on being successful. And when he isn’t working, he is enjoying the spoils of success and his gorgeous wife. Time is precious in the high stakes business world. Or, take an exceptional athlete like Tiger Woods. He is notorious for daily practices, workouts, and strict dieting all in the name of winning major championships. Notice he doesn’t necessarily concern himself with winning regular PGA tour events. He is focused on winning the major championships because he knows that is how greatness is measured in golf. Of course, if you are able to win major championships, you are also able to win regular tour events. Think Tiger has time to waste while he pursues this high-level of success? Donald Trump and Tiger Woods are extreme examples of focus and purpose. They illustrate effectively the highest level of focus, with maximum results. For most of us, these extremes are unrealistic. However, they do illustrate the importance of eliminat- ing those activities which are not in harmony with your purpose and moving with passion towards a specific aim. I want to be clear about something: I am not suggesting that you become a machine, and lose all balance in your life. Do not, for example, allow your current relationships to suffer because you want to spend an extra hour in the office pursuing your goal of becoming CEO. However, if your current relationships are suffering because you re- fuse to stop hitting the bars during the week, then you have a problem. I propose that you maintain balance, while harnessing your energy around a goal or purpose, and eliminate needless, wasteful activity. In other words, don’t lose sight of the forest for the trees. Also, your purpose will change from time to time. You might spend 6 months getting your finances handled. Once this is attained, your purpose might change to enlarging your business or training for a marathon. You must be open to these shifts and chang- es in yourself, and honor yourself as you evolve. Your purpose is to be discovered, not decided. So, take a minute now and ask yourself, what is my life commanding of me? What is within the realm of my immediate control that is most urgent and necessary? What area of my life causes me the greatest WhatIsYourPurpose? Page concern? What part of me causes me the greatest pain? What must you do in order to die complete? If you were to be told that your life would end in one year’s time, what would you be driven to do? (Can you see now that this book covers topics a bit more crucial than how to pick-up girls??) Take 5-10 minutes now and write down the responses to these questions. As you write, try to sense what it is that calls you to action NOW. A man always has a purpose, it is up to him to discover it, focus on it, and devise a plan of action to realize it in reality, IN HIS LIFE. Go for it, and write these responses now. Now, I want you to write down your specific purpose as a declaration. It may seem cheesy, but trust me, it is necessary! Here are some examples: Iamdevotedtoincreasingthescopeofmysocialcircle.Idesiremoresophisticated,intelligent, attractivepeopletospendtimewithandenlargemysociallife. I am focused on finishing the New York Marathon this year. I love fitness, and love the discipline that training for a race gives my life. I will train 6 times per week, and I will finish the raceinunder5hours. My aim is to learn to manage my money. I will read “XXX” and take John Doe’s seminar on money management in New York next month. I will pay myself first with all deposits, and will learntoinvestthemoneyIamsaving. These are examples to follow when putting pen to paper and writing down your purpose. Even if you don’t know, or feel unclear, take a few days and “test drive” the first idea that comes to mind. After a few days, you will know if there is any truth to it or not. Take a couple of minutes now and write this down. If you are still struggling with knowing your purpose, make discovering it your purpose. In other words, focus on discovering your purpose. Try some on for a while, explore things which have always interested you. Being open in the face of not knowing is the beginning of truly knowing. Making knowing your purpose your aim can be very powerful. WhatIsYourPurpose? Page Remember, having a purpose is the key to unlocking a fullest capacity of masculine energy within you. As you write this down, you should experience a rush of energy and feeling into you. You might also have the experience of no longer having an interest in certain activities. This is GOOD. As you increase focus, your time will reorganize around the clear priorities you are now identifying. Wasteful activities will bring dis- satisfaction, signaling you to shift into actions more in-line with your purpose. Want attractive, healthy women in your world? Then you must be willing to live fully, and build a positive relationship with yourself first. Not until we have embraced the journey of personal evolution and balance can we sincerely, and honestly, interact with another. This era is not encouraging to the growth of masculinity. As men, we have to work for our development and evolution. Masculinity is traditionally stereotyped as “aggres- sion” and “hostility”. In truth, real men are assertive, focused, direct, honest, balanced, flexible, loving and supportive. Become a warrior, yes, but go to war with your own negativity and bad habits. In later chapters I cover in detail the essential communication skills like flirting, sto- rytelling, teasing. I also go over how to discover and maximize your look so that you present yourself visually with power and dignity to the world. We will cover everything you need to know in order to begin meeting women TODAY. For now though, it is important that you master the inner game FIRST. If you want to be attractive to women, you need to contact, harness and release the power within you. Being focused on a purpose is the most important element in realizing your potential masculinity. This single action may be the most critical step you take in becoming attractive. Women are attracted to men. Maximize your masculinity, realize your potential, and watch as your lifestyle and relationships transform. Now that you have a clear purpose written down in your journals, let’s develop a plan of action to turn these powerful words into reality. Ask yourself now, how long do I need to fulfill this purpose? Then work backwards. Affix your target goal and date, and then work in reverse, returning to today’s date. Assuming the goal of training for WhatIsYourPurpose? Page a marathon, it might resemble this: I am focused on finishing the New York Marathon this year. I love fitness, and love the discipline that training for a race gives my life. I will train 6 times per week, and I will finish the raceinunder5hours. Timetable November 5th Run the NYC Marathon in under 5 hours October 5th Reduce time to under 5 hours September 5th 6 hr run August 5th Full marathon training July 5th Focused weights, CV work, speed training June 5th Base training – run the full 26.2 miles May 5th Upgrade gear, increase base training by 3 miles per week up to 26.2 by end of June This is only an example. If you are training for a marathon, be sure to consult a trainer to determine your exercise regimen! However, this is how your action plan should look on the page. Now, within each header, break it down into specific weekly goals. You might find that you need more time to reach your goals. That is OK. Be sure to push yourself, but never sabotage your work with unrealistic goals and expectations. Spend about 10 minutes and turn these monthly goals into weekly goals now. Good job, we are nearly done. Since you now have a goal to reach by the end of this week, map out the week to come and write down a to-do list of actions that need com- pletion. Some of these might involve other people. Be sure to let them know when you need actions completed. Being clear and direct is a masculine trait, waiting for others and growing resentful is irresponsible and childish. So, clarify your needs and expectations with others. Go ahead and finish this exercise by writing down your action items for this week. Having and maintaining a strong focus in life requires discipline. One could say that this is where we separate the men from the boys. Any worthwhile goal demands consistent attention. If you find yourself losing interest in a couple of weeks, or months,