Fatherhood Aborted

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FATHERHOOD
ABORTED
The Profound Effects
of Abortion on Men
BY GUY CONDON
DAVID HAZARD
&
Used by permission of Eternal Perspective Ministries
Until now,no book has served the millions of fathers of aborted children.
Most have stuck their monstrous memories on closet shelves.Fatherhood
Abortedshows how the monster gets out and rips into the unsuspecting.
It also shows the only way to defang that monster for good.
Dr.Marvin Olasky,senior fellow,Acton Institute for the Study of Religion
and Liberty,and author of Compassionate Conservatism
Abortion takes the life of more than the single innocent one in the womb.
The lives of both the potential mother and father,lives that might have
been,are wiped out as well.This book is for the second of those two giv-
ers of life,the father.The good news of this book is that there is still a Life
Giver,who heals wounded souls and raises the dead to life.
Michael Card,musician and author of A Violent Grace
Fatherhood Abortedis a clarion call of hope to those who have directly or
indirectly failed and suffered the sorrow of a decision to abort a child.Far
more,it is a commanding look at what a father is meant to be to his chil-
dren and to his world.I read this work with sorrow and joy.Guy Condon
passed from this earth before his book was published,yet his powerful
words and life call us to be guardians of relationship and prophets of rec-
onciliation in an area of such shame and acrimony.Guy Condon is my
hero and my hope of what I would like to become as a man and as a
father.Condon and Hazard have struck a chord for life even for those
who have lived under the shadow of death.
Dan B.Allender,Ph.D.,president,Mars Hill Graduate School,Seattle,Washington,
and author of The Wounded Heart,Cry of the Soul,and The Healing Path
Guy Condon’s life was characterized by devotion to God and service to
man.Notwithstanding his “untimely” death,Guy’s legacy continues with
the publication of this book.Fatherhood Aborteddetails the devastating
and often overlooked impact that abortion has on men and offers the
hope of healing that can come only when men reconnect with their heav-
enly Father.Guy was a blessing to all who knew him.He will continue to
bless all who read this book.
Ken Connor,president,Family Research Council
We knew abortion destroyed babies and exploited women.But Guy Con-
don and David Hazard clearly and biblically demonstrate the toll it has
taken on men.This is must reading for those who care about life.
Gary L.Bauer,president,American Values
This is an unusual book because it examines abortion from the perspec-
tive of the father.Honest.Probing.And long overdue.
Dr.Luder G.Whitlock Jr.,president of Reformed Theological Seminary
In all my years of counseling and listening to men,I have never seen a
more reflective,helpful,and honest book on helping empty-armed fathers
confront their pain.Yet Guy and David’s book takes us further.It shows us
the hope that confused and struggling men can find as they experience
God’s healing forgiveness and grace!
Dr.Gary Rosberg,president of America’s Family Coaches and coauthor,
with Barbara Rosberg,of 5 Love Needs of Men and Women
This is not “just another book on abortion.” Have you ever read one
predicated on the tragic experience of “aborted fathers”? Males involved
in the abortion of their unborn child may expect to go through a more
painful,mind-shocking,and remorseful aftermath than they ever imagined
possible.The authors of this insightful and compelling book tell why.This
is highly recommended reading for postabortive men and also for those
who by means of judicious foresight can avoid the anguish and suffering
delineated in this remarkable volume.
D.James Kennedy,Ph.D.,senior minister,
Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church,Fort Lauderdale,Florida
It’s about time someone gave hope to the fathers who are broken by
abortion.The wounds these men suffer do not just go away with time.
They continue to resurface,and the long-term effects are just as crippling
and devastating to men as they are to women.Here’s a book full of heal-
ing and hope,of love and forgiveness.
Hunter Tylo,television/film actress and founder of Hunter’s Chosen Child
Fatherhood Aborteddigs deep beneath the surface to shine the light of
truth on the havoc and devastation wrought in the lives of men—and
there are millions of them—when they actively or passively participate
in aborting the life of a child.It also shows them the way to freedom,heal-
ing,and wholeness.This book could help heal the soul of America!
Bill McCartney,founder and president,Promise Keepers
Guy’s love for the Lord and his compassion for postabortive people
was extremely rare.His book gives men and the women who love them
the key to healing.Fatherhood Abortedwill definitely be Guy’s legacy.
Linda Cochrane,executive director of Hopeline Women’s Center,Danbury,Connecticut,
and author of Forgiven and Set Free:A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Women
Whatapowerfulmessageofreconciliationandrestorationforthemillions
ofsilentpartnersinabortion.Everypersonaltestimonyinthisbookcon-
tainsajewelofhealingforthesemen(andwomen)tohelpthemexperi-
encethefullnessofforgivenessandtherefreshingoftheLord.
Star Parker, president of C.U.R.E.(Coalition on Urban Renewal and Education)
and author of How the Poor Get Rich

FATHERHOOD
ABORTED
The Profound Effects
of Abortion on Men
BY GUY CONDON
DAVID HAZARD
&
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Condon,Guy,date.
Fatherhood aborted / Guy Condon and David Hazard.
p.cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-8423-5423-9 (sc)
1.Abortion—Psychological aspects.2.Fathers—Psychology.3.Men—Psychology.
4.Abortion—Religious aspects—Christianity. I.Hazard,David. II.Title.
HQ767.C59 2001
306.874′2—dc21 2001027220
ISBN 0-8423-5423-9
Printed in the United States of America
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To Linnie
and my girls

CONTENTS
Acknowledgments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xi
On the Death of Guy Condon, November 11, 2000 . .xiii
Foreword. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xix
Memorial Introduction: Sometimes Plans Change. . . .xxi
Introduction: The Secret Men Need to Talk About . . .xxv
1. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
2. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
3. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
4. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51
5. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67
6. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79
7. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93
8. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111
9. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125
10. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141
11. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153
Prayer of Commitment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 167
Notes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
Appendix: Where to Get Help. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 171
About the Authors. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 173