Erectile Dysfunction: natural cure for impotence, premature ejaculation and sexual performance: Learn how to exercise your penis to overcome performance anxiety, naturally

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by  Christopher Trow

Erectile dysfunction:
natural cure for impotence,
premature ejaculation and sexual
performance
The effects of stress and anxiety
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is quite a delicate subject and many men shy away
from opening up to discuss their problem. ED is very common, in fact over 18
million men in the US are affected by ED, but yet other estimates say the
number is almost double the amount.
It’s common to experience ED as you age and many men will experience it at
some point or another, although chronic or long term ED isn’t considered
normal.
Erectile dysfunction also known as impotence, happens when a man cannot
maintain or obtain an erection which stops him from having full sex, being able
to perform or last in bed.
There are many factors that go into a healthy erection, such as the bodily
systems – hormones, blood vessels, nervous system, the brain, emotions and
muscles. If a problem interrupts any of these areas, it can cause impotence.
Let’s look at what can contribute to ED:

Heart disease
High blood pressure
High cholesterol
Prostate cancer
Enlarged prostate
Damaged pelvic floor muscles
Anxiety
Insufficient sleep
Sedentary lifestyle
Depression
Diabetes
Obesity
Damaged nerves
Blocked blood vessels
Low testosterone
Medications
Hard drugs
Smoking
High alcohol consumption
There are a lot of factors that result in ED but the two most common are stress
and anxiety and it’s important to note that these two contribute to high blood
pressure and cholesterol.
Although a small amount of stress and anxiety is good for motivation, if it builds
up and becomes prolonged over time it can cause unwanted responses in your
body, impotence being one of them. When a man experiences impotence it
increases his stress response, this can lead to anxiety and even depression which
makes the effects of ED even worse.
If you experience ED then it’s likely that you’ll experience performance anxiety
which of course can produce even more stress. Men often focus too much on
satisfying their ego by making sure their partner is satisfied rather than
themselves. In most cases men are too proud to talk to their partner or seek
professional help to discuss their problem and may even try to avoid sex
altogether which can put a major strain on your relationship, or your confidence
if you’re single.
Stress management is key here and it’s likely that you’ve identified stress and
anxiety to be the main cause of your ED. Although this could be the case, it’s
still wise to go and visit your GP in case any of the above are contributing also.
As well as a visit to the doctors, counselling and psychotherapists can be of great
help to your concerns.
Don’t suffer in silence about ED, as soon as you talk to your GP the sooner they
can identify the problem or contributing factors and the sooner you can return to
full sexual function.
Let’s look at the common treatments for ED

Penis exercises
Blood vessel surgery
Testosterone therapy
Prescription medicine
Injections
Penis pump
Quit smoking
Reduce alcohol consumption
Weight loss
Sexual anxiety/psychological counselling
Sexual performance anxiety
Performance anxiety is one of the biggest contributors to ED. This can cause
constant worry, or dreading of sexual encounters, some men may even try to
avoid sex all together.
Let’s look at what men fear the most during sex:

Getting an erection
Keeping an erection
Worried that they can’t satisfy their partner
Fear that their penis is too small
Fear that partners ex’s penis is bigger than theirs
Premature ejaculation
Self-conscious about their image
Statistics show that most men worry about the above but many men can
experience anxiety just through watching excessive porn. They put way too
much pressure on themselves and think women have all these ridiculous
expectations. They worry about things such as comparing their penis to a porn
stars penis, they think they need to give their partner 5 orgasms each time they
have sex and that they need to go at it for over an hour. It’s easy to lose touch of
reality when you get invested in porn, seeing a woman screaming at the top of
her lungs pretending to roll around in ecstasy, but this isn’t the real world, its
pure fantasy.
In some cases it can come down to wanting to feel validated, you may have
insecurities by perfecting the sexual act on your partner and you put way too
much pressure on yourself to perform because you think this factors into the
relationship and that’s what you have to do to keep her.
It could even be due to past sexual experiences you’ve had. Sex is supposed to
be exciting, passionate and joyful, not a time for worry, stress and anxiety. Men
often see sex as some kind of goal they have to achieve to please their partner
but this is essentially exercising your ego, it’s not really enjoyment. Sex should
come from a place of intimacy and sharing of sexual pleasure, how better would
sex be if you felt you were never being judged? Men have these expectations
that can create all types of anxieties that don’t necessarily matter. You should
never look at sex as a task, it’s all about pleasure for you and your partner.
Let’s look at methods to overcome performance anxiety

Learn stress managemen t – stress from work, relationships or family can
severely affect your performance so learn to manage your anxieties.
Learn how to release stress – find ways to release stress such as, working
out, yoga, meditation, a hot bath, long walks, whatever works.
Block negative thoughts – bring your attention to the way you think during
sex as this can be your biggest turn off. Don’t judge yourself, relax and
enjoy the pleasure. You can also practice this outside the bedroom to
maximise confidence.
Deep breathing – deep breathing or controlling your breathing slows down
your heartrate that increases due to anxiety. Slowing your heart rate down
allows you to relax and focus.
Talk about it – talking to a GP, a close friend, member of family or even
your partner can help manage your anxiety and help you feel more
comfortable.
Enjoy sex – sex is supposed to be about pleasure, focus on the sensations
you like, what you want from sex and what your partner wants or likes.
Share each other’s fantasies.
Don’t focus on getting an erection – too often men that have anxiety
towards sex, as soon as they get an erection they put pressure on their
partner to rush into it and get it in there so to speak. There is no need for
this pressure, if you get an erection, fine that’s okay, this means you’re
turned on, you don’t need to rush into anything. One of the biggest things
men stress out about, is when they are fooling around with their partner,
they have taken their clothes off but they aren’t erect. Don’t worry if you’re
not completely erect when you’re taking your clothes off, don’t let new or
past fears stop you from enjoying sex. You can’t let anxiety over power
you, focus and tell yourself you want to use your erection, you can control
your anxiety, don’t let it control you.
Don’t rush – try to relax and enjoy what you’re doing, get into a flow there
is no reason to rush to the finish line.
Healthier lifestyle – sleep is one of the most important tools to a healthy
sex life. Exercise is great to get the blood flowing, this along with a healthy
diet can greatly improve the blood flow to your penis. Plus seeing your
body imagine change will improve your confidence overall.
Get professional help – sex therapists can help pin point any difficulties
you may be experiencing, they will also identify any issues you’ve
experienced in previous relationships or sexual encounters.
Quit watching porn – porn is simply fantasy. Too often men compare
themselves to porn stars, the size of their penis, the duration and positions
they can perform etc. This isn’t how it is in the real world, penis’s are of
average size more often than none, women find penis size to be at the very
bottom of the list, if even on the list at all of their wants/needs in a man.
Most women find huge penis’s a turn off, although it can be visually
stimulating it isn’t physically, in fact it can be a very painful experience.
Also the average duration a couple has sex in reality is between 5-15
minutes. Porn isn’t at all sex education it is pure fantasy.
Distractions are a no-no – concentrate on your partner and pleasure, don’t
think about anything else, channel in and focus, also don’t use a distraction
to delay yourself from ejaculating either, use the edging technique below.
Limit drugs and alcohol – you may use drugs or alcohol as a way to relax,
intensify pleasure or to become more confident, but over time excessive use
of drugs and alcohol can have the opposite effects.
The Pelvic Floor Muscles
It’s likely that you’ve heard of the kegel exercise at some point in your life, and
perhaps only thought that these exercises apply to females to strengthen the
vagina after child birth. Well males can greatly benefit from kegels too!
kegels are specifically designed to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which
can help you to improve the quality and duration of your erection. Other benefits
include a more intense orgasm, indirect enlargement of the penis and can help
cure ED. You can maximise your overall results by combining kegels with Jelqs
or stretches. The most common method of finding your PC (Pubococcygeus)
muscle is while urinating, slowly contract the muscles which will either stop or
slow the flow of urine, those are your pelvic floor muscles. I advise you not to
do this though as it can cause an infection, instead a safer method is while you
are erect, simply move your penis up and down to find your pelvic floor
muscles.
For men kegels are a great way to improve the overall health and hardness of the
penis and enables the ability to last longer in bed. Kegels have one goal which is
to strengthen your PC muscle. This muscle is similar in both men and women, it
stretches from the tail bone up to the pubic bone which creates a hammock – like
muscle floor. The kegel exercise is different to all other penile exercises in that it
contracts and strengthens real skeletal muscles – the pelvic floor muscles. Just
like women, men can find kegels very beneficial to improving their sex life. It is
common that men skip out on kegel exercises as many do, because they are the
only exercise that do not directly enlarge the penis. However kegels for men
have a much wider range of other benefits, few of which that can cure problems
or enlarge the penis indirectly. Some of these benefits include:

Increased blood flow helping you achieve a longer lasting harder erection.
Improved erection angle.
Increased ejaculation force and volume giving a more intense explosive
orgasm.
Helping you to control your ability to ejaculate, allowing greater sexual
stamina.
Indirectly enlarges the penis with increased blood flow.
Helps cure urinary incontinence and the ability to hold in urine for longer
especially during the night.
A healthier prostate and can be used in treatment of prostate swelling and
pain due to BPH (benign prostatic hyperplasia).
Can help prevent prolapsed pelvic organs.
Kegel exercises
The PC muscle is easy to find, as I mentioned before these are the muscles you
use to move your penis up and down while erect. Just focus on lifting the entire
pelvic floor upward, and continue to breathe throughout the contraction. Hold
the contraction for as long as possible, don’t worry if you can only hold it for a
few seconds or not at all. Try to record how long you can hold the contraction
for, slowly release and repeat for seven to ten repetitions. Each time you kegel
gradually build up the duration so that you can squeeze the muscles for ten
seconds at a time.
You should be able to see or feel your testicles lift when you perform the
exercise correctly and you may notice an improvement in your pelvic floor
muscles in as little as 4 weeks. Kegels can be fun as you can do them anywhere,
it requires no assistance from your hands or legs – you can perform them while
you’re at work, watching TV or even in the car.
It’s always best to start off slowly and increase the intensity over time. This is
my recommendation to get you started with kegels:
For the first four weeks try to achieve 50 reps per session, 3-5 days per week
having rest days in-between. Try to maintain each contraction for at least 5
seconds depending on your existing pc muscle strength. As you become more
experienced with Kegels and perform them more frequently, your pc muscle will
become stronger and you’ll be able to hold the contraction for a longer duration.
Gradually work your way up from 5-10 minutes per day incorporating more
Kegels into your routine. Once your pc muscle is conditioned, you’ll gain the
ability to stop yourself from ejaculating, which is possible by tightening the
contraction for around 10 seconds just before the point of no return. You can
practice this while masturbating, when you feel you are at the point of no return
simply hold the contraction for 10 seconds or longer. Once the urge to orgasm
subsides simply release the contraction, this process may take weeks, months or
even years to perfect.
Combining Kegels with Jelqs and stretches will promote more blood flow to the
penis which will enhance the effectiveness of each exercise. Kegel exercises can
be fun to add pleasure to your sexual experience. When a woman squeezes her
pc muscles her vagina walls tighten, increasing the pressure and pleasure for
both involved. As you start to practice Kegels you may unconsciously Kegel
during sex, which may cause you to ejaculate too soon as continuous
contractions quickly drains the strength and endurance of the muscle.
I understand it may be tempting to kegel as much as possible at first, but it’s
important not to over train. Instead of seeing positive results the whole process
will become counterproductive. Bodybuilding is a great comparison as someone
who over trains their muscles would become too sore or may injure themselves
being unable to continue, essentially overtraining and causing atrophy. This will
do more damage than good. Always listen to your body and allow yourself time
to rest and recover to reap the full benefits.
Too much masturbation
Before we get into masturbation I feel it’s important to note that kegeling too
much either during sex or masturbation can cause penis fatigue leading to weak
erections or no erections at all. Chronic masturbation can lead to exhaustion and
a drop in testosterone levels.
Let’s look at some of the effects of chronic masturbation.

Weak erections
No morning wood
Feeling tired
Fatigue
Pelvic pain
Testicular pain
Lower back pain
Changes in vision
At the end of the day masturbation is healthy, the penis needs exercise to keep it
in shape, have you ever heard the phrase “use it or lose it?” well the same
applies here. Your penis also needs nutrients to keep the blood vessels and
tissues healthy. A few erections throughout the day and throughout the night are
healthy as this helps to keep erection strength. Healthy testosterone levels are
also very important to ensure proper blood flow. So you can see that
masturbating occasionally can keep your penis healthy and in shape.
Think of it this way, if a bodybuilder did nothing but train his arms everyday he
would be constantly overtraining, cause fatigue to his biceps and this can even
cause muscle atrophy which is shrinkage of the muscle. The same can apply to