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Emotion All thAt mAtters 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 1 09/06/14 9:54 AM This page intentionally left blank Emotion t S A R H E Sandi mann t t t L A L m A 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 3 09/06/14 9:54 AM First published in Great Britain in 2014 by John Murray Learning. An Hachette UK company. First published in US in 2014 by The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. This edition published 2014 Copyright © Sandi Mann 2014 The right of Sandi Mann to be identified as the Author of the Work has been asserted by her in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. Database right Hodder & Stoughton (makers) All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher, or as expressly permitted by law, or under terms agreed with the appropriate reprographic rights organization. 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John Murray Learning 338 Euston Road London NW1 3BH www.hodder.co.uk 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 4 09/06/14 9:54 AM Contents 1 What are emotions anyway? 1 2 Facial expressions and emotions 17 3 Emotions and society 35 4 Anger, boredom and other negative emotions 51 5 Have a nice day! – emotion management and regulation 71 6 thinking and feeling: the role of emotions in everyday life 89 7 Gender differences in emotional life 105 8 the route to happiness 121 100 ideas 135 References 145 index 152 Acknowledgements 154 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 5 09/06/14 9:54 AM This page intentionally left blank 1 What are emotions anyway? ‘When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.’ Dale Carnegie 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 1 09/06/14 9:54 AM ‘Emotion is a potentially noble part of what it is to be human.’ So says Janet Landman in an essay on emotions (Landman 1996) in which she laments that, if only nazis such as Rudolf Höss (who commanded the Auschwitz concentration camp) had been more emotional and less rational, the atrocities of the Second World War might ? y never have happened. a w ny Everyone knows what emotions are – don’t they? Actually, a s emotions are not that easy to define (try explaining the n o term to a small child). Are emotions things that we feel or ti o m think? Are they tied up with our behaviour or maybe our e e mood? or perhaps emotions are simply chemical reactions r a in our bodies, as love has sometimes been described? t a h W 2 ▲▲Emotions are at the root of our humanity. the Auschwitz commandant Rudolf Höss seems to have had a complete lack of emotion of any kind – feeling neither pity for his millions of victims nor fear during his own eventual execution by hanging. He even once avowed that ‘the feeling of hatred is not in me’. 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 2 09/06/14 9:54 AM the answer is that emotions are all of these things. most researchers believe that emotions consist of five distinct components, and some believe that, to truly experience an emotion, at least four out of five components must exist (there is doubt about the fifth). these are: 1 our cognitions: that is, what we think – our interpretation of events producing the emotion. For example, thinking about a sad event such as a bereavement induces sad emotions. 2 our feelings: we label the way we feel as being angry, sad and so on. these feelings are very subjective and also quite personal, in that other people cannot always discern how we feel just by looking at us. the labels we give emotions are varied. 3 our physiological reactions: how our bodies react 3 (e.g. sweating, raised heartbeat, clenched fist).this includes the bodily changes that we cannot see or A L L notice such as chemicals secreted from various t H glands during the experience of an emotion. A t m 4 our behaviour: such as running away, hitting A t someone/something, hugging someone and so on. t E R S 5 our expression: this component doesn’t have to be : E present, in that you can feel an emotion without any m o outward expression. However, often emotions are t io accompanied by a distinct change in facial and/or vocal n expression (e.g. we blush when embarrassed or smile when we are happy). Such expression can also be used to deliberately convey an emotion (that is either felt or not felt) – more on this in Chapter 2. 801617_Emotion ATM_Book.indb 3 09/06/14 9:54 AM
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