Heart of the Mind: Engaging Your Inner Power to Change With NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming

277 Pages·1989·3.67 MB·English

by  Connirae Andreas

"/ have known Steve Andreas for 20 years, and I know that the
guiding force of his life is to find ever more effective ways for people
to realize their potential. In his hands, NLP is a healing force.
"Heart of the Mind, written with his partner, Connirae, contains
a wealth of understanding that can help people become more fully
human. It also contains the insight and basic honesty that ensures
this knowledge is used wisely and compassionately."
—Hugh Prather, author of Notes to Myself
There is a new powerful and NLP also offers ways to
gentle approach to over- enhance self-esteem, improve
coming life's problems. Experience relationships, become more
the accounts of people whose lives independent, create positive
have been changed and whose motivation, eliminate allergic
dreams became realities by tapping responses, and promote self-
their own inner power to change with healing.
NLP. Short for Neuro-Linguistic
Take a moment and look
Programming, NLP is a new science
through the contents of a chapter
that has studied how the mind
that interests you. Every case
works, with verifiable and
describes what happened with a
sometimes astonishing results.
client or workshop participant. If you
NLP offers effective techniques are tired of settling for the way
for a wide range of problems things are and want more in your
including: unwanted habits, guilt, life, want more for your family and
grief, weight loss, abuse, criticism, those important to you, read this
shame, stage fright and phobias. book.
Connirae Andreas, Ph.D. and
Steve Andreas, M.A. are internationally
known trainers and researchers in NLP.
Editors of four of the best known NLP
books, including Frogs into Princes, they
are the authors of the advanced book
Change Your Mind—and Keep the
Change. Through NLP Comprehensive
they conduct a variety of training
seminars and NLP certification
programs. They live with their three sons
in Boulder, Colorado.
Photograph by Christine Russo
I have observed the psychotherapy scene since the days when Freud
was the main voice. Later brief psychotherapy took a mere 6 months. Now
we have the 30 minute and even 5 minute cures of NLP. Speed is not the
real issue. We must be closing in on the actual design of people. The
Andreases are at the forefront of these discoveries. Their new book Heart
of the Mind is a needed presentation of these most useful methods. How
cheering it is for me to find it is all so much simpler and easier than I
had dreamed possible.
—Wilson van Dusen, PhD, former Chief Psychologist
at Mendocino State Hospital, CA, and author of
The Natural Depth in Man
HEART
of the
MIND
Connirae Andreas PhD
Steve Andreas MA
Engaging Your Inner Power to Change
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Real People Press
Copyright © 1989
Real People Press
BoxF
Moab, Utah 84532
ISBN: 0-911226-30-3 clothbound $14.00
ISBN: 0-911226-31-1 paperbound $9.50
Cover by Rene Eisenbart
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data:
Andreas, Connirae.
Heart of the mind : engaging your inner power to change with neurolin-
guistic programming / Connirae Andreas and Steve Andreas,
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-911226-30-3 : $14.00. — ISBN 0-911226-31-1: $9.50
1. Neurolinguistic programming. 2. Neurolinguistic programming—
Case studies. I. Andreas, Steve. II. Title.
BF637.N46A533 1989
158M—dc20 89-27733
CIP
Other books about Neuro-Linguistic Programming from Real People
Press:
FROGS INTO PRINCES, by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, 197 pp. 1979 Cloth
$11.00 Paper $7.50
USING YOURBRAIN—FORACHANGE, by RichardBandler. 159pp. 1985 Cloth
$11.00 Paper $7.50
REFRAMING: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Transformation of Mean-
ing, by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. 220 pp. 1981 Cloth $12.00 Paper $8.50
TRANCE-FORMATIONS: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Structure of
Hypnosis, by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. 250 pp. 1981 Cloth $12.00 Paper $8.50
CHANGE YOUR MIND—AND KEEP THE CHANGE, by Steve Andreas and
Connirae Andreas. 187 pp. 1987 Cloth $12.00 Paper $8.50
The name Real People Press indicates our purpose; to publish ideas and ways that a
person can use independently or with others to become more real—to further your own
growth as a human being and to develop your relationship and communication with
others.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 89 10 Printing 93 92 91 90 89 88
to
Richard Bandler
and
John Grinder
Co-developers of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
and to
Leslie Cameron-Bandler and Judith De Lozier
and
Robert Dilts and David Gordon
Our teachers for so many years
Any sufficiently developed technology is
indistinguishable from magic.
—Arthur C. Clarke
The heart has its reasons
which reason knows nothing of.
—Blaise Pascal
Contents
Introduction
1. Overcoming Stage Fright 1-7
Stage fright is the highest-ranked fear in many surveys. Discover that how we
think about public speaking makes all the difference in overcoming this
common fear.
2. Learning to Spell 8-13
Although it's a simple task, spelling demonstrates that when you learn the
mental steps a skilled person uses, that skill can become easy and natural for
you. All skills and abilities are based on learnable "brain programs" that
produce success.
3. Becoming More Independent in Relationships 14-27
How to increase the ability to make self-evaluations and reduce dependence
on others' opinions. Includes a process for moving beyond codependence.
4. Healing Traumas 28-36
Gain a way to resolve traumatic incidents from the past, replacing limiting
feelings and beliefs with positive ones of confidence and strength.
5. Eliminating Allergic Responses 37-45
A rapid and gentle process which has helped many become completely
symptom-free from a wide variety of allergies and sensitivities.
6. Responding Resourcefully to Criticism 46-54
Discover a method that can allow you to automatically feel resourceful when
receiving criticism, and comfortably make good use of critical feedback.
7. Phobias, Traumas, and Abuse 55-71
All of us have had traumatic experiences, and some have been abused. One
method eliminates phobic responses. A second process allows us to "discon-
nect" from past trauma, and "reconnect" fully with our positive past
experiences.
8. Positive Intentions 72-84
Every behavior has a positive purpose. Understanding this makes it possible
to appreciate problem behaviors or feelings and gain new choices, promoting
greater self-worth and appreciation of others.
9. Parenting Positively 85-95
Gain access to your own parenting wisdom, create deep rapport with your
children, and use your language to encourage positive behaviors and
discourage misbehavior. The same methods will also improve your commu-
nication at work and with friends.
10. Asserting Yourself Respectfully 96-109
One woman gains a new perspective allowing her to ask for a raise—and get
another one without asking. Another woman learns to deal with her ex-
husband and his wife by changing a deep belief about herself.
11. Resolving Grief 110-120
A two-stage healing method transforms grieving into a way of reconnecting
with the essence of the lost person and moving on positively in life.
12. The Naturally Slender Eating Strategy 121-131
You can learn to eat the way naturally slender people do. Naturally thin
people think about food and eating differently than those in a struggle with
weight
13. Resolving Internal Conflict 132-139
What do we do when one part of us wants to do one thing, while another
part of us wants to do something else? Find out how to reach a satisfying and
comfortable resolution to conflict
14. Recovering from Shame and Guilt 140-154
Shame is being recognized as a toxic emotion that binds people to addiction
and codependence. Understand how to rapidly and gracefully transform these
destructive emotions into an empowering sense of self.
15. Positive Motivation 155-165
What are the secrets that allow some people to motivate themselves easily and
effectively, while others agonize and procrastinate? Learn the four Motiva-
tional Styles that prevent successful motivation, and how to become an
Excellent Motivator.
16. Making Decisions 166-176
Whether the decision is big or small, most of us use a single thinking style.
Inappropriate decision-making styles can cause inaction, agonizing or regret.
Learn how effective decision-making is easy, efficient and satisfying.
17. Dealing with Disaster 177-183
Find out how someone who narrowly avoided a fatal accident recovered from
her resulting panic, and gained a greater sense of competence and self-esteem.