February 2013 Ensign

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THE ENSIGN OF THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SAINTS • FEBRUARY 2013
We Follow
Jesus Christ,
pp. 16, 24, 50
“Stand by My
Servant Joseph,” p. 34
Earth: A Gift
from God, p. 40
The Refining
Fire of Grief, p. 56
“Humility
is a fertile
soil where
spirituality
grows and
produces
the fruit of
inspiration
to know
what to do.”
Elder Richard G.
Scott of the
Quorum of the
Twelve Apostles,
“How to Obtain
Revelation and
Inspiration for
Your Personal
Life,” Ensign,
May 2012, 47.
Contents February 2013

Volume 43 • Number 2
F E A T U R E S
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Discipleship at All Times, in All Things,
in All Places
Melissa Merrill
Six members share what they learned from a
“discipleship experiment.”
22
I Can Decide
Name withheld
How we deal with the things we experience
is up to us. My decision not to become bitter
made all the difference in my ability to heal.
24
Balancing Truth and Tolerance
Elder Dallin H. Oaks
We must stand up for truth, even while we
practice tolerance and respect for beliefs and
ideas different from our own.
4 32
You’re Not Here to Go to Church!
Mike Ellsworth
M E S S A G E S I was in basic training and needed spiritual
nourishment.
34
FIRST PRESIDENCY MESSAGE “Stand by My Servant Joseph”
 4 Elder Cecil O. Samuelson Jr.
A Word for the Hesitant Missionary What does it mean to
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf stand by the Prophet Joseph
Smith?
VISITING TEACHING MESSAGE 40
 8 Earth: A Gift from God
Converted unto the Lord Tom Reese
Every tree, every mountain,
every bird in the air testifies
of our Heavenly Father.
44
ON THE COVER Standards for All Seasons 40
Front: Photograph of The ensign of The ChurCh of Jesus ChrisT of LaTTer-day sainTs • february 2013 Lori Fuller
woman helping after What do you do when faced
the 2010 earthquake
in Haiti, by Jeffrey D. with what seems to be a gray area between
Allred and Mike Terry right and wrong? These five principles from the
© Deseret News. Back:
Book of Mormon can guide you.
Photo illustration by
Howard Collett © IRI. 48
Inside front cover: We Follow Courage to Share the Gospel
Jesus Christ,
Photograph by Royce pp. 16, 24, 50 Cindy Beck
Bair © Getty Images. “SSetravnandt b Jyo sMeyp h ,” p. 34
Efraormth :G Ao dG,i fpt. 4 0 I wanted to ask Susan if she would like to meet
TFihree Roef fiGnriinefg, p . 56 with the missionaries, but what if she said no?
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D E P A R T M E N T S
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Teaching For the Strength of Youth:
Entertainment and Media
10
October Conference Notebook
13
56
Our Homes, Our Families:
My Dad’s Apology
David Hixon
50
Integrity: Foundation of a Christlike Life 14
Elder Tad R. Callister What We Believe:
Understanding these seven principles will help We Must Be Born of Water and of the Spirit
us make integrity a fundamental character
67
trait in our personal lives.
Family Home Evening Ideas
56
The Refining Fire of Grief 68
Ashley Isaacson Woolley Questions and Answers
How Heavenly Father spoke comfort and How can I return to church?
reassurance to me in a difficult time.
70
60 Latter-day Saint Voices
Lifting the Hands Which Hang Down
Stephen Havertz 74
News of the Church
Whether you are experiencing grief or
comforting someone who is grieving, keep in 79
mind that people mourn in deeply personal In Other Church Magazines
ways.
80
63 Until We Meet Again:
Poem: Epiphany
64 Remembering Him on the Sabbath
Jack Newman
Michael R. Morris
Spiritual promptings
and creative expression
can come to us in an
instant.
64
Job Hunting According
to Nephi
Edgar Tooley
How Nephi, Bishop
Edgley, and others
helped me to find work.
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February 2013 Volume 43 • Number 2
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The First Presidency: Thomas S. Monson,
Henry B. Eyring, Dieter F. Uchtdorf
EXPLORE THE NEW YOUTH CURRICULUM
The Quorum of the Twelve Apostles:
Boyd K. Packer, L. Tom Perry, Russell M. Nelson, At lds. org/ youth/ learn, teachers, parents, and
Dallin H. Oaks, M. Russell Ballard, youth can explore lesson outlines for the year as
Richard G. Scott, Robert D. Hales,
well as connect to multimedia and other useful
Jeffrey R. Holland, David A. Bednar,
Quentin L. Cook, D. Todd Christofferson, links that complement the new youth curriculum.
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February 2013 3
FIRST PRESIDENCY MESSAGE
By President
Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Second Counselor
in the First Presidency

A WORD FOR
THE
Hesitant
Missionary
Disciples of Jesus Christ have always been under the attitude?” The answers to these questions, of course, lead
obligation to take His gospel to the world (see Mark perfectly into a conversation about the restored gospel
16:15–16). Nevertheless, sometimes it is difficult to of Jesus Christ.
open our mouths and speak about our faith to those around
us. While some members of the Church have a natural gift for Be Conversational
talking to others about religion, others are a little hesitant or Bringing up the subject of religion—particularly to our
may feel awkward, embarrassed, or even fearful of doing so. friends and loved ones—can seem daunting and chal-
To that end, may I suggest four things that anyone can lenging. It doesn’t have to be. Mentioning spiritual experi-
do to follow the commission of the Savior to preach the ences or talking about Church activities or events in casual
gospel “unto every creature” (D&C 58:64). conversation can be easy and pleasant if we invest a little
courage and common sense.
Be a Light My wife, Harriet, is a wonderful example of this. When
A favorite saying of mine often attributed to St. Francis we were living in Germany, she would find a way to work
of Assisi reads, “Preach the gospel at all times and if neces- Church-related topics into her conversations with friends
sary, use words.” 1 Implicit in this saying is the understand- and acquaintances. For example, when someone asked
ing that often the most powerful sermons are unspoken. about her weekend, she would say, “This Sunday we had an
When we have integrity and live consistently by our impressive experience in our church! A 16-year-old young
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standards, people notice. When we radiate joy and happi- man gave a beautiful talk in front of 200 people of our NOTE
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ness, they notice even more. congregation about living a clean life.” Or, “I learned about CEPT
Everyone wants to be happy. When we members of the a 90-year-old woman who knitted more than 500 blankets KER, EX
Church radiate the light of the gospel, people can see our and gave them to our Church’s humanitarian program to be D STO
happiness and sense the love of God filling and overflow- shipped to people in need all around the world.” AVI
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ing in our lives. They want to know why. They want to More often than not, the people who heard this NS BY
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understand our secret. wanted to know more. They asked questions. And that ATI
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TEACHING FROM With the advent of the Internet and social experience to set in motion the softening of a
THIS MESSAGE media, it is easier today to talk about these heart or the opening of a door that can lead
One effective things in a conversational way than ever before. others to experience sublime truths through
way to teach What we need is simply the courage to do so. the promptings of the Spirit.
is to “encourage President Brigham Young (1801–77) said
those you teach to Be Full of Grace he knew the gospel was true when he “saw a
set . . . goals that can Unfortunately, it is so easy to be disagreeable. man without eloquence, or talents for public
help them live the It happens too often that we argue, belittle, and speaking, who could only say, ‘I know, by
principle you have condemn. When we become angry, rude, or the power of the Holy Ghost, that the Book
taught” (Teaching, No hurtful with people, the last thing they want of Mormon is true, that Joseph Smith is a
Greater Call [1999], is to learn more about us. It is impossible to Prophet of the Lord.’” President Young said
159). Consider inviting know how many people have either left the when he heard that humble testimony, “The
those you teach to Church or never joined because someone said Holy Ghost proceeding from that individual
prayerfully set a goal something that hurt or offended them. illuminate[d] my understanding, and light,
to share the gospel There is so much incivility in the world glory, and immortality [were] before me.” 2
with one or more today. Because of the anonymity of the Brothers and sisters, have faith. The Lord
people this month. Internet, it is easier than ever to say toxic or can magnify the words you speak and make
Parents can discuss grating things online. Shouldn’t we, the hopeful them mighty. God doesn’t ask you to convert
ways younger children disciples of our gentle Christ, have a higher, but rather to open your mouths. The task of
could help. You could more charitable standard? The scriptures teach, converting is not yours—that belongs to the
also help family “Let your speech be alway[s] with grace, sea- person hearing and to the Holy Spirit.
members brainstorm soned with salt, that ye may know how ye
or role-play ways to ought to answer every man” (Colossians 4:6). Every Member a Missionary
bring up the gospel in I like the idea of our words being clear as a My dear friends, today there are more ways
regular conversation sunny sky and full of grace. Can you imagine than ever for us to open our mouths and share
and think of upcom- what our families, wards, nations, and even with others the joyful news of the gospel of
ing Church activities the world would be like if we could adopt this Jesus Christ. There is a way for everyone—
to which they could simple principle? even the hesitant missionary—to participate
invite a friend. in this great work. We can each find a way to
Be Filled with Faith use our own particular talents and interests in
Sometimes we take upon ourselves too support of the great work of filling the world
much credit or too much blame when it with light and truth. As we do so, we will find
comes to others accepting the gospel. It’s the joy that comes to those who are faithful
important to remember that the Lord doesn’t and courageous enough “to stand as witnesses
expect us to do the converting. of God at all times” (Mosiah 18:9). ◼
Conversion comes not through our words
NOTES
but through the heavenly ministrations of
1. St. Francis of Assisi, in William Fay and Linda Evans
the Holy Spirit. Sometimes all it takes is one Shepherd, Share Jesus without Fear (1999), 22.
2. Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Brigham Young
single phrase of our testimony or about an (1997), 67.
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YOUTH
Sharing with a Friend
By Adriana Vásquez, Colombia
One day while studying for my seminary class, I had Book of Mormon, together with my letter, into her bag.
a beautiful and distinct impression. As I was  To my surprise, my friend was very receptive to the
reading over the lesson for the next day, I saw the face of a gospel. Starting that day, she would tell me about what she
friend from school and had the strong feeling that I should had learned in her study of the Book of Mormon. A few
share my testimony with her. weeks later, I introduced her to the missionaries. Almost
Despite the clarity of this impression, I was afraid. I was immediately, she received a confirmation from the Holy
worried that my friend might reject me, particularly because Ghost that what she was learning was true. The
she didn’t seem to be the kind of girl who would be missionaries and I cried as she told us of her feel-
interested in joining the Church. ings. My friend was soon baptized, and her parents
 I thought back to a talk by Sister Mary N. Cook were amazed to see the changes that had occurred
of the Young Women general presidency in which in her.
she challenged us to work hard and be valiant.1  I am so happy I was able to overcome my fears
I wanted to be like this, so I wrote this girl and help bring the gospel into her life.
a letter and testified of the truthfulness of NOTE
1. See Mary N. Cook, “Never, Never, Never Give Up!”
the Church and of my love for the Book of
Ensign, May 2010, 117–19.
Mormon. The next day I slipped a copy of the
CHILDREN
I Can Be a Light to Others
President Uchtdorf says that to
be a light to others, our words Be a “I’ll share
“Thank you” Be happy Be polite
should be “clear as a sunny sky and peacemaker with you”
full of grace.” Our words should
be happy, honest, and kind. What
can you do or say to be a light to “It’s good to “I’d love
“I’m sorry” Argue Fight
others? To find a hidden message see you” to help”
in the boxes below, color in black
the boxes that say or do things
that are mean or hurtful. “Get out of “You’re
“Please” Be kind “I love you”
my way” welcome”
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VISITING TEACHING MESSAGE
Prayerfully study this material and, as appropriate, discuss it with the sisters you visit. Use the Faith, Family, Relief
questions to help you strengthen your sisters and to make Relief Society an active part of your
own life. For more information, go to reliefsociety.lds.org.
Converted From Our History
“With the ever-increasing
unto the Lord
number of converts,” said
President Gordon B. Hinckley
New sisters of the Church—
(1910–2008), “we must make an
including Young Women enter-
increasingly substantial effort to
ing Relief Society, sisters returning
assist them as they find their way.
to activity, and new converts—need
the support and friendship of visit- Every one of them needs three
ing teachers. “Member involvement things: a friend, a responsibility,
is vital to convert retention and in and nurturing with ‘the good
bringing less-active members back word of God’ (Moroni 6:4).” 3
into full activity,” said Elder M. Russell Visiting teachers are in a
Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve position to help those they
Apostles. “Capture the vision that the
watch over. Friendship often
Relief Society . . . can become [one
comes first, as it did for a young
of] the most powerful friendshipping Ballard.2 All of us, but especially visit-
Relief Society sister who was the
resource[s] we have in the Church. ing teachers, have important respon-
visiting teacher of an older sister.
Reach out early to those being taught sibilities to establish friendships with
They had been slow in building
and reactivated, and love them into the new members as a way of helping
a friendship until they worked
Church through your organization.” 1 them become firmly “converted unto
side by side on a cleaning proj-
As members of Relief Society, we the Lord” (Alma 23:6).
ect. They became friends, and as
can help new members learn basic
From the Scriptures
Church practices, such as: they talked about the Visiting
2 Nephi 31:19–20; Moroni 6:4
• Giving a talk. Teaching Message, they were
• Bearing testimony. both nurtured by “the good
NOTES
• Living the law of the fast. 1. M. Russell Ballard, “Members Are the word of God.”
Key,” Ensign, Sept. 2000, 13.
• Paying tithing and other offerings. 2. M. Russell Ballard, “Members Are President Joseph Fielding
the Key,” 14.
• Participating in family history Smith (1876–1972) said Relief
3. Gordon B. Hinckley, “Converts and Young
work. Men,” Ensign, May 1997, 47. Society “is a vital part of the
4. Joseph Fielding Smith, in Daughters in My
• Performing baptisms and
Kingdom: The History and Work of Relief kingdom of God on earth and
confirmations for their Society (2011), 97.
. . . helps its faithful members to
deceased ancestors.
gain eternal life in our Father’s
“It takes attentive friends to make
kingdom.” 4
new members feel comfortable and
welcomed at church,” said Elder
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