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DECISION POINT #1: WHAT IS MY IDENTITY?

1. What are my goals?

GOAL: To find out what you would be, to decide what your objectives in life
are, and be able to talk naturally and passionately about them. Your
ULTIMATE goal is to get to the point when you can talk to women about your
path and not care whether or not they join you.

POWER RESOURCE: The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida

In our first lesson, I want you to ask yourself, “What are my goals?” In any
meeting with women, it is crucial that you establish yourself as a man with
dreams, aspirations, and objectives.

• David Deida, the author of the fascinating book, “The Way of the
Superior Man”, argues for choosing a “life purpose”.
• That means deciding on a direction for your life, and fusing everything
you do into that direction.3
• Living a life with purpose is SO much easier than a life without one

"Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with
your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. If
you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to
discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize
distractions and detours."
-David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

• For example, if your goal is to become, say, a world-renown DJ, every
aspect of your life should feed into that: your friends, your hobbies, your
wardrobe, your job, what you read, where you go--everything should
point towards music as a way of life for you. When you establish where
you want your life to go, it becomes that much easier to get it there.
Everything makes more sense, and you have a path that you are
committed to.
• Girls LOVE to follow people on paths. As one relationship guru said,
“When a guy is doing his own thing, or on his own path, and then he’s
including others on it, it’s completely different when he’s trying to fit
in or trying to be with other people on their paths.”
• Would you rather follow, or BE followed? I think you know the answer.
Girls LOVE to follow guys who are successful around. Just ask any rock
singer or businessman.
• When you have a deep-rooted purpose, you don't need women as much
as they need you. YOU get your pick of women; they have to fight to
earn you!
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Important questions to ask yourself include:

What kind of career do I want? If you’re doing something you have absolutely
no interest in, take the necessary steps to get out of it and into something you
believe in and enjoy! You’ll do yourself and the company a favor.
What kind of interests do I want to pursue? You can’t please everyone; you’ll
never be into the same things as all the girls you meet. So decide what you
really like: maybe it’s sports, you want to know everything there is to know
about baseball or football; maybe it’s travel, you want to know everything you
can get your hands on about foreign countries; maybe it’s even woodwork or
some other trade, you want to be known as an expert in your field. Decide
what your interests are, commit yourself to them, and be proud!
What kind of friends fit into my path? What kind of people do NOT fit into
my path? Decide who supports you and who it is that deters you from your
path. There will always be guys and girls who try to disabuse you of your
hobbies, tell you your interests are stupid and boring. But if your interests are
something you believe in, you’re better off cutting the detractors from your
life, than what moves you. Or at least limiting your presence around them.
Where do I want to be in 10 years time? This is not only a good question to
ask yourself, but to ask women. Don’t worry about your answer, but do be
prepared that women will ask you something like this as a test. So it’s good to
know what you want so you have a ready answer.
In what country or city can I best achieve my goals? Sometimes the country
or city you’re in now isn’t the best place to achieve what you want, or to find
the people who will support you in it. I know several people who could not find
happiness in their home country or town, so moved on to other places and
found happiness they never knew possible. Oftentimes you just can’t find the
right friends somewhere, so it’s time to move on. Don’t be afraid to give a
new city or nation a shot.

• Once you have solid answers to these questions, it’s up to you to pursue
them.
• Start by believing in yourself, and believing in your goals.
EXERCISE
Write down 5 goals you would like to achieve over the next 5 years.
Decide on one PURPOSE you have for your life. These goals should all work
towards achieving your purpose.
Write down 12 goals you would like to achieve in the next year. Make one
for each months.
Make a month-by-month checklist to see if you achieve your goals.
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Quote to End On:
"Without a conscious life-purpose a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to
events rather than creating events. Without knowing his life-purpose a man
lives a weakened, impotent existence, perhaps eventually becoming even
sexually impotent, or prone to mechanical and disinterested sex."
-David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
I guarantee you that when you present women with a man who knows what he
wants, and is determined to get it, you won't have any problem meeting
women.

Right away, your attraction meter…has gone up!

Recommended Reading
The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida
Secrets to Becoming the Alpha Male, by Carlos Xuma:
Dating Dynamics: http://www.datingdynamics.com

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2. What are my interests and dislikes?

GOAL: To be able to talk, convincingly and comfortably, about your interests,
and not let people deter you from what moves you. You will learn how to use
your interests to make yourself more attractive to women.

Here are some problems our Reservoir Dogs make:

• Mr. Pink is too shy to talk about his interests. When he does discuss them
with a girl, he talks feebly about them, like they’re “no big deal”. The
problem, of course, is that when you treat your interests like no big deal,
that’s what they become to a girl.
• Mr. White is so fascinated with finding Ms. Right that he tries too hard to
impress her with his interests. He stumbles in his attempt to impress her,
and ends up looking like a loser. Mr. “Oneitis” very much needs to learn
better communication skills, so he can talk about his interests in a relaxed,
confident manner.
• Mr. Brown knows his interests, and makes a point of discussing them, but
does so in very boring ways. You know the guy: the one who goes into a big
monologue about all the great things he does, without giving a girl to
discuss what interests HER. He needs to learn to listen, and to speak more
eloquently and persuasively.
• Mr. Blue downplays everything he does as sucking. Like Mr. Pink, he gives a
negative image to his interests. He forgets that girls, and people in general
really, are like sponges; they soak in what you say, and especially how you
say it. If you display energy and enthusiasm, they will feel that from you.
But if you display negativity and apathy, like Mr. Blue, so too will they feel
those emotions.
• Mr. Yellow is afraid of talking girls, and afraid of talking about his interest
in fear of being rejected. He doesn’t realize that if he can’t talk about
himself, girls won’t be interested. Mr. Yellow needs to overcome his fear of
people thinking his interests are good enough. They’re as good as you make
them.
• Mr. Orange, like Mr. Brown, is full of himself and speaks as if he is the king
and girls are lucky to hear him. He gets drunk and raves about how great
he is. And since people feel out a person by how a person talks, girls KNOW
he’s full of crap. He needs to talk about his interests in a more controlled,
suave manner.

So of course this brings us to Mr. Red, our smooth-as-silk ladies’ man. Mr. Red
doesn’t talk like a player, who only wants to say enough in a lady’s pants, but he
also doesn’t want to talk like a geek, who positions himself as someone who’s not
GOOD enough to get in a lady’s pants. As always, he strikes a balance.

1. Don't talk like you're trying to impress. Talk slowly and calmly. Lean back
like you've got all the time in the world. Describe your interest with passion in a
deep, intimate, "just-between-you-and-me" voice.
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A man on a purpose does not need to impress others. Others need to impress
him.

2. Likewise, don't treat your hobbies like they're no big deal. Remembers,
emotions are literally contagious; there's a system that makes people match the
speaker's vibe. So if you treat your interests as stupid, so will other people. But
treat your hobbies like something great, and they will too.

3. Leave Her Hanging! If you like traveling and have climbed the Great Wall or
skydived over Sydney, don't tell her that all at once! Girls LOVE to be led on, so
wait a bit. Tell her you love traveling, but bait her into wanting to know more.
Simple things like, "Yeah, I'll have to show you some photos of my travels
sometime" or "I have this great video of me skydiving" are sure to make her want to
see you again.

4. Make Sure to Listen to HER interests. Yes, it's not all about you. Don't be
quick to interject when a girl describes her interests and

experiences. Let her speak, show some interest (but not too much), then
compliment her. After THAT, wait a few seconds. Don't say anything. Give her
the "Colbert Chin" (see picture), and wait for her to ask you something. This will
likely lead her to ask, "So what are you into/What kind of music do you listen
to/What do you like?"

To this, you can answer cockily, "Besides high-tech interactive porn? Hmmm..."
Loosen her up with humor; it always works!

EXERCISE
Take a few minutes to write down YOUR interests and what YOUR ambition or
ambitions are. List at least five, no matter how trivial they may seem. Then
write down their importance on a scale of 1-5. The more important each interest
is to you, the more passionately you should talk to women about them. Decide
why you are interested in these interests, and how you will use them in your path
to excellence.

So figure out your life purpose, and knowing your interests (and dislikes) will
come naturally. Your attraction meter has just…gone up!

Recommended Resources
"The Tao of Dating," by Dr. Alex Benzer

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3. What Do I Do?

GOAL: To be able to comfortably and convincingly talk about what you do for a
living and career.

It’s inevitable: a girl is going to ask you what you do for a living.

Some say it’s a test, some say it’s just an innocent question. Either way, what
matters is not what your answer is, but how you answer it.

If you treat the question like a test, like a big deal, you will fail.

But, if you are prepared and treat the girl like she has to impress YOU, not you
impress her, you won't just pass: you will show a girl you are in control,
independent of her needs, and confident in your choices. Everything a girl
wants.

"It never ends. A woman will always test her man for the pleasure of feeling
his strength in loving, his capacity to transcend nuisance, his persistence in his
own truth, and his capacity to share that truth in love with her, even when
she is complaining--especially when she is complaining...Your woman is testing
you because she loves you. She wants to feel your truth. She wants to feel
your love. And she wants to feel that your truth and love are stronger than
the barbs she can throw at you. Then she can relax and surrender into the
polarity of man and woman. THEN, she can trust you."
-David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

The other key to passing a "test," is asking yourself if this girl fits into your
choice. Does it matter if you impress her or not? Does she truly fit into your
life purpose? If not, why are you worrying?!?

Here’s where our Reservoir Dogs get it wrong. For consistency, we’ll say
they’re all fairly successful advertising executives:

1 Mr. Pink is shy about talking to his career. Even though advertising is an
interesting enough career, he thinks girls won’t enjoy it and refrains
from saying much about it. He loses out by not talking about it more.
2 Mr. White, in constant search of “The One”, tries too hard to use his
career to impress ladies. He fashions himself as a provider, and talks as
if he's trying to impress women with his plans for a family. This turns
girls off in a hurry.
3 Mr. Brown thinks highly enough of his career, but bores girls with all the
details they couldn’t care less about. There’s a right way and a wrong
way to discuss one’s career, and unfortunately, Mr. Brown does it the
wrong way. Girls
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4 Mr. Yellow is afraid to talk about his career, for fear of a girl rejecting
his career as not good enough. He loses out in the process; girls actually
are mostly interested in advertising workers, but he fears they’ll think
his job is boring.
5 Mr. Blue always puts down his career, saying all the bad things about it
he can think of. He wards off girls with his depressing talk. Instead of
badmouthing his job and co-workers, he should discuss them with pride
and energy.
6 Mr. Orange is the typical drunk businessman who thinks he’s the shit.
He tries too hard to impress, in the process not impressing at all.

You can see what these guys do wrong. They either talk too much about their
careers, too little, or just make their jobs sound so boring or so depressing.
However they do it, it’s bound to repel girls. But when you know how to
describe your career right, you don’t repel—you attract.

Our fearless Mr. Red knows how to do it right:

1. No matter what the question, Mr. Red never lets the woman assume more
power than him. Mr. Red doesn't get angry at women for testing him; he
knows it's part of their instinctive drive for a man who can provide and protect.
He EXPECTS the question and answers it calmly. He doesn't care what she
thinks of his answer.

FUNDAMENTAL RULE
When a man doesn't care what a woman thinks of his answer, she will be
much more attracted to him.

2. He’s convinced his career, no matter what it is, is interesting. Some
people may think it’s boring, some people may think it’s capitalist smug, but
HE believes it’s fun and interesting, and conveys his interest suitably. Again,
Mr. Red doesn't care what people think of his answer.
3. He describes his job as a part of something bigger: his PATH. Doesn’t
matter if he’s not fully satisfied with the job; the way he describes it is as a
stepping stone in his life purpose. The job gives him the income and
knowledge he needs to make his dream of becoming a travel writer come true.

If he has to decide between his path and a girl who thinks his path is a joke,
Mr. Red always goes with the path. Girls respect him more for sticking to
what he believes in.

4. He knows that women love a man with potential. They will be more
attracted to a gas station attendant who dreams of owning his own company,
than a guy who works in a big office with no purpose at all. Women love to
give people a chance; why else would shows like Oprah and magazines like
Women's Weekly be so popular? These media appeal to women's sense of
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