Eye Contact: The Ultimate Eye Contact Mastery - Practical Guide to Glow in Confidence, Attract People and Excel in Work and Life... With your Powerful Eyes

39 Pages·2015·0.69 MB·English

by  Hugo Reynolds

The Ultimate Eye Contact Mastery
Practical Guide to Glow in Confidence, Attract People and Excel in Work and
Life… With your Powerful Eyes
HUGO REYNOLDS
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Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
Chapter One: Confidence with Eye Contacts
Chapter Two: The 7 Steps to a Stronger Eye Contact
Chapter Three: The Eyes and The Body
Chapter Four: How to impress others with eye contact?
Chapter Five: The 5 Mistakes to Avoid
Chapter Six: The right amount of contact needed in different situations
Chapter Seven: Eye Contact – It makes you either loser or winner
CONCLUSION
Introduction
As a professional in motivational speaking and marketing, I’ve seen
innumerable eyes. It is easy for me to tell a person’s character and sometimes
even their thoughts just by looking in their eyes. Eyes are one of the most
powerful tools that you can leverage on while communicating. I realized that
many people can tell right away if a person is confident or shy just by talking to
them.
When I ask them how, these are the common answers that I get:
“I can tell by the vibes that he’s shy”
“He seems confident?”
“I guess it’s because he knows what he’s talking about?”
You should have had similar experiences as well.
Yet, have you ever asked yourself why? Many factors play a part in this
but the eyes make up the majority of judgements. A shy person looks down more
often or gets distracted more often when talking. A confident person gives you
the straight and focus eyes when he’s talking to you. These are common sense.
Now, if you’re ready to get some powerful and strong eye contacts, let’s get
started.
Chapter One: Confidence with Eye Contacts
Forming successful relationships with other people involves a lot of
details, but the ability to keep an eye contact with the person you’re talking to is
definitely one of the most important. Recent research suggests that women are
far more successful in maintaining an eye contact when they talk to someone.
But if you are a man and you have a problem with keeping an eye contact,
don’t worry – it is something that can be learned through practice. Of course, not
only men have problems with keeping an eye contact. Therefore, the techniques
that we’ll cover in this book will be useful to both men and women.
Keeping an eye contact has more than one simple benefit to the person.
People who look at others straight in the eyes are generally perceived as more
dominant, more confident and emotionally stable, as well as more sincere and
more attractive. So, learning how to keep an eye contact will not only boost your
confidence, but it will also have a more widespread effect on your life, mainly
on the image of you in other people’s eyes when they meet you for the first time.
For example, your chances of getting a good job, presenting an idea or a
speech well, or talking to someone you’re attracted to without making a fool of
yourself, are much higher if you’re able to keep an eye contact with your
audience or the person in front of you. In the opposite case, it is more likely that
people will see you as insecure or even dishonest and emotionally unstable.
Research suggests that musicians who keep an eye contact with their audiences
have more fans.
Eye contact can drastically improve your contacts with other people and
improve your personal confidence in social situations. Here are some of the
reasons why eye contact works in this manner:
1) Human Eyes Have Evolved to Show Connection

Ever wondered why we, of all the species, have white areas on our eyes?
The answer is that it is evolutionary: Since people are social beings even from
the infancy, they use their eyes to track where the other person is looking at. The
white areas in our eyes indicate the direction where we are looking at. Even little
babies track people’s eyes instead of head movements. Our eyes are made for
social contact and you should learn to use this for your advantage.
2) ‘The Eyes are the Windows to the Soul’

You’ve likely heard this before, but it is also scientifically proven. Our
emotions and thoughts affect our eyes in such a way that you can judge, just by
looking at the eyes if somebody is happy, sad, or excited. If you ever seen a
professional poker match, you’ve surely noticed that majority of players wear
sunglasses – the reason is that they want to hide their emotions and to not give
clues to their opponents.
3) Eye Contact Means You Value Your Conversation Partner

Everybody loves to be the center of attention and most people don’t feel
very pleased when you interrupt the conversation by checking your phone. When
you successfully maintain the eye contact during a conversation, you’re not only
showing that you’re confident, but also that the person you’re talking to is worth
your undivided attention.
Eye contact also creates an intimate bond between you and the person
you’re talking to. That’s obvious in situations where couples who are together
for some time don’t even have to speak in order to understand each other. They
can understand how their partner is feeling or what they are thinking only by
looking in their eyes.
Even though it’s pretty clear why eye contact is important both personally
and socially, as we explained earlier, some people are predisposed to have
problems in forming and maintaining eye contact during conversation. There are
several main reasons why some people might have such problems:
1) Insecurity

Eye contact means closer and more intimate interaction with the person
you’re talking to, but since insecure people have a bad image of themselves, they
think that they can hide that insecurity from others by avoiding eye contact.
Insecurity can have various reasons, from not being satisfied with your physical
appearance to general shyness and feeling like you’re less adequate than others.
In order to overcome your insecurity you have to face with these issues
that are preventing you from forming meaningful relationships and successful
social interactions. That is the only way that you can re-gain your confidence
and become successful in maintaining eye contact while you’re talking to
people.
2) Being Deceitful

People who are trying to lie or hide the truth are always trying to avoid
making eye contact with the person they’re deceiving. This is one of the main
reasons why all people who shun away from making eye contact get a bad
reputation. People like to generalize things, so no matter what the real reason
behind your lack of eye contact is, the majority of people will think that you’re
trying to lie or hide something.
Learning how to form and keep an eye contact successfully will surely
save you from such prejudices. Don’t be doubted by others because of untrained
eyes suggesting that you are lying just because you’re not making an eye
contact.
3) Hiding Emotions

In patriarchal cultures, men are expected to hide their emotions. That’s
why in these situations the only way to hide the true feelings, be it love, sadness
or anger, is to hold back from making eye contact and avoiding keeping the eye
contact with someone who might judge you badly because of your emotions.
Now that we’ve explained major reasons why people shy away from
keeping an eye contact, it should be much clearer why people who do maintain
an eye contact are perceived by others as more confident and more honest. In the
next chapter, we’ll talk in more details about the techniques that you can use to
learn how to keep an eye contact and gain more self-confidence in that way. You
will not only feel more confident in social situations, but like we said earlier,
other people will see you as a more honest and more confident person.