Help Your Kids with Adolescence: A No-Nonsense Guide to Puberty and the Teenage Years

258 Pages·31.891 MB·English

by  Karen Rayne

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A NO NONSENSE GUIDE TO
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CONSULTANT AND CONTRIBUTOR
DR. KAREN RAYNE
Dr. Karen Rayne has worked in sexuality education for almost two decades. She focuses on writing curriculum, training sexuality
educators, and writing books. Her most recent book is “GIRL: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You.” She has worked with The Center for
Sex Education, the New York Department of Education, Girls Inc, the American Psychological Association, and the UNFPA, among
others. She is also the associate editor of the American Journal of Sexuality Education.
OTHER CONTRIBUTORS
LAVERNE ANTROBUS
Laverne Antrobus is a consultant child and educational psychologist. Having trained at the prestigious Tavistock Clinic in London, UK,
she then worked in Local Authorities and the UK’s National Health Service (NHS). Laverne appears on television, radio, and in print
media. She has made programs on childhood for the BBC and currently appears on the CBeebies Grown-ups website.
TERESA DAY MSC, RGN, RMN
Teresa Day trained and qualified as both a general nurse and a mental health nurse. She has spent most of her career working in the
field of adolescent health, including carrying out research into relationships and sex education for her Master’s dissertation. In her
current role she supports and trains school staff, specializing in emotional health and well-being, and relationship education.
PROFESSOR SONIA LIVINGSTONE OBE
Sonia Livingstone is a professor in the Department of Media and Communications at the London School of Economics and Political
Science, UK. She’s author of 20 books on kids’ online opportunities and risks, including “The Class: Living and Learning in the Digital Age.”
She advises the UK government, European Commission, and Council of Europe on children’s rights in digital environments. She directs
the projects “Global Kids Online” and “Parenting for a Digital Future” and founded the EU Kids Online research network.
DR. RADHA MODGIL
Dr. Radha Modgil is a practicing NHS doctor in London, UK. She broadcasts across all platforms, online, TV, and radio, including The
Surgery on BBC Radio 1. A campaigner for physical and mental well-being, Radha educates in a creative and fun way, encouraging
people to stay healthy. She appeared as the medical reporter for “The Sex Education Show” on Channel 4, and “Make My Body Younger”
on BBC3. She is a medical expert for BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, BBC Radio 5 Live, BBC Asian Network, LBC, and Radio 1’s Newsbeat.
SARAH PAWLEWSKI MSC
Sarah Pawlewski is a career adviser with more than 20 years’ experience. She runs her own consultancy—career-directions.co.uk—and
works with clients of all ages across schools, colleges, universities, and industry. She also teaches career guidance courses at degree level.
Sarah holds degrees in career guidance and in psychology. She is the principal author of “The Careers Handbook” published by DK.
PROFESSOR ROBERT WINSTON
Robert Winston is a world-renowned scientist, who has combined groundbreaking academic work with a flair for communicating
science to the general public. The icon of many British TV series, his pioneering work in the field of human fertility has helped dozens of
childless couples have “miracle babies” and earned him an international reputation. He is Professor of Science and Society and Emeritus
Professor of Fertility Studies at Imperial College London. UK. He became a life peer of the House of Lords in 1995.
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Foreword
During adolescence few things are constant except for change. The physical,
emotional, psychological, social, and the cultural understanding of who we are
all evolve between childhood and adolescence. Young people experiencing these
changes often need guidance to understand what’s currently happening as well as
information about what’s to come. They may also need to understand how and why
their peers are going through those changes in different ways. In certain situations,
they may have questions about what their options are, and need support to figure
out which paths are best for them.
Parents often think back to their own adolescence, and may be surprised to find
that their teens are having different experiences than they had in their youths. They
may wonder what is new today and how they can best help their teen make wise
choices. This book is written to support both young people and their parents, as
kids grow into adolescents and onwards into adulthood. Sometimes parents see
themselves as having less influence on their children as they grow up, but research
suggests otherwise. The majority of young people say they want to talk with their
parents about the big issues in their lives.
Help Your Kids with Adolescence presents information about the changes,
challenges, and charms of adolescence in an accessible and relatable way for
tweens and teens. Even parents who aren’t sure where to start, or what to say as
they begin conversations will find that this book supports them, and helps them to
understand and support their kids.
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As a sexuality educator, I work with young people, and with parents, on some of the
most personal, emotional, and potentially influential aspects of life. I see how much
healthier and grounded teens are when their parents talk with them openly about a
wide range of topics, from sexuality and religion to politics and race, as well as
puberty, staying safe online, and peer pressure. I am delighted to have worked on
this book with my fellow experts, and to have it as a resource to recommend to
families who want to talk about these things, but just aren’t sure where to start.
KAREN RAYNE
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Contents 4
Healthy body
Keeping clean 60
Sweat and smells 62
Body hair 64
Pimples 66
Healthy eating 68
Foreword by Karen Rayne 6 Eating disorders 70
How to use this book 10 Body image 72
Exercise 74
1 Sleep 76
Growing up
Teen ailments 78
Teen brains 14 5
Healthy mind
Identity 16
Thinking independently 18
Mood swings 20 Positive mental health 82
Self-expression 22 Emotions 84
Gender 24 Confidence and self-esteem 86
Introversion and extroversion 88
2 Resilience 90
Female puberty
Stress 92
Anxiety and depression 94
What is puberty? 28 Panic attacks and phobias 96
Female hormones 30 Self-harm 98
Changing body 32
Female sex organs 34 6
Achieving potential
The menstrual cycle 36
Menstrual care 38
Breasts 40 School life 102
Bras 42 Tests and studying 104
Problem solving 106
3 Hobbies and interests 108
Male puberty
Money matters 110
Goals and ambitions 112
What is puberty? 46 Career advice 114
Male hormones 48 Types of career 116
Changing body 50 Going to college 118
Testicles 52 Alternatives to college 120
The penis 54 Getting a job 122
Breaking voices 56 Speaking up 124
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