Don't Pick On Me. Help for Kids to Stand Up to and Deal with Bullies PDF
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“In Don't Pick On Me, Susan Eikov Green makes it easy for kids to recognize, understand, and act on feelings associated with bullying. Through clear language and straightforward explanations, Don't Pick on Me also arms kids with concrete techniques for dealing with bullying and building confidence.” —Aimee Lichtenfeld, LCSW, clinical school social worker in New York City “Susan Eikov Green has written a practical and compassionate book on a difficult subject. Parents, teachers, and clinicians will find it a valuable resource for helping children acquire security and success from the inside out.” — Christopher McCurry, Ph.D., author of Parenting Your Anxious Child with Mindfulness and Acceptance Don’t Pick On Me Help for Kids to Stand Up to & Deal with Bullies SUSAN EIKOV GREEN Instant Help Books A Division of New Harbinger Publications, Inc. Publisher’s Note This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought. Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books Copyright © 2010 by Susan Eikov Green Instant Help Books A Division of New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 5674 Shattuck Avenue Oakland, CA 94609 www.newharbinger.com Cover design by Amy Shoup Cover photograph is a model used for illustrative purposes only. All Rights Reserved Printed in the United States of America TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction 1 Activity 1: What’s a Bully? 3 Activity 2: How a Bully Makes You Feel: Sad, Scared, and More 6 Activity 3: How a Bully Makes You Feel: Aches and Pains 11 Activity 4: Look Brave, Act Brave 14 Activity 5: Look Good, Feel Good 18 Activity 6: Stay Cool 21 Activity 7: Don’t Bully Back 24 Activity 8: Steer Clear 27 Activity 9: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive 30 Activity 10: Speaking Confidently 33 Activity 11: There’s Safety in Numbers 36 Activity 12: “I Can’t Hear a Word You’re Saying” 39 Activity 13: I-Messages 42 Activity 14: Laugh It Off 45 Activity 15: “I’m Out of Here!” 48 Activity 16: Tell an Adult You Trust 52 Activity 17: Telling Isn’t Tattling 55 Activity 18: Problem Solving 59 Activity 19: Playful Teasing or Bullying? 65 Activity 20: Nickname or Name-Calling? 68 Activity 21: Don’t Put Up with Put-Downs 72 Activity 22: What Is Harassment? 75 Activity 23: “Can’t You Take a Joke?” 78 Activity 24: Being Left Out 81 Activity 25: The Silent Treatment 84 Activity 26: “You Better Watch Out!” 87 Activity 27: The Scariest Bullies 90 Activity 28: Gossip and Rumors 93 Activity 29: Telephone: It’s Not Just a Game 96 Activity 30: About Cyberbullying 99 Activity 31: User IDs and Passwords 102 Activity 32: Stay Out of the Picture 105 Activity 33: When Friends Bully Friends 108 Activity 34: “I’d Do It for You” 111 Activity 35: About Cliques 114 Activity 36: When You See Bullying Happen 118 Activity 37: Healthy Ways to Deal with Stress 122 Don’t Pick on Me iv Introduction Is bullying being hit or punched? Is it being teased and made fun of? Is it being picked on by kids who are bigger than you? Is it being talked about behind your back? Is it being called a name that really bothers you? Is it being embarrassed or made to feel foolish or just plain scared? Actually, bullying is all of those things and more. Everyone comes up against a bully at one time or another. It’s almost impossible not to, because there are lots of kids who act like bullies. Most kids who bully want to feel like they are in control. Bullying makes them feel powerful and important. Some kids bully because they’ve been bullied themselves, maybe by a brother, sister, or parent. They think that’s the way to act. Some kids bully because they think it will help them be popular by making them the center of attention. How can you recognize a bully? Well, not all bullies look the same, so you can’t tell who is a bully just by looking, but you can tell by how they act. If you think bullying is something you just have to take and not do anything about, then think again. Because you don’t have to put up with bullying. No one does. And that’s what this book is all about. The activities it contains will show you different strategies for dealing with bullies and help you learn how to put those strategies to work for you. Now, let’s get going. And when you’re finished with the activities in this book, you’ll be able to say: Don’t pick on me! I know how to handle bullying! WWhhata’st ’as Bau lBlyuTlallyk?ing About HowA ctivitAyc 1Aticvtiivtiyty 11 You Feel For You to Know A bully is someone who picks on, teases, or physically hurts another person. Most people—kids and adults alike—have come up against bullies. It’s almost impossible not to. There are all kinds of bullies, and not all bullying is the same. Some bullies use words to hurt kids. They tease or name-call or threaten. Like Danielle: She calls Olivia “Porky Pig” because Olivia is a little overweight. Some bullies spread rumors or leave kids out and get others to ignore them too. Like Nicole: She doesn’t like Robert because he is good at math and she isn’t. So she spread the rumor that Robert cheated on the math test. Some bullies punch or hit or shove. Or they take and destroy things that don’t belong to them. Like Eddie: He goes out his way to push Willy when they’re walking down the stairs. Not all bullies pick on kids they don’t like. There are some who like to bully their friends. Like Wanda: She wants her friends to do things her way. She thought Lutecia wasn’t following her “rules,” so she stopped talking to her and got their other friends to stop talking to her too. Let’s see if you have a bully in your life who causes problems for you or someone else. Help for Kids to Stand Up to and Deal with Bullies 33
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