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Helping Adolescents and Adults to Build Self-Esteem of related interest Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem Deborah Plummer ISBN 1 85302 927 0 Relationship Development Intervention: with Young Children and with Children, Adolescents and Adults Social and Emotional Development Activities for Asperger Syndrome, Autism, PDD and NLD Steven E. Gutstein and Rachelle K. Sheely ISBN 1 84310 720 1 (2 volume set) Using Interactive Imagework with Children Walking on the Magic Mountain Deborah Plummer ISBN 1 85302 671 9 Helping Adolescents and Adults to Build Self-Esteem A Photocopiable Resource Book Deborah Plummer Jessica Kingsley Publishers London and Philadelphia Material on activity sheets 5.1, 8.1, 8.8 and 8.10 and Appendix A adapted with permission fromYou Can Change –A Self-help Guide to Managing Stress(2003) by Diane Eaglen and Deborah Plummer. © Adult Speech and Language Therapy Service 2003. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced in any material form (including photocopying or storing it in any medium by electronic means and whether or not transiently or incidentally to some other use ofthis publication) without the written permission of the copyright owner except in accordance with the provisions ofthe Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 or under the terms ofa licence issued by the Copyright Licensing Agency Ltd, 90 Tottenham Court Road, London, England W1T 4LP. Applications for the copyright owner’s written permission to reproduce any part of this publication should be addressed to the publisher. Warning: The doing of an unauthorised act in relation to a copyright work may result in both a civil claim for damages and criminal prosecution. The right of Deborah Plummer to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by her in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. Pages 53, 54 and all pages in Part III and the Appendices may be photocopied for training purposes, but may not be reproduced without the permission of the publisher. First published in 2005 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers 116 Pentonville Road London N1 9JB, UK and 400 Market Street, Suite 400 Philadelphia, PA 19106, USA www.jkp.com Copyright © Deborah Plummer 2005 Illustrations copyright © Alice Harper 2005 Second impression 2005 Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data Plummer, Deborah. Helping adolescents and adults to build self-esteem : a photocopiable resource book / Deborah Plummer.— 1st American pbk. ed. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 1-84310-185-8 (pbk.) 1. Self-esteem in adolescence. 2. Self-esteem. I. Title. BF724.3.S36P55 2004 155.2’5—dc22 2004020235 British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library ISBN-13: 978 1 84310 185 7 ISBN-10: 1 84310 185 8 ISBN pdf eBook: 1 84642 051 2 Printed and Bound in Great Britain by Athenaeum Press, Gateshead, Tyne and Wear Contents ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS 7 Introduction 9 Part I: Theoretical and Practical Background 1 What Is Self-Esteem? 13 2 Self-Esteem and the Process of Change 24 3 Working with Imagery 29 4 Transfer and Maintenance of Skills 36 5 Working with Groups 40 Part II: Instructions for Self-Esteem Activities Introduction 56 1 Getting Started 58 2 What Is Self-Esteem? 62 3 Who Am I? 68 4 Self-Awareness 72 5 The Challenge of Change 75 6 Self-Acceptance 79 7 Self and Others 84 8 Self-Reliance and Stress Management 90 9 Self-Expression 94 10 Creative Problem-Solving 98 11 Setting and Achieving Goals 102 12 Keeping It All Going! 104 Part III: Information and Activity Sheets 1 Getting Started 109 2 What Is Self-Esteem? 117 3 Who Am I? 131 4 Self-Awareness 141 5 The Challenge of Change 150 6 Self-Acceptance 167 7 Self and Others 177 8 Self-Reliance and Stress Management 192 9 Self-Expression 214 10 Creative Problem-Solving 225 11 Setting and Achieving Goals 237 12 Keeping It All Going! 247 APPENDIX A: RELAXATION EXERCISES 256 APPENDIX B: BREATH CONTROL EXERCISES 260 REFERENCES 262 CONTACTS 264 GENERAL INDEX 265 ACTIVITIES INDEX 267 INFORMATION SHEET INDEX 268 Acknowledgements IamgratefultoallthemembersofgroupsthatIhavehadtheprivilegeoffa- cilitatingduringmyyearsofworkingintheNHS.Ilearnedagreatdealabout the diversity of groups and the pitfalls and joys of group work during this time (and I am, thankfully, continuing to learn!). IamalsogratefultoDrDinaGloubermanandmyImageworkcolleagues, particularly Hermione Elliott and Marsha Lomond, who have taught me so much about group facilitation by being such inspirational facilitators them- selves. Myfamily,whohavealwaysendeavouredtosupportmyself-esteem,have beenparticularlypatientandsupportivewhileIhavebeenwriting–provid- ingwordsofencouragement,constructivefeedbackandwelcomediversions! Introduction To hold someone in high esteem is to respect and admire them. When we respect and admire someone we accord them value– we appreciate, cherish,holddear.Whatatragedythatsomanypeopleareunabletodo thisforthemselves–tocherishandappreciatetheirownworth;tovalue themselves for who they are. Self-esteem is talked about and written about in great depth, but for many the abilityto achieve a healthy level of self-esteem seems perpetually elusive. Since the way that a person feels about himself to a large extent determines the way he behaves, learnsandrelatestootherpeople,lowself-esteemcanhavefar-reaching and debilitating effects in all arenas of life. Fortunately, there is much that can be done to build and maintain self-esteem. Since the feeling of worth has been learned, it can be unlearned, and something new can be learned in its place. The possibility for this learninglastsfrombirthtodeath,soitisnevertoolate.Atanypointin a person’s life he can begin to feel better about himself. (Satir 1991, p.27) This book offers a variety of ways to help others to build self-esteem, primarily through facilitating the process of understanding and changing unwanted patterns of thinking and behaviour in order to create new ways of facing life’s challenges. It is based on the premise that low self-esteem is not a discrete issue that can be addressed with specific‘feelgoodaboutyourself’activitiesalone.Rather,itisbasedon the strengthening of seven vital ‘foundation’ elements. Healthy 9 HELPING ADOLESCENTS AND ADULTS TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM self-esteemcannotbeseparatedfromtheseelements,butinsteadshould be seen as potentially the end result of addressing them. Readers who have already come across my earlier book Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem will be familiar with the format used here. However,Ihaveexpandedonthetheoreticalcomponentand,inpartic- ular, I have devoted a complete section to exploration of the skills needed to facilitate groups and to understand group processes. Onceagainthephotocopiableinformationandactivitysheetscanbe used as a complete course or as a resource to dip into and adapt as needed.Whilstemphasishasbeengiventogroupwork,themajorityof theinformationandactivitysheetsaresuitableforuseinawiderangeof educational and therapeutic settings. They are equally appropriate for work with individual clients or pupils, particularly where there is op- portunity for structured support to aid the transfer of skills and strate- gies to a variety of situations relevant to that person’s life. Pleasenotethatthroughoutthetextthepronouns‘he’and‘she’have been used interchangeably. Suggestions for further reading Glouberman, D. (2003) Life Choices, Life Changes: Develop Your Personal Vision with Imagework.London: Hodder andStoughton. Plummer, D. (1999) Using Interactive Imagework with Children: Walking on the Magic Mountain. London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Plummer, D. (2001) Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem. London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers. 10
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