Danger & Play: Essays on Embracing Masculinity

216 Pages·2015·0.8 MB·English

by  Mike Cernovich

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By Mike Cernovich
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Contents
Masculinity
8 Traits of Masculine Men
You’re Not Entitled to Happiness
How to Be a More Dominant Man: Part 1. Mindset
How to Become a More Dominant Man: Part 2. Body Language and Physical Presence
A Tale of Two Men
Health and Fitness
Testosterone Biofeedback Roundtable: The Mind-Body Connection
Going from Fit to Big
Increasing Muscular Density and Muscle Tone
How I Train
What Kind of Body Do Women Want?
Juicing Basics, Juicing Recipes and ANDI Juices
Relationships and Dating
4 Ways to Make People Like You
Become the Man to See
10 Ways to Not Get Laid
How Do I Get Out of the Friend Zone?
Charisma and Connection
How to Make Better Eye Contact
Shame is the Game Killer
Go for the Neck
What is Lifestyle Game?
The Five Stages of Game Consciousness
Friends and Family
Should You Disown Your Family?
Building Your Crew
How to Find Legit Friends: The Ten-Year Test
Do You Hide Who You Are?
Business and Career Success
Make Big Moves
Finding Your Force: Leverage or Momentum? Part 1
Leverage and Momentum: Part 2, How You Work
Leverage or Momentum: Part 3, Partnerships
Go Full Gorilla
Three Ways a Tony Robbins Seminar Changed Danger & Play
3 Ways to Never Get Rich
Jordan Belfort Straight Line Sales Seminar Review
The Wolf of Wall Street Jordan Belfort’s “4 Keys for Life Success”
How Will You Change Your Business?
Mindset
Audacity, Audacity, Always Audacity!
Become Obsessed to the Point of Madness
Think Like No One Else Thinks
Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within Seminar Review
How to Set and Achieve Goals (and the Limits of Will Power)
What’s Your 5-Year Plan? Your 10-Year Plan?
How to Get Out of Your Own Head
How to Attract Anything You Want with the Law of Attraction
You Have Already Mastered Visualization
Frame Control: How to Turn Your Problems into a Source of Power
Motivation and Inspiration
Go Back to Basics
How to Survive Hell
Your Moment is Coming
How to be at the Right Place at the Right Time
You Have Enough, You Are Enough: The Abundance Mentality
What If?
The Thin Line Between Breakthrough and Breakdown
How to Survive a Crisis
Treat Mediocrity as a Crisis
Zen and the Martial Art of Living
Disobey Fear
Test Yourself to Find Yourself
Masculinity
8 Traits of Masculine Men

Guys regularly complain that American women aren’t feminine. Yet, if you
want a feminine woman, should you not first be masculine? What are some traits
of masculine men and how can you use these masculine traits to attract women?
Proving that wisdom is often found in unusual sources, Planned Parenthood
provides some decent guidelines for masculinity. Planned Parenthood claims
these masculine traits are “socially constructed,” which is silly. Masculinity is a
biological construct.
Nevertheless, the list is quite good. A quick review of this list shows that
most American men are not prepared to handle feminine women.

Traits Commonly Associated with Masculinity 1. Independent. Are you
always crying about politics, saying that life will be good for everyone if “your
man” is elected? Do you complain that the government has not done enough to
boost the economy? Then you are dependent upon the government for your
economic success.
2. Non-emotional. Do you cry when people say things that hurt your
feelings? Have you ever reported an online message board post to a moderator
because it was “mean?” When your boss is being an ass, do you become a sad
little panda?
3. Aggressive. Are you afraid of approaching women? Do you take what is
yours or complain that there is a lack of opportunity? Can you survive a street
fight, or would you become a victim of the Knockout Game?
4. Tough-skinned. Does a rhinoceros know when a gnat is on its back? Do
you stew and brew over real and perceived slights? See number two, above.
5. Competitive. Do you try making yourself better each day? Do you grind
out extra reps in the weight room, look for a side hustle, and constantly improve?
6. Strong, active, and self-confident. Do you walk like a man? Are you in
the gym and reading every day? Do you have the posture of an alpha male? Or
do you walk with slouching shoulders and hold your head down like a slave
before going home to play your Xbox? Do you live by the Twin Pillars of
Alpha?
7. Hard. When life gets tough, do you push through or do you quit? Are you
afraid of drinking a green juice and instead look for your milk and cookies?
Even worse, are you so defeated and demoralized by life that you become a
drunk?
8. Sexually aggressive. Any loser can be horny. When you see a woman, do
you decide that you are going to be a man and make your move?

Life is about polarity. It’s yin and yang. Feminine women want
masculine men.

Women want their opposite. Even a self-proclaimed “strong, independent
woman” wants to be tamed. All of my feminist classmates—including
aggressive lawyers—changed their last names when getting married.
America is full of feminine women, as femininity is a biological construct.
Women want to submit to a man. Or did you not notice that 50 Shades of
Grey sold over 50 million copies?
Women want masculine men. There just aren’t enough masculine men to go
around.
You’re Not Entitled to Happiness

The two pillars of feminism are narcissism and entitlement. Because
American men are feminized, American men are as unhappy as women.
Narcissism is mistakenly interpreted to mean vanity. If that were true, there
would be no fat or ugly narcissists. Rather than denoting vanity, narcissism is the
belief that the world exists for you and you alone and that any craving is
therefore morally virtuous, deserving of immediate satisfaction. (American
obesity explained in a sentence: “I’m entitled to indulge whatever craving my
body feels.”) Consider the attitudes of many American men, even men who read
game blogs and thus who are trying to “unplug” from mainstream thought. Men
are always bitching (note that bitching is a feminine world; real men don’t bitch)
about this stuff:
Clubs suck.

American women suck.

My friends suck.

Learning game sucks.

Life sucks.

Spending money on dates sucks.

Going to the gym sucks.

New York City sucks.

If you want to understand the narcissism epidemic, add for me to each of
those sentences. You then understand that American men are not bitching about
the state of affairs qua the state of affairs (none of us are that enlightened),
but instead are bitching bout the state of affairs qua how that impacts me.
The truth is that while American women suck in general, there are plenty of
guys pulling hot ass. Some of us have legit friends who have our backs when
needed. Some of us are legit friends who are there when our friends need us.
Some of us have great times in clubs: even clubs in New York.
There is more truth.
If you are out of shape, broke, have no game, have no personality, have a
negative personality, are always bitching about how inferior everyone is to
yourself (and telling everyone how superior you are), life will suck for you.
Everything and everyone will suck for you.
Life sucks only for you when you feel entitled to happiness.
Most men think that by virtue of “showing up” to life, they should be
rewarded with riches and pussy; or, at the very least, they are entitled to a