Dirty Secrets from a Woman on How to Attract, Seduce, and Get Any Female You Want Marni Kinrys THE ULTIMATE WING GIRL Edited by Rebecca McLeod Velocity House Publishing 3 Copyright © 2012 Velocity House Publishing and Marni Kinrys. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED WORLDWIDE. This publication is under the US Copyright Act of 1976 and all other applicable international, federal, state, and local laws. All rights are reserved, including resale rights: you are not allowed to give, donate, or otherwise sell this eBook. If you received this publication from anyone other than author, you have received a pirated copy. Please note that this publication is based on personal experience and anecdotal evidence as provided by author is done so in good faith. Although the author and publisher have made every reasonable attempt to achieve complete accuracy of the content in this eBook, they assume no responsibility for errors or omissions therein. Any trademarks, service marks, product names, or named features are assumed the property of their respective owners, and are used only for reference purposes. There is no implied endorsement if we use one of these terms, and all endorsements will be clearly outlined with due credit. Finally, please use common sense. Nothing in this eBook is intended to replace that, legal, medical, or other professional advice, and is meant to inform and entertain the reader. ISBN: 978-1-62409-005-9 Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 4 Dedication I thank every person I have ever encountered who made me feel anxious. Each of those people pushed my buttons and frustrated me at the time, but ultimately these encounters pushed me to become the woman I am today. I dedicate this book to: Justine Mazin for her incredible, funny chapter introductions. All the men who have supported the Wing Girl Method and me for the past decade. The ex-boyfriends that hurt or loved me. My amazing male friends. My kick-ass girlfriends who have allowed me to interrogate them for intimate details and strap microphones to their bodies so I could complete my research. My family, for supporting me and my ideas no matter how crazy they seemed The best man among all men, my husband. Without him I would not have an example of what it truly means to be a man that women want! He is a man who I hope to spend the rest of my life with. Special thanks to my industry peeps: everyone in The Seduction Syndicate, Sean Stephenson, Eben Pagen, Carlos Xuma, David Wygant, Josh Pellicer, Mark Ling, Nina Rubin, Neil Strauss, Ross Jefferies, Nicole Powers, Brian Gross, Kelly Perkins, and Rabbi Shwartzie. Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 5 Table of Contents Preface .......................................................................................................................................................... 9 Introduction ................................................................................................................................................ 10 How to Use This Book ................................................................................................................................. 15 I. What the F do Women Want? ............................................................................................................ 16 1. What They Definitely Don’t Want ................................................................................................... 17 Do Women Really Prefer Bad Boys to Nice Guys? .............................................................................. 17 Women Do Not Want to Be With the Bad Boy! .................................................................................. 17 Why Men Give Bad Advice .................................................................................................................. 18 Too Much Game Can Ruin Your Chances with Women ...................................................................... 19 Angry, Bitter Men Do Not Get Laid ..................................................................................................... 23 No Woman Likes a Pouncer ................................................................................................................ 25 Do Money, Social Status, and Possessions Matter To Women? ......................................................... 26 Why Do Women Respond to Me When I Act Like an Asshole? .......................................................... 26 Do I Need To Be Funny To Get The Girl? ............................................................................................. 27 Is It Wrong To Date Women You Know You Do Not Want? ............................................................... 28 How Long Should I Keep Up The Game? ............................................................................................. 28 2. Surprise! The Things They Do Want. ............................................................................................... 30 The Short, Bald Man That Turned Me On ........................................................................................... 30 Do You Have The Presence Women Want? ........................................................................................ 32 You Must Turn Yourself on Before You Can Turn a Woman On ......................................................... 33 Why Confidence Is More Attractive Than a Six-Pack and Cash .......................................................... 34 Four Things You Need To Do To Get Women ..................................................................................... 36 Three Things Women Find Sexy That Have Nothing to Do With Sex .................................................. 37 Real Men Take Risks ............................................................................................................................ 38 Rules for Attracting Beautiful Women ................................................................................................ 39 Women Want a Strong Man ............................................................................................................... 41 Why Women Like 50 Shades of Grey .................................................................................................. 45 II. How to Approach and Meet Women .................................................................................................. 48 1. The Where and How: ...................................................................................................................... 49 Where to Meet Women ...................................................................................................................... 49 Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 6 How to Meet Women While Travelling .............................................................................................. 50 When Should A Guy Approach A Woman? ......................................................................................... 52 Get Off Your Ass and Start Practicing! ................................................................................................ 53 Does Practice Really Get Results? ....................................................................................................... 53 Is She Testing Me? .............................................................................................................................. 54 How Do I Handle Female Cock Blocks? ............................................................................................... 55 How Do I Build Attraction and Take It to the Next Level? .................................................................. 56 2. Body Language and Headspace ...................................................................................................... 58 How to Show Confident Body Language When Approaching Women ............................................... 58 Nine Tips for Confident Body Language .............................................................................................. 58 A Smile Is an Inexpensive Way to Change Your Looks ........................................................................ 60 Is the Initial Smile Essential? ............................................................................................................... 62 25 Famous Thinkers and Their Inspiring Daily Rituals ........................................................................ 63 Reject Me Please! ............................................................................................................................... 67 How Do I Motivate Myself to Go for It When I Know I’ll Get Rejected? ............................................. 68 Five Steps to Eliminate Approach Anxiety .......................................................................................... 69 How Can I Tell What a Woman’s Eye Contact is Signaling? ................................................................ 70 Are You Into This Girl? ........................................................................................................................ 71 How to Avoid Being Creepy ................................................................................................................ 71 3. Dating Online .................................................................................................................................. 73 How to Write a Female-Friendly Profile ............................................................................................. 73 Rules for Selecting Pictures ................................................................................................................. 77 Things to Include In Your Profile ......................................................................................................... 77 How Do I Ask Her Out On Facebook? ................................................................................................. 78 III. How to Talk to Women and Create Attraction ............................................................................... 80 Have You Heard About the Magic Line to Say to Women That Instantly Makes Them Drop Their Panties? ............................................................................................................................................... 80 What Do I Talk to Women About? ...................................................................................................... 81 Talking About Video Games ................................................................................................................ 81 How to Compliment a Woman Correctly ............................................................................................ 82 Get Out Of Interview Mode and Start Connecting ............................................................................. 83 Why Women Need to Feel You ........................................................................................................... 85 Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 7 How Do You Make Women Feel You? ................................................................................................ 87 How to Make Decisions in 60 Seconds Or Less ................................................................................... 88 How to Get a Girl’s Number in Less Than 30 Seconds ........................................................................ 89 How to Juggle Multiple Women ......................................................................................................... 93 IV. The Dating Playbook ....................................................................................................................... 95 Why Isn’t Dating Fun Anymore? ......................................................................................................... 95 1. How to Get a Date ........................................................................................................................... 97 A Case Study: How to Correctly Ask a Woman Out ............................................................................ 97 How to Be Direct and Ask Her Out ...................................................................................................... 99 Are You Coming On Too Strong? How to Avoid Being Overeager .................................................... 101 Do I Need to Have a Full Conversation With a Woman Before Asking Her Out? ............................. 103 How Do I Ask a Woman On a Second Date? ..................................................................................... 104 Is Okay to Date on a Casual Level?.................................................................................................... 105 Do I Tell a Woman I’m Dating Other Women? ................................................................................. 105 2. How to Rock the Date ................................................................................................................... 107 Eleven Mistakes Men Make on Dates ............................................................................................... 107 Where to Take a Girl on a Date ......................................................................................................... 109 How to Bring Up Sticky Topics: Kids, Divorce, Health, etc. ............................................................... 109 Should Men Pay for the First Date? .................................................................................................. 111 How Can I Tell if She Likes Me? ......................................................................................................... 114 Signs That She Wants to Be Kissed & Signs That She Doesn’t .......................................................... 115 What Should I Do When A Woman Flakes On Me? .......................................................................... 118 Did I Ruin My Chances by Getting Too Cute Too Soon? ................................................................... 119 Should I Call or Text after a Date? .................................................................................................... 120 Ten Reasons Why Being Unhealthy Can Affect Your Dating Life ...................................................... 121 V. How to Avoid the Friend Zone ...................................................................................................... 124 Urban Legend: The Man Who Went From Friend to Lover Just by Waiting ..................................... 124 The Difference Between a Friend and a Lover .................................................................................. 124 Do I Stay in the Friend Zone and Wait? ............................................................................................ 126 Have I Become "The Friend"? If So, How Do I Escape the Friend Zone? .......................................... 127 How to Be a Bad Friend but a Freaking Good Lover ......................................................................... 129 She’s Just Not That Into You: Don’t Mistake Emotional Banter for Flirtatious Banter ..................... 143 Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 8 What Do I Do If She Starts Talking About Her Guy Problems on a Date? ......................................... 144 She Brought Her Ex on Our Date ....................................................................................................... 145 VI. How Women Want It! The How, What, Where, When and Why Behind Every Female Action. . 147 Eleven Things about Beautiful Women Every Man Must Know ....................................................... 147 What Do Women Find Sexy? ............................................................................................................ 149 Do Women Want Sex As Much As Men Do? .................................................................................... 151 Ten Ways to Get Her in the Mood .................................................................................................... 153 Eight Signs That She Is Flirting with You ........................................................................................... 154 The Three Magic Words Every Woman Wants To Hear ................................................................... 156 How to Be Her Hero .......................................................................................................................... 157 How to Win Over a Bitch ................................................................................................................... 159 Why Do Women Flake on Plans? ...................................................................................................... 160 Why Do Women "Test" Men: The Shit Test Explained ..................................................................... 162 How to Pass Shit Tests ...................................................................................................................... 164 Is She A Gold Digger? ........................................................................................................................ 165 How Do I Breakup with A Girl and Still Be Friends? .......................................................................... 166 How Do Women Evaluate the Men Who Approach Them? ............................................................. 167 Why Do Women Give Out Their Number & Not Answer the Phone? .............................................. 168 What Does It Mean When a Women Says "You Don’t Listen Unless I Yell?" ................................... 170 VII. Conclusion ..................................................................................................................................... 171 The Checklist ......................................................................................................................................... 171 The Formula for Success ....................................................................................................................... 172 The Happily Ever After .......................................................................................................................... 173 VIII. References .................................................................................................................................... 175 Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 9 Preface I have been trying to write this book for four years. By trying I mean attempting to pawn off the work on someone else who I thought could more creatively present the work I’ve been doing for nearly a decade. Every time I tried, the writer failed to convey what I wanted. The content of the book didn’t convey the passion I have for my life’s work. I wanted perfection. I wanted everyone to love what I wrote and I wanted every guy who picked up a book with my name on it to be magically motivated and transformed. Then I realized something... I was doing exactly what I tell men, every day, to stop doing. I was stopping myself from going after what I wanted because I was afraid of failure. Just as you cannot attract and charm the pants off every woman, you cannot create the perfect book that will motivate and transform every man. So I said, "Fuck it," and started putting together my book! My advice has already helped hundreds of thousands of men around the world. A little poor grammar and shoddy spelling were not going to hold me back. This book represents close to a decade of hard work, constant testing, as well as years of being in the trenches with clients and friends. This book is a compilation of the work I have been doing for almost a decade. I’ve gathered what I think to be my best blogs, articles, newsletters, emails to clients, stories, and responses to comments on my website and I have put them all into one place. This book is not designed to make you feel good about the things you have done in the past. Men come to my website, sign up for my programs and buy my books because they want a female perspective. I make it my goal to give them that perspective, and sometimes it hurts. It can be hard to hear that you’ve been going about getting a date in totally the wrong way, but it can stop right now. As a woman who studies what women want, I am going to tell you exactly how to approach women. You are going to learn in-depth, real things about women; the things they want, the things they expect, and why what you are doing now and have been doing until now is not working. The pieces I have gathered for you do not tell you how women should act; they tell you how they do act. Enjoy. Marni Kinrys, World’s Best Female PUA of the Year (2010, 2011) Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow 10 Introduction I waited backstage at the Renaissance Hotel ballroom, where the Pick-Up Artist Summit was in full swing and I was the next scheduled speaker. If you are not familiar with the term Pick-Up Artist, it means a man (generally) who is skilled at meeting, attracting, and seducing women. Typically, Pick-Up Artists, or PUAs, are associated with the seduction community, a heterosexual male subculture based on the goal of improved sexual and romantic abilities with women. For years this world has been kept a secret but with the success of VH1’s show "The Pick Up Artist" and Neil Strauss’ bestselling book "The Game" (Strauss, 2005), it‘s not so secret anymore. In fact, it has become a big business. The PUA Summit is a gathering of the world's top PUAs and their followers who are eager to learn. Some of the experts teach pick-up lines, while others teach routines, but all teach their method on the art of getting the girl. If you‘re confused as to why I, a woman, was speaking at the PUA Summit, let me give a quick description of my job: I pick up women for men. My name is Marni and I am a professional Wing Girl. Men pay me to help them pick-up, attract, date, and get the women they want. Not to brag, but I'm really freaking good at it. Besides being invited to speak at the PUA Summit this year where I was awarded, "World's Best Female PUA of the Year," I have successfully helped thousands of great men get the women they want. So how did a nice Jewish girl like me get into this profession? I started my business, the same way most people do: drunk and by accident. One Friday night, I attended a Shabbat dinner at the home of Rabbi Shwartzie. I am not religious but I was new to Los Angeles and wanted to connect with my people. Just like any other Jewish event, this dinner was also a singles mixer. I had recently started dating someone (who I am now married to) but felt there was no harm in window-shopping. The matching making soiree was off to a rocky start, and the event felt more like a junior high dance than a singles mixer. Boys on one side of the room, girls on the other side. No one was interacting. I started grabbing men and pushing them to talk to women. When they were finished interacting, I would give them feedback on their technique, made tweaks and send them out again. By the end of the night, people were mixing, exchanging numbers, and having a great time. I went home, buzzed from the night and the open bar, and spoke to my roommate. I was in public relations at the time and hated every second of it. I said to him, "What if I could do what I did Get Free Training: How To Sexually Escalate With Women On A Date www.TopSecretDatingAdvice.com/GetSexyNow