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The Tao of Dating

The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being
Absolutely Irresistible

Ali Binazir, M.D., M.Phil.

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ABSOLUTELY IRRESISTIBLE. Copyright © 2010 Elite Communications
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To Mom and Dad, to whom I owe everything
To all my teachers, to whom I owe everything else
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Acknowledgments

Writing a book for women when you’re a guy is
tougher than I thought. Which is why I’m deeply indebted to
my illustrious panel of readers who provided invaluable
feedback. Alexis, Aiko, Cristina, Naada, and Sharon – you
are all stars. Alison and Megan – thank you for your
particularly thorough look at the manuscript and your dozens
of great suggestions. Special thanks to Christine Mason
McCaull for suggesting the addition of several sections which
made the book stronger and for allowing me to include her
‘Love Your Body Now’ piece.
I also want to thank my loyal readers who encouraged
me through their emails to keep on writing. This project
could not have been completed without you.
Profuse thanks to my talented and highly responsive
graphic designer Thomas Breher for his work on the cover.
You can find him at eCoverDesign.com. Tell him I sent you.
The words of Marianne Williamson constitute the
female brain behind this work and form an integral part of it.
Without them, I could not have finished this book. Michael
Bernard Beckwith of Agape and the staff of Self-Realization
Fellowship Lake Shrine have also contributed much-needed
inspiration over the years. Thanks for being there.
And finally, I’d like to thank Mom & Dad for their
unfailing support. This book is for you.
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About the author

Ali Binazir is Chief Evangelist and Decision Enhancement Engineer
at Elite Communications and dislikes writing about himself in the third
person, so he’s going to stop doing that immediately. Inordinately fond of
framed pieces of cardboard, I have an A.B. from Harvard College, an
M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine,
and an M.Phil. from Cambridge University. Formerly a consultant at
McKinsey & Company, I contribute regularly to HuffingtonPost.com
and am a certified clinical hypnotherapist practicing in Los Angeles. A
lifelong member of a secret society known as ‘Guys’, I know a thing or
two about how they think. I’m committed to helping you become the
best, happiest, most deliriously joyous version of yourself.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS

The Introduction You Can't Skip
The five themes of The Tao of Dating...............................24
How to use this book.........................................................25

PART I: THE WAY: FOUNDATIONS OF
THE TAO
Chapter 1: Dating for Fulfillment
Which would you prefer: the menu or the food?................29
Square one: accept and love yourself now..........................30
Fulfillment is a feeling, not a person..................................32
The power of gratitude.......................................................33
Exercise 1. The Power of Focus.........................................34
The Be-Do-Have Paradigm...............................................36
Exercise 2. Your highest vision of yourself........................39
Affective forecasting, or what really happens when you get
what you want.....................................................................41
Chapter 2: Who You Really Are
The concept of no-self........................................................46
Exercise 3. The Galactic Consciousness Meditation.........48
Who you really are..............................................................52
Embracing The Goddess...................................................54
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Exercise 4. Embodying the Goddess................................56
Your shortcut to divinity.....................................................57
Chapter 3: Yin and Yang
Balancing yin and yang in partnerships.............................61
The dilemma of the career-oriented woman......................63
Yin and yang in a relationship............................................65
Chapter 4: What You Really Want
Exercise 5. Empower yourself by figuring out your core
values..................................................................................68
What you have to offer........................................................69
Exercise 6. Walking the walk.............................................70
Exercise 7. Take stock of your relationship assets.............71
Yin, yang and three stages of relationship.........................71
The kind of guy you would want........................................74
Chapter 5: Understanding Men, Understanding
Yourself
Why men are so damn horny..............................................79
Making your peace with monogamy (or absence thereof).80
Know what you're getting yourself into.............................82
Kill the prince.....................................................................83
The perfect guy vs. the perfect guy for you........................85
A big secret about how men relate to female beauty.........87
He doesn't care that much about your shoes or dress.......88
Your secret gift as a woman...............................................89
Types of men......................................................................91
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