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Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes has been co-published simultaneously as Journal of Couples Therapy, Volume 7, Num ber 4 1998. This page intentionally left blank Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes Barbara Jo Brothers Editor Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes has been co-published simulta neously as Journal of Couples Therapy, Volume 7, Number 4 1998. |J Routledge Taylor & Francis Group New York London Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes has been co-published simulta neously as Journal of Couples Therapy, Volume 7, Number 4 1998. © 1998 by The Haworth Press, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this work may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mcchanical, including photocopying, microfilm and recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher. The development, preparation, and publication of this work has been undertaken with great care. However, the publisher, employees, editors, and agents of The Haworth Press and all imprintsofThe Haworth Press, Inc., including The Haworth Medical Press® and Pharmaceu tical Products Press®, are not responsible for any errors contained herein or for consequences that may ensue from use of materials or information contained in this work. Opinions expressed by the author(s) are not necessarily those of The Haworth Press, Inc. First published 1998 by The Haworth Press, Inc., 10 Alice Street, Binghamton, NY 13904-1580 This edition published 2013 by Routledge 711 Third Avenue, New York, NY 1 (X)17 2 Park Square, Milton Park, Abingdon, Oxon OXI4 4RN Routledge is an imprint of the Taylor & Francis Group, an informa business Cover design by Thomas J. Mayshock Jr. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Couples, trauma, and catastrophes/Barbara Jo Brothers, editor, p. cm. “Has been co-published simultaneously as Journal of couples therapy, Volume 7, Number 4, 1998.” Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-7890-0532-8 (alk. paper).-ISBN 0-7890-0546-8 (alk. paper) 1. Marital psychotherapy. 2. Psychic trauma. 3. Life change events. 4. Crisis intervention (Psychiatry) I. Brothers. Barbara Jo, 1940-. II. Journal of couples therapy. RC488.5.C647 1998 616.89' 156-dc21 98-35597 CIP Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes CONTENTS Ways of Viewing the World: “ ... Living Our Lives by Somebody Else’s Pattern ...” 1 Virginia Satir The Art of Working with Traumatized Couples 5 Jim Lantz Andy Stuck Couples and Catastrophe: Dealing with the Death of a Child Through Intimacy Therapy 19 Marcia K. Wiinamaki David L. Ferguson The Impact of Parental Abduction on the Couple 37 Geoffrey L. Greif Elective Pediatric Amputation: Couples at a Crossroads 47 Patrick J. Morrissette Debra Morrissette Michelle Naden Intimacy in the Face of Catastrophic Illness 63 Penny Cupp The Negative Impact of Survivor Guilt on Marriage 69 Richard Vogel “I Sleep, But My Heart Stirs, Restless, and Dreams .. The Mythology of Russian Jewish Immigrant Couples in Israel Kris Jeter Rita N. Gerasimova Index ABOUT THE EDITOR Barbara Jo Brothers, MSW, BCD, a Diplomate in Clinical Social Work, National Association of Social Workers, is in private practice in New Orleans. She received her BA from the University of Texas and her MSW from Tulanc University, where she is currently on the facul ty. She was Editor of The Newsletter of the American Academy of Psychotherapists from 1976 to 1985, and was Associate Editor of Voices: The Art and Science of Psychotherapy from 1979 to 1989. She has 30 years of experience, in both the public and private sectors, helping people to form skills that will enable them to connect emo tionally. The author of numerous articles and book chapters on au thenticity in human relating, she has advocated healthy, congruent communication that builds intimacy as opposed to destructive, incon- gruent communication which blocks intimacy. In addition to her many years of direct work with couples and families, Ms. Brothers has led numerous workshops on teaching communication in families and has also played an integral role in the development of training pro grams in family therapy for mental health workers throughout the Louisiana state mental health system. She is a board member of the Institute for International Connections, a non-profit organization for cross-cultural professional development focused on training and cross-cultural exchange with psychotherapists in Russia, republics once part of what used to be the Soviet Union, and other Eastern Euro pean countries. This page intentionally left blank Ways of Viewing the World: .. Living Our Lives by Somebody Else’s Pattern . . . ” Virginia Satir EDITOR’S NOTE. The following excerpt was taken from Virginia Sa- tir’s lecture in 1983 which she titled “Ways of Perceiving the World,” one of a series of lectures: Avanta Process Community Meeting III, Crested Butte, Colorado, August 1983. It must be understood that this edited transcription is taken out of context. The lecture was delivered during a thirty day seminar and was part of preparation for training therapists in the Satir Model. Exercises and demonstrations before and after the lectures were part of the training experience. In this lecture, Virginia is giving one of her key insights: destructive behavior is a person’s attempt to deal with the fear of inadequacy, failure, and not measuring up in the eyes of others. She begins by pointing out that children learn to define themselves through the eyes of their parents, going on to use the metaphor of the Procrustean Bed as a graphic illustration of the damage people do to themselves in trying to substitute another per son’s picture for their own identity. Printed with permission of John Banmen, Delta Psychological Associates, Inc., 11213 Canyon Crescent, Delta, B.C., Canada V41 2R6. All copyrights reserved. This lecture transcript is part of a series that appears in past and subsequent issues of the Journal of Couples Therapy. [Haworth co-indexing entry note]: “Ways of Viewing the World:. Living Our Lives by Somebody Else’s Pattern . . . Satir, Virginia. Co-published simultaneously in Journal of Couples Therapy (The Haworth Press, Inc.) Vol. 7, No. 4, 1998, pp. I -4; and: Couples, Trauma, and Catastrophes (ed: Barbara Jo Brothers) The Haworth Press, Inc., 1998, pp. 1-4.
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