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fl^P^-liHWiiit: II? i\ii>/Uifci'\ti' I|il1*/yf-'t1i -•iijliilijpfi^' Frien Homecoming Winter 12 Leadership IH Tug-of-War Sabbath Photo Album 2009 Opening Comments Southern Friends — Spirituallyhomeless that'stheway 1 describedmyselflastsummer. Afteryearsofworshipingat thesamechurch, my husbandand 1 real- ized thattheSabbathSchoolswere nolongermeetingourchildren'sneeds. Regretfully, we beganshoppingfora newchurch, keeping myonline friendsupdated aswewent. Afterthreedisappointingweeks, 1 wasn'tsure whatsortofupdatetogive."LoriFutcherisdiscouraged,"I typed. When 1 returned tomycomputer, 1 found anotefrom TravisStirewalt, ''^4: "Ialwaysrememberyouwithsuchstrongspirit. Seems youaregoingthroughsome thoughtfultimes. ... Remember this: Goddidnotmakeyouastrongpersonfornoreason. WTiaieieritisyouarelookingforwillbefowuL hmay take a bitlongerthanyouwish, huttake itfortheocJi'eninre thatit IS. ... Try tobeeasyonyourselfandrelax. Sometimes u'luit welookforisrightunderournoses. ..." Those wordswereexactlywhat 1 needed. Throughout theweek, 1 readand rereadthis messageas 1 workedto buildupcourageforanotherchurchvisit. Travisand I hadn'tknowneachotherwell incollege. Yet 15 yearsafterwehadgrabbedourdiplomasand disappeared into thev\orld, Traviswasthereforme when 1 needed it most. Inaway, itwasthe fact thatweiceren't closefriendsthat madehismessage meanso much. IfTra- vis, whobarelyknewme, believed in me, thencertainly 1 couldbelieve inmyself. I couldn'thelpbutthinkofTraviswhen 1 wasworking with thisyear's Magazineand FeatureArticleWriting Lori Futcherandherdaughter,Sierra,havefoundahomeinthe CollegedaleCradleRollIIclass. students. Astheclasstoldme what theywanted to COLUMNS share with readers, theystarted talkingabout theirfriendships atSouthern,specificallyhow theirfriendshadhelpedthemthroughsome toughtimes. (Threeofthemhavesharedthesestoriesbeginningonpage — 8). I had toagree withthem. MyfriendsfromSouthernhavebeen and — continuetobe thereforme when I need it the most. — Andyes,Traviswasright. Thesolution wasright undermy nose orto bemore accurate, rightacrossthestreet, aswedisco\'ered theCollegedale SabbathSchoolshadwhatourchildrenneeded. Lookingback, 1knowGodhad Hishand inthejourney. I'mgrateful that whenthingsweresodarkthat Icouldnotseemyway. Hesentafriend to shinealight. Iwillalwayshe thankfulformySouthernfriends. LoriFutcher,Editor P.S.Nowthat youknowa little about my Sabbaths, besuretocheckout whata typicalSabbathatSouthernis liketoroneofourstudentsonpage 14- VVINTER2009 Features With Help From My Friends 8 a Little Southern friendships provide support for students facing life's challenges. 12 All for One, One for All An associate professor of business shares insight on the tension leaders face when balancing the needs ofthe individual with the needs ofthe group. A Sabbath at Southern 14 A student shares her experience ofwhat a typical Southern Sabbath is like today. Homecoming 2008 18 Enjoy a photographic look at the 2008 Homecoming festivities, including the student opening ofthe new Hulsey Wellness Center. Debartments 5 Teaching Teachers 14 6 People 23 Spotlight 24 Headlines 31 Mission Minutes 32 On Move the 33 Scrapbook COVER:StudentsAdrienneVernon,Chris Mateo,andVivieneMartinellisharein 34 Life 101 thheilspeidsstuehehmowthSroouutghherrnoufgrhietnidmsehsi.ps ^, PHOTOGRAPHER:LukeMiller y Columns • 3 InBox Newsworthy Missed Opportunity I'vejustfinishedreadingthefall2008issue Asa loyalalumotSouthern Adventist ofCOLUMNS, which, I think, is thefitst I've University, I wasexcitedtoreceivethefall 2008 COLUMNS COLUMNS receivedfromSouthern. intoday'smail. I appreciatedthe Inadditionto itsslickappearance, which conciseand insightfularticlebyJohnWesley Volume 61 Number 1 definitelydrawsone'seye, Ifound thecontent TayloronbeingChristians intoday'spostmod- most interestingandwell-produced. ernsociety. Hepresentedthedifficultiesweface I wanttosecond the lettertotheeditor asChristians inapostmodernsocietyverywell, whichcamefromyour"fan,"Jennifervon but therewasn't muchgiventoprovideapath Maack.Youcertainlyaredoinganicejobwith foranswersorstrategies. ExecutiveEditor:RuthieGray,'99&'04 thepublication. 1 wasdisappointedtoseeamissedopportuni- ManagingEditor:Lori Futther,'94 Asyoumightimagine, the article about ty to letyourreadersknowwhatourworldwide LayoutEditor:IngridSkantz,'90 Southern'sarchaeologicallibrarywasofgreatest churchisdoingtostayauthenticyetrelevantin Editorial KatiePartlo,'06 interesttome. A treasure like thatshouldbe thefaceofaworldthat ismorethan 30percent Assistants: NataliaLopez-Thismon,'08 MelissaSwanson,current widelypromotedandused. postmodern. Peopleoftenfeel trappedbetween Layout IsaacJames,'08 theold and thenewwhen they read about the Assistants: JasonLang,current Marcia KLing, News Channel 9 challengesthatexistwithoutreceiving informa- Photography: IsaacJames,'08 tiononhowtoadjusttothosechallengesor BuddySummitt,current IanZinner,attended respondtothem. Out of Sight... TheCentreforSecular& Postmodern Manythanksfortheexcellentjobyouare Studies (CSPS) offersresearch,education, and doing! resourcesforAdventistsaround theworld who President:GordonBietz However, as1 haveread the magazines want toliveauthenticallyandalsoevange- AcademicAdministration:RobertYoung throughtheyears, therehasbeenmissingfrom listically intoday'ssociety. Adepartmentof FinancialAdministration:TomVerrill COLUMNS informationregardingthosewho theGeneralConferenceOfficeofAdventist StudentServices:WilliamWohlers havefollowedthe Lord'sleadingtoliveand Mission,CSPSprovidestrainingevents, Advancement:ChristopherCarey work inareasmoredistantfromSouthern discipleshipmaterials, andcutting-edgemedia Marketing/Enrollment:VinitaSauder,'78 AdventistUniversity.Thosewhowillstillhear forchurchedand unchurched postmodems Marketing/Univ.Relations:RuthieGray,'99&'04 AlumniRelations:EvonneCrook,'79 the"welldone"saidwhentheLordcomesbut, internationally. due tocircumstances, havenotbeenable tolive 1hopeyourreaderswhowantansw-erscan intheshadowsofSouthernAd\entistUniver- perhapsfind themwithintheresourcesour sityandhavechosen,forvariousreasons, not to churchhasbeguntoprovide. Sendcorrespondenceto: makeanannualpilgrimage to"Mecca." Sarah (Matthews) Asaftei, '03 SCoOuLtUhMeNrnSAEddvietnotristUniversity IfitwerepossibletomakeaGooglesearch PostOfficeBox370 of"SouthernAdventistUniversityalumni," I Collegedale,TN37315-0370 [email protected] think itwouldshowthoseclose tohomeorwho have friendsandfamilyclose toSouthernget- Sendaddresschangesto: AlumniRelations tingthe mostpress. SouthernAdventistUniversity It isprobablyan impossibletask,butIwould PostOfficeBox370 Collegedale,TN37315-0370 stilllove tohearmoreaboutthosewedonot [email protected] hearabout. Bill Jones, '52 Phone:1.800.S0UTHERN FAX:423.236.1000 Email:[email protected] Website:www.southern.edu InBox is a forum for reader feedback. Questions, concerns, compliments, criticisms, COLUMNSistheofficialmagazineof — and even discussions all are welcome and SouthernAdventistUniversity,producedby MarketingandUniversityRelationstoprovide encouraged. Letters may be edited for length informationtoalumniandotherfiiends or clarity. Please send InBox letters to: oftheuniversity.*2009,SouthernAdventistUnivennty COLUMNS Editor, PO Box 370, Collegedale, TN 37315-0370 or email [email protected]. 4 • Winter2009 Teaching Teachers Sharing the Vision had bigdreamsfortheupcomingGym-Mastershomeshow. Wehad a Igreat theme, "GoAgainstthe Flow,"amessageaboutfollowingJesus' leadand notdoingwhat theworld tellsus todo. 1 envisioned portray- byRickSchwarz,SchoolofP.E.,Health,andWellness ingourgymnastsasfishdoingtheir routines"underwater" and planned withSuzanneOaai,freshmanmasscommunicationsmajor touse myson'stalentsofchoreographyand artistic face makeup thathe hadacquiredwhileworkingwithCirqueduSoleil. Insteadotrequiringan Proving Her Right emcee, theroutineswouldflowfromoneacttothenext.Weevenhada tl-.emesongwrittenbya team member. At the next practice, 1 spent 20 minutesofvaluable practice time Thoughsome pieceswere coming together, 1 could tell that notev- readingthrough myvisiontorthe homeshow. Partotme wasdoing itto eryonewason thesame page. Therewasfrictionbetw-eenteam members, proveJessi wrong, toshowthat theyshouldjustfollowmeand 1 would and theywere arguingwith eachotherwhiledraggingtheirteet thriuigh getthemthere. routines. Ithonestlydidn't look like theshowwould be anythingclose to 1startedreading, andas 1 glanced upand looked around, theireyes what 1 hadvisualized. wereallonme, and I couldsee theyweregettingit. The lighthadcome on in their minds. Jessi's Advice Ourpracticesweren'tperfectafterthat,but theyweremuch more Atterone extremelydiscouragingpractice, while theothercoaches productive, andourshow turnedoutalmostas 1hadpictured it. and 1 satdiscussinghow wepictured the show, a teammemberquietly Aswewerenearingtheendofourhomeshowperformance, 1 thought, hungby.Jessi isan intelligentstudent withabubblypersonalityanda "We're almostdone andevetythinghasgone sowell."Thepropswere passionfortumbling.WhenIsawher, I thoughtshewantedtotalkabout fantastic; there wasseaweed in the backgroundand fishhangingfrom the the tumblingroutine that 1 hadaskedhertoarrange. 1 wasnot inthe ceiling.Thegymnastshadcaught the vision, tumblingandjumping, with mood toencouragesomeoneelse'screativity, especiallywhen itdidn't softer, morefluid movements toresemblehowthe moveswouldhedone if seem like 1couldgetanyofmyown ideasacross. 1 wasready tostart theywere actuallyunderwater.Thewholeproductionwasenjoyable, and cuttingtheroutinesthatwejust wereceivedpositive feedbackfromthe didn'thave timetolearn.Jessi's audienceabout the tumblingroutine wasone Iwas show'svarietyand consideringcutting. All 1 wanted performance. todoright thenwascomplain. Jessi listened to merantfora Gaining fewminutesthen tactfullysaid, "Coach, the teamwantstowork Insight to make thehomeshowasuccess, Beingacoachand butwedon'tsee thevision.We gymnastforalmost don'tknowwhatwe aresupposed 50yearshastaught todo." me a lotofpractical Atfirst 1 wantedtodefend life lessons. Home myposition, butafterafew show2007helped lameattempts, Ihad toagree me realize thatfor thatJessiwasright. The dream I myteam tofollow had wasstill inmyhead. It had my lead, theyneeded beensharedinbitsandpieces tobe included in the toafewbutnot inwholetothe creativeprocess. 1 entireteam. BeforeJessi left, she RickSchwarziswillingtoputintheextraefforttohelphisGym-Masterscatchthevision. neededtosharemy encouraged me tosharemyideas ideaswiththemto withthe whole team. Soafterasleeplessnightandsomeprayer, thenext provide therightdirection.WhenI talkedthingsthroughwiththem, my morning, I setofftowriteoutmyconceptfortheshow. Writingdoesn't teamcame upwithsolutionsforhowitcould beaccomplished,andtheir come easyforme,so itwasapainfulprocess. Ispentnearly threehours ideasandefforthelped theprocessmovesmootherfromstarttofinish. pecking itout, tryingtoexplainonpaperhoweachroutine wouldflow. It'sperformances like this with inputfrom team members likeJessi While 1 satat thetable writing, 1 realizedhowmanydetails 1 hadn't thathelpmecatchthe visionofhowateamcansucceed and together explained tomy team. produceadynamicshow. -^ Columns • 5 — People Hannah Kuntz own ideaforafeature aboutcompetitive Finding Her Story ice-skating, Hannah awaited hereditor's approval. AmazedbyHannah'sworkethic HannahKuntz, printjournalismmajor, and ability tofind the "right"story,NilaDo — needed an internship fast. As thesum- proudly agreed to the piece, "h's incredible merbeforehersenioryeardrewcloserand forsomeonenewtofindstories,"explainsDo. closer, Hannahhopedthatat leastone maga- "Finding the right story isanotherlevel, and zine wouldcontacther. Itwasa phone call on she had it." the lastdayofherjunioryearthatturned her Atthecompletionofherstory, Hannah desire intoareality. wasabletosayshehadmet and inteniewed Duringjustonesummer, Hannahwould professionalskatersKimmieMeissnerand notonlyperfecther interviewingand writing Todd Eldredge aswell astheircoach, Richard skills, hut she would alsohave the opportu- Callaghan. "Itwassoexcitmgmeetingthem nity to meetprofessional athletes, establish andbeingabletofinishthisstory,"Hannah newfriendships, and learn tohave greater says. "I felt asenseofaccomplishmentbecause confidence inherself. Jhadpitchedthestoryand myhardworkwas Withanexcitingexclamationof, "Yes, payingoff." I'll do it!"Hannahagreed to an internship "Thisinternshipcemented inmymindthat position at GoldCoasimagazine inFort Lau- this iswhat 1 reallywanttodo inthefuture," derdale, Florida. Nila Do, managingeditorot Hannahadds. GoldCoastmagazine,expressed that Hannah Hannah'seditorissupportiveoftheseplans. stoodoutfrom the internship'smanyother "1 know,"shesays, "thatHannah willmakea potentialcandidates, notonly throughher tremendousjournalistsomeday." manywriting samplesbut also"throughher ~LaurenYsseWyke attitude and willingness to seekus out, insteadofus seekingher out." Hannah Lastfall inthesouthsideofChattanooga, launched into acrowdgathered inside thenewestaddi- her internship tiontotheneighborhood:CobblestoneRue, equippedwith acouture portraitstudio, openedbywedding basic reporting photographerGarrettNudd, '00. and inter\'iew- The openingofCobblestoneRuemarked ingskillsshe anewchapterinNudd'scareer,whichalready hadlearned fromNews hastakenhimtoweddingsfromcoasttocoast andabroad.Smce theystartedphotographing Reportingclass. A typicalday weddingsin2002,Nuddandhiswife,Joy (Pecaoco), '00, havebeenshootingweddings forheratGold andengagementsessionsalmostnon-stop. Coastmaga- Surprisingly, he never intendedforpho- zine included tographytobeanythingmore thanahobby. copyediting, Aftergraduating,Nuddwastheeditorof verifyingfacts, COLUMNSforthreeyearsbeforemovingto archiving Orlando, Florida, toworkforAdventist old issuesof HealthSystem. While inFlorida,heab- magazines, and sorbedhimselfinhisphotography, andde- herpassion mandforhiswork increased. writingstories. Nuddrememberstheeveningwhenev- After erythingchanged.Joyapproachedhimashe pitchingher ^^^, immcf^mi. ...nn ' ftT}iiiiB«lifllinff?ir"''-attiTl?1-Ti - Kevin Kibble taskforwhichhe iswell-suited. Here, hehas Rooted in Ministry beenable toexpand the reachoftheChaplain's Officetostudentsandalumni withnewcampus When KevinKibble,assistantchaplain, made ministries. a hospital visit toTitmarDuke, sophomore Recently,he launched SeniorTransitionand social work major, shewassurprised. GraduateEnrichment (STAGE) tohelp recent "It's neat tosee that thechaplainsknow graduatestransitionsmoothly intothenext what'sup in my life and that theycare what stageoftheirlives. "Statistically, allthtoughout / happens tome,"saysTamar. Christianity, there'safive-orsix-yeargap when ThroughoutKibble'slife,he'shadmanyexperi- youngadultsreconsiderall theiroptions includ- ^J» ences wherehe wasable toshowjusthow much ingchurch,"Kibbleexplains."Webelieve that ^' ^. hecaresabout theyouth around him. Growing ifSoutherncanbe aresourceforourgraduates, up inafamilythatwasdevoted toministry (his we'llbe able toshorten thatgap." grandfather,father,andthreeuncleswerepastors), STAGEconnectsrecentgraduateswith Kibblehadadesire toworkin thesame field. "It otheralumniandalsohelpsthemfindahome V - T t,„^ waskindofourfamilybusiness,"Kibblesays. church intheirnewlocation.Oncampus, AfterworkingwithyouthontheWest currentstudentskeep intouchwithgraduates, Coastformostofhiscareer, Kibbleand hiswife, prayingfortheirspecific requests. — ^'^ TL Gennevieve Brown-Kibble, directorofchoral "What I'mdoingnow is the apex watching activities, movedtoCoUegedale in 2005 when individualstudents beingconnectedwith a I'iit^ Tt,-yen bothwereofferedjobsatSouthern. greatand mightyGod,"saysKibble. "Hesent Kibble'spositiondealslesswithadministra- hisSpiritforareason, tobeourconnectionto tivedemandsand more withstudentneeds, a God. Hegave ussomethingthatconnectsus." ~RazCataramaandSuzanneOcsai satathiscomputereditingweddingphotos aftetafullday athistegulatjob. "1 know howbadlyyou want to leave behind yout cotpoiatejoband putsuephotographyfull time,"shesaid. "I wantyoutoknowthat I've thoughtabout itandprayedabout it, and ifit'swhatyouwant todo, I'llsupport — you 100percent underonecondition: we will notbestarvingartists." And indeed theyhave notbeen. Busi- nessboomed,with45 weddingsin2006 alone.Atthe beginning, alloftheirclients cameonlyfromreferrals, atestamenttohow successfulNudd'stheoryi_)tbuildingrelation- shipswithhisclientshasbeen. Sincethen, thecouple hasgraduallybeencuttingback and moving towardportraitphotography. Inadditiontoshootingweddingphotos, Nuddhasservedasanadjunctprofessorat Southernsince 2006. Studentswhohave takenNudd's Introductionto Photography course appreciatehisexperienceandbeing cationsmajorwho tookhisclass in 2006. "The forworkingwithhisfamily. able toseehistalentandsuccessfirsthand. factthathehascomesofarsoquicklyisinspiring." "EachdayIwakeupandfollowmypassion," "Hehassomuchexperienceforsomeoneso ForNudd, his inspirationcomesfrom living he says. "I can't imagine anythingbetter." young,"saysEmilyYoung,ajuniormasscommuni^ alifedrivenbyapassionforphotography and •JenniferMeyer ClILUMNS • 7 "There's a certain breed of good people who cometo Southern, and I thinkthat's been very helpful in helping me make good choices and keep good friends in a Christian atmosphere." —B.J.Taylor,junior, religiousstudies Winter 2009 College can be Q-o tOUyh. There are tests; proj- I ects; and the juggling of classes, work, and extracurricular activities. Even without any sort of unusual trauma, friendships can make the difference between whether a student just survives or thrives through the experience. But when tragedy steps in, these friendships become a lifeline. ^fe MY FRIENDS Viviene Martinelli, Chris Mateo,E I Adrienne Vernon are three students from this year's Magazine and Feature ArticleWriting class who agreed to share theirstories of howtheir college lives were — impacted bytragedy ^and how Southern friends came to the rescue. "My friends provide an escape from all the pressures of 'They mean a lot to me because they're a safe haven. class and homework." —Daniel Alvidres, freshman, biology —Kyle Humphrey, freshman, sports studies management Columns • 9 FRIENDS ANGELS ON A DROP OF IN COMFORT THE DIVIDE (AND OFF) THE ICE S ByVivieneMartinelli ByChrisMateo ByAdrienneVernon seniorbroadcast seniorpublic juniorpublic journalismmajor relationsmajor relationsmajor Madness,frustration,andangeroverwhelmed "Chris!"myroommate,Matt,screamedasmy Myshoulderssank intotheframeofmy measIsat inthehallwaywaitingformynext bodyconvulsedonthe ice. Sevenfriendsand I freshmanbodyas 1satonThatcherHall'sporch. class.Aclassmatewalkedbyandnoticedthe were inMichiganfortheweekend. Ourplans Myarmsweretremblingfromthe adrenaline lookofdespaironmyface."Areyouallright?"she were tohavefun, butwheniceskatingturned coursingthroughmybody.1wantedtocryharder, asked. I triedmybesttopretendeverythingwas intoarideonastretcher, myfriendsfollowed. louder,but mybodycouldonlyreleaseahiccup great,butthistime, Ijustwasn'tstrongenough. Firstdiagnosis: brainaneurysm. Myfamily asevidenceofthephonecall 1 hadjustreceived. Afterayearstudyingabroad, Ihadreturned arrivedfromOhioandjoinedfriendsaround my Minutesearlier, mymotherhadcalled totell hometotheStates. Ifeltecstaticaboutmy hospitalbedtoprayandsingasIlayunconscious. methat myunclehaddied inafreakjob brother'ssummerweddingfestivities,butthe Finaldiagnosis: subarachnoidhemorrhage, accident. Hefell throughaskylight,40feetto summer'sendwasnotsobrightas1discovered internal bleedingfrommyheadhittingthe ice. hisdeath. Hewas46yearsold. thatmyparentsweredivorcingandmymomwas 1 woke up in astateofcontusion. Whatis this Tearscrawleddownmycheckas1observedmy leavingus tomove backto Brazil. achingpain?Whyam1lyinginahospital?Standing surroundings:peoplescurryingtoclass;girlsloung- Soonafterthenewshit, 1startedmyjunior bymybed, mymotherandanaunt told me the ingonfreshlymowed lawn, soaking upthe last year. Itwas myfirstsemesteratSouthern, and story.That'swhen ithitme. 1 hadmissed two raysofsummersun;andbirdswhistlingdelightful beinginanewplacedidn'thelpmeadjustto daysoflife,andmyfriendswerebackatSouthern. melodies. 1glancedatmyroommateandanother whathadhappenedtomyfamily. As Icriedmy Asunfamiliarfacespassedthroughmyroom, friendsittingdutifullybesideme. Heretheywere, heartoutwhileexplainingthis tomyclassmate, 1 lost trackoftime.Thedoor'screakingsignaled but1silentlywondered ifanyoneelsecared. Shirley, Iwasovertakenbythefactthatthisgirl, what 1 expected tobeanotherdoctor.Ohgreat, 1 Meagan, myroommate, gently touchedmy withwhom 1 hadonlyexchangedoccasional thought,dreadinganotherseriesofquestions. shoulder. "Whatdoyouwant todo, Adrienne?" greetings, waswillingtolistenandcomfortme. "Surprise!"shoutedmybestfriends. Laurel she asked."Doyouwanttogohome?" NeitherShirleynor 1 attendedclassthatday. andMindy, astheyleaped intomyroom "Home?"1 questioned, as though 1hadnever Shewalkedbeside meonthepromenade as 1 wearing"1 Love Mateo"shirts. heardoftheplace. Did 1wanttogohomeand criedandcriedandcried. "It'sokay tocry," "1 can'tbelieveyouguysdroveallthewayup facemygrievingfamily?CouldIbestrongenough Shirleysaid."Justlet itout."Although the here tovisit me," 1saidwithahugegrin. tocomfort my motherin the lossofherbrother? embarrassmentandanguishdidn'tgoaway, Itwasabrightspot inmyagonizingrecovery. 1silentlynodded. Meaganledmetoourroom thosesimplewordswerewhatI neededtohear. Afterleavingthehospital, mytimewasspent togathersome things1 would need topack. HalfayearpassedsincethedivorceandIstill confinedtomybed, isolatedanddepressed. Duringthehourlongdrive, 1 preparedtodelve hadn'tspokentomymom.Otherpeopleoftenre- Myonce-sociallifeoffriends,classes,eventhe intotheemotions.Then1 muddled throughthe ceivedcallsfromtheir mothers,andnothavinga simpleactofdriving,turnedtogloomandsolitude. afternoontradingcondolences,sharingmemories, closerelationshipwithminediscouragedme.Iwas But therewasone thingtolookforwardtoevery andsupportingmyfamily. Assoonas 1 got the — quieterthanusual inclassonedayandmyclass- day encouragingphonecallsfromfriends. chance, I slipped tomyroomforsolitaryrelief mate, Kimberly,noticedsomethingwaswrong. Whenmydoctorsadvisedmetoremain 1 sank intomydeskchairtocheckmyemail. "Areyouokay?"she asked. homeandpostponegraduation, Ifeltdiscour- Onenewmessage.Thesender'saddresspuzzled "Notreally," 1 replied. aged. ButwhenMattcalled,hecheered me up me. ItwasShane,afriendI'dmet inthecafeteria Kimberly invitedme tothecafeteriatotalk byremindingme thathehad anotheryearleft aweekbefore."Strange,"1thought.Wehadspoken overlunch. She listenedat lengthtoall 1had to too. "Wecanroom togetheragain,"he said. only acoupleoftimes, and 1 don't thinkIgave say.Mymother'sshoeswereunfiUable.Mydadwas Afterthreelongmonths,1returnedtocampus hmi myemailaddress. 1 opened the message. facingadifficulttime,andIdidn'twanthimwor- toretrieve mybelongingsandmycar. Allweek 1 Hey, ryingaboutmeontopofit. 1bottledupmyfeel- visitedwithfriends.1didn'twantittoend. I'm not sure if you remember me or if this is the right email address, but I ingsbecauseIdidn'thaveanyonetoleanon.That Dreadingthe ridehome, Iwassurprised to wanted to tell you that I'll be praying day,KimberlyprovidedtheshouldersIneeded. findaletterfromLaurel inmyglovecompart- wfoorulydouh.aveI staawlkyeodutcoryyionugthteond,aybuatndI Afterwefinished lunch, Kimberlyhelped me ment. "I'mheresitting inyourcar, and I don't saw you had friends with you. I don't makeanappointmentwithSouthern'scounseling knowwhat todo," itsaid. "Iwanttotell you hisa,vebuatnyeiitdheearhwoawysIerhioopues itthecapnrobbeleamn center.Thecounselorgavemegreatadviceon that I loveyouandImissyou! AndIknowGod encouragement for you to know that you have friends who are praying for you, howtocopewithhavingdivorcedparentsand iswithyourightnow, sodon'tgiveup." including me. God bless, Shane howtorestorethelostrelationshipwithmymom. Thatnotehitmestraightintheheart. All Evenas1 triedtohidemypain,mynewfriends thistime, 1hadfeltsoalone,butGodhad been Myeyesfilledwith tearsyet again, but 1 felt atSouthernwereattentiveenoughtoperceivethat with me. Andthoughwewereseparatedby peace.Godsentadropofcomfortfromsomeone — 1neededhelp.Throughtheirkindness,I'velearned miles, myfriendswerereallywithme too just 1 hardlyknew, and itwasexactlywhat 1 needed thatwhenlifedividespeople,Godunitesothers,"v" like theywere thatoneeveningonthe ice. "v" toget throughthe restofthatpainfulday. V" 10 • Winter2009

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