Confidence: transform the way you feel so you can achieve the things you want

249 Pages·2013·5.103 MB·English

by  Yeung, Rob

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This book will transform your life.
With confidence you can succeed at just
about anything!
In your hands is the most definitive and indispensable
guide to feeling, acting, and being more confident,
that you’re ever likely to read.
Using only the best methods, and the most effective
techniques, you’ll be equipped and empowered to achieve
all your goals and will quickly build a profound and lasting
belief in your abilities. THE BESTSELLING CLASSIC
There’s no psychobabble, no confusing jargon and
no demanding and unrealistic expectations. Just quick
and brilliant ‘Dos’ and ‘Don’ts’ that get you right to the
heart of what you need to know and do to boost your
confidence – now!
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Confidence
Transform the way you feel so you
can achieve the things you want
Third edition
Rob Yeung
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Confidence
Transform the way you feel so you
can achieve the things you want
Third edition
Dr Rob Yeung
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First published 2008 (print)
Second edition published 2011 (print)
Third edition published 2013 (print and electronic)
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Yeung, Rob.
Confidence : transform the way you feel so you can achieve the things you want / Rob
Yeung. -- 3 Edition.
pages cm
Includes index.
ISBN 978-0-273-79283-3 (pbk.)
1. Self-confidence. I. Title.
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Contents
About the author vii
Acknowledgements viii
Preface to the third edition ix
Introduction xi
Part 1 Developing life-long confidence 1
1 Confidence and you 3
2 Developing bullet-proof beliefs 23
3 Learning to feel confident 59
4 Behaving with confidence 73
5 Setting confident goals 93
6 Drawing on your resources 135
7 Dealing confidently with setbacks 155
8 Creating a confident future 175
Part 2 Confidence when you need it 191
9 Confident public speaking and
presentations 193
10 Confident conversations and socialising 203
11 Quick confidence 213
Index 223
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About the author
Psychologist and coach Dr Rob Yeung helps people to achieve
their goals. As an expert in the fields of change, influence and
persuasion, and high achievement, he gives keynote speeches
at conferences and coaches individuals on issues from making a
successful career change to running businesses and becoming a
better leader.
As an international speaker, he addresses audiences ranging
from business leaders and entrepreneurs to sales people and col-
lege students. As an author, Rob has written over a dozen books
which have been translated into many languages around the
world including international bestsellers You Can Change Your
Life: Easy Steps to Getting the Life You Want and I Is For Influence:
The New Science of Persuasion (both published by Macmillan).
A popular expert on television, he appears on everything from
CNN and BBC news to Big Brother, and as the presenter of pro-
grammes including How To Get Your Dream Job for the BBC.
Rob gained a Ph.D. in psychology from King’s College
London and is a chartered psychologist and Associate Fellow of
the British Psychological Society. And he’s a qualified personal
trainer and aerobics instructor too.
www.robyeung.com
www.twitter.com/robyeung
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Acknowledgements
Thanks to my parents for their unwavering confidence that I
can achieve whatever I set my mind to. To my Talentspace col-
leagues for being there. To Steve Cuthbertson for creating the
eye in the sometimes stormy world I inhabit. To Bonnie Chiang
and Mandy Wheeler for their comments. To my editor Sam
Jackson for her ongoing support. And to my many clients and
the many readers of the first and second editions who emailed
me with comments, this book is ultimately for you.
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Preface to the third
edition
Confidence, self-esteem, self-belief, a positive self-image
– they all amount to the same thing. If you’ve ever wished you
could be more confident, then this book is for you.
And now that this book is in its third, revised edition, I hope
that you will not only get results – but get those results quickly.
After all, who has the time to wait patiently?
If you are one of the tens of thousands of readers who has
already bought either the first or second edition, what’s new in
this book?
●● NEW – A new chapter on detaching yourself from worrisome
thoughts and unpleasant feelings (Chapter 3).
●● NEW – A big new section on dealing with excessive worrying
(starting on page 45).
●● NEW – The DO IT problem-solving method for tackling issues
and challenges that may be getting you down (on page 48).
●● NEW – Challenge Ratings. Every exercise and every Confidence
Booster technique is now rated as beginner, intermediate or
advanced. Of course, the more challenging intermediate or
advanced techniques also deliver the most benefit too. But the
Challenge Ratings will give you a quick idea of what you might
start with or progress onto later. I’ll give you an idea of how to
use each technique to get the best out of it.
If you’re new to my Confidence book, allow me to explain a little
bit about the first two editions. I enjoyed writing the first edition
of Confidence, but I wasn’t quite ready for the fantastic reception
that I got from it. The book stayed high in the bestseller charts
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