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How Homophobia Hurts Children Nurturing Diversity at Home, at School, and in the Community HAWORTH Gay & Lesbian Studies John P. De Cecco, PhD Editorin Chief StrategicSex: WhyThey Won'tKeepItintheBedroomeditedbyD.TraversScott OneoftheBoys:Masculinity, Homophobia, andModernManhoodbyDavid Plummer HOlnosexualRitesofPassage:A RoadtoVisibilityandValidationbyMarieMohler MaleLust:Pleasure, Power, andTransformationeditedbyKerwinKay,JillNagle, andBaruchGould TricksandTreats: SexWorkers WriteAboutTheirClientseditedbyMattBernstein Sycamore ASeaofStories: TheShapingPowerofNarrativeinGayandLesbianCultures- A FestschriftforJohnP. De CeccoeditedbySonyaJones OutoftheTwilight: FathersofGayMenSpeakbyAndrewR. 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Reprint 2006 PUBLISHER’S NOTE Interviewee names and circumstances have been changed to protect confidentiality. Cover design by Jennifer M. Gaska. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Baker, Jean M. How homophobia hurts children : nuturing diversity at home, at school, and in the community / Jean M. Baker, p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 1-56023-163-7 (alk. paper)—ISBN 1-56023-164-5 (alk. paper) 1. Homophobia—United States. 2. Gay youth—United States—Psychology. 3. Gay students— United States—Psychology. 4. Sexual harassment in education—United States. 5. Coming out (Sexual orientation)—United States. I. Title. HQ76.45.U5 B34 2001 306.76'6—dc21 2001045682 Publisher’s Note The publisher has gone to great lengths to ensure the quality of this reprint but points out that some imperfections in the original may be apparent. To the memory ofmy son Gary Thomas Baker, and to my son Andrew Jackson Baker ABOUT THE AUTHOR JeanM.Baker,PhD,is aclinicalpsychologistwhohashadaprivate practice in Tucson, Arizona, since 1970, the year she received her doctorate from the University ofArizona. She has been aconsultant on child abuse and neglect to the State ofArizona Child Protective Services since 1980. Dr. Baker is a pastPresident ofthe Arizona Psychological Associa tionandcurrently serves as Chairofits Gay/LesbianiBisexualIssues Committee. Sheis alsoamemberoftheAmericanPsychologicalAs sociation, the southern Arizona Psychological Association, PFLAG (Parents, Families, andFriends ofLesbians and Gays), and GLSEN, theGay, Lesbian, StraightEducation Network. Sheis also amember ofthe Board ofDirectors ofWingspan, Tucson's Gay, Lesbian, Bi sexual, and TransgenderCommunityCenter, and serves as Co-Chair ofits Youth Services Committee. Dr.BakeristheauthorofFamilySecrets: GaySons, AMother'sStory (Haworth, 1998). Shehas written articles andbookchapters onchild custody and childdevelopment. Shehas presentedpapers atprofes sional conferences, including the APA, on gay/lesbian and AIDS relatedissues. Shehasreceivedawardsfrom theArizonaPsychological Association for Outstanding Contributions to the Practice of Psy chology (1999), theSouthernArizonaPsychologicalAssociationfor Outstanding Contributions to Psychology (1997), and the Godat Award from Wingspan for Outstanding Contribution to the Gay, Les bian,Bisexual,andTransgenderCommunityinTucson,Arizona(1999). CONTENTS Acknowledgments xi Introduction xiii Chapter 1. Shame CanShatter TheirDreams 1 Homophobia: A Respectable Prejudice 2 The Gay Rights Movement 2 The Homosexual Debate: Pathology or Normal Variation? 3 Growing Up in aHomophobic Culture 4 WhatIs ItLike to Grow Up Gay? 7 Adult Attitudes 9 Chapter2. Myths and Fallacies 17 Myth: Homosexuality Is aMental Illness 18 Myth: Homosexuality Can Be Cured 19 Myth: Homosexuality Is aChoice 22 Myth: Homosexuals Are Sexual Molesters 28 Myth: Homosexuals Will ConvertChildren to Homosexuality 29 Myths and Stereotypes PerpetuatePrejudice 30 Chapter3. Identity Development 31 ErikErikson's Stages ofChild and AdolescentDevelopment 32 Chapter 4. Coming Out 4S WhatIs Coming Out? 45 Early ChildhoodExperiences 46 Coming Outin High School 51 Coming-OutModels 53 What Do Youth Say AboutComing Out? 56 ChapterS. Parents and Families Coming Out 63 Why ShouldParents Come Out? 63 How Do Parents ReactWhen They DiscoverTheir Child Is Gay? 64 What Does Research Show? 65 Stages ofParental Coming Out 66 My Own Story 68 Mary Borhek's Story 74 Chapter 6. ForAll Parents 7S To Parents Who Don'tKnow WhetherTheir Child Is Gay 75 Family Reactions to Gay Children Coming Out 78 Comments 82 Chapter7. WhatHappens to Gay Children at School? 8S Memories ofHarassment and Intimidation 85 What Does Research Show AboutHarassment ofGays in Schools? 88 Cultural Permissionfor Antigay Harassment 91 The Hidden Gay Students 92 Intimidation and HarassmentMay ProvokeViolence in Schools 92 Chapter8. Students Tell Us How Schools Can Help 9S Actions Schools Can Take 95 A Gay Football PlayerComes Out 99 Chapter9. How Individuals Within the SchoolSystem Can Help Gay Students 101 A Teacher's Coming-OutStory 102 WhatElse Can Teachers Do? 104 What Can School Counselors and School Psychologists Do? 107 What Can School Administrators and School Boards Do? 115 Chapter 10. Gay Youth Support Groups 119 Students SpeakAboutthe Groups 120 A School Nurse 122 An English Teacher 124 A Chemistry Teacher 126 A Librarian 129 Chapter 11. A School ClimateSurvey 135 Background 135 Why Students Did orDid NotIntervene 135 Why Gay Students Would orWould Not Feel Safe in School 139 Summary 141 Chapter 12. Transcending the Stigma 145 Are Gays and Lesbians Exceptional? 145 What's Good AboutBeing Gay? 148 Chapter 13. Enlightened Mayor Seeks Acceptance for Gay Youths 153 Chapter 14. ForMental Health Professionals 157 Chapter 15. Legal and SocialPolicy Barriers and How They Affect Gay Children 161 The Rightto Marry 161 Antidiscrimination Legislation 164 Antidiscrimination Policies in the Schools 165 Don'tAsk, Don'tTell: Gays in the Military 168 Archaic Sex Laws 169 Boy ScoutPolicies 170 Policies AboutAIDS 171 Antigay Hate Crimes 172 Changing Laws andPolicies Can Help OurGay Children 173 Chapter 16. Transgender Identity 175 GenderBenders 176 Transvestites 176 Androgyne 176 Transsexuals 177 Intersexed 180 Nature versus Nurture Revisited 181
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