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spine=19.975mm Self-improvement Face your emotions head on and Making Everything Easier!™ take control of your life E Open the book and find: How many times have you said ‘I’m fine!’, when really ydoaum’raeg ninogt? y Booutrt lpinhgy suicpa el ampopteioanrasn ccaen a wneda irn oteurtn yaol uorr gbaondsy , (cid:127) Ws yasytesm to a bgoaoinsst ty soturer sbso adnyd’s f iamtimguuene mo Emotional Healing as well as limiting the way you think and communicate. (cid:127) Tips on enhancing your emotional This expert toolkit contains all the strategies you need to t intelligence i recognise and resolve harmful emotional states, leaving o (cid:127) Pointers on forging meaningful you physically and mentally ready to face present and relationships n future challenges with confidence. (cid:127) Guidance on identifying support a (cid:127) Discover the basics — explore the physiology of emotions and networks how emotional trauma can result in lasting physical symptoms l (cid:127) Advice on letting go of past grief, H (cid:127) Tune into your body — revamp your diet, exercise, breathing and anger and rejection sleep patterns to help create inner calm e (cid:127) How to improve your work-life (cid:127) Put your feelings into context — map out your emotional history, balance a resolve lingering issues and learn to focus on the positive (cid:127) Ways to rebalance your emotional l (cid:127) Heal yourself — practise mindfulness, motivate yourself to chemistry i n change and free your creative spirit (cid:127) T he lowdown on the healing g (cid:127) Look ahead — identify long-term challenges and plan ways to power of laughter help yourself and others deal with difficult emotions Learn to: ‘Emotional experiences, like it or not, always form emotional scars . . . (cid:127) Understand where negative emotions but this book goes a long way to making them a lot less painful. Full Go to Dummies.com® come from of kindness, compassion, good sense, facts and intelligent strategies, for videos, step-by-step examples, this truly helpful guide leaves most self-help books far behind. ’ how-to articles, or to shop! (cid:127) R ecognise how your emotions affect you mentally and physically – Virginia Ironside, Agony Aunt at The Independent (cid:127) Heal yourself with thinking, lifestyle and behavioural strategies £15.99 UK / $26.99 US / $31.99 CN Dr David Beales is a Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians. He uses methods described in this book to create mind–body toolkits to help ISBN 978-0-470-74764-3 Dr David Beales individual clients restore their wellbeing, health and vitality. Helen Whitten Specialist in mind-body medicine is an accredited coach and mediator specialising in cognitive behavioural Helen Whitten coaching and neuro-linguistic programming. She is Managing Director of Positiveworks, a coaching consultancy that helps people make the best Beales Author of Cognitive Behavioural Coaching of their lives. Whitten Techniques For Dummies spine=19.975mm Get More and Do More at Dummies.com ® Start with FREE Cheat Sheets Cheat Sheets include (cid:127) Checklists (cid:127) Charts (cid:127) Common Instructions (cid:127) And Other Good Stuff! To access the Cheat Sheet created specifically for this book, go to www.dummies.com/cheatsheet/emotionalhealinguk Get Smart at Dummies.com Dummies.com makes your life easier with thousands of answers on everything from removing wallpaper to using the latest version of Windows. Check out our (cid:127) Videos (cid:127) Illustrated Articles (cid:127) Step-by-Step Instructions Want a weekly dose of Dummies? Sign up for Newsletters on (cid:127) Digital Photography (cid:127) Microsoft Windows & Office (cid:127) Personal Finance & Investing (cid:127) Health & Wellness (cid:127) Computing, iPods & Mobile Phones (cid:127) eBay (cid:127) Internet (cid:127) Food, Home & Garden Find out “HOW” at Dummies.com Emotional Healing FOR DUMmIES ‰ Emotional Healing FOR DUMmIES ‰ by Dr David Beales and Helen Whitten A John Wiley and Sons, Ltd, Publication 0011__774477664433--ffffiirrss..iinndddd iiiiii 1111//99//0099 99::3355 AAMM Emotional Healing For Dummies® Published by John Wiley & Sons, Ltd The Atrium Southern Gate Chichester West Sussex PO19 8SQ England E-mail (for orders and customer service enquires): [email protected] Visit our Home Page on www.wiley.com Copyright © 2010 John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West Sussex, England Published by John Wiley & Sons, Ltd, Chichester, West Sussex All Rights Reserved. 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Some content that appears in print may not be available in electronic books. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data: A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library ISBN: 978-0-470-74764-3 Printed and bound in Great Britain by TJ International, Padstow, Cornwall 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 About the Authors Dr David Beales, FRCP MRCGP DCH Dip Psych, is a faculty member of the Royal College of Physicians, Royal College of General Practitioners and the Royal Society of Medicine. He was formerly Chief Medical Offi cer of the Bristol Cancer Help Centre and has more than 30 years’ experience in the fi eld of medicine. David lectures, conducts workshops and has an individual practice. David works within the speciality of mind-body medicine and aims to help clients understand and relieve the impact of sustained stress. When this gets locked into body-mind an over-revved state is created where signals of dis- tress need to be interpreted and relieved. Symptoms may range from anxiety and depression to functional syndromes like irritable bowel, fi bromyalgia and chronic pain. These disturbances of inner balance can be resolved by creat- ing the mind-body tool kit that allows the recovery of health and well being. David’s aim in this book is to distil the fruits of his experience, culled from many disciplines. Helen Whitten is a personal and executive coach, accredited by the Association for Coaching. She is founder and Managing Director of Positiveworks Ltd and is also a practising facilitator, mediator, trainer and writer. She is trained in cognitive-behavioural psychology and neuro- linguistic programming, and applies cognitive-behavioural coaching models to personal and professional development, enabling individuals to develop confi dence, break through old patterns of behaviour and achieve greater potential in their lives and their careers. Helen is the author of Cognitive-Behavioural Coaching Techniques For Dummies, is a member of the Association for Coaching, the International Stress Management Association and the CIPD and is a CEDR Accredited Mediator. She has a degree in history and a postgraduate in personnel management. Helen’s career began in publishing and historical research. In mid-life she decided to pursue her interest in people and psychology, went to university as a mature student and changed career. This transition required her to face many of her own fears, healing personal issues so as to develop the self- knowledge required to work with others. Helen believes that people have the potential to enhance every aspect of their life, relationships and happiness when given the right support, encouragement, tools and techniques. Author’s Acknowledgements We would like to say a special thank you to our clients and all those who have shared their stories with us. We have been inspired and honoured to have worked with some wonderful and courageous people who have shared their personal experiences and challenges with us and found the resilience to move towards healing. We would like to thank our sons, families, friends and colleagues who have put us through our paces over the years and no doubt taught us some of the lessons we needed to learn! We recognise that there are plenty more lessons to come. Thanks also to Steve Edwards and the team at John Wiley, for their editorial comments, encouragement and support in bringing this book to publication. And to Anna Rawlinson for her technical expertise. Are you ready to take a whole new look at emotions? This book tackles them from every angle – mind, body and spirit – explaining why they are an essential part of human nature, and how to live in lively harmony with a full spectrum of emotions. I don’t believe there is anyone who couldn’t learn something from this comprehensive little book. - David Peters, Professor of Integrated Healthcare at the University of Westminster This book will show you how to re-channel all the energy you unknowingly used to cause yourself pain and suffering into healing yourself. By simply becoming aware of the power of breathing to influence all aspects of physical, mental and emotional health you can awaken to a new life experience which will be yours to nurture and enjoy. I have pulled myself out of a 30-year self-destructive pattern by applying the principles covered in this book and cannot praise its authors highly enough. - Diana Bellinger, Client of David Beales Publisher’s Acknowledgements We’re proud of this book; please send us your comments through our Dummies online registration form located at www.dummies.com/register/. Some of the people who helped bring this book to market include the following: Commissioning, Editorial, Composition Services and Media Development Project Coordinator: Lynsey Stanford Project Editor: Steve Edwards Layout and Graphics: Joyce Haughey Content Editor: Jo Theedom Proofreader: Jessica Kramer Commissioning Editor: Wejdan Ismail Indexer: Ty Koontz Assistant Editor: Jennifer Prytherch Special Help Development Editor: Brian Kramer Brand Reviewer: Jennifer Bingham Copy Editor: Andy Finch Technical Editor: Anna Rawlinson Proofreader: David Price Production Manager: Daniel Mersey Cover Photos: © Image Source Pink/Alamy Cartoons: Ed McLachlan