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! ! ! !! Guidelines For An Easy Marriage Badʿi uz-Zamān al-Madanī Translated & Transcribed Arshan ʿUmer Anṣārī ! ! S R I alafi esearch nstitute Sala fi Research Institute! ! guidelines for an easy marriage! 1st Edn. © [SRI] Salafi Research Institute Jumada al-Ula 1437H / March 2016ce All rights reserved No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced Or utilized in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, Now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, without prior Permission from the publishers or authors. www.salafiri.com 2! ! Sala fi Research Institute! Guidelines For An Easy Marriage Badʿi uz-Zamān al-Madanī Translated & Transcribed Arshan ʿUmer Anṣārī S R I alafi esearch nstitute 2016 www.salafiri.com 3! ! Sala fi Research Institute! Contents' ! Publishers Foreword……………………………………………………page 5 1. Introduction…..………………………………………………………..page 6 2. Marriage and its necessity……………………………………...page 8 3. Virtues of a righteous spouse……………………….…………page 13 4. Conditions of Marriage………………………………………….page 19 5. Steps to make marriage easy and successful...……..page 26 www.salafiri.com 4! ! Sala fi Research Institute! P u b l i s h e r s f o r e w o r d Alhamdullilahi Rabbil A’lamīn, Waṣalatu Wasalam Ala Rasūlillahil Karīm, Wa, Ba’d Marriage is just one of the infinite blessings Allah has bestowed upon the Muslims. Its has numerous rewards and effects on the Individual, his family and society in general. In this regard the noble and virtuous brother Badī uz-Zaman al-Madanī delivered a comprehensive and precise lecture on the aforementioned subject and offered great insight and practical advice to society in general in how to approach marriage. The brother, May Allāh reward him abundantly and make his scales heavy on Yaum al-Qiyāmah (Amīn), Arshan ʿUmer Anṣārī, painstakingly transcribed the whole lecture to benefit the Muslims. May Allāh Accept this from him and reward him with good and Success. Amīn. Abū Ḥibbān & Abū Khuzaimah Anṣārī On behalf of Salafī Research Institute 23rd Jumada al-Ūla 1437H / Thursday 3rd March 2016ce Birmingham, England. S R I alafi esearch nstitute 2016 www.salafiri.com 5! ! Sala fi Research Institute! Introduction All praise to Allah, we seek his aid and his assistance, and ask his forgiveness and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our souls and from the evil of our actions. Whomever Allah guides, no one will be able to able to mislead him. Whomever he leads astray, none can guide him. I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. As to what proceeds: Indeed the best speech is the speech of Allah, and the best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (ﷺ). And the worst of matters are those innovated by the people, and every innovated matter is a bid’ah and every bid’ah is astray, and every going astray is in the fire. The Noble brother Badi-uz Zaman Madani is a student from Madina University. He graduated from college of tafseer, and has memorized several narrations of tafseer. One of his prominent teachers was Sheikh Hikmat bin Basheer Al Iraqi, the author of the one of the recent most tafseer named: “At Tafseer As-Saheeh” (published in four volumes). Sheikh Hikmat lead the tafseer department in Madina University for some time, and his other books are as well focused on subjects related to tafseer. Sheikh Badi-uz Zaman currently resides in Saudi Arabia, and is a member of Islamic center in the capital city, Riyadh. He gave a lecture several years back in India on the topic: Nikah: Asaan ya Mushkil? (Marriage: Easy or Difficult?) It is Allah, the Most Noble and the Most Wise who: !" Prohibited adultery, and sanctioned punishments for it. And it is he who: !" Encouraged marriage, and in some cases obligated it, and rewards us for it. What’s the difference between the two? Is there any reason behind it? www.salafiri.com 6! ! Sala fi Research Institute! We do not have any doubt that much of the Muslim youth today are into matters related to this subject which lay outside the boundaries set by Allah. I, as a nineteen year old university student found it effective and beneficial. If it can benefit me, then without a doubt it can benefit others as well, with the help of Allah. And therefore, transcribed this lecture for the benefit of others. I acknowledge that this is very brief, but I hope that Allah accepts it from me, forgives me due to this, and guides other through this. Arshan Umer Ansari [25th September 2015] " www.salafiri.com 7! ! Sala fi Research Institute! Marriage and its Necessity And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. (30:21) The maqsad (aim) of nikaah is peace and tranquility, and eradication of all evils. The tranquility we achieve by marrying in the Islamic manner cannot be achieved by any other way. Through this Allah put mawaddah (affection)"and rahmah (mercy)." Love in Islam is after marriage. But those submerged into materialism like the Europeans think that love should be before marriage." Allah (subhanahu wata ala) said: !ﻛﻟ$%ﺎﺑﻟ$() "They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them." (2:187) Allah compared this relationship to clothes. Clothes are a shelter for humans, and clothes hide the private parts. Clothes are also for beautification of the body. They also hide the bad things of the body. So, from this we learn that when a husband and wife get close to each other, their actual life begins. The way in which clothes hide our bad and frame our body, the husband-wife relationship is also established so that they conceal each other's bad. Allah said, "O children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment." (7:26) The way our clothes hides our secrets, the husband-wife relationship as well hides each other’s secrets. What is the importance of marriage? www.salafiri.com 8! ! Sala fi Research Institute! Allah spoke several times on this matter in the Qur'an and specifically in Suratun Nisa (chapter 4). Allah brought this bond into existence even before bringing human life into existence on this earth. Allah said, "It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her.." (7:189) Allah brought human beings into existence through Adam (alayhissalam). Then Allah created their pairs ie., he created his wife from Adam (alayhissalam)'s ribs. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment is the men who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret." (Muslim) Because he did not ‘behave’ like a clothe! And he (ﷺ) said, " ",ِ ﺎﺟَ 0ِّ ﻟ1$3ُ ِﺋﺎَﻘﺷَ $ءُ ﺎﺳَ ِّﻧﻟ1$ﺎﻣَ ﱠﻧِ<" "Women are counterpart of men." (Abu Dawood) For this reason marriage is an obligation upon everyone. Because peace, tranquility cannot be established except with marriage." And he (ﷺ) said, "O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire." (Agreed upon) Those youth who can support a wife ie., he desires marriage, and can afford a wife, her clothing and a room and is prepared internally for marriage, must get married. It is obligatory for such youth to get married, belating is not permissible. Zuhr Salah cannot be performed at the time of Asr, and Asr cannot be performed with Maghrib. The Lord who established Salah on fixed times also obligated marriage on those with capability. www.salafiri.com 9! ! Sala fi Research Institute! If one doesn't marries at the right time, then this is zulm on the shariah. One must marry, because youth is an age and time when it is difficult to control oneself. The biggest trial for youth is women. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "I am not leaving behind me a more harmful trial for men than women." (Bukhari) The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The life of the world is sweet and green. Allah makes you generations succeeding one another so that He may try you in respect of your actions. So beware of the beguilements of the world and those of women. The first trial of Banu Israel was through women". (Muslim) Bani Israel, the followers of Musa alayhissalam, those who sacrificed their wealth and lives for the sake of Allah, but when the fitnah of women was presented to them, they failed the test. And Allamah ibn Qayyim mentioned in "Turk al Hukmiyyah" that when they got into fahisha, more than seventy thousand of them died in a day due to diseases. Allah does not forgives societies which indulge into fahisha, zina, and mixed gatherings. Look at the history of Iran, Egypt and Rome, their society, culture and everything got destroyed. He (ﷺ) said, "Immorality never appears among a people to such an extent that they commit it openly, but plagues and diseases that were never known among the predecessors will spread among them." (Ibn Majah) The benefit of marriage that Allah's messenger (ﷺ) said is that it restrains ones eyes. Because evil and zina begins from our gaze. Allah's messenger (ﷺ) said that gaze is one of the poisonous arrows from among the arrows of Iblees. %=ﻠﺑ<$!ﺎ?ﺳ$(ﻣ$!@ﻣﺳﻣ$!?ﺳ$A0Bﻧﻟ1 If an arrow hits our body, it will have a massive effect on the whole body. And if poison is added to it, the whole body will be poisoned. Controlling www.salafiri.com 10! !
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