''Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's'' Parenting Together While Living Apart

268 Pages·2008·0.83 MB·English

by  Marc J.

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“D o e s
W e d n e s d a y
M e a n
M o m ’ s H o u s e
o r D a d ’ s ? ”
Parenting Together
While Living Apart
SECOND EDITION
M A R C J . A C K E R M A N
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W e d n e s d a y
M e a n
M o m ’ s H o u s e
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Parenting Together
While Living Apart
SECOND EDITION
M A R C J . A C K E R M A N
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Ackerman,MarcJ.
DoesWednesdaymeanmom’shouseordad’s?:parentingtogetherwhileliving
apart/byMarcJ.Ackerman.–2nded.
p. cm.
Includesbibliographicalreferencesandindex.
ISBN978-0-470-12753-7(pbk.)
1.Parenting,Part-time–UnitedStates. 2.Divorce–UnitedStates–Psychologicalaspects.
3.Childrenofdivorcedparents–UnitedStates. 4.Childrenofdivorcedparents–United
States–Psychology. I.Title.
HQ755.8.A25 2008
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This Book is
Dedicated to:
Aaron, Adam, Alexandra, Amy, Andrea, Angela, Anthony, Bran-
don, Brian, Caitlin, Cameron, Casey, Christian, Christina, Chris-
tine, Christopher, Chuck, Daniel, David, Elizabeth, Eric, Evan,
Grant, Jamie, Janine, Jason, Jennifer, Jonathan, Jordan, Joseph,
Julia,Katherine,Kelly,Kenneth,Kevin,Lawrence,Lindsey,Marcy,
Mary, Maureen, Megan, Melissa, Michael, Patrick, Raymond,
Robert,Ryan,Scott,Shannon,Stacy,Todd,Vincent,William...
This book is dedicated to the above-named children and to
all other children who have been forced to endure their parents’
fighting for years about custody-related issues. To those, and all
others,whoseparentsbelievethatwinningismoreimportantthan
thewell-beingoftheirchildren,Ihopeyouovercometheseobsta-
cles,andbestwishestoyou.
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Contents
Preface xiii
Acknowledgments xvii
Chapter 1 A House Divided 1
Facts about Divorce 2
Chapter 2 Moving Ahead:
Telling Children about Your Divorce 13
Concrete Thinkers in an Abstract Situation 17
When Your Child Is No Longer a Child 24
Academic Performance 26
Boys and Girls React Differently 26
Adjustments Abound 28
Mourning the End of a Marriage 29
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