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FLIRTATION AND COURTSHIP IN NINETEENTH-CENTURY BRITISH CULTURE FLIRTATION AND COURTSHIP IN NINETEENTH-CENTURY BRITISH CULTURE Edited by Ghislaine McDayter and John Hunter Volume I Learning to Become a Woman F irst published 2023 by Routledge 4 Park Square, Milton Park, Abingdon, Oxon OX14 4RN a nd by Routledge 605 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10158 R outledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business © 2023 selection and editorial matter, Ghislaine McDayter and John Hunter; individual owners retain copyright in their own material. T he right of Ghislaine McDayter and John Hunter to be identifi ed as the authors of the editorial material, and of the authors for their individual chapters, has been asserted in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. A ll rights reserved. No part of this book may be reprinted or reproduced or utilised in any form or by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publishers. T rademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identifi cation and explanation without intent to infringe. British Library Cataloguing-in-Publication Data A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data A catalog record for this book has been requested ISBN: 978-0-367-20071-8 (set) eISBN: 978-0-429-25946-3 (set) ISBN: 978-0-367-23170-5 (volume I) eISBN: 978-0-429-27862-4 (volume I) DOI: 10.4324/9780429278624 Typeset in Times New Roman by Apex CoVantage, LLC CONTENTS VOLUME I Learning to Become a Woman General introduction: the cultivation of woman 1 Introduction to Volume I: learning to become a woman 6 1 The Mother’s Gift: Or a Present for all little Children Who Are Good (1769) 34 2 James Fordyce , The Character and Conduct of the Female Sex, and the Advantages to be Derived by Young Men from the Society of Virtuous Women (1776) 39 3 Sarah Howard, Thoughts on Female Education, with Advice to Young Ladies (1783) 43 4 John Moir, Female Tuition: or, An Address to Mothers, on the Education of Daughters (1784) 48 5 ‘The Miseries of Improper Education’ (1789) 68 6 Mary Wollstonecraft, ‘Advertisement’ to S alzmann’s Elements of Morality (1792) 74 7 ‘A Vision’ (1792) 77 8 The Complete Art of Writing Love Letters; or, the Lover’s Best Instructor . . . (1795) 81 v CONTENTS 9 Priscilla Wakefield, Juvenile Anecdotes, Founded on Facts: Collected for the Amusement of Children (1795–98) 91 1 0 Joseph Robertson, An Essay on the Education of Young Ladies: Addressed to a Person of Distinction (1798) 101 11 Priscilla Wakefi eld’s R efl ections on the Present Condition of the Female Sex; with Suggestions for its Improvement (1798) 107 1 2 Maria Edgeworth and R. L. Edgeworth, Essays on Practical Education (1798) 122 1 3 Amelia Opie, ‘The Black Velvet Pelisse’ (1806) 141 1 4 Sydney Smith, ‘Review of Advice to Young Ladies on the Improvement of the Mind , by Thomas Broadhurst’ (1810) 154 15 T he Female Instructor; or, Young Woman’s Companion: Being a Guide to All the Accomplishments which Adorn the Female Character . . . (1811) 169 1 6 Mary Brunton, Discipline: A Novel (1814) 178 17 Sarah Green, Gretna Green Marriages: or the Nieces (1823) 189 18 Woman: As She Is, And As She Should Be (1835) 204 19 The Mother the Best Governess. A Practical System for the Education of Young Ladies (1839) 222 20 Alexander Walker, Woman: Physiologically Considered as to Mind, Morals, Marriage, Matrimonial Slavery, Infi delity and Divorce (1839) 228 21 [Eugene Becklard], Physiological Mysteries and Revelations in Love Courtship and Marriage (1843) 244 22 T. E. G., The Etiquette of Love, Courtship, and Marriage (1847) 255 vi CONTENTS 23 T. S. Arthur, ‘Conduct Towards Men’, Advice to Young Ladies on Their Duties and Conduct in Life (1849) 259 24 Edward Woods, Love, Courtship and Marriage (1855) 265 25 M odern Pastime or, In-Door Amusements . . . (1871) 281 26 H ymen’s Advice to the Ladies: A New Invented and Entertaining Game of Courtship and Matrimony (c. 1790) 286 27 T he New Game of Human Life, John Wallis and Elizabeth Newberry, London, (1790) 287 28 T he Mansion of Happiness (1800) 288 29 B owles’s New Invented and Entertaining Game of Courtship and Matrimony; to Be Played Not Only with Dice, as the Goose and Snake, but Also with Cards, or an Index; with Quotations and Motto’s from Celebrated Songs (1795) 289 I ndex 290 vii GENERAL INTRODUCTION The cultivation of woman Throughout the long nineteenth century, it was a truth universally acknowledged that the careful adherence to “Woman’s nature” was the single most important consideration in any young woman’s success in life and love. Conduct books, philosophical essays, literature, maternity manuals, and educational tracts – no matter how varied in their political bent or goal – shared the fi rm belief that so long as a young girl abided by her “proper” Woman’s nature, she would reap the rewards of acquiring husband, home, and happiness. While the education of both sexes during the nineteenth century was viewed as the most reliable answer to all great ills in society, a proper education was held up by the “experts” as the single most important factor in the success or failure of any given woman’s life trajec- tory. Men required a solid education to make them better citizens, of course, but women needed an education to instill in them the skills to become a woman. For men, as the author of The Female Instructor: or Young Woman’s Companion (1811) asserts, “education is known to have a powerful infl uence in forming the tempers and characters . . .: it is therefore necessary, as soon as the mind is capa- ble of comprehending the social ties, to cherish, with the utmost vigilance, that benevolence which is the bond of society.” Women were given no such goal. So, while the education of men set out “to strengthen that sense of right and wrong which makes a distinguished part of the human constitution” (Female Instructor, p. 9) women needed to be educated in the categories of right and wrong, only in as much as they could be recognized as such in desirable men. Their own moral education was explicitly performative since they were admonished to achieve those “distinguishing virtues . . . which will render them amiable in the eyes of prudent young men” (below p. 175). A young girl’s central educational task, then, was not to acquire the inner wealth that would allow her to form a stron- ger character, but rather to effortlessly perform the culturally encoded feminine characteristics of “cleanliness, neatness of dress, modesty, sweetness of temper, industry, sobriety and frugality,” thus proving herself to be a desirable woman (below p. 175). A faulty education, on the other hand, could embolden a girl in her passionate youthful tendencies, her vanity, and her petty willfulness, resulting in tragedy DOI: 10.4324/9780429278624-1 1

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