“Witty and smart, this is a must-read for any woman ready to find Mr. Right. Or at least Mr. Right Now.” —Christopher hopkins, oprah’s Makeover Guy and author of Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45 Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky, or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond l i s a d a i l y Also by Lisa Daily Stop Getting Dumped! All you need to know to make men fall madly in love with you and marry “The One” in three years or less Fifteen Minutes of Shame A novel PRAISE FOR How to Date Like a Grown-Up “Not only is Lisa Daily absolutely hilarious, but she gives the best advice! Read, laugh, enjoy, but also do what she suggests because her advice is spot on!” —Jennifer Muscato, E! News “Confi dence is sexy. Confi dence plus knowledge—irresistible. Lisa Daily gives you both in her fast-paced, entertaining guide to dating over forty. Witty and smart, it’s a must-read for any woman ready to fi nd Mr. Right. Or at least Mr. Right Now.” —Christopher Hopkins, Oprah’s Makeover Guy and author of Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45 “This book is for every woman who’s come to the realization, This is a different world, I’m a different person, and I’m not doing things the same old way.” —Lisa Earle McLeod, Buffalo News syndicated columnist and author of Finding Grace When You Can’t Even Find Clean Underwear “No one knows dating like Lisa Daily, relationship guru extraor- dinaire. Lisa’s the best at straight talk and honest answers. How to Date Like a Grown-Up is the bible for any woman thrust into the singles world either by choice or by circumstance.” —Jenny Gardiner, bestselling author of Sleeping with Ward Cleaver “Lisa Daily is laugh out loud funny. Her writing is like sitting with a good girlfriend over drinks—honest, funny, and always memorable.” —Eileen Cook, author of Unpredictable. “Funny, smart, compulsively readable. It’s the book I would give a girlfriend in a second because it reads like the best kind of girl- friend advice.” —Gail Konop-Baker, author of Cancer is a Bitch (Or, I’d Rather Be Having a Midlife Crisis.) “Once again Lisa Daily brings calm to a chaotic world. Her en- ergetic, friendly voice cuts through the nonsense and brings fun back to dating for women already overwhelmed with the stresses of work, family, and changing health.” —Heidi Godman, ABC News (Health Reporter—Tampa/Sarasota) “Lisa Daily cuts through the usual bull with smart, funny advice that works. How to Date Like a Grown-Up offers one-stop shopping for those in search of a meaningful relationship.” —Michael Alvear, star of HBO’s Sex Inspectors and author of Men Are Pigs But We Love Bacon “A must-read for all single grown-ups! In How To Date Like a Grown-Up, Lisa Daily dispenses excellent, no-nonsense advice for navigating the world of dating with confi dence, grace, style, and a sense of humor.” —Danielle Younge-Ullman, author of Falling Under Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky, or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond L I S A D A I L Y Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Daily Cover and internal design © 2009 by Sourcebooks, Inc. Cover design by Cyanotype Book Architects Cover and internal illustrations © iStockphoto.com/janedoedynamite Sourcebooks and the colophon are registered trademarks of Sourcebooks, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means including information storage and retrieval systems— except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews—with- out permission in writing from its publisher, Sourcebooks, Inc. This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in re- gard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering legal, accounting, or other professional service. If legal advice or other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought.—From a Declaration of Principles Jointly Adopted by a Committee of the American Bar Association and a Committee of Publishers and Associations All brand names and product names used in this book are trademarks, registered trade- marks, or trade names of their respective holders. Sourcebooks, Inc., is not associated with any product or vendor in this book. Published by Sourcebooks Casablanca, an imprint of Sourcebooks, Inc. P.O. Box 4410, Naperville, Illinois 60567–4410 (630) 961–3900 Fax: (630) 961–2168 www.sourcebooks.com Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Daily, Lisa. How to date like a grown-up : everything you need to know to get out there, get lucky, or even get married in your 40s, 50s, and beyond / Lisa Daily. p. cm. 1. Middle-aged women—Psychology. 2. Dating (Social customs) 3. Man-woman relationships. I. Title. HQ1059.4.D35 2008 646.7’7082—dc22 2008034034 Printed and bound in the United States of America. BG 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 To Mom, Tom, Elle, and Quinn. And every woman who has ever suffered through a bad date.